summer Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Do you mind if your spouse posts on your board? I am referring to, for example, this board. If you frequent this board, and your spouse comes here and posts, would that bother you? This is assuming a normal relationship and normal pertinent type post. As in, he(or she) is posting in the same fashion as everyone else and there is nothing dysfunctional going on, like in the middle of a divorce and coming to fight with you or otherwise. Just normal everyday-another poster-who just happens to be your spouse? Make sure you vote no for if you do not mind and yes for if it would upset you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Do you mind if your spouse posts on your board? I have this "thing" ~ and I admit up front that it's illogical ~ about the concept of a guy hanging out on a discussion board ~ particularly one frequented almost exclusively by women. Is it fair of me to allow myself the time to sit here and chat, but desire that my husband not do so? Of course not! And perhaps this is Good Reason #194 as far as why I'm married to the guy I'm married to. He wouldn't sit in front of the computer at all (okay, he did a few hours ago, in order to watch a Euro Cup game;)), much less spend his time on a forum. And I'm glad of that. And I'm glad he doesn't care if I do spend time here.:tongue_smilie: ETA: I don't mind that guys are on the board. I totally appreciate Plaid Dad, et al! That may sound like a mixed message, given my comments above. What I'm sayin' is, I don't mind hanging with guys here, but I'm glad my guy isn't into chatting online with babes. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 If my spouse posted on this board, it would mean the stars were out of alignment. He just isn't a chatty kind of guy. I wouldn't care and I do try to post with the fact he "could" read it. I've often wondered if something happened to me how would all of my online friends know. I've been contemplating making a list of the place I visit with my passwords so he could at least people know or close some of the accounts I have in case of my demise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sahamamama Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I have this "thing" ~ and I admit up front that it's illogical ~ about the concept of a guy hanging out on a discussion board ~ particularly one frequented almost exclusively by women. Is it fair of me to allow myself the time to sit here and chat, but desire that my husband not do so? Of course not! And perhaps this is Good Reason #194 as far as why I'm married to the guy I'm married to. He wouldn't sit in front of the computer at all (okay, he did a few hours ago, in order to watch a Euro Cup game;)), much less spend his time on a forum. And I'm glad of that. And I'm glad he doesn't care if I do spend time here.:tongue_smilie: Exactly, I couldn't agree more! :lurk5: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karenciavo Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 No, I wouldn't mind. He does read here occasionally. I'm glad we have guys who post here and I miss the ones that no longer post like Ian, Stupidslippers, and Daniel to name a few. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I don't mind guys posting on the board but no matter what board I posted on I don't think I'd want my hubby posting there. It's my own little space. It would change how I posted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy loves Bud Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I voted no, but Bud would never, ever post here or anywhere else. I think he is vaguely confuzzled by the time I spend here and on my blog (which he also never reads). Occasionally, he appreciates the information I glean from here, and one time he developed a good business contact and friend because I mentioned that one of the posters her had a husband in the same business and they lived in our same general area. So he's okay with it all, just doesn't understand it, LOL. So, while I voted no, it's easy to say it wouldn't bother me because it would NEVER happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I wouldn't mind if my DH posted. He just wouldn't. He has told me that he likes that I have you guys for support. He totally gets why I hang here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Would not mind at all... but dh is more a lurker and tends to spend most of his time on climbing/bouldering boards and Fark. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crissy Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I can't imagine my husband having any interest in an internet message board. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I voted no. I wouldn't mind if he came here. He wouldn't though. Like some of the others said, my dh isn't a talker. HOWEVER, he totally supports me being here. I apologized to him one day when I'd spent an especially long amount of time on here and didn't get much done in the house. He said, "You don't need to apologize! I think it's great that you have that outlet. I have things I enjoy doing that you support, so the same goes here!":001_wub::001_tt1: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abbeyej Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 Dh posted on the old WTM boards on occasion when I would direct him to a thread where I thought he could offer some expertise or other... I can't imagine him getting caught up in all the hen-clucking that goes on here (that I rather enjoy, at least sometimes, lol), but I certainly didn't mind when posted in the past. He does have a board of his own. It's for enthusiasts for a particular make of camera. (Yawn.) But he doesn't spend the (ridiculous amount of) time there that I do here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plaid Dad Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I wish mine would post more often. She's a smart, interesting woman, and I think you all would like her. