Is it okay to let my ds11 sleep in until 9:00 am or am I creating a bum?

[daisychics]

We homeschool, why not let him sleep in, right? My first thought is, he's growing... so let him sleep in so he can rest and grow tall. haha. But am I creating a bum later in life?

 

What time do your kids wake up?

[Ellie]

My dc used to wake up between 7:30 and 8. Praise God. Having children wake up before 7 would have been a killer for me, lol.

 

As long as he is able to get up earlier when necessary (e.g., for church, or outings where you must *arrive* by 9), I don't see a problem. My late sleepers had no problems getting up earlier when they started taking community college classes and working and whatnot.

[Serenade]

Ha! My oldest (almost 13) wakes up at 6:30 or earlier. I WISH he would learn to sleep in -- he's at the age where most kids start to enjoy it, but not him. He is not allowed to come out to the common area until 8, however. He's a noisy kid, and as it is, I think he wakes his brother up prematurely when he goes to the bathroom.

[C_l_e_0..Q_c]

LOL. My 15yo just woke up in time for his Latin online class at 9, and my daughter 11 barely walked out her door at 9:20....

We're raising bums, for sure....

 

Honestly, I have the same reservation. And we try to have alarm clocks, unless there's something special going on. I just forgot about the alarms last night.

[daisychics]

My dd and I wake up at 7 to make coffee for Daddy and to see him go to work. Ds does wake up when we need him to for church and for martial arts on Saturdays.

 

Thank you Ellie

[Lolly]

Does he get his work done? If so, he is headed toward bumness. When life requires, he will get up earlier. Or, he will get a job that starts later. And, he will schedule classes to start later. Btdt, she is doing just fine!

[daisychics]

LOL. My 15yo just woke up in time for his Latin online class at 9, and my daughter 11 barely walked out her door at 9:20....

We're raising bums, for sure....

 

Honestly, I have the same reservation. And we try to have alarm clocks, unless there's something special going on. I just forgot about the alarms last night.

 

Sorry, I didn't mean (oh boy) that everyone else's kids were bums (eek). That's why I never post anything, I never think. I just worry that he won't be able to hold a job later in life. lol. I hope I didn't offend you or anyone else here.

[Chris in VA]

Hey, dh gets up around 8:45 or 9 and a harder-working man you will not find. He just stays up late, that's all.

 

I say give the kiddo the sleep he needs.

 

Dd has to get up at 6:10 to make it to school at 7:20, and it's insane, imo. Not that getting up that early is bad or anything, but it's against her natural rhythm, and I can tell it's more beneficial for her to sleep a little more because she always grows more when she has breaks from school. I'm convinced it's the sleep.

[C_l_e_0..Q_c]

Sorry, I didn't mean (oh boy) that everyone else's kids were bums (eek). That's why I never post anything, I never think. I just worry that he won't be able to hold a job later in life. lol. I hope I didn't offend you or anyone else here.

 

Oh no! I just re-read my answer, and it's me! I was tongue-in-cheek agreeing with you about bum-ness. I wasn't offended, I was quite amused in fact, because I read the post just as my kids were getting out of bed. but the way I wrote my remarks could be taken as if I was offended. Trust me, I wasn't!

As long as my kids are able to get up early to play video games, I'm fine.

And honestly, my sister's kids went to school, and now that they're in their 20's they get up between noon and 3pm. So the fact they got out of bed in time for school for 14 years and more didn't count. I'm hoping we can do the opposite. (let them sleep in in their teens, so they will rise up early in adulthood?)

[amo_mea_filiis.]

I have an 11 year old bum too! It's 9:45 and i have attempted waking twice now.

 

There are plenty of people who do not work "normal" 9-5 jobs, so there can't be too much harm.

 

However, my dd plans to go to public hs, so she will have to adjust in the next few years.

[DawnM]

My older two don't get up until 9am and that is with me waking them up. Not a big deal.

