Hi Stacey. I am replying to your "I'm not trying to be ugly" thread. I just wanted to say, you are not a bad person, and it's perfectly normal to feel that way. It happens a lot. It sounds, from your thread, like you feel awful about how you are feeling, which pretty much says that you aren't being mean. I don't really have any advice for you because I haven't been in that situation. Men are strange creatures, perhaps just try talking to your husband about his weight gain and offer to help him lose the weight, if he's interested in doing that. I hope everything works out for you.