lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 and it can be hard to just let it go. But, you kind of have to let it go, because what else are you going to do. Well, I thought it might be fun and therapeutic to have a place to get it all out. Naturally, I'm willing to go first. Feel free to join in by sharing those words, said by others that you can't get out of your head, whether funny, ridiculous, rude, inaccurate, uninformed or unsolicited. My example is taken from a brief conversation that I had with my MIL over Christmas. She asked "Are you going to get a job in 2015?" I responded "I may, depending on the circumstances." She replied with "I sure hope so. It's time for you to be a big girl and get to work." I guess homeschooling and parenting four children doesn't count. Lol. 😃 Wow. I'm already feeling better just getting out! Join in if you need to get something off your chest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannahs4 Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Gaaah! So rude. Nothing to add right now .. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Wow, that's unbelievably rude!!!! :mad: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Hoooly cow, I would have a REALLY hard time letting that one go. You are a good person for even trying, lollie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomtoCandJ Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Is your child a midget? Yes I got that at Walmart today because dd2 was walking with me (she's not even 1 yet) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 That's not ridiculous, in the sense of being absurd. That's an attack. Don't let it go, any more than if she would have insulted you in some other way. I'm not saying retaliate, but, register it as being indicative of her opinion of you. And respond accordingly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 Is your child a midget? Yes I got that at Walmart today because dd2 was walking with me (she's not even 1 yet)Crazy. That reminds me of one time I was in a conveniece store with my then 6 and 7 year olds. And I was telling the cashier about my two year old and she asked which one was the two year old. I had to say with a straight face, "Neither. The two year old is at home. Those are are six and seven year olds." That one still had me shaking my head. Lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 That's not ridiculous, in the sense of being absurd. That's an attack. Don't let it go, any more than if she would have insulted you in some other way. I'm not saying retaliate, but, register it as being indicative of her opinion of you. And respond accordingly. Yes. It's a theme with her. I have really appreciated this board over the years as a safe place to vent. We all have our hands full with her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 How nasty! I doubt I could let it go. I wish everyone had an MIL as kind and reasonable as mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeteranMom Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 That interaction would have left me speechless- if I had been in your shoes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I was asked why I didn't take the time to bring my kids to my nieces birthday party (my sisters kid). They knew I was waiting for the ambulance to take my FIL to a different hospital for 2 stints in his heart. Really, a five year olds party is more important than being with my MIL as Her husband is having a heart attack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I was asked why I didn't take the time to bring my kids to my nieces birthday party (my sisters kid). They knew I was waiting for the ambulance to take my FIL to a different hospital for 2 stints in his heart. Really, a five year olds party is more important than being with my MIL as Her husband is having a heart attack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I was asked why I didn't take the time to bring my kids to my nieces birthday party (my sisters kid). They knew I was waiting for the ambulance to take my FIL to a different hospital for 2 stints in his heart. Really, a five year olds party is more important than being with my MIL as Her husband is having a heart attack. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 I was asked why I didn't take the time to bring my kids to my nieces birthday party (my sisters kid). They knew I was waiting for the ambulance to take my FIL to a different hospital for 2 stints in his heart. Really, a five year olds party is more important than being with my MIL as Her husband is having a heart attack. Wow! What a big decision--major medical emergency or a 5 year olds birthday party. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeAndTheBoys Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My MIL sent me several emails complaining about two trips she took to the pharmacy to get her meds, but the line was too long and she decided not to wait and just left. She asked if I had time to pick up her meds. I replied that I had 3 other errands to run that day after we finished school and really couldn't, but that i would call DH and ask him to get them on the way home from work, no problem. She was FURIOUS and said, Don't bother him. I really wanted YOU to wait around for my medicine. Um, yeah. Not as spectacularly funny as your stories so far, but still, I was like, REALLY? I wish I could think of another story, because she's always blowing my mind. B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 MeAndTheBoys--I'm sorry but that one made me laugh! Everyone's time is valuable, except for yours. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Yikes. I think I need to go hug my MIL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SharonM Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My mil once stated that I needed to get a job and stop spending my husbands money!! :confused1: For once I was quick enough to respond You were there the day he promised it all to me...(my worldly goods I thee endow...) I think that she thought she was better than me as we were both stay at home moms, but she had family money of her own. I didn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Yikes. I think I need to go hug my MIL. Im thinking the same thing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plateau Mama Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My daughter is very, very smart. Like off the charts. A few weeks ago my mother said "I can't imagine what the dinner conversation would be like if both her parents were smart too." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