 

We know a family where they all are night owls. They stay up until 2-3am, and all get up around 11am or noon. They just adjust their schedules. They are awake the same amount of hours as everyone else.

 

The mom had the older kids do a report on jobs they could do in real life that would allow them to get up later. They came up with some awesome jobs! NASA night duty jobs with computer engineering, etc.....

[Karen in CO]

My older gets up at 6 to go to school. My younger sleeps until 8 or 9 which really helps me get some work done (I work from home). My mom generally makes critical-sounding comments about how late she sleeps, but I put her to bed at a time calculated to let her get enough sleep and let me get some work done in the mornings. She gets all of her school work done and wakes up pleasant at a time that I can give her some attention.

 

My take is that if it is working for you then continue, but I don't think wake-up time relates to bum-ness. You could wake him up early and still create a bum. ;)

[daisychics]

Hey, dh gets up around 8:45 or 9 and a harder-working man you will not find. He just stays up late, that's all.

 

I say give the kiddo the sleep he needs.

 

Dd has to get up at 6:10 to make it to school at 7:20, and it's insane, imo. Not that getting up that early is bad or anything, but it's against her natural rhythm, and I can tell it's more beneficial for her to sleep a little more because she always grows more when she has breaks from school. I'm convinced it's the sleep.

 

Ack! So sorry... didn't mean that everyone else were bums if they woke up at 9 or later (ugh). :o That's not what I meant at all. This is me.... walking hiding in shame..... :ph34r:

[elegantlion]

I wake up ds at 9. I am not a morning person, neither is he. I consider this a perk of homeschooling. He went to private school for prek and K, it was awful. I had to come home and chill the entire time he was gone. Dh woke him up early this weekend so we could go shopping. Big mistake, he was grumpy and horrid. I reminded dh what those early years were like, nothing has changed. Not everyone works 8 to 5.

 

My dad worked second shift as a broadcast engineer for his entire career, still not a morning person in his retirement.

[daisychics]

Hey, dh gets up around 8:45 or 9 and a harder-working man you will not find. He just stays up late, that's all.

 

I say give the kiddo the sleep he needs.

 

Dd has to get up at 6:10 to make it to school at 7:20, and it's insane, imo. Not that getting up that early is bad or anything, but it's against her natural rhythm, and I can tell it's more beneficial for her to sleep a little more because she always grows more when she has breaks from school. I'm convinced it's the sleep.

 

Ack! So sorry... didn't mean that everyone else were bums if they woke up at 9 or later (ugh). :o That's not what I meant at all. This is me.... hiding in shame :ph34r:

My older two don't get up until 9am and that is with me waking them up. Not a big deal.

 

We know a family where they all are night owls. They stay up until 2-3am, and all get up around 11am or noon. They just adjust their schedules. They are awake the same amount of hours as everyone else.

 

The mom had the older kids do a report on jobs they could do in real life that would allow them to get up later. They came up with some awesome jobs! NASA night duty jobs with computer engineering, etc.....

 

Wow, that's a great idea! My family's favorite comedian is Brian Regan. We LOVE him! He said in an interview that he became a comedian because he didn't want a job where he had to get up early in the morning. lol.

[daisychics]

Sorry everyone! I wish I didn't equate waking up after 9 = being a bum. Please ignore me. :ph34r:

[daisychics]

If we don't need to be anywhere, I don't mind. My kids go to bed later and get up a bit later. That works for us at this time.

 

So no, I don't think it's a big deal.

 

Thank you. I'm feeling better about not waking ds up early.

[momtoamiracle]

My dh also works second shift. On his days off, and sometimes the morning of his work days, he works a second job. He also does all of the maintenance on our house and vehicles.

 

 

He never gets up before nine unless he has to be somewhere early.

 

 

You are not raising a bum. Don't worry about it!

