Halcyon Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 A friend had invited me to drinks at her house tonight-a sort of cocktail thing. I just don't like these sorts of things. I am generally tired by this time of day (yes, i feel old) and don't much like socializing. I do like an after work drink--still revved from the office, unwind with a beer and conversation. But I have bene doing house stuff today, dealing with my sick chicken, worrying about work stuff...and I just don't want to go socialize with a bunch of strangers (although I know they will all be very nice). DH doesn't understand this--he's like 'Im taking the kids out so you should go and see your friends"...but I kinda just want to turn on some random tv, have a cup of tea, and knit. I am such a dork. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I totally get it! Hope you are able to have a relaxing evening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 Thanks Phoenix. I have a pair of socks that I'm knitting that are calling my name LOL. My friend is disappointed but sometimes no matter how hard I try I cannot get myself psyched up to go out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 Then I'll be a dork with you because your idea sounds much better to me, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I believe I know how you feel. My husband and I are going over to have drinks with some friends tonight, and I don't want to go. I've run errands and done chores all day. What would really float my boat tonight would be doing some homeschool planning. Yeah, I just somehow got fired up today and want to get to work. That, and fold the mountain of laundry that's sitting on my couch. The older I get, the more time I need alone. And the less time I get. Now, invite me out for a morning coffee date, and I'm ready to go! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I'm with you. If I'm tired and have the night off I want to sleep! If I'm going out with friends (extremely rare as a single mom), it's going to be lunch, dinner, or Starbucks. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I'd much rather sit home in solitude. Being a homeschooling mom is draining! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I'm with you! Have DH take the kids and you stay home to relax! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I feel the same way, so I'll join you in dorkdom. It's not such a bad place to be! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 Who can think of socializing when she has a sick chicken? Seriously. lol I'm with you. The fam wants to go to Half Price Books after dinner, and I can't even decide if I am up to getting dressed to go there. It's not even fancy. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 10, 2013 Author Share Posted August 10, 2013 i am so glad i am not alone here LOL. The thought of taking a shower (the horror) putting on something presentable, and getting energized to socialize tonight....blah. It just isn't happening. Plus, y ou're right--my chicken needs me! I am hand feeding/watering her every hour! I can't leave her side! ;) There is something about a day of chores and garden work that just leaves me completely UNPSYCHED to go out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CyndiLJ Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 This week was a rough one, and I could totally use a few hours home alone. Not likely to get it, but I could use it! Dinner and drinks? I just don't do that. Ever. I am the extreme dork. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I recently had the night to myself and my treat to myself was to make a box of chocolate pudding and eat the whole thing by myself in the bowl I mixed it in while I watched cheesy tv from my youth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted August 10, 2013 Share Posted August 10, 2013 I get it too...although a small group would be more interesting to me than something larger (like meeting at a bar with friends - too much background noise, etc.). Anyway. My dh is the social one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baseball mom Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Sometimes going out is more draining than refreshing. I agree, stay home and enjoy the quiet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftyerin Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 oh, I'm totally with you. I'd rather put on a tank top, pj pants, pour a glass of wine, put something random on TV and knit than go out ANY night! That's absolutely my ideal way to spend an evening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nd293 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I really don't enjoy going out, especially if I'm required to spend time with strangers. I've got to the point where I prefer the discomfort of turning down an invitation to the discomfort of going out when I don't want to! I'm always up for a movie, or a daytime coffee with friends, but that's about my limit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 You know what I like about this place? Plenty of introverts. :thumbup1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I am SO YOU. I rarely have any interest in going out after a long day with kids. Gosh, even after an easy day with the kids I don't really want to go out drinking w/ the girls. Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 OH MY WORD. YES. Wanna know what I woke up to this morning? After going to sleep at 1:30 and having DD wake me up at about 3 and going to sleep with her because she was scared of something she had seen on TV (totally valid, gonna kill DH)? I woke up to DD and DH perched above me just after 8 to let me know that the neighbors had invited us to spend the day at the lake. Did I mention I quit coffee (again) last week? Well, I did. So, little sleep. Poor sleep. No coffee. No interest in spending time with the neighbors (one of whom is so horrifically obnoxious he is even starting to annoy DH who is officially The Nicest Guy on the Planet). I declined the invitation. But, as usual, I felt like a hermit spending another day in my hidey-hole. The kids went with DH and they all had a great time. I was happy to be alone, finishing up the schoolroom before we start school. I got a lot done. And fit in 4 musicals! :lol: Who can think of socializing when she has a sick chicken? Seriously. lol I'm with you. The fam wants to go to Half Price Books after dinner, and I can't even decide if I am up to getting dressed to go there. It's not even fancy. lol This so cracks me up. :lol: Been there... Not the sick chicken, but working myself up to showering and dressing in something appropriate for society. I recently had the night to myself and my treat to myself was to make a box of chocolate pudding and eat the whole thing by myself in the bowl I mixed it in while I watched cheesy tv from my youth. I've heard lore of this for so long. Today, alone and needing to go grocery shopping but refusing to leave the house when it is empty (helloooo, not gonna happen!), I made cookies and ate...let's just say a few too many. When I realized that I was getting exhausted from the blood sugar crashes, I deliberately started meting them out to myself to keep my blood sugar steady so I wouldn't crash. I feel stupid typing that. Shouldn't post it, but whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 My children take up all the socializing energy I have, and then some. I don't want to see or talk to anyone that isn't absolutely necessary unless it's on my terms (and it only happens once every few months that I initiate a social phone call, to my mother or something). I just can't seem to handle it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I did go to Half Price Books, but I would not win any beauty or fashion contests. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Right there with the OP. I'd rather stay home and chill with a Louis L'Amour book or a Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks movie than anything else but especially a gathering of people I have to make small talk with. :) Dh keeps trying to get me to go out so I finally went. I took two L'Amour books and sat in the Wal-Mart parking lot for 3 wonderful hours reading nonstop. It was great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WistfulRidge Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Then I'll be a dork with you because your idea sounds much better to me, too. :iagree: Give me a good book, movie/tv show, sewing project, or video game and throw in some chocolate. That's my idea of a good evening, lol. Odds are good that I'll even take cleaning the house over going out and being social with people I don't know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baseball mom Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Right there with the OP. I'd rather stay home and chill with a Louis L'Amour book or a Meg Ryan/Tom Hanks movie than anything else but especially a gathering of people I have to make small talk with. :) Dh keeps trying to get me to go out so I finally went. I took two L'Amour books and sat in the Wal-Mart parking lot for 3 wonderful hours reading nonstop. It was great. :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 It's all about the hair. Seriously, my hair, anyway. If going somewhere in the evening means I need to shed the casual workday clothes, figure out an outfit and top it all with having to wash and style my hair at 5pm... forget it! If I'm taking a shower at dinner time, I'm putting on my pjs when I get out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2bee Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 This might sound dumb; but do you actually have a chicken that is ill, or do you use "chicken" as a pet-name for one of your children and one of your offspring is ill? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 I am the same way. I do like getting out and seeing my friend (singular, sad, I know) on occasion. But it's not a big party type situation. Coffee and talking homeschooling is fun. margaritas and a HP movie was fun, too. Dh is a musician and loves the attention. Me, I'm like..."I have cookie dough and BBC shows to rewatch. What would I need to leave the house for??" I don't get out much, but I like it that way. I might change my mind if I had a Barnes & Noble/Starbucks nearby, though. I might try to move in. ;) I'm a dork with you. I don't want to do that either. And when I drink I prefer to do it at home so then I don't have to worry about driving. Yup. That's another reason I don't go out to drink almost ever. I will not drink and drive even after one beer. No way, no how. If I can't walk or catch a safe ride, I ain't going. I used to be an EMT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Yes she really has a chicken. Hehe... I'm getting a chicken just so I can use it as an excuse to not go out. "One of my hives doesn't have a queen" just doesn't have an urgent enough ring to it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 BTW, the fam just went out, and I stayed home. I am now in pj pants and will begin dyeing my roots soon. Ahhhh, bliss. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2bee Posted August 11, 2013 Share Posted August 11, 2013 Yes she really has a chicken. Hehe... Oh, okay thanks! I felt stupid to ask, but not knowing if it were a bird or a child that was sick was going to drive me bonkers! I've always wanted to keep chickens but between stray cats, foxes, racoons, terrible weather, shady yard and neighborhood dogs that roam and destroy stuff, I just don't think that I'd do a very good job keeping a chicken safe. Plus my dad would only see soup when he looked at her :(. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halcyon Posted August 12, 2013 Author Share Posted August 12, 2013 This might sound dumb; but do you actually have a chicken that is ill, or do you use "chicken" as a pet-name for one of your children and one of your offspring is ill? I HAD a chicken that was ill--very ill with botulism poisoning. But she made a miracle recovery and is all better :) I am quite sure it was because I stayed home and sang her lullabies. Really. I'm not kidding. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbbulliv Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Yeah for the recovery! When I read the "HAD a chicken" my heart skipped a beat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 27 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand I didn't come up with this list, but I could have :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I completely understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Lizzie in Ma Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I'm with you, even when I do know and like the folks who invited me. I prefer to stay at home in the evening. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Count me in for not coming out and being around folks - posting here once in a while and poking around on FB is more than enough social life for me, thank-you very much! I remember in college being dragged by my roommate (a classic extrovert) out for a movie then meeting people at a noisy bar - I was so sleepy (I am a morning person) and couldn't understand what people where saying as the noise level was so high - aargh! I am an introverted MORNING person. By late afternoon I am turned OFF. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 Count me in for not coming out and being around folks - posting here once in a while and poking around on FB is more than enough social life for me, thank-you very much! I remember in college being dragged by my roommate (a classic extrovert) out for a movie then meeting people at a noisy bar - I was so sleepy (I am a morning person) and couldn't understand what people where saying as the noise level was so high - aargh! I am an introverted MORNING person. By late afternoon I am turned OFF. You know, JFS, you bring up an interesting point. Years ago, the only way to get the latest scoop was to actually muster up the energy and get out among the extroverts. Now our online connectedness brings all that socializing right to our eyes without having to endure the draining masses. I have to say, my introverted nature has been nurtured by fb, twitter, forums, blogs, websites, email.... Sometimes I have to wonder if that's a good thing? Like I am using my introversion and ease of access to information to live a life that is comfortable to me, but is perhaps weakening me in a way? Like muscle atrophy, maybe there's personality atrophy... Oh man, that's way too much navel gazing for a Monday morning. Time to dust off the math book and then plan a field trip! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsJewelsRae Posted August 12, 2013 Share Posted August 12, 2013 I totally get that. My dh needs lots of social time, seriously, he's worse than the kids! Always asking if we can have someone over for dinner or a weekend, visiting someone else for a weekend, dropping in on someone, he's even asked if we can go on vacation with friends. I would so much prefer a quiet night at home, but for his sake and for marital peace I try to go his way as much as I can. He just doesn't get it. I like having just a few close friends, people I'm comfy with, he has dozens of "close" friends and loves to visit with them, it is overwhelming to me. I don't have panic reactions to it, but I wonder if its a bit of social anxiety for me. I'm a very friendly and warm person but there's only so much I can take before I just have to go home and hide! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted August 13, 2013 Share Posted August 13, 2013 You know, I used to be so outgoing. Now I'm like all of you... It's really a lot of work to do my hair and makeup for an event i am lukewarm about attending. And its a good night when I can shower and get into my PJs early. There are some exceptions. We have a couple families that we really enjoy spending time with, and when we have something planned with them, I look forward to it. But I can be so *real* with those friends. If I came to their houses in sweats and a ponytail they wouldn't care a bit. Just like all of you ladies... I talk to all of you in my pajamas almost every day!! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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