felicity Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My daughter is very, very smart. Like off the charts. A few weeks ago my mother said "I can't imagine what the dinner conversation would be like if both her parents were smart too." Along the same line, I had a friend ask me what my husband does. I responded that he is a research scientist. Her response? "Oh that's why your kids are so smart." Yeah, that must be it. There's no other explanation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My step FIL told me that my son was smart enough to go to school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 My step FIL told me that my son was smart enough to go to school. Oh my! That's a good one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Wow rude. I had a lady call me at two in the morning because she had had a baby a few days prior and was worried about something. This lady was not my client. When I asked why she didn't call her midwife as I did not know her history. She stated she hated to wake her mw up at 2 am and thought she'd call me. The real kicker was the call was NOT an emergency and even she knew it could wait until morning. I just chalked it up to post postpartum hormones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 "He's so advanced! Imagine how smart he'd be if he went to real school." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsRobinson Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 This wasn't an offensive comment, but I did have to pick my jaw up off the floor! I was at a friend's house and her neighbor stopped by. We were all chatting and something about the neighbor's father living in Washington came up. I said jokingly, "ooh, he's the president's neighbor." Then she said, "oh my gosh! I had no idea the president lived in Vancouver!" She was not joking. She had no clue there were 2 Washingtons or where the president lived at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Yes. It's a theme with her. I have really appreciated this board over the years as a safe place to vent. We all have our hands full with her. You won't have your hands full if you drop her like a hot potato! What a terrible comment. I am picturing Samuel L. Jackson saying "Allow me to retort" in Pulp Fiction. I would've put her in her place...my temper would have *made me*. Without the Samuel L. Jackson *shooting* the other guy part, of course. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Oh my! That's a good one. Yeah, especially because one prime reason for home schooling is that he's flipping brilliant and the schools here sucked at meeting gifted students needs almost as much as they sucked at meeting his special education needs. 2e, be bop the fun don't stop! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 This wasn't an offensive comment, but I did have to pick my jaw up off the floor! I was at a friend's house and her neighbor stopped by. We were all chatting and something about the neighbor's father living in Washington came up. I said jokingly, "ooh, he's the president's neighbor." Then she said, "oh my gosh! I had no idea the president lived in Vancouver!" She was not joking. And THAT ladies and gentlemen, is why we homeschool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsRobinson Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 And THAT ladies and gentlemen, is why we homeschool. That's exactly what I told dh when I got home! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 This wasn't an offensive comment, but I did have to pick my jaw up off the floor! I was at a friend's house and her neighbor stopped by. We were all chatting and something about the neighbor's father living in Washington came up. I said jokingly, "ooh, he's the president's neighbor." Then she said, "oh my gosh! I had no idea the president lived in Vancouver!" She was not joking. She had no clue there were 2 Washingtons or where the president lived at all. Wow! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Share Posted January 3, 2015 I'm going to run out of likes on this thread! You ladies have really cheered me up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 I am picturing Samuel L. Jackson saying "Allow me to retort" in Pulp Fiction. :smilielol5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 BIL mentioned (again) after dinner that he's the smartest person he knows. I'll just have to take his word for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 BIL mentioned (again) after dinner that he's the smartest person he knows. I'll just have to take his word for it. Tell him he needs to get out more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Yeah, especially because one prime reason for home schooling is that he's flipping brilliant and the schools here sucked at meeting gifted students needs almost as much as they sucked at meeting his special education needs. 2e, be bop the fun don't stop! What is 2e? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunter's Moon Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 What is 2e? Twice exceptional - gifted with learning disabilities Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 What is 2e? twice exceptional: intellectually gifted and having a learning disability Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Twice exceptional - gifted with learning disabilities Thank you! :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 The specifics are too numerous to recount, but my dh and I had a friend who was funny and a blast to be around, but every time we were with him he'd say some little phrase that put us in a bad light. Like, when I was quiet after watching a movie that my dh picked, the friend said to me, "Why are you so quiet? Pouting because we didn't watch a movie you chose?" Um...no... It was bizarre. We would feel icky about ourselves until we realized that we were *not* doing the things this friend would infer (like pouting over a movie--I wasn't! I was just quiet! It was late!) He would infer that DH and I were fighting or mad at each other when we were just hanging out and, well, I don't even know why he'd say these things. We weren't fighting or mad. It was just so strange. We used to have this friend to the house every month or so because 99% percent of the time he was funny and we would have fun together. But that 1% was just too irritating. He hasn't been invited into our home in a year and a half. It's better that way. I haven't told anyone IRL because it would be gossipy since they all know him, but it was hard to let go of all those little digs. I'm still a little unsure how I feel about them, but at least now they don't sting as much as they used to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Thank you! :001_smile: In my son's case he is crazy smart but has a processing speed gap and autism. