Sahamamama Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) ... where have you felt the people were the most sincerely kind and loving? :bigear: Edited to add: Please note that I am not asking about which place is "friendly," which I consider to be something distinct (and possibly less sincere) than kindness. Edited February 17, 2012 by Sahamamama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MeaganS Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived in 8 states around the country. Texas or Oklahoma were the nicest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I have felt that people are that way everywhere I've lived even if it isn't obvious at first. And often that kindness is shown to me in new ways I didn't expect or understand at first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samiam Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Western North Carolina. But also, for the most part, their lifestyle was the most, well, simple. (generally speaking). Could also have something to do with the huge "hippie" culture there as well, :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived a lot of places and I really like my neighbors here in Va. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmmiSays Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Oregon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 California... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mynyel Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Western North Carolina. But also, for the most part, their lifestyle was the most, well, simple. (generally speaking). Could also have something to do with the huge "hippie" culture there as well, :lol: Really? I don't know. I have met quite a few nice people. But that is all they are is nice. People don't stick around you to long. Or maybe it was me? :D (Jeez, didn't think I was that bad, I shower and brush my teeth!) WNC also has its fair share of snakes in the grass too. I have been burned by a few people. The people in Northwestern PA were real nice. Haven't lived there though. Out of places I have lived I think eastern TN (Knox and surrounding counties) had the nicest people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted February 16, 2012 Author Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived a lot of places and I really like my neighbors here in Va. OP here with a tangent -- TAMMY, your grandchildren are ADORABLE! Oh. my. goodness. That little girl is like a sugar cube, dripping with honey. Your grandson is gorgeous. You are so blessed. :D Back to your regularly scheduled "kind and loving" question.... :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 North Carolina, hands down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scrub Jay Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 California Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Tucson, Arizona has been the friendliest and most sincere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in Florida Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Not the South! (sorry to all of those who love the South, but it is not easy unless you were born here) Most kind and accepting was New Mexico. I loved it there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lynn Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Not the South! (sorry to all of those who love the South, but it is not easy unless you were born here) Most kind and accepting was New Mexico. I loved it there. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennifer in MI Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Michigan!!!! But, not in the winter. We don't see our neighbors here in the winter. We hole up. But, spring, summer, winter?! We're all about people. LOVE my neighbors. I've lived in NY, Boston, Bryn Mawr PA, and outside Pittsburgh. Love me my Michigan!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samiam Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Haha, I guess it all depends on your state of mind and what you are used to. I spend the prior 5 years living in Florida. Nice enough people there, but how shocking it was to move to WNC and have the gas station workers look you in the eye, the neighbors bring over food your first week, the waitress apologize sincerely about her mistake and fix the bill without asking, no one running you off the road, strangers having conversations with you. Amazing!!! I am sure many of those strangers thought I was a total stuck up snob when they would start talking to me, because at first, I would be taken aback and barely have a conversation with them. I just wasnt' used to it!! Really? I don't know. I have met quite a few nice people. But that is all they are is nice. People don't stick around you to long. Or maybe it was me? :D (Jeez, didn't think I was that bad, I shower and brush my teeth!) WNC also has its fair share of snakes in the grass too. I have been burned by a few people. The people in Northwestern PA were real nice. Haven't lived there though. Out of places I have lived I think eastern TN (Knox and surrounding counties) had the nicest people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeteranMom Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Friendliest people I've ever met live in Texas. I've lived in TX, NM, ND, CO, VA, and IL. I've traveled all over the country, too. I have to agree Oklahomans are pretty nice people, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 The world's best neighbors were in Peachtree City, Ga! But I'm cheating, I've only lived in 1/2 dozen towns, in three states... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Oregon. Seriously?? I'm curious the general location of where you live.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rutamattatt Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Grew up in NW PA, lived near Pittsburgh for a few years, near Cincy, OH and now in TN. The people where I grew up in NW PA would give you the shirt off their back in the middle of a blizzard if they thought you were in need. It isn't easy living where I grew up economically, but people take care of each other, family or not. Salt of the earth. Pittsburgh were good folk, too. Weird driving rules there, but good, sturdy, unpretentious people who were kind. Living in the South has been a HUGE adjustment, but we really do love it here. It is a bit hard to "break in" when you've not grown up here, but we do love it here now. OH? Meh. It was OK, but probably my least favorite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived in TX, CA, OR, IA, and FL. The nicest people were in TX and the least nicest were in IA. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived a lot of places and I really like my neighbors here in Va. I've lived in two very different western states, but I've found the nicest and most caring people in southern VA. Yes, this is the south, but I've lived in both the country and the city here, and no one has ever made us feel like outsiders. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geo Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Western North Carolina. But also, for the most part, their lifestyle was the most, well, simple. (generally speaking). Could also have something to do with the huge "hippie" culture there as well, :lol: ...have we met? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StephanieZ Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 northern Utah. Logan, UT to be exact. Utah folk are incredible. If only we were LDS, or could have in good faith converted, we'd never have left. I can't comprehend why anyone who IS LDS would not live there. It is heaven. People are JUST SUCH GOOD PEOPLE. We met & lived in Logan for 3 years (mid 90s). Truly awesome neighbors and people. Just amazing. This past summer, we went backpacking in UT. We parked my fully loaded (6 week road trip) van at the trailhead. 2 laptops, ipad, my purse, cash, credit cards, cell phones, etc, and numerous other items in full view. A week later, we backpacked out. Guy on trail about a mile from the trail head stopped to ask us about something else, and mentioned, "Did you have a blue minivan there all week?" YEP, that's us. "You left the dome light on. Folks kept mentioning it, and finally someone decided to try your door a couple days ago. It was unlocked. He turned off the lights for you, but it might be out of batteries anyway, since they were on for a few days." I trotted to the parking lot (after an 8 mile pack out in the hail, on my birthday) . . . and found: The lights were off. Not one item in the van was taken or disturbed. [This trailhead certainly had at least a handful of vehicles access it daily.] Not even the peanut m-n-ms on the floor board of the passenger seat. And, amazingly, the van battery wasn't dead. Utah is a very special place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa R. Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived in the north, south, east and west. Overall, the most sincere, least pretentious, and genuinely friendly: Oregon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived in IL, MO, NC, OH...and now I'm back in MO. I think it depends on the size of your town and the circles you run in. There is a huge difference between Raleigh, NC and small-town, NC. There is a giant chasm between Chicago, IL and the rest of IL. I like living in a small community within driving distance of a big city. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ma23peas Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Not the South! (sorry to all of those who love the South, but it is not easy unless you were born here) Most kind and accepting was New Mexico. I loved it there. :) The only part of FL I consider 'south' is the rural panhandle..the rest are transplanted others? We have lived in CO, GA, WA, TN, AL...spent time 6 weeks or more in CA, NJ, PA... Out of those GA or AL wins ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Not the South! (sorry to all of those who love the South, but it is not easy unless you were born here) Most kind and accepting was New Mexico. I loved it there. Perspective is funny because I felt the same when I went from the South to IA and OR. It felt like you had to be born there to fit in and since we weren't it was very hard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wyndie Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Texas!! If I ever leave SC, it'll be to go back to TX. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peachskittles Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Texas, most definetely. If we win the lottery, we will move to Texas most likely. I loved it there. I mean a few areas acted a bit snooty but for the most part, it was pretty nice. Iowa is the least friendly place I've ever lived. I dislike this state something fierce. I accept that we have to live here but if I had a choice, I'd move anywhere in a heartbeat. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Embassy Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 (edited) The NW - Alaska most specifically. I've lived in 11 states (ME, NH, MT, FL, MI, OH, OK, TX, AK, OR, MA) Edited February 16, 2012 by Wehomeschool Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5Bmom Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I am in western wyoming and I think everyone is fabulous here. Laguna, CA WZS THE LE AS ST friendly place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 South Florida!! hahahaha! Just kidding I wish I could say it was so, but it's not. :glare: Although west coast Florida (natives) are typically very nice and upstate as well. :) Good luck on your search. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Lived in or deeply familiar with FL (SE), GA, NC, KY, PA, NJ, OK, TX, AZ, CA, IL (Chicago). Friendliest? OK Least? FL (SE) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 NOT Nebraska!:glare: We've been here almost 4 years. I like to talk to dh about the "hostile natives". I'm Southern. I talk to everybody. People here look at you like you have 5 heads if you talk to them. I've lived in LA, GA, SC, NY, CA, WA, and NE. Dh is from KS. The nicest people I have ever encountered were in NY. Trick-or-treating took hours because you had to stop and talk to everyone. A close second would be Kansas. While I've never actually lived there, I have spent a lot of time in KS. Those guys are friendly. They will talk your ears off. Awesome people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaffodilDreams Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Eastern OK and Knoxville, TN Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Oregon. I've lived in the north, south, east and west. Overall, the most sincere, least pretentious, and genuinely friendly: Oregon. I've lived in NY, TX (Houston), CO, and travelled to more places. I always come back to Oregon. Kindy judgy about homeschooling, but if you drop your groceries, or are in a pickle someone always comes and helps. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Surprisingly, California. Second place goes to Texas, third to Indiana. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roseyloxs Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Perspective is funny because I felt the same when I went from the South to IA and OR. It felt like you had to be born there to fit in and since we weren't it was very hard. Interesting. I am from outside Chicago originally and when we moved to the FL panhandle I was disappointed to find out that southerners only extended their famous hospitality to other southerners. So in total we have lived in IL, IN, FL, OK, WA and briefly in TX and AL. I am obviously partial to my home in IL but outside of familiarity I would say OK has the kindest people. WA was a close second but its bit more diverse as far as kindness goes because of the larger size in population. FL/AL were by far the least friendly IMHO. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Interesting. I am from outside Chicago originally and when we moved to the FL panhandle I was disappointed to find out that southerners only extended their famous hospitality to other southerners. So in total we have lived in IL, IN, OK, WA and briefly in TX and AL. As a native Floridian (4 generations) I feel like I can comment on this one to why you may have been treated thus. Unfortunately, it's not your fault and probably nothing you could have done about it anyway, but at least I can explain why you were probably treated the way you were. Florida has always faced a sort of onslaught of people from the bigger cities in NY, Chicago, Boston, places in New Jersey. My whole life I've listened to people from these places complain about how much they hate it here. "It's too hot. There's nothing to do. The pizza is garbage." and on and on. It's very insulting to us who actually live here and happen to love our state just fine. Think how you would feel if someone invited themselves to dinner at your house and then proceeded to insult your cooking, your house, your decor... you get my drift. It gets to the point where a lot of us hear an accent that comes from up north and immediately we get our defenses up waiting for the verbal onslaught to come. I actually have met a few NY'ers who actually love it down here and they've told me candidly how much that have had to overcome because of the accent that they have. I know it's not right and you could be the nicest person in the world, but believe me, a lot of people from your city have come before you and have not been nice and people just get to the point where they've had enough and they shut you down before you have even had a chance to start. :( Trust me that people who don't carry the burden of a northern big city accent fair much better down here than those who do. It's just the way it is unfortunately. So please allow me to apologize to you on behalf of my fellow Floridians who treated you in an unfriendly way up in the Panhandle. We truly are nice people at heart, but aren't too eager to be nice when we've been burned many times before iykwim. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tntgoodwin Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I have lived in Maine, North Carolina, and Texas. And I have spent a significant amount of time in Rhode Island. People are nice all over. Probably the least nice in North Carolina. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belacqua Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 northern Utah. Logan, UT to be exact. Utah folk are incredible. If only we were LDS, or could have in good faith converted, we'd never have left. I can't comprehend why anyone who IS LDS would not live there. It is heaven. People are JUST SUCH GOOD PEOPLE. We met & lived in Logan for 3 years (mid 90s). Truly awesome neighbors and people. Just amazing. We stayed in Logan when we visited the Salt Lake City Olympics. We were there for only a week or so, but I agree that the people are lovely. My son lost a toy, and the hotel staff practically turned the place upside down to help us find it. Beautiful city, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roseyloxs Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 So please allow me to apologize to you on behalf of my fellow Floridians who treated you in an unfriendly way up in the Panhandle. We truly are nice people at heart, but aren't too eager to be nice when we've been burned many times before iykwim. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: This makes total sense however the other places I have lived have also dealt with the same issue. My husband is military so we are always moving to other military communities which by nature have people moving in from all over. Although the accent difference is not nearly as prominent so maybe that's the real issue. Not sure that I am above it either since I seem to have developed a distaste for the southern accent. It bothers me in the movies now and it will take me until the end of a film to identify with a character featuring a southern accent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ibbygirl Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 This makes total sense however the other places I have lived have also dealt with the same issue. My husband is military so we are always moving to other military communities which by nature have people moving in from all over. Although the accent difference is not nearly as prominent so maybe that's the real issue. Not sure that I am above it either since I seem to have developed a distaste for the southern accent. It bothers me in the movies now and it will take me until the end of a film to identify with a character featuring a southern accent. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I know what you mean. It's not easy. Making an effort to take people on an "as they come" basis can be exhausting when they keep coming all wrong. You try to protect yourself and before you know it you've built up walls and prejudices. It's not easy. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cammie Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Oregon. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kolamum Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 For me it totally depended.. 1. What accent did I use. 2. Did they know where I was from before 3. Did they care where I was from before :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Negin Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 I've lived in OR, NYC, and Southern Cal. Sincerely kind and loving - actually all of them. Hard to say, since it's hard to generalize. I've lived in cities: Portland, OR NYC San Diego Loved them all. Nice and not-so-nice people everywhere. Just like anywhere you go in the world. The one and only place where I never felt like a foreigner was NYC. No one cared where I was from. But other than that, loved all those places. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 Western North Carolina. But also, for the most part, their lifestyle was the most, well, simple. (generally speaking). Could also have something to do with the huge "hippie" culture there as well, :lol: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted February 16, 2012 Share Posted February 16, 2012 My vote is for Alaska. We were in Anchorage, but we tried to go as many places as we could while there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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