Renee in NC Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Chris, I am so sorry. I have read your posts over the past years about your ds and all that has gone on. You have done everything *you* can do except this. May this be what finally works for him. An addict won't stop being an addict if they don't want to stop being an addict. Praying for you and your family. I am so sorry! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mombygrace Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Praying for you all.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vettechmomof2 Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 prayers for you all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laughing lioness Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug:Chris:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Will pray. My stepdad had to do the same for my stepbrother to finally get it together. I remember the night he called the police :-( but I can tell you that today he is a police officer himself ;-) stand firm and keep praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 So sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Chirs, I too wanted to share a hopeful story with you. I have a dear friend who is one of the most perceptive women spiritually whom I have had the privilege of knowing. Her husband is a professor at seminary. They both love reaching out to the current generation. He's the only person I know who uses current secular music in his sermons : ) I digress....their eldest, a girl, became an alcoholic pretty young, such that by the end of their road with her, she was removed from their home at about 17. I don't know all the circumstances, but girlie has bit by bit found her way back to health and has now set a wedding date with her live-in who is a devout Catholic and a kind man. She has a good relationship with her family. She edges closer to God more each year, but she is overcoming her own fears and pride to do it. My friend has a small, discrete tattoo on the inside of her wrist: the word HOPE in a pretty script. God's goodness and ability to "restore the years" is what she rests in every day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying for you, Chris. You have done everything possible to help your ds, and I know you will still be there for him when he finally decides to turn his life around. You're doing what is best for your entire family -- including your ds, because you won't be enabling him any more -- and you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. I'm so, so sorry you have to do this, but ultimately your actions now with your ds may save your dd from following the wrong path as she gets older. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Praying for all of you. :-( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
m0mmaBuck Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I will probably delete this thread in a few hours, but wanted to ask for prayer. Ds has a deadline due to his behavior, now. He has to leave the house by Tues. We've given him two weeks. He's completely out there, iykwim, with old behaviors and worse. We are still offering 2 mo rent, up to a certain amt we feel he could maintain if he got a job. That offer has been on the table since July. No movement, continued old behavior. Now he's doing it here and on the property. Dh is getting a court order so he won't be able to come home at all until he gets into treatment or has a plan to, and has another address. Ds says he "loves his life" and does "whatever I want to, whenever I want to." There is a "pack" of young adults who he hangs with, and they spend all day and all night at each other's homes, drinking, drugging, having s#x, etc. He is gone for days at a time, doesn't check in at all. It's really bizarre and foreign to me. They are so lost. He has no phone, no job, no license, is on prob (his PO doesn't care, apparently), and now will have no permanent address. We asked him what should we do with your stuff. Answer--I don't care. We will store his bed and dresser and the things in his closet for him, but we are setting the alarm on Tues and he will not be allowed here by the court. I will have to call the police if he tries to come. This is so hard. It doesn't feel right. It is not the way I want to parent. I feel we have no choice. Dh has to protect the property, and we have to protect ourselves and dd. Prayers pls. I do not want to call the police on my own son. I do not want to turn him away. He is so, so in the pit. But he's 20, and we have offered and tried and counseled and gotten help, and loved him thru all we can, since he was 12 and this started. This boundary is incredible difficult for me as I tend towards enmeshment with my kids and enabling. I told dd what would happen and she cried, but then she said, "Sometimes it takes drastic measures." Pray he will not show up for our Super Bowl party tonight, pray for him to stay alive, pray for my heart and for dd and dh. Thanks for all your support. Chris, I am so sad for you and your family but at the same time I think you are doing the right thing for everyone. Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awisha. Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heather in Neverland Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Lots and lots of :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Inna* Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 Praying for your family. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onceuponatime Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted February 5, 2012 Share Posted February 5, 2012 I'm sorry... praying for you all. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying for you, your son and your family. :grouphug: Praying he hits his bottom soon and decides to do what's needed for a better life. :grouphug: Praying for you and your family to be safe while he's still out there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetandSimple Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: Don't give up hope! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amydavis Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this. Hugs and prayers for you and your family. I admire you for having the determination to make the hard choices. I hope that your ds is able to turn his life around; don't give up hope! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: praying hard :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deb in NZ Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
usetoschool Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying that he will be able to feel your love and see himself, under all the nonsense, as his mommy sees him. :grouphug: And that you will have the strength to do what he needs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladydusk Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbkaren Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying for your son. I have a 20 y.o. just like him, and the Army is the only thing that's saving him, Lord willing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZooRho Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine how difficult all this is for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: My heart breaks for you and your family. I prayed that God would give you wisdom and peace in dealing with this situation. I can't imagine how hard it is. God Bless, Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: praying for you all, and especially his healing. Faithe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying for all the healing you all could hope for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheApprentice Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 Praying for peace in your heart. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PentecostalMom Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: I am sorry you are going through this. I am absolutely praying for you all. :grouphug: Prayers for you. I'm sorry it's so hard. :grouphug: :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dolphin Posted February 6, 2012 Share Posted February 6, 2012 :grouphug: Prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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