MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 My teenage son is not feeling good and he is hitting himself really badly and it is so scary to watch and very hard to stop. I don't know what is hurting him and he can't tell me and we've had ups and downs the past few weeks. He was good for about a week, smiling all day and extremely compliant and suddenly last night he started again. The only thing that is stopping it is going outside. We have been out for almost 5 hours and now it is dark. Please pray. Quote
OneStepAtATime Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 (edited) Wait, he is actually hitting himself? Like trying to self harm? ETA: and hugs. If he is deliberately trying to hurt himself there may be a local hotline you can call for advice. Or take him to an emergency clinic maybe? Edited June 3, 2016 by OneStepAtATime 1 Quote
MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 He has special needs. he has been doing this since he was 2.5 but he is stronger now. It is horrifying. Quote
OneStepAtATime Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 He has special needs. he has been doing this since he was 2.5 but he is stronger now. It is horrifying. Oh, dear. I am sending you all the positive thoughts I can send. Huge prayers. So sorry. Is there anyone there with you to help? Quote
TCB Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 I'm so sorry, that must be so hard! Praying for you right now! Hope he settles soon. :grouphug: Quote
MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 we have brought him to so many doctors over the years and they do not know what to do. If I bring him to ER they can give him a drug but I have no idea how he will react to a drug. His body is very sensitive. I feel really alone. I have no friends and family anymore. Nobody at all except my husband. It's a weird and scary life and hard to invite people into your life when things are like this. He's such a good person. I want him to be happy so badly. Quote
MooCow Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 I'm so sorry. ......I just prayed and will keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers. Quote
umsami Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 :grouphug: Oh my, how very difficult to watch. You must be an amazingly strong Mama. May he know that he is surrounded by love and may he find peace soon. Quote
1GirlTwinBoys Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 That must be so hard! Is he hitting himself in a certain place?? It's really difficult because he could be hurting somewhere and not able to let you know what's going on. Hugs!!! Quote
Storygirl Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 :grouphug: I'm praying that he will be calm. I'm sorry. Quote
lauraw4321 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 :grouphug: I'm saying a prayer for both of you. Quote
MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 DH just took him for a drive and a walk. he is peaceful now. I just hope he goes to bed peacefully. Last night he was up until 2 am screaming. After that I could not fall asleep, though I was so happy he did. Quote
MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 he is hitting his head and I am so worried. It looks awful. He is also hitting his arms and legs but that is not as bad. He has horrific sensory issues and covers his eyes and ears most of the time. he has had gastro pain in the past and some headaches but mostly it's his senses. Quote
gardenmom5 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 (edited) hugs and prayers. dudeling's anxiety has increased recently so it is no longer under control (I think it may be hormonal due to being a tween), so he has been hitting his head and pulling his hair lately too. his doesn't last more than a few minutes though. it can be so hard to control their stress/anxiety/tension/frustration level. have you ever tried the Wilbarger brushing protocol and joint compressions? it's really just a baby brush that is used - so it's pretty easy to get. eta: added link theanine, GABA, douglas laboratories ashwagandha & bacopa, have all been helpful at controlling anxiety/stress. Edited June 3, 2016 by gardenmom5 Quote
East Coast Sue Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Hugs and prayers. If I had the opportunity, I'd be your friend IRL. You sound like an amazing mom and I'd value your friendship. Sue 1 Quote
gardenmom5 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 (edited) Wait, he is actually hitting himself? it's actually pretty typical for asd/sensory disordered kids to hit themselves. it's usually an expression of frustration. heavy work/ very strenuous labor can help fulfil the same need as the hitting fulfils. I've got to get dudeling back into martial arts. definitely next month. Edited June 3, 2016 by gardenmom5 Quote
Ali in OR Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 Praying for you. Do you get any suggestions from OT, PT, or teachers who work with him? I also have a special needs kid and just want to say that the middle school years were hard. Lots of fussing, screaming, crying and difficult to identify reasons for it. I now think it was worse due to hormones. She's mostly through puberty now and so much happier. I hope your son will also mellow out as he matures. But in the meantime, lots of prayers for you all! 1 Quote
MamaBearTeacher Posted June 3, 2016 Author Posted June 3, 2016 Thank you for the prayers. He went to sleep finally at 5 am. I hope he sleeps a lot more and that he is happy today and tonight. he needs as much or more sleep now as he did as an infant which was 11 hours. It does nt make sense. He had an OT session the other day and she said he might experience a regression and then get better. Was it that? Or the tiny bits of garlic on the olives I bought? Quote
TravelingChris Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 I will pray that this doesn't reoccur tonight and you both get rest. Quote
mamiof5 Posted June 3, 2016 Posted June 3, 2016 5am??? 😞😞 I was hoping you all had a good night. Will keep praying! Quote
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