Laura Corin Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Is this rude, not rude, no big deal or other? For example: 'What I was going to say,' (stops to take mouthful, chews, swallows) 'is that the......' Conversation stops while everyone waits for the person to finish the mouthful and the sentence. L Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 I think it's better than continuing to talk with the mouth full of food. But otherwise, yeah - a bit egotistical and controlling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomeontheprairie Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Rude. Rude. Rude. less rude if its a child needs to be taught that is not acceptable. and that one should finish a sentence before they continue to eat. extremely rude if it's an adult who should know better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Rude'ish.I think it depends on the context & type of meal. Three people quickly grabbing breakfast on way out the door in the morning - pretty much anything goes.Sit down dinner with family - well, maybe you can get away with this but it's not nice.Sit down any meal with people outside of immediate family - nope.Can't imagine anyone doing much of this in our home because nobody would wait for you to finish your sentence. Someone would just nod & finish your sentence for you or just grab the conversation somewhere else altogether. You'd have to be making a pretty dramatic announcement for any chance of holding the floor:"I wanted to tell you that I did get that letter from the International Exposure to Radiation and Possible Superpower Identification Authority, and..." pause to take bite & thoughtfully chew. "I have decided to let you know that I've been living a lie and my true identity is....." pause to take bite & thoughtfully chew."That dead guy in the hallway....." pause to take bite & thoughtfully chew.We might wait calmly & politely but probably someone would just throw a dinner roll at you, and everyone else would just start talking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Firefly Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Personally I find it more irritating than rude, but yeah... it's borderline. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 It wouldn't bother me. I think it would also depend on the company. But hey, if you are trying to eat and talk...you sometimes take turns. It's not something I'd get worked up over. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Meh. I agree with Hornblower that the context matters. Grabbing breakfast or fast food quickly is different from sitting down for a fancy meal or eating Thanksgiving dinner with extended family and guests. Also the duration matters a little. Doing it once or twice in a meal isn't something I'm going to notice much. Doing it repeatedly throughout a meal, with really long pauses... yeah, that's going to get annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Although I wouldn't do it myself mostly because I don't like the thought of people staring at me while I eat. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 Well, no, it isn't "rude." It's a stupid habit that irritates people to no end. Which isn't the same thing as being rude, but whoever does it shouldn't be surprised if his listeners are really annoyed with him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 ...hold on a minute...nom nom nom... :ack2: Teaching moment for a child; "were you born in a barn" moment if adult. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Strawberry Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 D does this frequently, and is deeply offended if I"interrupt" :001_rolleyes: He's a slow, thoughtful talker. He thinks my quick-witted, quick-tongued family and I are unbearably rude for taking over each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 I imagined it in the context of sitting down for lunch with a few co-workers so I voted rude. Now I'm curious to know the context of said event. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 That would NEVER happen in my household. EVER. I have a husband with ADHD and a son with ADHD. If they detect even the tiniest of pauses between words, say to take a quick gaspy inhale, they will totally swoop in and take over the conversation. I have seriously (*seriously*) considered making them use a Talking Stick. No one is allowed to talk unless they're holding the stick. I'm so tired of having to speak at super speed because someone is going to wrest the conversation away from me if I pause in any manner. Someone pausing to put food in their mouth and give it a chew? Hahahaha! Not unless you expect the conversation to go in 3 different directions before you're done chewing and then come back around to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted November 8, 2014 Share Posted November 8, 2014 I suppose it's better than one of the alternatives - such as chewing after you've taken the mouthful. But I'd rate it up there with annoying/inconsiderate rather than outright rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 I voted Other cuz I'd call it bad manners first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 I've never thought about it, but I'm 100% certain I do this if my husband and I are eating something after the kids have gone to bed. It's not that I'm trying to be rude. It's just that it is so rare to have food sitting in front of me that I can eat without little people trying to take it that eating becomes my primary mission. He's already heard most of what I have to say, and he knows me well enough to guess what will be new. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 I also think context matters, but generally I would say it is poor manners, but not really outright rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted November 9, 2014 Share Posted November 9, 2014 I wouldn't recommend it. But then again, there are situations where you either talk while eating or you don't talk or you don't eat. :P Depends on how long of a sentence, how quick of a bite, who's listening, and why they couldn't wait. I think I'd assume the person was super hungry. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 Other - I don't talk at all while eating, neither do my children. Just ask Rosie. Last time she was here she could not believe the silent table while everyone sat down, ate, then left the table ( DH was not here). I guess my mother's teaching me to not talk while eating really was effective :D DH however talks non-stop eating or not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 I voted for the third choice, but mostly agree with this. I think it depends on the context & type of meal. Three people quickly grabbing breakfast on way out the door in the morning - pretty much anything goes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 What about functions where you are supposed to be social and eat at the same time? And are supposed to finish your meal within a time constraint? I can see it being hard to balance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 What about functions where you are supposed to be social and eat at the same time? And are supposed to finish your meal within a time constraint? I can see it being hard to balance. You don't go hungry. You eat very small bites so you can still converse. It's a farce really and should not be called "dinner." :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 If I'm telling a story or conversing, I take a break from eating until I've finished my thought and it's someone else's turn to talk. And, I really don't want to watch others eating. That would so annoy and gross me out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 Oh, I voted rude. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 In the middle of a sentence would be rude. If it is an honored guest and the person is having a mouthful between sentences then that would be common since between answering and photo-taking, the person has little chance to catch a bite. Even for family, it's finish the sentence than grab a bite so that the sentence is not hanging in midair. If it is pause in mid-sentence to get a sip of water/juice/wine then it's not a big deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted November 10, 2014 Share Posted November 10, 2014 I think it's adorable that you people have only one conversation to follow at a time. The pauser would be left in the dust at my house. It's a self-correcting problem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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