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  1. I had something similar happen to me a couple years ago- phone rang in the middle of the night, first they were silent and then just asked my name. I hung up and they called back accusing me of sleeping with her husband?!? Then ends up calling my husband's cell phone a few minutes later. Finally figure out it was the wife of an employee of ours who was drunk going through numbers on her husband's phone. He had called me with a work question a few days prior. And my DH had called him to schedule a job. I hope yours is as innocent and you figure it out quickly!
  2. My DS, who doesn't have a bad problem, but does get pimples, does best with charcoal. He can put it on spots and his t-zone about 10-15 minutes before he showers at night and then washes it off in the shower. It's working. Less pimples and prettier skin:) We use one from a friend who sells beautycounter. It's a direct sell safe skin care line without the nasty stuff added. But I'm sure other charcoal based products would work as well.
  3. At home would be great! I recorded her today to show her dr Wednesday so he can order a sleep study.
  4. She has a hospital bed at home, so we've tried her head elevated at about every degree possible. I've been watching her sleep the past 3 hours and she has to be miserable. This is not good sleep. We have a follow up appointment today, hopefully they can help.
  5. My mom broke her hip 2 weeks ago and it seems the biggest issue we are having is sleep. She was always a side sleeper and being forced to sleep on her back is proving difficult. She snores almost immediately and wakes herself up all night.,A sleep study seems kind of hard at this point in her rehab, but maybe not? Is there anything that will help in the mean time? She needs better sleep!
  6. FWIW, my DS is in 9th grade, public school. He took the ACT at the end of 8th grade and the PSAT 9/10 test at the beginning of 9th grade, and his PSAT scores were noticeably better due to time and the kind of questions. Several people here recommended we try both to see if he was more suited for one or the other and after taking the PSAT, we are sticking with SAT prep. He is a slow worker. His ACT results clearly showed it was speed that was bringing his scores down. It might be worth it to try a SAT practice test if your college accepts them.
  7. I read a book written written by a grieving mom and she was grateful when people sent her pictures, candids, one she hasn't seen before, ones at events with stories. There will never be any more pictures and she wanted to have all the ones she could. Food, cleaning, those both sound great and will be appreciated ok sure.
  8. I appreciate all your stories and insight. It is a complicated time no matter what. We knew it would eventually come. She is very stubborn, private, modest and independent. She doesn't currently really understand her physical limitations or restrictions. It's a tough combination. I admit I don't have a lot of patience - her personality, other than the memory loss, is pretty much the same as it's been for the last 20 years. She is never wrong, and is very hard to persuade about anything, and she is not used to not getting her way. This set back is a real challenge for her. I am nice and caring, but it takes a lot of mental energy :) I am still taking things personally, instead of deflecting and observing. I'm trying! The caregivers have been hired and will start tonight. We'll see how it goes. I have to convince them that she can't be trusted to tell them she needs help. We plan to stay at the house the next 24-36 hours so they know the routine and what to look for. We will be in and out a lot, and my dad will be home most of the weekend. He is great mentally, but can't help physically, so it should be ok. I am reading the book, and we did take a sample in for a UTI test this afternoon.
  9. SHe's been showing some cognitive issues for awhile, and there is a possibility they are thyroid related and might improve with treatment. She and my dad lived alone and she worked full time with admin help, so she was getting along. Her issue now is she doesn't seem to be able to understand the physical limitations of her injury and we are afraid she is going to hurt herself. We are very hopeful that in a couple months when she is fully healed and the meds kick in we might see some improvement. I ordered the book for my Kindle! Will read tonight - that is exactly what I need. I will care for her and provide every opportunity for her to get better, It is my duty, and I know important to her as she did it for her mom and dad and grandmother. We know her wishes on this subject and will do the best we can. We have a power of attorney in place. Thanks for all the advice and experience.
