I still stand by my thoughts that if Pense wants to have a hard and fast rule, he is allowed to do so.
However, I did comment in that thread that I saw nothing wrong with meeting with a coworker for lunch, esp. at a situation where you don't know anyone else, like a conference, etc.....
Yesterday a male teacher, who had my job last year, emailed me to ask how things were going and said, "Let's meet up for coffee and you can fill me in."
I forgot we had met up before school started so he could tell me all about what my job would be like, what to do, etc......We met just the two of us, in a very public place (mall food court.) He is a single older man, and I have actually wondered if he is straight, but haven't asked.
it didn't even phase me, I said, "Sure, let's meet up." DH knows about it and commented that it was a good idea since we are both looking for new positions next year and need to get info on the schools, what we have learned in our searches, etc....... We will meet in a public place, and because of where we both work, meeting up at a school site isn't possible.
And then this morning, I thought, "Oh gosh! What about THE thread?" Maybe this IS supposed to phase me.
It still doesn't by the way.