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahW Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 This wasn't an offensive comment, but I did have to pick my jaw up off the floor! I was at a friend's house and her neighbor stopped by. We were all chatting and something about the neighbor's father living in Washington came up. I said jokingly, "ooh, he's the president's neighbor." Then she said, "oh my gosh! I had no idea the president lived in Vancouver!" She was not joking. She had no clue there were 2 Washingtons or where the president lived at all. Speaking of ignorance... My DH once ended up in an argument with an acquaintance of ours because he mentioned that fascism/nazism were politically HARD RIGHT. Well, the acquaintance took extreme umbrage to that, and insisted that fascism was leftist, and that my DH was a horrible person for being so wrong. Umm, WW2 anyone? Oh, and my DH's grandfather spent time in a nazi pow camp and nearly died there. So it was ignorant and offensive. What. Just what. My mother though, is the queen of innocent crazy comments. Let's see, she once asked me if Orthodox Christians "believe in Jesus." She's asked me why she can't pronounce my DH's name according to English pronunciation of its spelling instead of what he calls himself (DH's name isn't even Germanic). And way too many TMI comments that I have tried to wipe from my memory. Oh, and BF'ing a 1 1/2 year old is, you know, setting the kid up to still be nursing in kindergarten. I have a relative who told me that. lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Southern Ivy Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My daughter is very, very smart. Like off the charts. A few weeks ago my mother said "I can't imagine what the dinner conversation would be like if both her parents were smart too." :huh: :ohmy: :scared: :cursing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 and it can be hard to just let it go. But, you kind of have to let it go, because what else are you going to do. Well, I thought it might be fun and therapeutic to have a place to get it all out. Naturally, I'm willing to go first. Feel free to join in by sharing those words, said by others that you can't get out of your head, whether funny, ridiculous, rude, inaccurate, uninformed or unsolicited. My example is taken from a brief conversation that I had with my MIL over Christmas. She asked "Are you going to get a job in 2015?" I responded "I may, depending on the circumstances." She replied with "I sure hope so. It's time for you to be a big girl and get to work." I guess homeschooling and parenting four children doesn't count. Lol. 😃 Wow. I'm already feeling better just getting out! Join in if you need to get something off your chest. Oh. My. Word. :rant: I rant on your behalf. That was a terrible thing to say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 "He's so advanced! Imagine how smart he'd be if he went to real school." What is real school for a 4 year old anyways? People are hilarious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readinmom Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Sounds familiar. At Christmas at in laws, (which I have avoided forever but guilted into attending) mil was praising the virtues of her chosen favorites (grandkids) while my kids were in the room. Heck, we were all there. I had to open my mouth and talk about my brother's recent promotion. I got a strange look, room got quiet, then she said, "Well, go ahead, if you feel that your side of the family has something worthwhile to contribute." :cursing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 What is real school for a 4 year old anyways? People are hilarious. Everyone thinks he's 6 or 7 because he's *really* tall, and articulate. I know he's tall, but I think he comes across as a typical 4 year old. He still messes his words up in the adorable way that 4 year olds do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 Everyone thinks he's 6 or 7 because he's *really* tall, and articulate. I know he's tall, but I think he comes across as a typical 4 year old. He still messes his words up in the adorable way that 4 year olds do. I got that. People wanted to know why my 2 year old wasn't talking or walking. Because that, my dear friend, isn't a two year old but a very tall 10 month old, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree Frog Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 This wasn't an offensive comment, but I did have to pick my jaw up off the floor! I was at a friend's house and her neighbor stopped by. We were all chatting and something about the neighbor's father living in Washington came up. I said jokingly, "ooh, he's the president's neighbor." Then she said, "oh my gosh! I had no idea the president lived in Vancouver!" She was not joking. She had no clue there were 2 Washingtons or where the president lived at all. I had a boss at Target about 25 years ago insist that Australia was a part of the United States and that Texas was its own country. She didn't believe me when I told her it was the other way around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted January 3, 2015 Share Posted January 3, 2015 My MIL once told me, after a shopping trip, that she saw I was out spending Dh's money again! Never mind that I worked for almost 20 years before staying home and she has never worked a day in her life! ARGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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