Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 So I met w/ a "professional" of some field today. For the sake of this thread, let's just say it was another ER dr. :lol: Iow, someone w/ a great deal of education, quite a...powerful hand in my life...if only for a short time, & someone w/...quite...a...confidence in their own view of the world. This "professional"...let's say she was cutting my hair, but w/ a PhD...iow, *nothing* to do w/ education, parenting, etc....expressed outrage at my choice to hs (my first experience w/ this), horror at the size of my family, disdain for my religious convictions, and then? Fall-out-of-your-seat-SHOCK that I had any education whatsoever. Honestly. By the time I left, I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. It was just so ridiculous. She stereotyped me, & I could SEE her feathers ruffling madly as I failed, point after point, to fit her stereotype whatsoever. She asked about socialization, but more than that, she asked point blank WHY I would choose to hs. Since it wasn't actually phrased as a question & it had nothing to do w/ my "haircut," I was kind-of at a loss for the kind of short, 3 word answer required. And I accidentally blurted out that I was quite a bit smarter than the public schools. :lol: There were cultural differences involved that explained most of her feelings toward my decisions, but professionally, she is SO not allowed to do that. I mean, if she were really a hair dresser, it would have been fine. ;) I was close to tears when I called dh, but the more I recounted the experience to him, the better I could see the ridiculousness of the whole thing. I'm tempted to look up some stupid stereotypes of *her* profession/cultural choices/religion to ask her about next time I see her. If I thought she were smart enough to realize the parallel, I might do it. Unfortunately, I think the results would be...well, I think they'd backfire. Since she's so certain of everything & all. :001_huh: (And I just have to say--she, too, yelled at me about prenatal vitamins. *And* she told me I should not bf. :lol:) I might have to let my hair get long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Good grief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 How *are* you...I mean, how's your hair?...by the way? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ginevra Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Do you have to see this professional again? It would be over for me. And can I just say, I saw horror over family size when my sis was pg with her 5th and I thought it was totally baffling. Raising 5 children is really the worst someone could do? :confused: I'll never understand that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Do you have to see this professional again? I would let them know I would no longer be interested in their services due to their attitude problem as well as their appalling tendancy to get nasty over their uneducated opinion. Why should you *not* BF? Will it make your hair get curly or will it turn your brain to cheese? I am curious. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 And you shouldn't bf????? Why on earth? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohdanigirl Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Sorry you had to go through that. Danielle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 And you shouldn't bf????? Why on earth? This is my biggest beef! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Why do you get all the fun. Noone has ever said anything to me that would come close to rivaling the comments (etc.) that you get. Please let me join the fun.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Just say bye-bye to the psycho feminist quack pop psychologist. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clementine Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Oh. My. Goodness. :001_huh: That was a terrible experience!!! Just shaking my head at the ridiculousness of it all! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 And I accidentally blurted out that I was quite a bit smarter than the public schools. :lol: :rofl: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oops, duplicate account :/ Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents.[/QUOT:smilielol5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teachin'Mine Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) :auto: This is me making my way to a new hairstylist with wet hair only cut on one side. :tongue_smilie: I wasn't supposed to tip on the way out was I??? :lol: ETA: Wait a minute. This all makes sense!!! Isn't it the cosmetology schools which won't accept a homeschool diploma??? They must all be indoctrinated in homeschool condemnation practices to help turn the tide on this radical bunch who think they can prepare their own children for the rigors of hair cutting academy. (no offense to any hairstylists :)) Edited May 11, 2011 by Teachin'Mine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2denj Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Good grief!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Aubrey, :grouphug:. I'm not sure that she is the best hair stylist for you. And she's an idiot, if she thinks that you shouldn't bf. Or homeschool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arghmatey Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 The hired help should be seen and not heard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FO4UR Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Good for you! and You should never tick off someone who is cutting your hair. My advice for the day...worth the entire .02... which means you've got about .03 today.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents. *snort* Aubrey, I am constantly amazed that random people feel the need to control the decisions of others. I mean, I have many opinions, but I keep my mouth shut most of the time. Seriously, this, ahem, hairdresser, needs to put a cork in it. And seriously! You shouldn't bf? What planet does this person come from? