Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 My sister hasn't spoken to me in over 6 months. My husband, whom I adore being with all the time (fer real) is working out of town indefinitely. I think that I may leave the church that has become a haven for me. Financial woes. Spiritual woes. I am not a person who usually wallows in sorrow and sadness. I am really a glass is half full kinda gal, but it's just too much sometimes. You know? Maybe I just need a good kick in the pants. Or maybe I need a fifth of scotch. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3lilreds in NC Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Elaine - wow. What a lot to carry. I am so sorry! Does your sister live near Raleigh? 'Cause I will go smack her upside the head for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 And if she's near Seattle, there's a few of us that will gang up on her here too! :grouphug:So sorry!:grouphug: I will be praying for you!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 And I've got some great scotch.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashleen Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug: Bummer. What I do when I get down like that is watch movies. Lots of frothy upbeat movies. Or listen to fun books on CD (the kind that are pure entertainment with no redeeming literary value). Or listen to loud music (nothing sad; there is a comedic songwriter whose name I will not mention out of embarrassment, but his music got me through a really lonely time a few years ago when my husband was out of town a lot and I was really down). Feel better soon.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I am not a person who usually wallows in sorrow and sadness. I am really a glass is half full kinda gal, but it's just too much sometimes. You know? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigitte Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NHDeb Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug: Maybe a nice long run w/ some LOUD music.... and then a nice, frosty adult beverage...maybe with an umbrella in it. :) and some more :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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*LC Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Elaine, I'm so sorry that you are sad. I have a few suggestions. #1. Can you send your sister a card just to say hi? Don't rehash what was said/done that led to you not speaking. Simply send a card that says, "Hi, I've missed you and wanted to say hi." You can update her on what's up with you and your family (Unless that is the thing that led to the trouble.) #2. Can you go visit your husband for the weekend? My husband use to travel. I know he loved it when I surprised him by visiting by myself. (Since it is summer, can you and the kids go for a longer period of time to be near him? My husband always said he didn't want us to visit, because it would bother him to be close to us & not have time to see us. IHowever, I really wanted to spend some time with him, so we went anyway. He loved it. If your husband's work is putting him up in a hotel, you may be able to find an apartment for all of you cheaper.) #3. I would suggest not leaving your church when you are sad. I'm not saying it is the right place for you anymore, because I think you are unlikely to find the right church when you are feeling sad. I know when I am sad nothing makes me happy, not even those things I normally love. LC, praying for something to lift your spirits Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Wow. I just got a negative rep that simply said "kick." Thanks, who ever it was, I feel much better now. Congratulations, you wanted to be mean and hurtful and you were. NO!!!! It was ME and it was supposed to be POSITIVE rep!!! I feel like a flippin' idiot right now. I read your post real quick and right away clicked to give you some rep. I was in the process of typing "kick! ;-)" with my name, after which I was going to post a reply on the board. Right that second I had to go offline for a second so I just entered the rep ~ and must have hit "I disagree" or whatever it says. I'm sorry, Laney! I will contact the admin pronto and explain and ask that the negative rep is removed. And as soon as I can rep you again, I'll send you three squares. Pardon me, all. Serves as a reminder not to send rep in a hurry.:blushing: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy2BeautifulGirls Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Bummer. What I do when I get down like that is watch movies. Lots of frothy upbeat movies. Nah, watch a real tearjerker. After you're done crying for an hour, you'll either feel better, or be so tired that you will just go to bed and get a good night's rest! That's how I do it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 NO!!!! It was ME and it was supposed to be POSITIVE rep!!! I feel like a flippin' idiot right now. I read your post real quick and right away clicked to give you some rep. I was in the process of typing "kick! ;-)" with my name, after which I was going to post a reply on the board. Right that second I had to go offline for a second so I just entered the rep ~ and must have hit "I disagree" or whatever it says. I'm sorry, Laney! I will contact the admin pronto and explain and ask that the negative rep is removed. And as soon as I can rep you again, I'll send you three squares. Pardon me, all. Serves as a reminder not to send rep in a hurry.:blushing: Oh, Colleen! Don't worry about it, really. I don't care about the points.:001_smile: I know you and I know that you would never be cruel intentionally. It's all good, my friend!:001_smile: I should have not said anything, it's OK, really!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Elaine, I'm so sorry that you are sad. I have a few suggestions. #1. Can you send your sister a card just to say hi? Don't rehash what was said/done that led to you not speaking. Simply send a card that says, "Hi, I've missed you and wanted to say hi." You can update her on what's up with you and your family (Unless that is the thing that led to the trouble.) #2. Can you go visit your husband for the weekend? My husband use to travel. I know he loved it when I surprised him by visiting by myself. (Since it is summer, can you and the kids go for a longer period of time to be near him? My husband always said he didn't want us to visit, because it would bother him to be close to us & not have time to see us. IHowever, I really wanted to spend some time with him, so we went anyway. He loved it. If your husband's work is putting him up in a hotel, you may be able to find an apartment for all of you cheaper.) #3. I would suggest not leaving your church when you are sad. I'm not saying it is the right place for you anymore, because I think you are unlikely to find the right church when you are feeling sad. I know when I am sad nothing makes me happy, not even those things I normally love. LC, praying for something to lift your spirits Thank-you. You're right, I won't make any rash decisions right now. I appreciate the heartfelt advice.