eternalsummer Posted November 2, 2016 Share Posted November 2, 2016 Good luck to your DD! It is a fine time to take a "brain on hold" break. We are doing much the same here, preparing to move. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalsummer Posted November 2, 2016 Share Posted November 2, 2016 And I'd just like to say, it's remarkable, isn't it, how much of our kids' lives and our decisions regarding their lives and educations start to be determined by social considerations around this age? My DD craves nothing more than to have a group of friends around whom she feels like herself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 4, 2016 Author Share Posted November 4, 2016 We got the letter. She didn't get in. She's taking it really hard. Sadly, the biggest area where she fell down was on "affect and academic discussion"-and given that we'd just had a cat die and DD was extremely upset and nervous, I don't think they saw the real her. Her academic scores were pretty good on their assessments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Hopefully your plan b/c/d works out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purpleowl Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Oh no. :( I'm sorry she has such a disappointment. :grouphug: Weren't you looking at a potential move to the Atlanta area as well? Is that still a possibility? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 4, 2016 Author Share Posted November 4, 2016 We got the letter. She didn't get in. She's taking it really hard. Sadly, the biggest area where she fell down was on "affect and academic discussion"-and given that we'd just had a cat die and DD was extremely upset and nervous, I don't think they saw the real her. Her academic scores were pretty good on their assessments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathnerd Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 :grouphug: I am very sorry to hear that. I was rooting for her. Please spend some time encouraging her to keep her spirits up - let her know that the admissions committees don't have a full picture of the true person when they make the decision. My son was rejected (a.k.a. "waitlisted") two years in a row for a very selective program that he wanted to get into badly - I was at a loss on how to encourage him to move on because he had spent the months leading up to the selection talking about "when I get into that program" - when it happened twice, it looked like he was dealing with anxiety, self-doubt and depression - finally, his music teacher who is a very sweet lady was the one who took the effort and time to give him the wisdom that he was still the same kid he used to be, no matter what the admissions committee thought about him. Wishing you all luck with your plan B. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike in SA Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Sorry to hear it. We all know she will be a rock star either way! Give her some time, and let her know she has a world of respect and support already. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jackie Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 How disappointing! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daijobu Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 I'm very sorry to hear this. It's their loss to not have your lovely daughter in their student body. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalsummer Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Ah, that is too bad :( Probably nothing will make her feel better for a few days, but when someone rejects something I know was of value, I like to reread this: http://www.ursulakleguin.com/Reject.html (a rejection letter UK LeGuin got for The Left Hand of Darkness). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I'm so very sorry. D was hit by a rejection in the spring for a desperately wanted, very selective program. She took it really hard for a day but was able to regroup the next morning. It did help that her Plan B was attractive. All the hugs to your dd and to you :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Sorry to hear your news. I'm betting this obstacle will not hold her back! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
quark Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) Bummer. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I have a sneaky suspicion she is too asynchronous for them. And you know how asynchronous our kids can be. A friend of ours was rejected a few years ago. And this was a kid who had finished something like 9 APs with a score of 5 (and multiple SAT 2s with 700+-800 scores) when he applied at around 12yo. Their comment was that yes, while he was learning post calculus level math, his writing speed and stamina was still below middle school level. :cursing: When his mom told us that, my respect for DA plummeted. I think they were too stunned by DA's report to even react. I mean it just doesn't make sense with a kid like that kwim? Okay, one door is temporarily closed...but that is only going to mean that she is going to find another door and one that's possibly a much better fit. Really sorry that she is disappointed though. She is going to get over this and rock it somewhere else. Just wait and see. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: ETA: attaching a huge bar of virtual chocolate for the both of you! Edited November 5, 2016 by quark 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawyer&Mom Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I agree with Quark. It's a huge disappointment, and I know how much she wants the social aspect, but I wonder if it would have really been the ideal academic fit. I suspect there is something better out there. Some how, some where. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Has she visited Mary Baldwin's PEG program? Not sure if they have the herpetology, but socially it might be a good fit. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wapiti Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 :grouphug: So sorry for her disappointment. I hope today is brighter. Truly, some other adventure awaits - good luck getting it figured out! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Runningmom80 Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I'm sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: Please let her know that we all think she's an outstanding and brilliant girl. Hopefully the other plans will work out! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewelma Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Oh No. :grouphug: I am so disappointed. I can't imagine what kind of student they are looking for if your dd doesn't fit the bill. :confused1: Many virtual hugs for you and your daughter. She has been in my thoughts for weeks and will remain there. Ruth in NZ 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted November 6, 2016 Share Posted November 6, 2016 Wow so sorry to see this. I was rooting for your dd and hoping she will get in. Hugs to you both. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azucena Posted November 6, 2016 Share Posted November 6, 2016 I am so sorry to hear that! Please tell your daughter it is their loss. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaConquest Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 Oh no! What were they thinking? Your DD is amazing! Gosh, I know that must be so hard for her. Please tell her how much her virtual friends are cheering her on; I know that she will be an incredible addition to any program. Hugs to you both. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lewber Posted November 7, 2016 Share Posted November 7, 2016 I've been following this and I am sorry to hear this. She seems like an amazing girl and you seem like an amazing mom for trying so hard to find the right fit for her. I sincerely hope something great turns up for her. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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