Kari C in SC Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 (edited) My poor dh has been having the hardest time since Timmy died. Before all of this happened, he was studying for his CDL license that he needs for work. He is a mechanic for the state and has to have his license even though he won't be driving a truck. Anyway, he has forgotten much of the pre-trip safety stuff that he has to have memorized. He took a mock test today and didn't do so great. He will be taking the real test on Tuesday with the pre-trip safety and actual driving. If he doesn't pass by the end of the month, they can terminate his employment. He is beyond stressed that he can't remember all the stuff he knew very well just 2 months ago. It is just all the stress caving in on him. If you could pray for him to relearn and test well on Tuesday, I would great appreciate it. Thank you so much! ETA - His name is Tim. =) Edited July 10, 2010 by Kari C in SC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I'll be praying.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pie Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Prayers going up! Pie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 nt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 PRaying for him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I'm praying now. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 (edited) I will certainly pray for him. :grouphug: Kari, I hope this isn't taken as it isn't intended (my sister's husband was killed in an accident and her job performance certainly was severely impacted all on it's own) but I had a maybe not helpful thought. Is he struggling with solid sleep since Timmy's death? I'm just thought maybe if he is pharmacological sleep aids might help him some with the studying issues he's having if he can get rested-maybe enough to be able to pass. My husband and I will be praying for clarity of mind for him as he prepares and we'll share the request with others as well. Edited July 10, 2010 by sbgrace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyable Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 2 thoughts here: Make an emergency plan. Decide how much he can reasonably study & retain in one day. Let him study for 30 minutes, then quiz him. Sometimes it helps to have a second person actively participate even though he has to retain and reproduce the material. If he is not able to grieve and study at the same time (he may well be thinking what drivel this stuff is compared to the agony he is experiencing), can he approach the supervisor and ask for an extension to take the test at a later time? Let him be honest and say: My son just died. I need some time to get through this. May I take the test on...? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug: Lifting Tim before the Lord in prayer! May God bless you all with peace and strength during this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying for you and your dh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KLynnTX Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying for both of y'all... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkle Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying, Kari. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Prayers here too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying for Tim! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katemary63 Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 say: My son just died. I need some time to get through this. May I take the test on...? :iagree:I can't imagine compassion won't win out on this one. And no matter the result, please let your DH know that what he's experiencing is beyond understandable. I pray your faith will see you through this terrible time. God bless you and your DH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caitilin Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: Prayers for you and him. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gooblink Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Lifting Tim and your whole family in prayers.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i.love.lucy Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laughing lioness Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I am praying for you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: Praying :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Food4Thought Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: Praying for Tim, and for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers, I cannot imagine your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying for both of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
runmiarun Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying for y'all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
juelle Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I will certainly pray for him. :grouphug: Kari, I hope this isn't taken as it isn't intended (my sister's husband was killed in an accident and her job performance certainly was severely impacted all on it's own) but I had a maybe not helpful thought. Is he struggling with solid sleep since Timmy's death? I'm just thought maybe if he is pharmacological sleep aids might help him some with the studying issues he's having if he can get rested-maybe enough to be able to pass. My husband and I will be praying for clarity of mind for him as he prepares and we'll share the request with others as well. Kari, I'm praying for your dh, too. And I agree with the idea that he may need some help to rest and clear his mind. My aunt described living in grief as 'swimming in molasses'. You try to keep moving, but everything feels so hard. After my son died, I once drove away from the gas pump with the nozzle still in my tank. Ripped the hose right off. I just wasn't tracking, kwim? Anyway, your dh may need meds to sleep, or he could try Rescue Remedy, which is more (very) natural. I also looked at the individual Bach Flower Remedies and used 3 of them to help with recurring bad dreams and restless sleep. May God give your dh rest and clarity, and provide all you need. Blessings...:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Adding my prayers. And for you, Kari. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1dawn Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I'm praying, too. Hugs... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying. May God bless you and comfort you and give your hearts rest at this time. I can't imagine the pain. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 :grouphug: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 My prayers for you husband. I can't even imagine doing what he is having to do while being so overwhelmed by grief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying here. I agree with others. Can he approach whatever power might be and ask for an extension? I can't think that the father of a fallen soldier could/would be denied. I know how disrupted my ability to focus, remember, track anything is when either I haven't slept for a few days and/or my physical pain is through the roof...I can't imagine how you guys are managing to just keep standing, let alone for him to try and study for a test right now :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kari C in SC Posted July 10, 2010 Author Share Posted July 10, 2010 Praying here. I agree with others. Can he approach whatever power might be and ask for an extension? I can't think that the father of a fallen soldier could/would be denied. I know how disrupted my ability to focus, remember, track anything is when either I haven't slept for a few days and/or my physical pain is through the roof...I can't imagine how you guys are managing to just keep standing, let alone for him to try and study for a test right now :grouphug: They did give him an extension from the end of June to the end of July. I do not know if they will extend it further. It really is not helping him that Timmy's accident was with a double semi. When he drives it just makes him so nervous. He never planned to need a CDL. He is a great mechanic - not a truck driver. He has to have this to move semis in and out of the work area. He is talking about moving his test a week, but that will only give him one week left to retest if need be. I am worn out thinking about it. At the same time, we are having to get new renters in our Florida house. My tenants moved out today and I have heard my house is not in good shape. I am just praying that is not the case. I am so ready to hide in my closet for a few days. Thank you for all the prayers. I do think they are helping or I would be a hysterical mess right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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