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 We have the same sister :( The spiritual dryness is just a temptation. Don't give in. Keep praying and reading your bible or other spiritual book. Maybe God is trying to move you out of your comfort zone and into another church where you will grow closer to Him. Throw yourself in his arms and trust in his merciful love. When we are weak, He is strong. Easier said then done. I've had a blue day and will be praying for you. Maybe the person who left the negative comment was trying to be funny? Thank-you. I needed that reminder.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Oh, Colleen! Don't worry about it, really. I don't care about the points.:001_smile: I know you and I know that you would never be cruel intentionally. It's all good, my friend!:001_smile: Thanks for your understanding. I just emailed the admin; I hope s/he's willing to either remove or alter it. I know they're just points, but that red square is so...RED. Any-hoo, you're on my next positive rep fest go-round. As for feeling blue...I'm sorry, (((Laney))). I haven't even seen my sister in nearly six years (and she lives here in Western WA) and I'm not close with either of my brothers. It's so odd to have no real relationships with my own siblings. I of course don't know what happened to cause the rift between you and your sister; I wonder if there's anything you can do to reach out to her? I was surprised to hear you might leave your church. How are you doing, all-in-all, as far as feeling good about where you live now? Do you feel part of the community? Sending you lots of hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenschooler Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm so sorry. I hope things get sorted out soon for you. (((Laney))) We're all here for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug: BTDT. My dh worked away from us for 7 months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam "SFSOM" in TN Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Many people start with a bottled sauce and doctor it up. mmonice sell wow power leveling You can cut the thickness (bottled sauces are usually too thick) and boost the spice fairly easily. My favorite bottled sauce is Maull's, out of St. Louis, and here are some ideas on how to doctor it. Start by simmering a bottle of sauce over low heat. Add 1/4 to 1/3 cup of cider vinegar or rice vinegar. Or put in the same amount of beer.buy wow power leveling A lot of people use Pepsi, which gives a sweet, caramel flavor. Add a tablespoon of granulated or fresh garlic. Throw in a little chili powder for an outdoorsy quality. Maybe add a tablespoon of Worcestershire sauce.WoW Gold A tablespoon of butter or prepared mustard tastes good, too. And you'd be surprised by how many sauces have a little chocolate in them. World of Warcraft power leveling True words of wisdom. I should have thought of that. Do this, Elaine, and you'll feel MUCH better. WoW. :lol::lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 True words of wisdom. I should have thought of that. Do this, Elaine, and you'll feel MUCH better. WoW. :lol::lol::lol::lol: Right??? This made me laugh, too! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Elaine, I am so sorry you are having a rough time. Know that I will be praying for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 Thank-you ladies. I really feel so much better now, just being able to get it out really helps. What would I do without all of my "boardies?" :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staci in MO Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 My sister hasn't spoken to me in over 6 months. My husband, whom I adore being with all the time (fer real) is working out of town indefinitely. I think that I may leave the church that has become a haven for me. Financial woes. Spiritual woes. I am not a person who usually wallows in sorrow and sadness. I am really a glass is half full kinda gal, but it's just too much sometimes. You know? Maybe I just need a good kick in the pants. Or maybe I need a fifth of scotch. While I don't have a sister, the rest of your troubles seems to be coming my way as well. This last year has been one big ole' punch in the gut. Who said: "I am being driven to my knees by the realization I have nowhere else to go." ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in Orlando Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 ((((Elaine)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry, Elaine. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andie Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 (((Laney))) I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vida Winter Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Hugs to you from me. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. I know what it's like to have my best friend (dh) away from home - he works away from home a *lot*. And to tell you the truth, this spring/summer has been one long unpleasant surprise after another. One after another, our summer plans are changing unexpectedly. If you want to PM me we can commiserate and share a toast to "The Dude." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carpe Diem Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Can you do something to force yourself to not feel sad, even if you are faking it? A funny movie. Upbeat music. Call a friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karenciavo Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry Laney :grouphug: Get the boys, click here, turn up the volume, and dance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaNY Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 NO!!!! It was ME and it was supposed to be POSITIVE rep!!! I feel like a flippin' idiot right now. I read your post real quick and right away clicked to give you some rep. I was in the process of typing "kick! ;-)" with my name, after which I was going to post a reply on the board. Right that second I had to go offline for a second so I just entered the rep ~ and must have hit "I disagree" or whatever it says. I'm sorry, Laney! I will contact the admin pronto and explain and ask that the negative rep is removed. And as soon as I can rep you again, I'll send you three squares. Pardon me, all. Serves as a reminder not to send rep in a hurry.:blushing: That's it, no Mikes for you for a month! :smash::smash: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm so sorry Elaine. I hope you were able to sleep and things look better this morning. I know the nighttime is always the hardest when you're going through "stuff." I'll pray for you!