Laura in MI Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I dropped dd14 off at gymnastics at 12 she texted me at 3 asking if she could go to over a friends to do homework and if I could pick her up at 6 and take her to dance. When I got to her friends house no one was home, except her friends 18yo brother he said they we're there around 3:15 but then left again. No idea where they went. Her phone is going straight to voice mail. I've also called her friend and friends parents and no answer from either. Dh is calling all her friends parents and see if shes been over anyone else's house or if they know where she is. Someone tell me to stop freaking out. :scared: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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MindyD Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I'd be freaking out! BUT, I'm sure they're fine and decided to go do their own thing. However, my dd would be in BIG trouble when I found her. Huge. "She would remember the day forever" kind of trouble. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I wouldn't be "freaking out" but I'd be a bit peeved she didn't text/call me with the change of plans. My guess it she's at the movies. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacy in NJ Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 If she's the type of kids that's usually good about communicating, I'd be freaking. That said, she's 99.9999% probably fine and just entered the teen fog brain stage. Please let us know she's okay after you finish giving her the talking to she deserves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I dropped dd14 off at gymnastics at 12 she texted me at 3 asking if she could go to over a friends to do homework and if I could pick her up at 6 and take her to dance. When I got to her friends house no one was home, except her friends 18yo brother he said they we're there around 3:15 but then left again. No idea where they went. Her phone is going straight to voice mail. I've also called her friend and friends parents and no answer from either. Dh is calling all her friends parents and see if shes been over anyone else's house or if they know where she is. Someone tell me to stop freaking out. :scared: Well, the positive thing here is that she wasn't alone; she went out with a friend and her brother knew they left the friend's house together. (I'm not saying you shouldn't be very angry with her for worrying you like this, but I'm just trying to encourage you that she is probably fine.) Did she show up at dance? Have you called the friend's cell phone number (and her mom) to see if you can find out what's going on and where they are? If you are really concerned, I do think a phone call to the friend's mom would be a good place to start. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I'd probably freak too, but most likely she's fine. Please let us know when you find her. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Somebody is so grounded!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I hope she's shown up by now. My dds might forget to call right back, but I can't imagine them going to a movie or making a huge plan change without calling first. And miss dance? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'd be freaking out too. I hope everything is okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WillametteMom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Please post an update when you can! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 She is probably fine, but I would be freaking out too. Please update when she's home safe. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 When you find her and she's safe and sound, and you're done w/ the hugs... Let her know she's in trouble w/ a whole bunch of mama's from this board. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Does her phone have GPS tracking? I'd be worried, too. It would be big-time grounded trouble once I located her. I hope you reach her soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Any update? Did she show up? Maybe check the dance studio and see if she went there on her own with friend. And let us know if you need help hiding the body after you kill her for the vanishing act. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommee & Baba Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I would be freaking out. A quick text update of change of plans would've been the minimum that I would expect from my children. However I'm not a parent of teenagers yet, so I could just be living in a fantasy world with my expectations. I hope that she was found by now. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 :grouphug: Praying and trusting that she is fine!! This would be way out of my confort zone!! I would be freaking out on the inside for sure. Hope you hear from her soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Everything is probably fine, but I'd be freaked out too. I hope she is home by now. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 When you find her and she's safe and sound, and you're done w/ the hugs... Let her know she's in trouble w/ a whole bunch of mama's from this board.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peaceful Isle Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Is she okay? :confused: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Somebody is so grounded!!!!! Oh, yeah! Update us when you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cara in Ky Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 So scary. Waiting for a happy update :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I hope everything is okay! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I hope everything is OK. Please update us when you can :grouphug:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbmom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Hope everything is OK-pleasevupdate when you can. I would also suggest this app for everyone's phone-it shows where everyone in the family is-free and pretty cool. http://www.life360.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I'm sure if it were me I'd be freaking out. I'm like that. I hope you've found out where she was and now know where she IS! