ezrabean2005 Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Hi everyone. This week has been so hard. Last Friday, the transmission went out in our van and had to be replaced ($$$$). Okay, no problem. That's what our emergency fund is for right? Then on Monday morning, DH woke up with what looked like a small spider bite. By the time I got back to the cafe on Monday afternoon he had a bad fever and all the skin around the bite was infected. Long, long story short and he's been in the hospital since then. When he was admitted his blood pressure and pulse were scary low. He's not doing well...he's still in so much pain and the antibiotics are making his veins upset (I don't know the technical term). They put in a PICC line this afternoon because the antibiotics weren't going in very well because of his veins. He's finally sleeping now. They have him on a huge mix of antibiotics, morphine, and other pain meds. It's not taking the pain away. So I don't know how much longer he'll be in the hospital, I don't know how much this will cost (to have 5-? days in the hospital with all kinds of tests and specialists). I don't know when DH can work again. I don't know when I'll be back at work (especially if I need to run the cafe until he is better). I don't know if I'll need to leave my job sooner than expected, with more debt than we expected (medical bills), and with less savings than we expected (transmission). Sigh. Sorry, I'm just venting. DH's parents are driving up from Oklahoma (they'll be here sometime tomorrow). But right now, I'm alone and tired with four kids that I'm trying not to scare or annoy. I know I'm thinking too far ahead because each day is so different. The doctors don't even know what happened to DH. And the minute DH has his pain even slightly controlled, he wants to know why he can't go home. :001_huh::banghead: So I write this. Thanks for letting me share, sorry this got so long and probably confusing. I'm keeping it together for the most part, there are just so many Drs and nurses with so much information or questions. Of course, the minute someone is nice to me I just cry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hot Lava Mama Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Sounds like you are having a horrible time right now! :grouphug: Hot Lava Mama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Hi everyone. This week has been so hard. Last Friday, the transmission went out in our van and had to be replaced ($$$$). Okay, no problem. That's what our emergency fund is for right? Then on Monday morning, DH woke up with what looked like a small spider bite. By the time I got back to the cafe on Monday afternoon he had a bad fever and all the skin around the bite was infected. Long, long story short and he's been in the hospital since then. When he was admitted his blood pressure and pulse were scary low. He's not doing well...he's still in so much pain and the antibiotics are making his veins upset (I don't know the technical term). They put in a PICC line this afternoon because the antibiotics weren't going in very well because of his veins. He's finally sleeping now. They have him on a huge mix of antibiotics, morphine, and other pain meds. It's not taking the pain away. So I don't know how much longer he'll be in the hospital, I don't know how much this will cost (to have 5-? days in the hospital with all kinds of tests and specialists). I don't know when DH can work again. I don't know when I'll be back at work (especially if I need to run the cafe until he is better). I don't know if I'll need to leave my job sooner than expected, with more debt than we expected (medical bills), and with less savings than we expected (transmission). Sigh. Sorry, I'm just venting. DH's parents are driving up from Oklahoma (they'll be here sometime tomorrow). But right now, I'm alone and tired with four kids that I'm trying not to scare or annoy. I know I'm thinking too far ahead because each day is so different. The doctors don't even know what happened to DH. And the minute DH has his pain even slightly controlled, he wants to know why he can't go home. :001_huh::banghead: So I write this. Thanks for letting me share, sorry this got so long and probably confusing. I'm keeping it together for the most part, there are just so many Drs and nurses with so much information or questions. Of course, the minute someone is nice to me I just cry. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celia Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh my goodness, that certainly is a tough week :( I'm sorry you're going through all this. Keep taking it moment by moment, and try to keep your mind off the long-term until things have settled and you can deal with it. Hugs and more hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nooby Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Hope you can try and get some rest tonight. So sorry for all your troubles. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Praying for y'all, and :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I am so sorry. I hope he gets better soon. I hope you can get some rest tonight. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: That is scary and exhausting!! Praying you find out what happened, what the best plan is, and that it resolves SOON. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twilight Woods Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh my word! Have the doctors given you a diagnosis? Do they have any idea what kind of bite it was? I'll keep you in my prayers and I hope things start improving very soon! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I am so sorry you and your family are going through such an ordeal. All the best to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pammy Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 sympathize! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I'm so sorry. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh, boy! I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope you have some answers and relief soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I am so sorry. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'll be praying that the doctors figure out what's wrong and are able to fix it quickly! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Poor thing. I'm so sorry... Hoping for a quick recovery and good answers!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: That stinks--I am so sorry. I hope you get some good answers from the docs. Take care of you, too. Hugs, love, and prayers.:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry. I hope things start getting better quickly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 I think tough is an understatement. I'm sorry you are going through all this. Is your husband responding to the antibiotics? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelly1730 Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh, that is a tough week. Praying for wisdom for the doctor's as they try to find out how to best treat your husband, that he responds quickly to the treatment and for your peace of mind. Keep us posted when you can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 No wonder your upset, what a horrible, horrible weak and to still have a sick dh and so much uncertainty. I hope his parents arrive soon so you can at least get some respite. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh sweetie, that is a lousy and stressful week for sure! Hope your dh is on the mend soon. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2bbj Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Prayers and hugs for you and your family. Vickie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Wow. That is a tough week. I hope your dh recovers quickly and things get back to normal for you very soon. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristyB in TN Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Wow, that is just awful. I am so sorry and wish I could help! Please keep us posted! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astrid Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Wow--- "tough" kind of doesn't do that justice, you know? Thinking of you all, and sending lots of healing WTM love to your dh and calming thoughts to you. I know how hard it is to be a working mom and keep all the balls in the air, so special love and hugs to you. astrid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezrabean2005 Posted June 22, 2012 Author Share Posted June 22, 2012 Thanks so much everyone. I'm sitting here in tears (the good kind) by all of your support. The narcotics finally knocked him out so DH slept okay last night, which has helped his spirits. They don't have any diagnosis yet and we are all still waiting to see if the infection is responding to the antibiotics. Visually, the infection changes each day. But we don't know if it is "better" or "worse". It just looks different. Today, we will see an infectious disease doctor who will recommend if we change anything or if we just keep doing what we are doing. There is no end in sight at this point because they want the infection to clear up almost 100% before they'd even consider letting him go home. I don't want him to leave the hospital too soon either since it would mean me changing his IV meds instead of a nurse. So I'm glad that leaving isn't even a part of the conversation right now. DH ate a banana this morning, but he's not drinking enough to take him off fluids. He's kind of in and out all the time. When he's in pain, he is understandibly not friendly. I hate that there is nothing I can do for him except hold his hand, offer water (much to his annoyance), and handle all the information coming at us. The kids are okay. They are kept out of the worst information and I brought as many things as I can to distract them. "Dad" is not himself, which is hard for them. The good news is we caught this in time. This was moving so fast that the doctor said he'd be dead by Tuesday afternoon if I didn't take him in again. My employer has been really great and I have the option to work remotely from here. I just can't do it though - I start and I realize how many simple numerical errors I am making. So I'm taking that day by day too. Thanks again. You'll never know how much it means to have friends with me right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nova147 Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Praying for your family. I hope your family gets there to help soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Oh how awful! :grouphug::grouphug: Many prayers and positive thoughts for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5LittleMonkeys Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 :grouphug: and prayers for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Just wanted to let you know that I'm still thinking of you and your DH. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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