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaNY Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 (((Elaine))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sleepy Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Aw, Laney, I hope you're feeling better this morning, dear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Wisc Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 My sister hasn't spoken to me in over 6 months. My husband, whom I adore being with all the time (fer real) is working out of town indefinitely. I think that I may leave the church that has become a haven for me. Financial woes. Spiritual woes. I am not a person who usually wallows in sorrow and sadness. I am really a glass is half full kinda gal, but it's just too much sometimes. You know? Maybe I just need a good kick in the pants. Or maybe I need a fifth of scotch. Oh, so been there done that in so many ways. Maybe this is for you: http://shadesofwhite.typepad.com/listening_to_silence/2008/06/for-the-one-who-is-tireddear-heart-god-does-not-say-today-be-stronghe-kn.html :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry, Elaine. That really does stink. Big hugs headed your way. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I gave you some rep, but I accidently submitted it too soon. So the really weird message about being sisters and playing Barbies together is from me.:o Now everyone knows I am a nutcase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorCalMom Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I skipped the boards last night and missed this. Life really s**** sometimes! Praying you feel better soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry! (((Hugs))) Not knowing how far away your husband or the situation with your sister, it's hard to say can you see him more often? Or can you call him more often? Or can you reach out to her? I, also, left my church a few years ago now and I'm still paralyzed with not knowing where to go from here. But even if you are out of a church for a short time, you can continue to grow spiritually through reading and study, through online discussion groups, even. I know you want the fellowship, though, so I do hope you find another place that makes you happy very soon. Here are some happiness thoughts for you: http://www.wisdomquotes.com/cat_happiness.html I don't know if they'll help any, but perhaps there's something here you can use at least as a chaser to that Scotch.... And here's a wish for happiness and prosperity for you: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVAw7hk040U Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 18, 2008 Author Share Posted June 18, 2008 I'm sorry Laney :grouphug: Get the boys, click here, turn up the volume, and dance. We got up and did some dancing. Just be warned, I am not wearing any make-up and my middle boy has a case of the "Flock of Seagulls.";) Things always seem to look better in the daylight. Thank-you all so very much for the encouragement and sympathy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 What a pretty living room!! That has nothing to do with this thread, I just thought I would throw that in the mix. I love seeing people's houses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharon in SC Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 I am sorry you are hurting. I will share my current mantra with you in hopes it will give you strength: "Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess for God who promises is faithful." Blessings to you, this day, my friend! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karenciavo Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 We got up and did some dancing. Just be warned, I am not wearing any make-up and my middle boy has a case of the "Flock of Seagulls.";) Things always seem to look better in the daylight. Thank-you all so very much for the encouragement and sympathy. You all look adorable. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdWTMer Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 My sister hasn't spoken to me in over 6 months. My husband, whom I adore being with all the time (fer real) is working out of town indefinitely. I think that I may leave the church that has become a haven for me. Financial woes. Spiritual woes. I am not a person who usually wallows in sorrow and sadness. I am really a glass is half full kinda gal, but it's just too much sometimes. You know? Maybe I just need a good kick in the pants. Or maybe I need a fifth of scotch. All of those are such bitter pills to swallow, are they not? I'm sorry that your sis hasn't talked to you in sooo long - I'll pray that that gets resolved in a favorable way. Dh being gone, well that just bites too! I completely understand that one! I'm good for a couple of hours, but days? Yikes. And, leaving your church, that really stinks. I know that when there are problems at church, a haven, it can affect you physically. Been there done that. I can't imagine having to leave the one we're at now. Hang in there! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 These birds? :lol: You guys rock! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runningirl71 Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 You all look adorable. :001_smile: Hey! That is what I was going to say! I have my pensive moods too, so I understand. As for not talking to family, well, I have given up on them ever getting a hold of me and I take it upon myself to call them. I don't know what your situation is, my family just aren't "talking" people and they would rather not be on the phone/are so caught up in their own lives they don't think about calling. Just the way it is and I know it. :) I don't think I've actually been on the phone with my brother for 6 months. I call every once in awhile, but he doesn't return calls! :) I guess I'm can only be in control of my actions! SO, you are just so adorable and your kids too! And, pretty living room!:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 Elaine, There are many others out here with all kinds of problems and we all want to pray for you. This is a good commumity of supporters in your troubles.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristavws Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug: Krista Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 That is such a happy picture. I hope you feel as good as you all look there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted June 18, 2008 Share Posted June 18, 2008 :grouphug:More hugs. Loved the picture.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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