What does your DH call you?

[melissel]

We have a few family members who tease us because DH and I call each other babe (or DH calls me baby) or honey a lot--like, "Hey babe? Where did you put that book I was reading?" Occasionally I call him by his actual name, but it feels so formal! I mean, we've been together for 14 years, but...I don't know, we just never got in the habit of using our actual names. I can't remember the last time he called me "Melissa," actually!

 

Do most people speak to their spouses by their given names, or do you use pet names a lot?

[kwg]

Pet names here. When we call each other our names, we are irritated. lol.

[BridgeTea]

He calls me Bridgie. I call him Hunka Hunka Burnin' Love. ;)

[BearWallowSchool]

Given names here, mostly.

[melissel]

Pet names here. When we call each other our names, we are irritated. lol.

 

He calls me Bridgie. I call him Hunka Hunka Burnin' Love. ;)

 

:lol::lol::lol:

[Jean in Newcastle]

Jean.

[Scarlett]

We have a few family members who tease us because DH and I call each other babe (or DH calls me baby) or honey a lot--like, "Hey babe? Where did you put that book I was reading?" Occasionally I call him by his actual name, but it feels so formal! I mean, we've been together for 14 years, but...I don't know, we just never got in the habit of using our actual names. I can't remember the last time he called me "Melissa," actually!

 

Do most people speak to their spouses by their given names, or do you use pet names a lot?

 

Interesting....I saw a segment on morning news promoting this book

 

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Calling-Honey-Start-Having/dp/0757315313/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1293568192&sr=1-1

 

The premise is that couples who refer use pet names for each other begin to feel soooooo comfortable that they forget to be husband and wives. I actually don't think it is that simple...but I can tell you that my now XH NEVER called me by my name. He also never used pet names. Usually it was 'hey.' Or if he was talking to ds he would refer to me as 'her'. :glare:

 

I theorize that all had to do with his inability to be intimate (emotionally), but I digress.

 

I have a new husband and we call each other by pet names A LOT. I like it. :D A LOT.

[Soror]

Babe and dear almost always. If he uses my name than he is probably aggravated or something. I almost always call him babe although might use his name if trying to get his attention. Just seems to fit.

[k2bdeutmeyer]

I call him "Hon" or "Honey" most of the time. he calls me the same or "baby".

[Rich with Kids]

Well, we have DH (Darren) and ds (Aaron), so I have to really annunciate! It's funny when I think about it, though. I don't usually have to call him anything because when he is home, we are usually in the same room near each other. Gag, I know...:D :001_wub:

[BikeBookBread]

Steph. Once in a while, Babe.

[Spy Car]

My usual alternatives to my wife's given name are "Darling" [no dropped final "g"] and "Sweet-heart."

 

Bill

[Crafty Mathy Mom]

Given names only. Pet names annoy me.

[mo2]

He calls me "Wife." I call him "Husband."

[Rich with Kids]

My usual alternatives to my wife's given name are "Darling" [no dropped final "g"] and "Sweet-heart."

 

Bill

 

OK, there's a song about that...I'll try and find it. :D

 

ETA: It's by David Allan Coe

 

You Never Even Called Me By My Name

Edited December 28, 2010 by Rich with Kids

[Lisa in the UP of MI]

He usually calls me Lisa, though sometimes around the kids he'll call me Mom.

[tricia]

He calls me "woman" all the time. He so thinks he's funny!

[Mommyfaithe]

We have pet names, (He cally me Dollyboo...long story, and I usually call him Husband...or Markie) but also use given names often. We work together, so we use given names throughout the day, but just with eachother...pet names.

 

Faithe

[Dianne-TX]

Different pet/sweet/silly names. We say the typical "sweetie", "honey", etc. Sometimes I call dh "daddy". My dh's funny names for me are "caliente madre" and "berta-b-boo". :) Now that I think about it, I don't think we call each other our given name much at all.

[LidiyaDawn]

We rarely ever use each other's first names... it feels WIERD. :p

 

Both of us usually just say "hey" or "hey you". The kids know it's not them being spoken to because we DO use their names or nicknames. :laugh:

[mommaduck]

Pet names. Usually "sweetie" or "hon" or "honey". He occasionally calls me by my middle name.

[Spy Car]

OK, there's a song about that...I'll try and find it. :D

 

ETA: It's by David Allan Coe

 

You Never Even Called Me By My Name

 

A rabbit trail, but I REALLY like that David Allan Coe (but sheepishly admit I'd never heard of him before). Thanks for that!