[C_l_e_0..Q_c]

Sorry everyone! I wish I didn't equate waking up after 9 = being a bum. Please ignore me. :ph34r:

Don't worry. LOTS of people equate the two, and it's a concern for quite a lot of people too, including me. (grammar question: "including me" or "including myself" ? )

 

Homeschoolers are not standard people. We're already off the beaten path. So what's a little further away when you're already very far away from the norm? As long as you see the kiddos *can* get up early when necessary, and that the work gets done. They're bums if there's no work accomplished at the end of the day. Otherwise, they're just 'socialised' in a different way :tongue_smilie:

[delaney]

I try to let them sleep until they get up naturally. One DD is an early riser so if she sleeps late it is for a reason. 6 yr old DS will roll downstairs between 9 and 10. I would not dream of waking him up because it would RUIN the rest of the day.

[NatashainDFW]

How I wish DS1 would sleep in. He is never in bed past 8:15 while it is now 9:30 and DD is still asleep and DS2 is napping in his swing. If DS1 was someone who slept in I could have grabbed another hour or so of sleep lol.

[Mrs Mungo]

I think kids need more sleep during growth spurts. I generally make mine get up by 8 so that they will go to bed at night. But, they slept later today because I'm sick and unmotivated.

[TammyinTN]

I've really changed how we school. We don't start until noon and work until it's all completed--which means sometimes 8 or 9 at night. We get lots more done and he's happy. We usually get up around 9am, have breakfast, exercise, clean house and have lunch and start on school. It works out great for our family.

[Soror]

None of mine sleep that late as of yet but it doesn't seem concerning to me. I try to always let the kids wake whenever it is natural for them to do so. Personally I like having some quiet time in the morning so I appreciate when they sleep in past 7. My dh has an early schedule now but for many years prior he was working 2nd and 3rd shift work. I'm generally a morning person myself but dh is not, I think most people learn to adapt to whatever schedule that is needed without much issue.

[Soror]

None of mine sleep that late as of yet but it doesn't seem concerning to me. I try to always let the kids wake whenever it is natural for them to do so. Personally I like having some quiet time in the morning so I appreciate when they sleep in past 7. My dh has an early schedule now but for many years prior he was working 2nd and 3rd shift work. I'm generally a morning person myself but dh is not, I think most people learn to adapt to whatever schedule that is needed without much issue.

[elegantlion]

LOL

 

I didn't take it that way. I do get a nagging feeling from time to time because it seems I'm so lax. It does feel weird to see the school buses driving around at 7 am while my kids are still snoring away.

 

 

I'm usually not up when the school bus goes by. I know this because the neighbor kid (he's little) yells BUS every morning about 7am. He must be the alarm bell and the bus stop is right outside our door.

[Mrs Mungo]

None of mine sleep that late as of yet but it doesn't seem concerning to me. I try to always let the kids wake whenever it is natural for them to do so. Personally I like having some quiet time in the morning so I appreciate when they sleep in past 7. My dh has an early schedule now but for many years prior he was working 2nd and 3rd shift work. I'm generally a morning person myself but dh is not, I think most people learn to adapt to whatever schedule that is needed without much issue.

 

 

Mine never slept in when they were little either. But, age 11 or 12 or so and up changed all of that for all but ds; he is still an early riser.

[Ellie]

Sorry, I didn't mean (oh boy) that everyone else's kids were bums (eek). That's why I never post anything, I never think. I just worry that he won't be able to hold a job later in life. lol. I hope I didn't offend you or anyone else here.

 

No one was offended. ;-)

 

Think about it for a minute: How many adults do you know who spent at least 12 years in school, having to get up at the crack of dawn to be there on time, who CANNOT EVER BE ON TIME ANYWHERE as an adult? Sleeping later is not the problem; lack of self-control and discipline is.

 

FTR, I don't care why adutls can't be on time. I have no sympathy or mercy for people who are chronically late. I'm not talking about the situations that all of us face at times which cause us to be late; I'm talking about the people who are never, ever, on time, for any reason, at all. One of my hot buttons. :cursing:

[daisychics]

LOL

 

I didn't take it that way. I do get a nagging feeling from time to time because it seems I'm so lax. It does feel weird to see the school buses driving around at 7 am while my kids are still snoring away.