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I have this "thing" ~ and I admit up front that it's illogical ~ about the concept of a guy hanging out on a discussion board ~ particularly one frequented almost exclusively by women. Is it fair of me to allow myself the time to sit here and chat, but desire that my husband not do so? Of course not! And perhaps this is Good Reason #194 as far as why I'm married to the guy I'm married to. He wouldn't sit in front of the computer at all (okay, he did a few hours ago, in order to watch a Euro Cup game;)), much less spend his time on a forum. And I'm glad of that. And I'm glad he doesn't care if I do spend time here.:tongue_smilie: Ditto. Mine would be in big trouble if he wanted to chat with ladies all day. He feels it's inappropriate. And VERY boring. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangermom Posted June 15, 2008 Share Posted June 15, 2008 I think my husband is registered here, but he doesn't read these boards unless I tell him to. No, I wouldn't mind. We used to both belong to one general-topic board. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Ditto. Mine would be in big trouble if he wanted to chat with ladies all day. He feels it's inappropriate. And VERY boring.I can understand that to a degree. If mine DID get on here, he'd mostly relate to Plaid Dad and any other man that's here! His eyes would glaze over if he had to read most of the stuff we chat about! :D And, as you stated, he's not into spending time with any other woman than me! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemyboys Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I can't imagine my husband having any interest in an internet message board. he probably appreciates the occasional recipe or the homeschool support that I get here. But he's not a big internet guy and he sure wouldn't want to hang on a message board, just not his style. If he were, I guess I'd like for him to have his own boards to go to rather than hang around mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 It is a VW TDI forum, and he says there is sometimes just as much drama there as here. I don't think dh would be interested in hanging out here in the least, but if he did, I wouldn't care. At least here, if anyone got the least bit inappropriate, I would know in a heart beat! Dh isn't an Internet 'chatty' kind of guy. He is on the computer and phone all day at work so the last thing he would want to do is sit at a computer and chat some more! He is more of an 'information' surfer. Right now he is spending a lot of time researching solar energy. Other than that, he avoids the computer. I even have to tell him he has a email most of the time, usually after it has sat unopened for a week or two. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 My husband probably would not post here or read here for that matter, but I would not mind of he did. A couple of times there have been questions asked here where I asked for his input on what to say. In those instances he didn't say, "Ooohh can I post it?" or "Can I read it?" He'll give his input and that's it. He will listen to the funny stories that I share from here. He just has a hard time keeping y'all straight, though.:001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ticklbee Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I wouldn't mind at all but I'm totally sure he would never post here. My dh doesn't even know how to turn the computer on! And that's not an exaggeration. Dh and electronics just do not mix. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennifersLost Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 It would bug me. Know why? Because as far as I'm concerned he dragged me here to this town where I can NOT be myself, so I need to have some places (here, my other board) where I can be myself to the MAX. This is my territory. I will report back to him interesting tidbits, but if he started hanging out here it would change how I post and I would have to find somewhere new to go. Do we need help, LOL? Yes we do. But this is how we handle our vastly different temperaments - I get some virtual places to blow off steam and be silly in ways I can't do in real life. He has his own boards, anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rich with Kids Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 (here, my other board) Um...I'm sorry? Other board? I feel dirty... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
genie Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I would actually really like it if my husband took more of an interest in general in the things I spend my mental energies on. Not necessarily the fun, silly, general board threads. But I would like it if he were more into education, curriculum, philosophy, homeschooling ideologies, etc., to the point that he had opinions he wanted to express here. But that's not who he is, and he lets me be who I am, so I can't complain. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenschooler Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Well, if he had the slightest interest in making curriculum choices or the 'how to's' of homeschooling, I could see it. Otherwise, it would just be hangin' with the ladies, and I don't think he needs to do that. He has his own friends, and he never uses the internet, anyway. I do share with him the memorable threads here, and he'll often tell me to post this or that - something completely inappropriate and tacky! No, he'd better not ever post here - I'd be kicked off the board. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 No, I don't want my husband here. Nope, nope, nope. Besides, before the internet was invented he used to have to listen to me drone on about curriculum and wave catalogs in his face. He is glad there is somewhere else for this to go on and he doesn't have to know anything about our homeschooling except for the important questions (How much is this going to cost me? How high do you think that ACT score will be?) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragons in the flower bed Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I wouldn't mind if he participated. In fact, it'd be kind of neat to see him developing opinions about education and parenting, areas he's left up to me. I often bring up General Board topics with him (moreso than I discuss them on the General Board), and his opinions are very interesting. I think you would like arguing with him. He is leery of forums in general, though. Someone once wrote an entire poem on the Def Poetry boards accusing him of making up fake identities to post under, in praise of himself. I happened upon it and was so very tempted to get all mama bear and explain to them what idiots they are. He asked me to leave it alone, and told me that sort of drama is why he doesn't ever post in message boards. Our rep system makes him giggle. So, I don't think he'd want to be here even if he were obsessed by the ins and outs of classical education. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I voted no. My DH doesn't read or post here but I would love if he did. I'm often sharing many of the posts with him anyway. :) My DH has other interests on the computer and spends as much time online as I do. We sit in our living room with our laptops so we're together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate CA Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 but I'm glad my guy isn't into chatting online with babes. LOL But the question remains... Is he training to be a cage fighter? :D:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colleen Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 But the question remains... Is he training to be a cage fighter? :D:tongue_smilie: You're not drinking 1%, are you? 'cuz you could be drinking whole if you wanted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peela Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 Lol, I often tell my dh about things that come up here, and he often tells me what to respond to them! lets just say, I would not respond like he does....he actually enjoys stirring big time. So, if he did come onto these boards, I wouldn't mind, because I am not so attached to this board as an exclusive outlet for myself, but it probably would change my responses to things. I might word things differently, not respond to posts I now respond to (hey, like the 'conversation post') , or then again, maybe it wouldn't change me. I am not sure. But overall, no, it wouldn't bother me, but it's not really an issue thats likely to come up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trivium Academy Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I wouldn't mind if he were able to participate in a productive way, if he were just coming on to 'chat' then I'd be concerned but since he would be participating on the same board I am I don't think there would be a problem. I can't tell you how thrilled I'd be if I could just get him to read a homeschool book, so I see him participating on the board as a positive thing! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kate CA Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 You're not drinking 1%, are you? 'cuz you could be drinking whole if you wanted. HA! And since you live on a farm the burning question for this AM is... Do the chickens have large talons? :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I wouldn't mind if DH read or posted on these boards. There is no way he would do that, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamao32001 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 :iagree: I voted no, but Bud would never, ever post here or anywhere else. I think he is vaguely confuzzled by the time I spend here and on my blog (which he also never reads). So, while I voted no, it's easy to say it wouldn't bother me because it would NEVER happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jill- OK Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I can't imagine my husband having any interest in an internet message board. I can't either. (Imagine my husband having an interest in one, that is.) I think (don't get mad at him, ladies and gents) that my husband sees this board as a great way for me to chat with other talkative ladies (not disregarding you gentlemen, just commenting about the majority of the population here being female) about...things he has absolutely no interest in. :) So it provides both he and me with a valuable service. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli in TN Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I can't either. (Imagine my husband having an interest in one, that is.) I think (don't get mad at him, ladies and gents) that my husband sees this board as a great way for me to chat with other talkative ladies (not disregarding you gentlemen, just commenting about the majority of the population here being female) about...things he has absolutely no interest in. :) So it provides both he and me with a valuable service. The first time I met gardenschooler my husband said to her husband "Remember how it was before the internet? Thank God for the internet!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa4917 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 My husband posts here and since I've mainly been a lurker anyway, it doesn't bother me. Besides, he can debate things here that I don't have the time/interest/mental energy to discuss with him! It is kind of funny now that he'll mention someone from the boards but he doesn't have to clarify that she's from the boards because we both know automatically. Yeah. We need lives. Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KAR120C Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I do share with him the memorable threads here, and he'll often tell me to post this or that - something completely inappropriate and tacky! No, he'd better not ever post here - I'd be kicked off the board. :lol: Mine too -- his posting style would be a bit too abrasive for here I think ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa4917 Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 I learned years ago that I am not responsible for my husband's behavior-in real life or online!!!! Abrasive posting style? I can't imagine...:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenschooler Posted June 16, 2008 Share Posted June 16, 2008 The first time I met gardenschooler my husband said to her husband "Remember how it was before the internet? Thank God for the internet!" Your dh is a HOOT!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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