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents. Now that's funny.:lol::lol::lol: Aubrey, don't you see it? God is supplying you with the another "you can't make this stuff up" kind of scenario for your best-selling book.:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 How *are* you...I mean, how's your hair?...by the way? My hair will require ongoing attention. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 I would let them know I would no longer be interested in their services due to their attitude problem as well as their appalling tendancy to get nasty over their uneducated opinion. Why should you *not* BF? Will it make your hair get curly or will it turn your brain to cheese? I am curious. I will have a more full array of options for color treating/cutting/whatever my hair. Pretend hair is important. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 Why do you get all the fun. Noone has ever said anything to me that would come close to rivaling the comments (etc.) that you get. Please let me join the fun.:glare: The "fun" involves meeting people who keep dead bodies in their backseat. Dh says he never has as much "fun" when I'm not around. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 Just say bye-bye to the psycho feminist quack pop psychologist. Oh my goodness--this is almost an exact quote of my dh this afternoon--have y'all been talking?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 The hired help should be seen and not heard. I don't think I can call a PhD "hired help," even if she *is* "cutting my hair." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Is she the only "stylist" in your area? Go to someone else! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Oh my goodness--this is almost an exact quote of my dh this afternoon--have y'all been talking?? Maybe we had the same women's studies prof? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Well, even if she is a Ph.D, she doesn't have the ability to prescribe the correct color treatments for your hair, correct? And most hair stylists are not knowledgeable about the options related to nursing. Hale's less famous treatise on Hair Styles and Mother's Milk should always be consulted prior to eliminating a possible hair styling routine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted May 11, 2011 Author Share Posted May 11, 2011 Is she the only "stylist" in your area? Go to someone else! No, but I have little hope of finding someone much better. And...I guess if she does ok w/ the hair...maybe it will be ok? Maybe she was surprised enough by the end of today that next time will be easier? I'm not sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arghmatey Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 I don't think I can call a PhD "hired help," even if she *is* "cutting my hair." You sure can! If you are paying her, she needs to stick to dispensing professional advice, not unsolicited opinions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarfoot Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Oh, good grief, how in the world do you keep having these "experiences?":001_huh: You know, maybe you should just consider driving north for, oh, about 8 hours, and letting my great guy cut and style your hair.:D He owns the best salon in town, he'll think you're FABULOUS for homeschooling, (he grew up in a family of 8;),) and together we could answer all of your questions about Catholicism. While you're here, you could just choose an OB-GYN, whose laid-back style wouldn't raise your blood pressure.:lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 *snort* Aubrey, I am constantly amazed that random people feel the need to control the decisions of others. :iagree: And I do wonder how people have so much spare time! I can't stop to think about what everyone else is doing wrong, much less offer my opinion all the time... How DO they have so much time on their hands? And shouldn't they then run for office or something? You know - provide a valuable service to the community for the greater good. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emerkaza Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents. :lol: I wish I could come up with this stuff in the heat of the moment. I always think of my come-backs after the incident. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emerkaza Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Aubrey, I'm sorry you were treated so badly. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Aubrey, I'm sorry you were treated so badly. :( Aubrey, it's pretty nice when you have Johnny Depp giving you sympathy!:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 You should have asked her if she charged extra for her opinion. Then toss a penny at her on the way out and tell her you didn't feel her opinion was worth the whole 2-cents. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GypsieFamily Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 (edited) I always think of my comebacks long after the fact. BTW, I have four and I would love to be pg with number 5, but I don't wish to have opinions with the hair cut :) Edited May 11, 2011 by GypsieFamily Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.... Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Aubrey, it's pretty nice when you have Johnny Depp giving you sympathy!:D :iagree: What is it with people? Some lady at he park yesterday gave me a 20 minute speech about how she could never homeschool. Then, she asked if some of my kids were adopted. :confused: Sheesh, Peeps! I wish strange people would just keep their opinions to themselves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Did I miss the thread in which hairdresser and hair represents something else? :confused: I feel as if I reading Private Messages on the general board. :) I thought I knew what it meant until the part about dead bodies in backseats... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 With people like this you have to throw them off their game. They expect and want you to argue with them so they can show you how wrong you are. Instead say something completely out of the blue. Something they can't see coming like, "Hairstylist, would you please pass the bean dip." Now they don't know what to do or say. If they ignore you and continue on just say it again. She may think you have lost your mind or she might actually get the point but either way don't engage and she'll take her ball and go home. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Did I miss the thread in which hairdresser and hair represents something else? :confused: I feel as if I reading Private Messages on the general board. :) I thought I knew what it meant until the part about dead bodies in backseats... This is where I am. We can sit in the peanut gallery seats together with puzzled looks on our faces. I think I might have it figured out, though...cuz I, too, am smarter than the public schools.:lol: (Not that you are not...or that there is anything wrong with that.:D) Don't give up on hairdressers, Aubrey. There are good ones out there. If I'm right about the riddle, that is.;) PM me if you need a recommendation. I'm a hairdresser from way back and know lots of folks in the area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Well, I do have a hairdresser who disapproves strongly of homeschooling and who argued for me to wean my then two year old on the basis of more options for color treatment. I did not, but I did cut down, and a two year old is a whole different ballgame than a newborn, as well. He is, however, someone who merely prescribes hair coloring products, and he does a good job with that. I did have him suggest which hair coloring product he would recommend if I were not nursing, and then consult Hale's Hair Styling and Mother's Milk. (FYI, lamictal was a very good choice of style.) I try to pass the bean dip when homeschooling comes up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 My interpretation is that a hairdresser deals with the health of that which is contained underneath the hair. Scalp, skull, and brain. Dead bodies just refers to bizarre experiences Aubrey keeps having. There's no code for that. She just meets people who do those things...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giraffe Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Why do you get all the fun. Noone has ever said anything to me that would come close to rivaling the comments (etc.) that you get. Please let me join the fun.:glare: I have no idea why she gets all the fun. She's smart, pretty, confident, and presents as perfectly normal. But she is most definitely a weirdo magnet. :001_huh::tongue_smilie::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 This is where I am. We can sit in the peanut gallery seats together with puzzled looks on our faces. I think I might have it figured out, though...cuz I, too, am smarter than the public schools.:lol: (Not that you are not...or that there is anything wrong with that.:D) Yeah, I think I got it now...but at first I thought it was something to do with the ER visit which made me wonder b/c I was thinking about hairdressers and carpeting the tea room... I read too much into stuff sometimes. I hope you're doing OK, Audrey! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Now that's funny.:lol::lol::lol: Aubrey, don't you see it? God is supplying you with the another "you can't make this stuff up" kind of scenario for your best-selling book.:) :iagree: In lieu of that I recommend taking duct tape to your next hair appointment. Set it out and let the PhD ask what it might be for. Just stare at them strangely and let out a little laugh, raising one eyebrow a little. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Yeah, I think I got it now...but at first I thought it was something to do with the ER visit which made me wonder b/c I was thinking about hairdressers and carpeting the tea room... I read too much into stuff sometimes. I hope you're doing OK, Audrey! I wondered about the carpet in the tea room, too.:lol: It is hard to keep up with all of the fun sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 If she had the temerity to act so unprofessionally, I'm glad it was so blatant...at least that way you know it wasn't due to your...head of hair. Seriously, if it is in your best interest to continue with her as your stylist, could you find out which hair products she thinks would be the most likely candidates for producing the results you need, and then run those through the LLL filter. One of the things LLL leaders are equipped to do is to consult with their professional resources on the compatability of products and breastfeeding. It might take you a few days to get answers as they take the question to the designated person, but it won't cost you anything. I'm betting she feels that it is perfectly acceptable for her to address your choices, because she feels that those are contributing to your grays. :smilielol5: (Composing myself...gimme a minute...or whatever other haircare issues you might be having....sorry.) She probably doesn't see it as a conflict. You can set her straight. It doesn't hurt that you have until your next trim to think of a fun way to do that. :D For me the biggest challenge would be doing it with a straight face, after this thread. Sending lots of :grouphug: your way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess Peach Posted May 11, 2011 Share Posted May 11, 2011 Well, I'm still lost about the hairdresser and the dead bodies. :confused: Anywho, I'm sorry you met a wacko and your response about being smarter than the public schools cracked me up. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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