 

Bill (who needs a little more Country music in his life)

[Margo out of lurking]

Dh calls me Kristine.

 

I call him Babe or Hon.

 

Maybe I should worry, lol.

[Alenee]

We call eachother 'lover'. :D When I'm looking for him in the house, I call him by his name.

[Rachel in KY]

Cooter

[Aubrey]

We call ea other "Sweetie" so much that if dh uses my real name, it startles me. LOL Since I don't get out much & the kids call me Mama, I kind-of like to hear my name once in a while. It reminds me who I am & who he is & how absolutely cool it is that I'm married to *swoon* HIM. :D

[melissel]

Interesting....I saw a segment on morning news promoting this book

 

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Calling-Honey-Start-Having/dp/0757315313/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1293568192&sr=1-1

 

The premise is that couples who refer use pet names for each other begin to feel soooooo comfortable that they forget to be husband and wives. I actually don't think it is that simple...but I can tell you that my now XH NEVER called me by my name. He also never used pet names. Usually it was 'hey.' Or if he was talking to ds he would refer to me as 'her'. :glare:

 

I theorize that all had to do with his inability to be intimate (emotionally), but I digress.

 

I have a new husband and we call each other by pet names A LOT. I like it. :D A LOT.

 

Huh! That's very interesting. I'm not sure I agree, and we're not having a problem in that area (ahem :lol:), but I'm intrigued by their ideas. I wonder if it would be weird to order that through inter-library loan? :001_huh:

 

ETA: I like it too :D What prompted me to ask was that I got an email from him--a response to a question, perfectly benign, everyday stuff--and he called me baby in the email, which made me all melty and gooey-eyed :001_rolleyes: Made me wonder if other people have the same habits. Honestly, I don't anyone else in IRL who does this!

Edited December 28, 2010 by melissel

[Jen in PA]

DH calls me Pie (or just writes the pi symbol). It started years ago when I baked him an apple pie. My stepson was probably around 3 at the time and somehow turned this into my nickname. When he says my name it just sounds so wrong to me. I call him Steve -- I am not big on nicknames with adults.

[Suzanne in ABQ]

We have a few family members who tease us because DH and I call each other babe (or DH calls me baby) or honey a lot--like, "Hey babe? Where did you put that book I was reading?" Occasionally I call him by his actual name, but it feels so formal! I mean, we've been together for 14 years, but...I don't know, we just never got in the habit of using our actual names. I can't remember the last time he called me "Melissa," actually!

 

Do most people speak to their spouses by their given names, or do you use pet names a lot?

 

 

 

He calls me Goose. I don't usually call him anything. I just start talking, and he listens. Using his name seems formal to me, but in 20 years, I've never come up with a fitting nickname, or pet name. Sometimes I call him Daddy-o.

[Joyofsixreboot]

Hon or Babe. He calls me Wench in a fun way. As in "brew me wench".

[Sahamamama]

We have a few family members who tease us because DH and I call each other babe (or DH calls me baby) or honey a lot--like, "Hey babe? Where did you put that book I was reading?" Occasionally I call him by his actual name, but it feels so formal! I mean, we've been together for 14 years, but...I don't know, we just never got in the habit of using our actual names. I can't remember the last time he called me "Melissa," actually!

 

Do most people speak to their spouses by their given names, or do you use pet names a lot?

 

:iagree:I hardly ever call my husband "David." But when I do.... he knows he'd better listen. :lol::lol::lol:

 

:001_huh: Huh? Why didn't she say "Honey?" Uh-oh, I must be in trouble.

[Sahamamama]

Jean.

 

:lol: You are so funny. Jean. That's just so funny.

 

Imagine that, her name is Jean and her husband calls her Jean. :lol:

[Parrothead]

I hardly ever use dh's name when I'm talking to him. He will use my name if he wants to get my attention.

[texasmama]

We always use pet names or nick names. If he's mad at me, he calls me by my name.:D He likes to call me "gorgeous". I like to call him "sexy American boyfriend" from Sixteen Candles.

[Sahamamama]

Interesting....I saw a segment on morning news promoting this book

 

http://www.amazon.com/Stop-Calling-Honey-Start-Having/dp/0757315313/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1293568192&sr=1-1

 

The premise is that couples who refer use pet names for each other begin to feel soooooo comfortable that they forget to be husband and wives.

