athena1277 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 about wiping after using the bathroom? My ds (almost 3yo) just learned to use the potty. Dh says boys don't wipe unless they poop. I think that it's kinda gross to drip in his underwear and then have a lovely urine smell about him. He thinks I am "making him be a girl" by letting him use a bit of tissue to wipe. Am I? What did you teach your boys? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Going with your dh on this one. Maybe he can teach your ds how not to have the drips? That's never been a problem here, but I never potty trained a 2 year old, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Yeah, I'd go with your dh -- but ask him to help coach your ds so he learns to shake dry (or whatever those strange creatures do, lol). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kissy Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I taught mine to wipe at first so they could get the hang of going to the bathroom and not have to worry. Eventually dh taught ours to shake it so he wouldn't have the drips. When the little goes with me he still likes to wipe it so I just let him. I am sure as he gets older he will stop wiping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Dh helped with potty training our boys because growing up with all girls, I was clueless. :tongue_smilie: Anyway, our boys have been taught to shake it off/tap it really well until there aren't any leftover drips. As dh put it when I originally mentioned wiping the tip with TP, "they do not offer TP at urinals". I thought that was a good point. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Yeah, I'd go with your dh -- but ask him to help coach your ds so he learns to shake dry (or whatever those strange creatures do, lol). :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dinsfamily Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Yeah, I'd go with your dh -- but ask him to help coach your ds so he learns to shake dry (or whatever those strange creatures do, lol). :iagree:Dh is in charge of teaching those ins-and-outs even though I handle the bulk of potty training (being home and all). I do make them sit down until they're about 5 or so. Dh agrees with that so no problems there. I don't potty train until around 3.5, so I haven't encountered urine-smelling undies unless there's been an accident. My youngest seems like he might be interested sooner or later, so I'll have to see how that goes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 We teach him to do a little wiggle/shake to make sure everything is finished dripping before he pulls his underwear back up :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfunnybunch Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 "Shake it off!" That's all it takes. :) Cat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) Yeah, I'd go with your dh -- but ask him to help coach your ds so he learns to shake dry (or whatever those strange creatures do, lol). Some do dab. The dabbers I've know were uncirc'ed. Edited June 12, 2010 by kalanamak Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest janainaz Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Your dh would know! He's a man!:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julie in CA Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 :iagree: Going with your dh on this one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athena1277 Posted June 12, 2010 Author Share Posted June 12, 2010 Thanks for all the replies! I guess I know what dh's job is this weekend! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I think your husband would know how to pee. :) Yes, they wiggle it a little at the end to get the last drips. No wiping unless they poop. (unless you count wiping the drips on the toilet. LOL I'm pretty sure my boys just figured out the shake thing on their own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 about wiping after using the bathroom? My ds (almost 3yo) just learned to use the potty. Dh says boys don't wipe unless they poop. I think that it's kinda gross to drip in his underwear and then have a lovely urine smell about him. He thinks I am "making him be a girl" by letting him use a bit of tissue to wipe. Am I? What did you teach your boys? I've PT'ed 3 boys here (oldest 6 youngest almost 3). DH doesn't wipe for only pee, neither does my oldest. My other two do wipe because they're too little to do the shake thing right. How is wiping pee "making him be a girl"? If there is pee on you then you need to get it off before putting your pants back on, no? When the shake doesn't work, you need to wipe. It's not a gender issue, it's a cleanliness issue. Seems like a strange thing to get all "manly" about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I don't see any reason to do anything just because that's what "everyone" does. I have seen enough boys and men with drops on the outside of their pants to believe that a "wiggle" gets rid of the urine. I think if you wipe your son and, at some point, he doesn't feel like wiping any more, he will be able to figure out how to stop (namely, by not wiping). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Is it more manly for your little guy to smell like urine? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Ewww...I'll offer the opposite. I vote for wiping. That's what I'm teaching our nephews (whom I am raising). Wouldn't the shaking thing develop into other shaking things? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I taught my boys to shake. They don't smell. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 At 3 years of age I still wipe their bottoms. Geez, I'm still wiping my four year old's bottom. As for the other, I just teach them to shake it when their done. Takes care of the last few drips. (This is while they are sitting down, of course). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pretty in Pink Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Wouldn't the shaking thing develop into other shaking things? Huh? :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simka2 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 "Shake it off!" That's all it takes. :) Cat :iagree:and enlist dh to teach it ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Wouldn't the shaking thing develop into other shaking things? Huh? :001_huh: Yeah, I didn't get that either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 Since I'm the one that takes our 3, almost 4, year old, I teach a dab of paper for the last drops. At the age the shake usually results in drops on the hand or elsewhere. I'm with teaching what you feel right about and not just what others are doing. We are also a house full of sitting boys while at home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnitaMcC Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) about wiping after using the bathroom? My ds (almost 3yo) just learned to use the potty. Dh says boys don't wipe unless they poop. I think that it's kinda gross to drip in his underwear and then have a lovely urine smell about him. He thinks I am "making him be a girl" by letting him use a bit of tissue to wipe. Am I? What did you teach your boys? I taught my boys to wipe. I hate when they "shake" and then just pull up their underwear!!!!!! I just hate the idea that when my boys shake, they get drips on the wall-LOL. I rather they wipe when possible and just stand there a few seconds more to let the urine drip off or to tap gently if there isn't any tissue near by the urinals in public. Edited June 12, 2010 by AnitaMcC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2J112903 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 J shakes it, as DH taught him. I have *never* known of a man to wipe after urinating nor do I know of any other parents with non-circ'd boys teaching them to wipe either. I guess I am one of the lucky ones, I have never had to wipe a butt. J PL'd at over 3yrs of age and has always been independent in the BR. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate in Arabia Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) Well I guess we're the only ones who use bidets (or related apparati), the boys rinse with water. Edited June 12, 2010 by Kate in Arabia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaMa2005 Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 As dh put it when I originally mentioned wiping the tip with TP, "they do not offer TP at urinals". My DH said the exact same thing!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 I have *never* known of a man to wipe after urinating nor do I know of any other parents with non-circ'd boys teaching them to wipe either. I've never heard of boys using paper. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn in OH Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 My guys are shakers. I left my husband in charge of deciding what the boys do since I lack experience in being male. He was nice enough to teach them to wipe the toilet with some tissue if their shaking leaves anything behind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WiseOwlKnits Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 My DS is a shaker too and he's uncirc'ed. DH taught him. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 I agree with your dh. I have never heard of a male wiping after urinating until I read this thread - and I have potty-trained four boys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 about wiping after using the bathroom? My ds (almost 3yo) just learned to use the potty. Dh says boys don't wipe unless they poop. I think that it's kinda gross to drip in his underwear and then have a lovely urine smell about him. He thinks I am "making him be a girl" by letting him use a bit of tissue to wipe. Am I? What did you teach your boys? I taught all my boys to "shake " to get rid of the drip. It works here! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 I just read through all the threads. Do people REALLY teach their boys to sit? I am shocked. I taught all mine to go out to the lemon tree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate in Arabia Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 I just read through all the threads. Do people REALLY teach their boys to sit? I am shocked.My boys only sit. Really. Same with dh. Sorry to shock you. :blink: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 I agree with your dh. I have never heard of a male wiping after urinating until I read this thread - and I have potty-trained four boys. Well, I've been married to two, who are 14 years apart in age, a good 30 IQ points apart, and born and raised 17 hours by airplane apart, different languages, different religions. One cautious and conformist, the other the Wild Man of the Mountains. I can't think of two more different families, and I'm assuming they both learned it on their own, through experience. But it isn't "wipe", it is dab. Three times. Oh, yeah, they are both sitters, unless in public or a rush. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsrevmeg Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 (edited) My husband and I had this conversation several times during the potty training years. I said wipe off, he said shake off. I clean the bathrooms. I do not like to find drops of urine in places where it should not be. (which happens when little boys shake) So they wipe. In public bathrooms where there is no toilet paper, they can feel free to shake all they want. Mom doesn't have to clean that. :D **eta: I used to teach them to sit first, then they could stand when they were old enough to properly aim. Then my father in law started getting frequent UTIs. Turns out he is a *sitter*. His urologist told him the male body is not made to sit for that. It does not always let everything out, which can lead to infection. So I taught the younger two to stand from the get-go. Edited June 13, 2010 by mrsrevmeg added more info Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeneralMom Posted June 13, 2010 Share Posted June 13, 2010 We teach the boys (un-circ'd) to "wiggle-wiggle", but recently I have seen my almost 7yo using a bit of paper to wipe the tip and also wipe the seat. I asked him why, and he said the shaking doesn't always get everything off and he hates the thought of having pee in his underpants. So, it is his choice and he can do whatever he wants. We teach the boys to sit while urinating, but then they can stand up when they want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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