 

Yes. It's that nagging feeling.

 

I try to embrace my luxurious lifestyle. :coolgleamA:

 

We went to a youth orchestra concert a few weeks ago. We went with a very small group of homeschoolers we had never met before. The group was formed to get the group discount. So it was 99% public school kids. There is this fantastic fancy bakery near the theatre that we decided to meet at after the concert. The school kids were lined up in front waiting for their bus. They had their faces pressed up onto the front of the bakery window oogling at the goodies. I had to walk past them with my two to get into the store. That was a very surreal feeling. I didn't know if I should feel guilty or special. :laugh:

 

 

Those are the times my kids realize how *cool* it is to be homeschooled. (I'm gonna offend someone with that comment, I know it.)

[Abeille]

One of my 11 year olds is a crazy early riser - he gets up at 5am, by choice, to have some free time before catching his bus. He is relentlessly cheerful and perky before dawn. :glare: His twin brother (who stays home) sets his alarm for 7am, again by choice, but is currently fast asleep after finishing his writing lesson for the day. I'm pretty sure he's starting a growth spurt, as his appetite has also increased. Whenever possible, I let my kids wake up naturally. Their moods and attitudes are much improved, and they seem to focus better as well. I wish my 14 year old could sleep in, but his bus comes at 6:30 - seems like utter madness to me, having teens start school so early when biology gives them a predisposition that is entirely the opposite.

[daisychics]

No one was offended. ;-)

 

Think about it for a minute: How many adults do you know who spent at least 12 years in school, having to get up at the crack of dawn to be there on time, who CANNOT EVER BE ON TIME ANYWHERE as an adult? Sleeping later is not the problem; lack of self-control and discipline is.

 

FTR, I don't care why adutls can't be on time. I have no sympathy or mercy for people who are chronically late. I'm not talking about the situations that all of us face at times which cause us to be late; I'm talking about the people who are never, ever, on time, for any reason, at all. One of my hot buttons. :cursing:

 

You'd love me because I'm always on time. Sometimes I make the family sit in the car because we're too early. lol

But I do know what you mean about people who are chronically late.

[daisychics]

And come on, if one can't brag about the luxuries of homeschooling here, where else can they!?

That is true. I only brag to dh because most of our friends send their kids to public school. I'm used to downplaying our homes-coolness. lol.

[tammyw]

This wasn't the article, but I recently read about teens naturally going to bed later and needing to sleep in. Here's something similar. Let your teen (pre-teen) sleep in!

 

http://www.islandpacket.com/2010/08/21/1345747/early-high-school-start-times.html

[Georgiana Daniels]

I let our kids wake up naturally. It's one of the benefits of homeschooling! Plus it's just part of our lifestyle and we are all hard workers. Hubby doesn't get home from work until midnight or later and therefore sleeps until 9-ish, then works 12-14 hours a day. The kids follow suit. They start later, but they finish school later and have their evening activities until 8 p.m.

 

What time kids get up isn't as important as how long and hard they work while they're awake!

[Georgiana Daniels]

LOL, I hear you. I sometimes don't realize how weird (cool) we are until I talk to nonhomeschoolers.

 

Last night someone was lamenting that they have to do the morning rush-around and was jealous of our easy mornings. SO loving it!

[Liz CA]

We homeschool, why not let him sleep in, right? My first thought is, he's growing... so let him sleep in so he can rest and grow tall. haha. But am I creating a bum later in life?

 

What time do your kids wake up?

 

I let my ds sleep in while he was growing and he is now working in a place where he has to start at 6am on most days. He does not seem to have a problem with it.

[Trilliums]

My boys were very late sleepers. So late, I don't even want to mention a time as it surpasses bumdom all together. :)

 

This fall they started morning classes at the high school and they are up, showered and out of the house by 7am every week day. They have adjusted just fine despite years of sleeping as late as they needed without alarm clocks. They are self motivated conscientious learners and I have no worries about their work ethic. I actually think they work too hard, or at least are a bit too hard on themselves.