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in MI Posted February 17, 2012 Author Share Posted February 17, 2012 Sorry I couldn't update sooner. We didn't get home until 9:15 and needed to have a talk with her. Dd showed up at dance, they decided to go to a different friend's house that dd is not allowed over. Not exactly sure how we're punishing her because tomorrows her birthday and this weekend she's having a birthday party. :001_unsure: ETA: I am getting that app! Thanks! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Glad to hear your dd is safe. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrookValley. Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I'm very happy all was well! I'd cancel her party, but I am mean and spiteful. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in AUS Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Glad to hear she turned up! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen in PA Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I'm glad she's ok! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I'm glad she is okay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Sorry I couldn't update sooner. We didn't get home until 9:15 and needed to have a talk with her. Dd showed up at dance, they decided to go to a different friend's house that dd is not allowed over. Not exactly sure how we're punishing her because tomorrows her birthday and this weekend she's having a birthday party. :001_unsure: ETA: I am getting that app! Thanks! Let the party happen but then pile on the hard and gross chores for a couple of weeks. For my kids that would be piling wood, cleaning toilets, scooping dog poop, etc. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joannqn Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 I haven't had to deal with that kind of thing, but I'm pretty sure the party would be canceled here and opportunities to spend time at friends' houses would be nonexistent for a very long time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 (edited) Whew! I'm so glad to hear she's alright. I don't envy your punishment decision :grouphug:. ETA: I do think that part of my punishment for such behavior would involve taking the cellphone away. If she's not going to use it in the way it is intended to be used, being in contact, than it goes. I'd be happy to be her ball & chain for a few weeks, so she wouldn't even need to use it. Edited February 17, 2012 by sparrow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Dd showed up at dance, they decided to go to a different friend's house that dd is not allowed over. My dd17 has pulled cr@p like that. She gets a nice big dose of "can't leave the house without mom or dad" for it. The whole "if we can't trust you to make responsible decisions and abide by our rules when you're out of the house, then we will ensure you don't have the opportunity to make dumb decisions when you're out of the house" thing. Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 My dd17 has pulled cr@p like that. She gets a nice big dose of "can't leave the house without mom or dad" for it. The whole "if we can't trust you to make responsible decisions and abide by our rules when you're out of the house, then we will ensure you don't have the opportunity to make dumb decisions when you're out of the house" thing. Tara :iagree:As in, "Gosh, I'm so sorry you can't go with your friends, but since we are responsible for you and need to know where you are, and we can't rely on you to let us know, we will just need to keep you with us for now." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Haiku Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 :iagree:As in, "Gosh, I'm so sorry you can't go with your friends, but since we are responsible for you and need to know where you are, and we can't rely on you to let us know, we will just need to keep you with us for now." Yup, nearly verbatim. Along with, on the most recent occasion, "Wow, you know, when you turn 18 you are free to get in trouble with the law on your own dime, but as long as we still have to pay for your lawyer, we'll make sure you don't have the opportunity to put us in that position." :D Tara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Sorry I couldn't update sooner. We didn't get home until 9:15 and needed to have a talk with her. Dd showed up at dance, they decided to go to a different friend's house that dd is not allowed over. Not exactly sure how we're punishing her because tomorrows her birthday and this weekend she's having a birthday party. :001_unsure: If this is a "first time offense" and she's usually a good kid, I would let her go with a severe warning this time -- mainly because it's her birthday and I wouldn't want to ruin the whole weekend for her. If she's nasty or defensive about what she did, I think it's very reasonable for her to be grounded for a while, starting on Monday. If she has done similar things on many other occasions and has shown no remorse, that's an entirely different situation, but if this is the only time she has disappeared like this and gone someplace she shouldn't have gone, I would trust her to get it right in the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 Whew, glad she's okay! Tough call on what to do! Only you guys know all the circumstances and what your dd is normally like. Best wishes with that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted February 17, 2012 Share Posted February 17, 2012 So glad to know she is okay! Thank you for the update. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dustybug Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 Glad to hear she was okay! I'd be steamed.:glare: Side note: today is my dd's birthday too. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted February 18, 2012 Share Posted February 18, 2012 I am so glad she was safe. I am so glad I am not in your postition. To I have to say that if it was my kid, after I was done killing them for making me worry that way I would institute house arrest for a very long time. Like other posters said, if she can't be trusted to be out without you she simply can't be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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