  10. Don't quote (no that it is that exciting :lol: ) My mom is recovering from a broken hip and we've discovered that her memory issues are a lot worse than we thought. Basically she's been deflecting and changing the subject to cover it, but it's now evident her cognitive abilities aren't going to allow her to be alone anymore. There is a profound thyroid problem and a probable b-12 deficiency that might help some, but, in reality, we've entered that stage with our parents that we all get to. I am very good at hospital advocating, dr visits, understanding and researching medical issues. Problem is I am not a patient caregiver :glare: She is not a great patient - she's been extremely stubborn and somewhat difficult for years and that has led me to cut back on contact - she's not nearly as bad as the stories I read here - just not all that fun to be around, critical, etc. We have a fine relationship, I have just scaled way back on contact. She has declined medical care for years that I feel has led to some of her issues and I'm resentful about that. She can afford caregivers, but doesn't want anybody in her house. My sister lives out of town, my brother travels for work, and I work and have a teen son. We can't be the long term caregivers although we have made it work for the last 10 days. So, how do I turn my attitude around? Can someone point me to resources that will put dementia or this type of behavior in a better light? Something that will give me perspective on her past behaviors so I can be more sympathetic? I am a fine caregiver - very nice and helpful - when it's my turn, but I can feel my patience wearing thin. I will do everything in my duty - I just would like to do it with a nicer heart, IFYKWIM?
  11. This is good news - I'm happy to see so many of you with success stories. She is 80, but she and my dad are both independent, live alone, and even still work, so we haven't been super involved in their health care until my dad's surgery last summer. She has been anti medicine - natural health - for a good 20 years, and thyroid medicine is included according to her, even though I have explained the hormone thing mentioned above. I really hope she feels the benefits and will stick with taking the medicine voluntarily. She has so many classic symptoms that she does not think are related.
  12. We knew my mom had thyroid problems, and she refused to go to the dr. My dad said she was taking her pills "sometimes." Well when she was in the hospital with her broken hip, we took the advantage and had her bloodwork done. Her TSH level was 36! We'll never be able to optimize it, but improving it has to help, right?!?
  13. That's a good point about hiring someone. We are getting good care, but we had to request the compression cuffs for her legs, ask several times for additional pain meds, and make sure they were dosing timely, she tried to get out of bed twice just forgetting where she was when she woke up. I'm grateful we are able to stay as needed and have some medical knowledge and friends in the medical world who lovingly give us advice. It's really made a big difference in these two hospitalizations.
  14. It sounds like we all try to do the best we can. That's all we can do. I hate to leave them there alone. Neither of them have much medical understanding and I knew I wouldn't get accurate info from them. I have two siblings and an extremely helpful DH to share the load. But I have an only child- he won't be able to provide as much coverage for DH or me I'm sure.
  15. When my dad was in the hospital last summer for 8 nights, we had a family member with him at all times and overnight every night. Now my mom is in the hospital and we're trying again but my sister is a teacher and can't help out this week. This is such a luxury, but at the same time I've always felt we shouldn't leave them alone. What do you do when you have family in the hospital?
  16. Wow! What a great outcome for your mom. Let's hope mine does as well. Thanks for sharing.
  17. Thanks everyone! Surgery went well. So far, so good. There was a clean break at the ball, so only had to replace that. She tolerated everything. They're hoping they can get her sitting today. The recovery begins!
  18. Thank you all. We do think they'll be rehab hospital in the future. She's not happy about that, as I gather most people aren't. Everyone wants to be in their home. She owns her own business and still works every day so she's just used to having her own way and following her own schedule. We are very fortunate to have wonderful friends in the medical community to keep us on the right path and share their knowledge. Very grateful.
  19. I use the pink eye primer from smash box and the cle de peau concealer.
  20. She fell and broke her hip Friday night. Surgery is in a couple hours. She's 80, but in good shape for 80. However, I don't think she comprehends what's ahead. Any prayers or positive BTDT stories appreciated! It's been a long day already.
  21. Oh my! I get it. Have you looked into fostering?
  22. He has AP Human Geography this year and he'll have AP World next year as regular classes. With Spanish and Health/Gym he doesn't have any other room in his schedule next year for independent study. I am suggesting the music tech idea, but it's a no go on his end right now. We did talk about it today and he doesn't have to take the drama class to be in the thespian club, so that's a start.
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