Only me Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 My 21 daughter lost a friend last night. He was 22 and died in a car accident. He was one if her first friends when she transferred to high school as a sophomore. They were friends all through high school and they dated the summer after her sophomore year of college. He was her first boyfriend. Even though they parted ways she is devastated especially since she just lost a close friend to cancer last month. Prayers would be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mytwomonkeys Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I'm so sorry. My prayers are with your daughter and the families that mourn. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaz Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I'm so sorry. Praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann.without.an.e Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 So sorry for your dd :(. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I am so sorry. That is especially heartbreaking for someone young to experience. Hugs to your dd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alef Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 Oh no! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I am so sorry. I can't imagine losing two friends that close together. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evergreen State Sue Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 I said a prayer for your dd and her friend's family. So tragic. I'm so sorry she has to go through this and you have to too as her mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 how sad. Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swimmermom3 Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 :grouphug: Our hearts go out to your daughter and to the other families affected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom@shiloh Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 So sorry to hear of her loss. Praying for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 I'm so sorry. It is just so sad. I read of a 21 year old killed in my hometown last night as well. My boy was 21 when he was killed in an auto accident. I always think of how awful it is for the families. So sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Prayers for everyone affected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 It is so hard to see our kids lose someone close to them, and knowing there isn't a thing we can do to change it. :( Praying for her peace of mind, and for the friend's family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted December 29, 2013 Share Posted December 29, 2013 Truly sorry for what your daughter and those families are going through right now. I lost a friend in high school and another in college. It isn't easy. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted December 30, 2013 Author Share Posted December 30, 2013 Thanks for the prayers. I'm so sorry Kari. How do I help dd grieve? She feels like it is all a bad dream. She wants to cry it out but except for her initial reaction tears won't come. She feels numb. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted December 30, 2013 Share Posted December 30, 2013 Praying for your dd and all affected by this tragedy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Thanks for the prayers. I'm so sorry Kari. How do I help dd grieve? She feels like it is all a bad dream. She wants to cry it out but except for her initial reaction tears won't come. She feels numb. Just let her know whatever she is feeling is the right thing. You feel like you are going crazy. My son's friends had different reactions, different ways of coping and not coping. His funeral was 4 days before one of his best friends graduated at the homeschool convention. I did not attend, but many of his friends were there together and they just held each other together the best they could. many of his friends spoke at his funeral and were crying, etc. His closest and longest friend could not speak. He just kept holding on to me for days. He had an emotional breakdown in the months that followed. All sorts of issues with all sorts of things. He didn't cry until I came back to Florida 4 months later and handed out hoodies and shirts to all his friends. He took off and I found him in a bingo parking lot and he finally just sobbed in my arms. There is no right way to grieve. It just takes time, patience, understanding and love. I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted December 31, 2013 Author Share Posted December 31, 2013 Thank you for your reply Kari. It really means a lot to me. It's just so difficult not being able to help her. To make matters worse she is leaving one week from tomorrow for the Disney college program. She has always wanted to do this and has really been looking forward to it. I'm so worried about how she is going to be able to cope over 1000 miles from home. Of course right now she can't even think about it but somehow she needs to be ready to go in one week. I know if she backs out she will regret it forever. It truly is a dream come true for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Prayed for your dd and the boy's family before I even opened this. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 I lost my best friend to a car accident when I was 22. I still miss him to this day, and it was 20 years ago. I remember that several things helped me through. First, was being around other people who loved him. People who don't know the deceased tend to not know what to do, so they say nothing. They try to avoid bringing the person up because they think it will "remind" their loved ones, but their friends don't need reminding. The person is always there. The next thing that helped me, and this sounds conter-intuitive to the first thing I said, was to just let me be. I didn't want people forcing me to talk about it if I didn't want to. I needed to be alone sometimes and that was ok, too, so I didn't want people to worry. I really wanted people to be there for me, but let me take the lead. Finally, I needed to live my life. Going back to work helped (I'd taken some time off because I lived in a different state than where he did), going home, continuing with my day-to-day, getting back into my normal routine....those were the things that helped me through the worst of it and precipitated the healing process. She'll be ok. Just be there for her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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