 

Thanks for that link! I need this book. Maybe that's our problem, we're TOO comfortable just being buddies.... Hmmmm........ Off to the library. :auto:

[elegantlion]

We are honey, honey-bunny, oh dear....If I hear Paula I know I'm in trouble.

[Scarlett]

I'm not sure I agree, and we're not having a problem in that area (ahem :lol:), but I'm intrigued by their ideas. I wonder if it would be weird to order that through inter-library loan? :001_huh:

 

ETA: I like it too :D What prompted me to ask was that I got an email from him--a response to a question, perfectly benign, everyday stuff--and he called me baby in the email, which made me all melty and gooey-eyed :001_rolleyes: Made me wonder if other people have the same habits. Honestly, I don't anyone else in IRL who does this!

 

Well, I get all melty and gooey eyed too, but I am a newlywed. Nice to know it can last.

 

One of the authors of that book talked about her own marriage ending....how they were good friends, but basically just stopped having 'tea'...and I thought, 'duh. What did you think would happen to your relationship if you stop that? :glare:'

 

Also, our name is our most personal possession...and when other people use it we feel like they are really speaking to US. That is the theory. And I agree there is something to it. I call my dh by his given name...and he does me some...but he mostly calls me Sweetheart. Or Wonderful Woman. Or Babe. Yeah we are in Love. ;)

[Baseball mom]

Given name or "hey"

[Elaine]

He calls me sweetie or babe. I call him boo-boo or honey.

[*lifeoftheparty*]

We NEVER call each other our real names.... unless we are fighting, which is almost never, LOL.

 

He calls me "Meimei" and I call him "Gege" which is really messed up, if you know Chinese; but we started calling each other that before we were dating, and I was dating someone else. DH and I had a relationship like that of "Older Brother" (Gege) and "Little Sister" (Meimei). We were in the same Chinese class at DLI, that's what we were learning when the (friendship) relationship started, and BAM, it stuck... Oh well... we just try not to use the terms at Chinese Restaurants....

[Kathleen in VA]

My dh calls me Jellybean, unless he really wants to say something important - then he calls me Kathleen. I am easily distracted and he has learned that he needs to get my full attention if he wants me to remember something like "We need to be at my mom's at 10:00 on Christmas morning." He's learned the hard way that just telling me is not enough - he has to tell me when I'm looking directly at him and am actually paying attention.:D

[JVA]

Usually 'Beautiful' -rarely calls me by my name....

 

I got an email from him this morning and he called me 'Hot-stuff'. 'nuff said.

[Sparkle]

DH usually calls me "dear". He rarely uses my name - seriously, I think he has a hard time pronouncing it :D I don't like my name that much anyway, so it doesn't bother me. I call him "honey" or "David" - sometimes pet name and sometimes real name.

[LauraGB]

Dh calls me Laura unless he's mad at me - then it's Dear.

[meggie]

I call him Corey. He calls me Megan. Most of the time. I'm trying to train him to call me "ma peche" (I don't know if that's spelled right, I don't know French) if he's going to use a pet name at all. He tried the babe thing and I absolutely hate it. Mostly because my brother and SIL use it all. the. time. and for some reason it drives me up the wall. I've recently taken to saying, "Hello Lover" when he calls or comes home (and the 4 year old's not around). Never could get Hon or Sweetie to stick.

[Sahamamama]

He calls me Goose. I don't usually call him anything. I just start talking, and he listens. Using his name seems formal to me, but in 20 years, I've never come up with a fitting nickname, or pet name. Sometimes I call him Daddy-o.

 

 

Gander?

[Heather in OK]

I usually say Kev or honey when I need his attention.

 

Most of the time he uses my name.

 

Our nicknames for each other are Big Daddy and Little Mama. :)

[bookfiend]

My dh calls me Jellybean, unless he really wants to say something important - then he calls me Kathleen. I am easily distracted and he has learned that he needs to get my full attention if he wants me to remember something like "We need to be at my mom's at 10:00 on Christmas morning." He's learned the hard way that just telling me is not enough - he has to tell me when I'm looking directly at him and am actually paying attention.:D

 

That's correct. When, DH says, "but I told you...." my response is, "did I answer?"

[ereks mom]

I'd say it's about 50-50.

[amy g.]

Dh calls me "Sweetheart".