cajunrose Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I was telling my husband last night that most women I know prefer lights off during brewing teA. He wondered if that was really true and if they did prefer lights off, why? I told him probably for self conscious reasons. So..here we go. Anonymous poll for my husband. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Soft lighting. I don't like complete darkness because then it makes it difficult to see what one is doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 We are not really body conscious here and dh sees me naked at various times of the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 :lol:Dark! That is the only time I like dark LOL Big dark fear here but in that case dark. I can get way more free to be me in the dark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Soft lighting. I don't like complete darkness because then it makes it difficult to see what one is doing. Which can make things interesting as well. I was trying to give dh a kiss goodnight last night and managed to kiss his ear :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Candlelight. Always candlelight if there is time to plan. :blushing: Faith Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 low lights. These days it is lights off because we ONLY have a very bright ceiling light right over the bed. It feels like spotlight. We've just been too lazy to go out and buy a small lamp for a dresser. We have street lights outside our windows so even with the lights off there is some light, but we would like a little lamp in the room. I should get him a lava lamp for his birthday! The kids would think it was cool and he would know exactly why I bought it :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I prefer soft lighting, not pitch black, and not full light. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 On- I leave the closet light on or a lamp. Never the full over head light. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dory Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I had dh put a dimmer on our light switch because I don't like them fully on or fully off. I feel in the dark like as if I'm trying to hide from him (and it also gives me flashbacks). Full light just is too harsh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BugsMama Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Soft lighting. I like to see him, and see what I am doing. But I need it dark-ish to *ehm* focus on the feelings.... and be able to really get into it. Too much light is distracting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) It honestly never dawned on me that most women would prefer the dark. I mean, I responded with "lights on," but I wasn't talking about the kind of lighting they have in fitting rooms when I'm trying on bathing suits, either. ;) I think soft lighting is nice at night, but daylight is fine, too. I couldn't get into the "lights off" thing at all -- and I would be surprised if most husbands wouldn't prefer some lighting as well, if they like looking at their wives. Edited July 24, 2012 by Catwoman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Not picky. Usually a table lamp is on. Sometimes not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Any of the above but a closet light or the bathroom light or something like them is the norm. Rather not complete dark and full sunlight in the middle of the day is quite great. :) (when we can rarely sneak it in ;) ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Indirect or soft lighting, yep--I like to be able to see. Bright light is too much. Daytime is fine too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mothergooseof4 Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I like to be able to see. Men are extremely visual as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 My bedside lamp has a low watt bulb. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltop Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I prefer lights off, but dh prefers lights on. We compromise with candles or leaving the adjoining bathroom door open a crack with the bathroom light on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Any old way will do. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I prefer lights off, but dh prefers lights on. We compromise with candles or leaving the adjoining bathroom door open a crack with the bathroom light on. :iagree: Except I would like soft light and dh would like a spotlight so we compromise with the above, LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hsmom2011 Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Before 40, I didn't care much, but now - lights off for sure. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cajunrose Posted July 24, 2012 Author Share Posted July 24, 2012 My husband is definitely a light's on kinda guy...bedside table..not full room light. I would prefer lights off, but he feels so strongly about it, I just let it go. We tried candlelight for the first time in a long time and it was perfect. Will def be doing that again! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Any old way will do. :D I'd pretty much say the same.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I wish I could say that the soft glow we usually have is candlelight, but in actuality it's the glow of the tv screen in a darkened room. :tongue_smilie: We keep the tv on purposely, to disguise any...noises, coming from our room. :leaving: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 well, when it is at night and we are both awake LOL it is with soft lighting on.... but sometimes we brew tea during the day...and half the time it is in the middle of the night in our sleep (i suppose one of us always "starts" it but neither of us ever remember who did..it is one of those oh, hi kind of moments!)..so pitch black. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nono Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I haven't figured out how to turn off the sun yet. So, I voted "lights on." :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I haven't figured out how to turn off the sun yet. So, I voted "lights on." :tongue_smilie: :iagree::lol: Honestly, the last thing on my mind is lighting :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Soft lighting. I don't like complete darkness because then it makes it difficult to see what one is doing. I voted off, but this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 (edited) Not only do I vote for lights off but I have a blanket over the window in case of moonlight. I want pitch black, nothing able to be seen. I wish I could say that the soft glow we usually have is candlelight, but in actuality it's the glow of the tv screen in a darkened room. :tongue_smilie: We keep the tv on purposely, to disguise any...noises, coming from our room. When we had TV it was on but only so I could multi-task (I really liked watching Letterman before bed, lol). ;) Now there's no TV...sigh. Edited July 24, 2012 by LuvnMySvn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 I haven't figured out how to turn off the sun yet. So, I voted "lights on." :tongue_smilie: I was wondering the same thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iquilt Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Doesn't matter, cuz I can't see anything without my glasses! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 We have several months of 20+ hour daylight. So, unless you learn to like 'light on' it's a pretty dry and thirsty summer of no tea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Any old way will do. :D :iagree: But, my dh has an extremely strong preference for on. I agree that soft lighting is preferable. I still voted on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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