[Trilliums]

My boys were very late sleepers. So late, I don't even want to mention a time as it surpasses bumdom all together. :)

 

This fall they started morning classes at the high school and they are up, showered and out of the house by 7am every week day. They have adjusted just fine despite years of sleeping as late as they needed without alarm clocks. They are self motivated conscientious learners and I have no worries about their work ethic. I actually think they work too hard, or at least are a bit too hard on themselves.

[daisychics]

This wasn't the article, but I recently read about teens naturally going to bed later and needing to sleep in. Here's something similar. Let your teen (pre-teen) sleep in!

 

http://www.islandpac...tart-times.html

 

Thanks for the article. I will let him sleep in. :closedeyes:

[daisychics]

double post

[daisychics]

I let my ds sleep in while he was growing and he is now working in a place where he has to start at 6am on most days. He does not seem to have a problem with it.

 

Yay! :thumbup1:

[daisychics]

My boys were very late sleepers. So late, I don't even want to mention a time as it surpasses bumdom all together. :)

 

This fall they started morning classes at the high school and they are up, showered and out of the house by 7am every week day. They have adjusted just fine despite years of sleeping as late as they needed without alarm clocks. They are self motivated conscientious learners and I have no worries about their work ethic. I actually think they work too hard, or at least are a bit too hard on themselves.

 

Wow, that's great! I hope to raise a self-motivated and hard working kids here.

[daisychics]

What time kids get up isn't as important as how long and hard they work while they're awake!

 

So true. :)

[happyhomemaker]

I went to ps all through school and got up early, but that didn't make me a morning person. I would sleep in until 9 every day if I could. I don't think it's a big deal to let kids sleep in, but I do think being responsible for appointments needs to be stressed. I hate getting up in the morning, but I am always on time. I'm on time because my parents instilled a sense of responsibility in me, not because I got up early for ps as a kid (this is evidenced by the fact that my sisters also went to ps but are constantly late).

[momoftwoinga]

My kids have always gone to bed around midnight and got up at 9:30ish. I'm completely ok with that! :)

[Catwoman]

Clearly, I am raising a bum.

 

And that's all I'll say. :p

[daisychics]

Clearly, I am raising a bum.

 

And that's all I'll say. :p

 

 

;)

[Mommy22alyns]

Sleeping in until 9 am is a bum? Y'all probably don't know how late I'd sleep in if I could!

[swellmomma]

My kids all sleep in until at least 9-930, sometimes until after 10, my dd13 sleeps until noon most days. I do not think I am raising him to be a bum, jeepers the kid has a job that he is always on time for(well technically early, because when it comes to work, as far as I am concerned you are late if you are not early), does his online classes, goes to extra currics and gets his other work done. We just do it at a later time of day. I was talking with one of the men he works with(the guy is also a volunteer with the cadet group), and he said he thought it was good ds got a job that he had to get up for because in the "real world" he would have to be up early for work. I reminded the man that there is 2nd and 3rd shifts available for many jobs if he grew up to be an adult that still wanted to sleep later. Not every job out there is 9-5. If the profession he wants is, well then at that time he will learn to get up earlier.

 

I am the same way as my kids. Not a morning person, I am a night owl. I had to be up early everyday for school growing up, as a teen I often skipped the classes before and after lunch break and took a nap, etc. I was too tired to be properly functional. I had to work everyday after school, and then homework, so in high school I was averaging 3-4 hours of sleep a night. I needed that nap. My kids are also nightowls. By sleeping until 9 or later they get between 10-12 hours of sleep a night and have the energy to learn, go to work, do school etc. Sleeping until 9 does not make a bum, lack of any work ethic does. You do not have to be an early riser to have work ethic.

[KRG]

Our days are so much better when everyone has enough sleep. My oldest is up by 8:30 these days but in previous years he would sleep to 9 or 10. He always finished his school in plenty of time and it was never an issue for us.