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MrsRobinson

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  1. Preach! I wish I could! Dd is 2e and has behavioral and other issues. Her need for comfort and dependence on me has always been very high but since puberty kicked in, its off the charts! In just trying to help her cope at this point. I'm hoping the hormone fog will lift in a couple years and we can work on developing some independence.
  2. @Ravin and @marbel You guys are right, I try to accommodate everyone all the time. Its exhausting. I can work on that. 😊 @PeterPan thanks for the link! I will try it!
  3. Yes! This exactly what I need to do! I will try really hard to do this next time.
  4. Thank you! That's what I thought. Not all group situations are like that one. Maybe that was a bad example. I struggle in all groups where I'm conversing with multiple people. But its worth working on overcoming my introvert behavior to see if that helps. Sorry I can't multi quote guys. It wants to quote every post I've ever quoted since the new forum and I can't figure out how to erase them! 😄
  5. So this is probably an introvert thing more than an EF issue? I like that idea! My answers above certainly support that idea. I think it would be easier to improve upon my personality than EF struggles.
  6. To your first question, no I'm not comfortable and it drives dh crazy! I will just let people go on and on because I can't tell them to pause or I need to hang up or whatever. Hmmm.... I hadn't made that connection but it seems so obvious! Thank you! To the 2nd question, it wouldn't have mattered. I have a very close relative that is 16 years younger than me and I never interrupt. I almost never interrupt my kids. Sometimes I have to to say 'let the doctor do his job' and I hate that I have to do that! So uncomfortable!
  7. So you're saying most people would have a hard time mentally in that situation? Yes, your example of how to get things done one at a time is exactly what I need to do in those types of situations. I should have shut down the house talk because it wasn't the time for that and moved them and dd towards leaving. I forget that when its my turn to talk, I don't HAVE to answer house questions right then, I can say whatever I want! Like, "well I'll let you talk to dh about that later because I have my friend, Sally, here to help me move this furniture. Sally, these are dd's relatives." I just CAN'T THINK in the moment to actually say the logical thing. Where's that head bang emoji when you need it?!
  8. I'm sorry you have the same issues cause it sucks but I'm so relieved that I'm not the only one!
  9. Oh my gosh I think I would faint of embarrassment if I tried that! Lol! I guess then, I'd have to say I am definitely not good at commanding a crowd! 😳
  10. I'll just get right to the example that is prompting this post: Today, a friend came over to help me move some furniture. Then some relatives showed up EARLY to pick up dd. So the two events unintentionally overlapped. One relative start talking right away about house stuff (we are buying a house) then the other relative started talking about dd and what they were going to do and getting needed information from me. Meanwhile, my friend is standing there and waiting for me. I'm wanting to introduce them because I don't think they know each other but relatives wouldn't let me get it in. I'm also trying to remember to thank relatives for taking dd (they are spending money and time on her) and make sure they hear me thank them because they are particular about thank yous but also they never stop talking long enough to hear any! Lol! And I needed to give dd attention in the form of a big hug and kind words before she left. She will jump in the car without it then ends up calling me in tears an hour later because I didn't give her love. So here's my issue. I felt like my brain was in a washing machine or blender during this exchange. I was trying to talk to three people about three different things and it just all runs together and I can't focus. Plus actively saying to myself in my mind "remeber to thank them loudly" over and over, it felt like I could feel physical brain pain to hold on to that thought. After reading and researching ADHD and executive function issues in kids for dd, I'm pretty sure I'm ADHD Inattentive type with definite EF issues. I've since built in a lot of supports, simple routines, and visual/ audio reminders and checklists for myself and they are helping me so much. The biggest struggle I have now is in the above example. And that type of situation happens a lot with coordinating care and treatment for chronic illnesses in our family, plus extra curricular activities, a non-profit I volunteer with in a big group, and more. Anybody know what I'm describing? Can anybody point me in a direction to improve?
  11. I can't remember if I posted this last week or not but I don't think I did: 2 full sets of scuba gear donated Another trash bag of clothes donated A car booster seat The donation place is closed Monday so this will be tomorrow's HUGE purge: A futon A TV stand A dresser A large toddler tool bench toy Another trash bag of clothes A wall clock A set of prints for the kitchen wall A set of prints for a child's bedroom or bathroom
  12. There is actually litigation going on right now over this issue. https://www.marketwatch.com/amp/story/guid/529F9C50-49B0-11E9-ABE5-16C30B035A18
  13. We might be taking a spring break here ourselves depending on how things go. We have to be out of this house by the end of the month so we have 2 weeks to close on our new house, remodel some scary plumbing situations, paint the whole house, clean the whole house, move in and clean the house we are leaving. 😱 So I might not be around much the next two weeks. In fact, if you do "see" me, tell me to leave the hive and get back to work! 😄
  14. I recently had to replace my old trusty crockpot with a new one and the crock insert is significantly lighter and slimmer. I wonder if that's a big reason they are cooking hotter these days. They are making cheap-y crocks! I kept my old crock since it was fine (it was the electric appliance part that failed) and I'm contemplating trying it in my new crockpot to test my theory. I don't have any 10 hour recipes to contribute other than what was already suggested but I am stealing a couple of these recipes for myself! 🤣
  15. I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much. 😞 Is there a residential treatment option for them at some point? I know you don't want someone else taking care of your sons but I'm worried for you (and your dh) that you're burning out. (Said by a full time care giver that circles the drain every now and then. 🙄)
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