Nestof3 Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I really don't mean this as a boast, but quite frankly, I have few "real life" friends to share this with. We paid off our minivan today -- the 2007 Odyssey we bought almost two year ago. We now only have our house which will be paid for in a year. :) I shared with my parents, and though my mom was happy for us, my dad seemed rather blase. I would just once like to hear my dad say something like, "great job" or "your husband is wise to get out of debt so quickly" or something nice. But, no, it's always this feeling of, "Well, you live in such a stinkin' small house, anyone could pay that off." I'm sorry -- I'm elated and SOOOO very proud of my husband for his hard work and commitment to getting out of debt. I would love to hear that from my parents. But, in my Dad's eyes, he's a lowly blue collar worker. I am proud of my husband for the company he has made --for his integrity and hard work, but my dad said, "He hasn't made a business, he only made a job for himself." ugh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That's wonderful news!! Congratulations!! Paying off a house and a car are a tremendous feat!! Kudos to you and your husband for sticking with it!:):hurray: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WyoSylvia Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That is incredible, what a future you're building!! :hurray: :cheers2: I know it is hard, but please try not to think about the lack of affirmation, YOU KNOW that that is a great accomplishment. What in the world is all the economy mess about anyway, but people not having a responsible handle on their finances?! Anyway, if you had a huge house, perhaps your dad might be lamenting how you'd sunk yourself in too deep. I have a small house as well, sometimes I wish it were bigger and then I think about how much time it would take to clean it! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Fantastic!!:hurray::hurray: We only have our house left, too, although it will be a lot longer than a year before we pay it off.;) I'm really excited for you and will jump for joy with you! This is very worthy thing over which to be very proud of your husband's hard work! Congratulations to you both! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yslek Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 :thumbup: Congratulations! That's quite an accomplishment; I'm impressed. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LindaOz Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That's fantastic! Well done to you and your dh. I wish we were that far ahead. It must be a great feeling. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congrats! It's a wonderful feeling isn't it!? You should be proud of both of you. It's much more honorable to live in a small house, work for yourself, and be debt free, than it is to have a mansion and owe a fortune. Go ahead and brag! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BamaTanya Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 It's inspirational! :party: We'll celebrate with you! Remember (and I know that you know): wisdom often looks foolish to others. Don't let them take one ounce of your joy! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Dawn! That is fabulous! I'm sorry your dad can't appreciate the wonderful things your husband is doing for your family. At the same time, I am happy that you recognize your husband's hard work and commitment. Well done, Dawn and Family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Wow, Dawn, that is great! Congratulations! I know you're a sister in Christ, so I can say: your Father IS quite pleased. His favor is showering down on you and your husband for being such great, industrious stewards! :D Well done!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vida Winter Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 How wonderful! If I lived close to you I would bake pizzas and bring them over for a celebration. Don't worry about what your family thinks, you know what matters in your heart. I will pray to lift you up. Feel good about your accomplishments, they are hard-earned and well-deserved. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teamturner Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Wow, Dawn, that is great! Congratulations! I know you're a sister in Christ, so I can say: your Father IS quite pleased. His favor is showering down on you and your husband for being such great, industrious stewards! :D Well done!!! :iagree: Who can top that??? Awesome! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That is wonderful! My van is paid, but we're abut 28 yrs from paying off our house. lol Maybe he's in our boat and is just jealous!? Pay him no never mind! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karen sn Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 I'm jealous. Does that count? Your dad is just one of those gray people. Don't let it get you down. Inside he's very proud of you but he believes that excessive show of it will cause you to be a "proud" and boastful person. My grandmother is the same way. If I am excited about something - she will find the lemon in it. Not on purpose or to be mean, just her personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ria Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Great news!! Good for you guys! Ria Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 You and your husband are awesome and an inspiration to those of us much earlier on in our journey. Great job, both of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Paying off a minivan in 2 years is great! I don't care what your dad says, getting a vehicle paid off that early and a house paid off at all is a huge deal! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vettechmomof2 Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Great job and I am very sorry that your parents cannot share in your joy and instead have to try and bring you down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congratulations!! We paid off our van this year too. Such a great feeling! And only a year left on the house, Wow. We're no where near that. You and dh have done wonders. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 :grouphug:I get what you saying...too bad about your parents...But woo-hoo for you and your dh. Big old Congratulations! I really don't mean this as a boast, but quite frankly, I have few "real life" friends to share this with. We paid off our minivan today -- the 2007 Odyssey we bought almost two year ago. We now only have our house which will be paid for in a year. :) I shared with my parents, and though my mom was happy for us, my dad seemed rather blase. I would just once like to hear my dad say something like, "great job" or "your husband is wise to get out of debt so quickly" or something nice. But, no, it's always this feeling of, "Well, you live in such a stinkin' small house, anyone could pay that off." I'm sorry -- I'm elated and SOOOO very proud of my husband for his hard work and commitment to getting out of debt. I would love to hear that from my parents. But, in my Dad's eyes, he's a lowly blue collar worker. I am proud of my husband for the company he has made --for his integrity and hard work, but my dad said, "He hasn't made a business, he only made a job for himself." ugh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danestress Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That's just awesome news and you have every right to be floating on cloud nine. You and your children are lucky to have such a hard working, level headed man who HAS started his own business (what is your father thinking????) Many Kudos to you (and him!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Joining with the other posters to say CONGRATULATIONS! I think it's wonderful that you've gotten the car paid off and are so close with the house. It is a huge accomplishment.:hurray: Try not to let your dad's lack of enthusiasm bother you. I know... easier said than done. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie in AR Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 That is awesome, Dawn. How great to be in such a good financial position. :party: I'm sorry about your Dad. Some people just don't appreciate the things of true value in life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congratulations! Yes, that is a wonderful feeling. I went without a car for two years because we didn't want a 2nd car payment. Now we have two decent vehicles that are paid for. I never thought I'd see the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congratulations! That's a big accomplishment and I wouldn't let anyone be a downer. :party: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted May 16, 2009 Author Share Posted May 16, 2009 How wonderful! If I lived close to you I would bake pizzas and bring them over for a celebration. Don't worry about what your family thinks, you know what matters in your heart. I will pray to lift you up. Feel good about your accomplishments, they are hard-earned and well-deserved. :grouphug: Wow -- why is it so hard to find friends like this in real life? You're so kind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted May 16, 2009 Author Share Posted May 16, 2009 Ladies, I've really cried through all of your responses. I wish I had a group of friends like you in real life. I think with my Dad, he is a "gray" person as someone mentioned. I've always teased him by calling him "ole sunny-side up." I think in this situation, he has never approved of my husband, and he refuses to find anything to praise. And, yes, he is one of those people that won't tell you even if he does have praise. But, we just always pale in comparison to my brother and his wife. They both make 6 figures, they have a 4,000 sq foot house, he's VP at Banc of America Securities (not a misspelling ;)), they get to go on lots of vacations and such. And then, there is us. It's always been that way. I would get honor roll every year, and little was said. If my brother made all Cs and up, they raved about him to the neighbors. Wow -- I do sound like a person needing some serious therapy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OHGrandma Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Ladies, I've really cried through all of your responses. I wish I had a group of friends like you in real life. I think with my Dad, he is a "gray" person as someone mentioned. I've always teased him by calling him "ole sunny-side up." I think in this situation, he has never approved of my husband, and he refuses to find anything to praise. And, yes, he is one of those people that won't tell you even if he does have praise. But, we just always pale in comparison to my brother and his wife. They both make 6 figures, they have a 4,000 sq foot house, he's VP at Banc of America Securities (not a misspelling ;)), they get to go on lots of vacations and such. And then, there is us. It's always been that way. I would get honor roll every year, and little was said. If my brother made all Cs and up, they raved about him to the neighbors. Wow -- I do sound like a person needing some serious therapy. You only need therapy if that stuff is eating at you. But it sounds like you are just relating facts. You can't change the facts. Congratulations on achieving one goal, and so close on the next one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen in NS Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 We paid off our minivan today -- the 2007 Odyssey we bought almost two year ago. We now only have our house which will be paid for in a year. :) "Well, you live in such a stinkin' small house, anyone could pay that off." "He hasn't made a business, he only made a job for himself." ugh CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! That is a HUGE accomplishment! And just think, you and dh will have an even bigger celebration to make in JUST ONE YEAR!!! As to the small house, here's an opposite thought: "Because I live in such a stinkin' small house, I am able to pay it off quickly and live free more quickly as such a young age! And I can do with it what I want after that - make repairs/renos when needed, because I will have the money for it instead of paying the bank back." And as for the "he only made a job for himself," well, "that's just great! I created my very own job with my very own money and now I get to pay for my house and vehicle!!! whooohoooo!!!!" Who cares if it's not a big company - it's what your family needs, and what a blessing! I was just talking to a new friend yesterday and she was telling me they moved their family thousands of miles so they could have a cheaper place to live - they paid off all their debt and bought a nicer house here, mortgage free. She said she doesn't like to mention that to people because she doesn't want people to feel bad, but I said I thought it was great - smart move on their part, to get their family out from under that pressure. I think in this situation, he has never approved of my husband, and he refuses to find anything to praise. And, yes, he is one of those people that won't tell you even if he does have praise. But, we just always pale in comparison to my brother and his wife. You'll probably always pale in comparison, and you can't change how he thinks. You just hope that someday something will change in his attitude toward you, but you go on and celebrate with your husband and find others to celebrate with you so you don't go crazy waiting to see if your father will change. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lux Et Veritas Academy Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Dawn- this is wonderful! I am very proud of you! You are in an elite class in America now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cornflower Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congratulations! What a wonderful accomplishment. Your sending a message to your kids about managing their money. Have a great weekend! Cindy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 :party: GREAT JOB!!!!! Let go of your dad's rude attitude. Next time you have good news, I'd send him a card so you don't have to deal with it:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Congratulations! And as far as "well you live in such a small house, etc"...no, not ANYONE could pay it off. You are blessed to own your own home, regardless of size. Not all of us have been able to do that. In today's economy, so many are losing their homes and others have never gone out on that limb. Congratulations to you. Your dad's attitude is just wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetpeach Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Great to know there are people out there who don't buy into the mentality of "Western Waste!" A small house means you bump into each other more often, which means you get to love each other harder. Alrighty, Hivers . . . raise your glass of java and join in the chorus of toasting our Boardie Friend, Nest of 3!!!! Hooray Hooray Hooray. Just so you know, my MIL calls us "money hungry" and regularly asks us "when will enough be enough" in relation to our rental properties. It used to hurt; now it rolls. It is what it is . . . expectation is the death of relationship, and so we know longer put ourselves in a position where we look for their affirmation. We're ok just how we are, and they can like it or not. Blessings on you financially-astute folks! Whether or not your dh "just made a job for himself or not" is not the issue . . . you've got your financial house in order and in my opinion, it matters little what path you walked to get where you are right now. You've arrived and that's awesome. Woot Woot!!!!! T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetpeach Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! That is a HUGE accomplishment! And just think, you and dh will have an even bigger celebration to make in JUST ONE YEAR!!! As to the small house, here's an opposite thought: "Because I live in such a stinkin' small house, I am able to pay it off quickly and live free more quickly as such a young age! And I can do with it what I want after that - make repairs/renos when needed, because I will have the money for it instead of paying the bank back." And as for the "he only made a job for himself," well, "that's just great! I created my very own job with my very own money and now I get to pay for my house and vehicle!!! whooohoooo!!!!" Who cares if it's not a big company - it's what your family needs, and what a blessing! I was just talking to a new friend yesterday and she was telling me they moved their family thousands of miles so they could have a cheaper place to live - they paid off all their debt and bought a nicer house here, mortgage free. She said she doesn't like to mention that to people because she doesn't want people to feel bad, but I said I thought it was great - smart move on their part, to get their family out from under that pressure. You'll probably always pale in comparison, and you can't change how he thinks. You just hope that someday something will change in his attitude toward you, but you go on and celebrate with your husband and find others to celebrate with you so you don't go crazy waiting to see if your father will change. :) You can take Colleen in NS's words to the bank . . . she's amazing in more ways than just figuring out how to educate classically. If I could stretch a buck like Colleen, well . . . we'd own our house in a jiffy as well. Happy Dancing over here! T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardening momma Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 We paid off our minivan today -- the 2007 Odyssey we bought almost two year ago. We now only have our house which will be paid for in a year. :) :hurray: I pm'd you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2GirlsTX Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 All I can say is CONGRATULATIONS! That shows such financial maturity, you deserve a huge pat on the back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Everyone has already said it very well, but really, you and your husband have done an outstanding job setting your goals and acomplishing them. Someday you may find out how your DAd really feels. After my Dad passed my Mom told me some things he had said about my Hubby. Good things I wish we had heard when he was alive, but alas, it didn't happen that way. Congratulations on a job well done! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Wow! I would be very proud too! That is great! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blessedfamily Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Her DH has done a wonderful thing to care for his family. If it were my daughter, I'd be glad that her husband cared well for her! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 My husband is just a "blue collar worker" in the technical sense, though he does run an electrical business that his dad started. In the last few years, he made a commitment to get us out of debt. To do so, he worked TWO jobs for about 4 years. We are debt free except for our house as well, and, on a mere $60k/year (which I know is more than some), we are raising 5 kids, providing them cars and insurance, helping them with college, and now helping the oldest with a 2-month early preemie that no one was quite prepared for yet!! It's always tight, but God always manages to provide for us (either with bonuses and extra money when we need it, or with opportunities to earn extra that dh readily takes). I thank God for my husband and how hard he has worked for us. There is NOTHING wrong with being proud of what yall have accomplished, AND being proud of your husband! Being debt free is something to be proud of in this day and age! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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