SquirrellyMama Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Anyone else wake up in the middle of the night, and stress so much you can't sleep? Ha! I'm sure many of you do this too. I'm tired, but I cannot get back to sleep. I almost always stress about my oldest at night. She isn't a bad kid or anything, just the oldest 🙂 I imagine next year after she's at college my stress will move to the next child. Oh well, I did get a couple of things done that I keep forgetting about during the day. Kelly 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Last night I kept getting woken up by surges of adrenaline. That was inconvenient. We are parents. I suppose we will worry about them forever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Kelly, I feel your pain. My DH was mergered out of his job and as his joblessness reached month 8, 9, 10 and beyond I found myself waking up every single night at 1:30 or 2 am and not able to go back to sleep until about 5 am. Add in these newly acquired hot flashes (sigh, I'm only 48) and a good night sleep was virtually unheard of for the overwhelming majority of nights. There were times I took Benadryl just to be able to get a better night's sleep. Hope things get easier for you soon. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 26, 2018 Author Share Posted November 26, 2018 One of the dogs woke me up at 12:30 to go outside which is what started my sleepless night. Often I can go back to sleep, but the 2nd dog also woke up to go outside. It is so freaking cold that it really woke me up 🙂 The dogs have slept very well the rest of the night. I did get a few things figured out while not sleeping anymore overnight. So, I do feel less stressed about what the issues were. And, I don't work today so I can take a nap. Kelly 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I slept very little last night, even with 3 Benadryl. A close friend told me something disturbing about a family member and I couldn't stop thinking about it! ARGH! And I have to work all day today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I do this. Our family is currently in the middle of very rough patch. And the things that I can cope with in the day seem 10 times as huge in the middle of the night. Magnesium helps me somewhat. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 This has been my life for the last 10 years at least. I wake up all stressed - we won't have money for kids' college; kids will get to college but something bad will happen to one of them; my husband will never get a job again (he was laid off in June); some bad mistake I made at work will be discovered and I will get fired (I went back to work in July)... the list goes on and on. BTW I will often wake up sweating like mad. If I'm wearing warm pajamas I fling them off. Then later I'll wake up freezing. I am 18 years post menopause (it was early for me, around age 44). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I dealt with that for about a year while we were taking care of MIL as she was dying. I ended up using Bluetooth headphones and listening to podcasts in bed. At first I thought it wouldn’t work because I love listening to podcasts, but I found that those familiar, soothing voices calmed me and helped drown our my internal voice of worry. I was so afraid I wouldn’t be able to drop the habit when it was no longer needed but I had no problem. Now when I wake up I’m able to soothe myself back to sleep in just a few minutes. Sorry you’re stressed- and I’ll say that I thought parental worry would end when the kids grew up and moved out. Boy, was I wrong. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Right there with you! ☹️ If my mind wakes up, I am awake for hours. I almost got up and started an insomnia thread at about 3, but my house was cold and I didn't want to get out of my warm bed. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Sometimes I do it out of anxiety. More often, recently, hot and cold flashes. Really annoying as I love my sleep (and need it). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martha in GA Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Quote Sorry you’re stressed- and I’ll say that I thought parental worry would end when the kids grew up and moved out. Boy, was I wrong. I think my parental stress levels increased exponentially as they began driving. My ds26 just went to Germany for work and I was nervous about him having to drive while there...And my dd22 moved 11 hours away from home...My prayer life has been good : ). In fact, I found that praying for my dc and for others who I knew were going through rough times helped calm me down and let me get back to sleep. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Maybe try taking some calcium with magnesium? You could also look into mindfulness or other stress management strategies. No, your stress won't go down when your dc is in college, lol. You're actually going to be worried MORE because you'll have big money on the line, sickness, safety, traveling, all sorts of stuff. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baseball mom Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 (edited) Here 🖐️ Wake and worry is almost a nightly thing. Some nights I am lucky and wake, sorry a minute and go back to sleep. Other nights not so lucky. I lay there for hours worrying. Or worry, doze, worry, doze. Edited November 26, 2018 by Baseball mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted November 26, 2018 Author Share Posted November 26, 2018 I don't think my worry will go down necessarily when they leave, but right now my stress is about them getting in, picking, paying, etc... That's why it will probably transfer to the next child 🙂 Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 This is me pretty much every night about 2:00 am. No matter what I do, I can't shut it off. With 6 kids, I think this is going to be going on for awhile. I'm getting used to always feeling tired. Big kids, big problems. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I think it's normal to stress at night and have the worry grow out of proportion. There are fewer distractions at this time, the body and mind are fatigued, and there is time to dwell on all the negative possibilities. The mind is a very powerful tool to build up anxiety, but also control anxiety. Here are some things that have been helpful for me: - relaxation techniques, such as deep breathing or timed breathing (counting up to 4 while breathing in, holding breath, breathing out, holding breath); positive self-talk (tell yourself the positive things that you do to enhance optimal results); notice your heart beat and relax so that it gradually becomes slower - imagery techniques: imagine you are hanging up your worries on a "worry tree" and redirect your thought to positive things; imagine you are in a quiet and relaxing space where every breath you take draws in positive energy - distract the mind with a book (could be something uplifting or highly technical or just plain boring) - if you are a religious person, prayer and reading passages from the bible are often very helpful in reducing anxiety. - sometimes I just need to move to a different location than lying in bed. For me, taking a warm bath can relax both my body and my mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 I know what you are talking about. For me, it helps to get up and do something, light housework etc. I often wake with a sense of dread in the early morning; the anxiety usually dissipates when I get up and make coffee. It is much worse shortly before my period; it helps me to remind myself that it's hormones talking. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 3 hours ago, SquirrellyMama said: I don't think my worry will go down necessarily when they leave, but right now my stress is about them getting in, picking, paying, etc... That's why it will probably transfer to the next child 🙂 Kelly You will be worried about the one away as well as the next one getting in, picking and paying! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 3 hours ago, SquirrellyMama said: I don't think my worry will go down necessarily when they leave, but right now my stress is about them getting in, picking, paying, etc... That's why it will probably transfer to the next child 🙂 Kelly Right there with ya, sister. Especially the paying part. <sigh> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 10 hours ago, SquirrellyMama said: Anyone else wake up in the middle of the night, and stress so much you can't sleep? Ha! I'm sure many of you do this too. I'm tired, but I cannot get back to sleep. I almost always stress about my oldest at night. She isn't a bad kid or anything, just the oldest 🙂 I imagine next year after she's at college my stress will move to the next child. Oh well, I did get a couple of things done that I keep forgetting about during the day. Kelly Yes, and I finally decided to run with it and lie there and pray. Longest prayer sessions ever, sometimes, and after all, God does tell us to pray without ceasing, and often after a long time in prayer other things would come to mind that really needed prayer and attention that I had not thought of, which was good, and eventually I would be able to go back to sleep usually. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted November 26, 2018 Share Posted November 26, 2018 Yes occasionally though I don’t have teens yet. For me I do so much better if I read a book or play a mindless game than attempt to sleep. I also notice sometimes I suspect it’s food related which sounds nuts but certain foods seem to make it more likely to happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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