Rose in BC Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Long story but both my boys are friends with a boy who comes from a troubled home and has been tossed back and forth through parents, grandparents, even homelessness . . .literally. My dh has never cared for the boy and while I too was nervous about the boy but tried to be nice thinking its better to keep him close at hand where I can see everything. Well after a series of events we had enough and have laid down the law..no hanging with this dude. So tonight said boy called home. I asked him nicely to not call back or come around the house anymore unless he heard otherwise from us. He asked why. I confronted him with the things I knew and he denied everything. Long story short I put him on speaker phone, for the benefit of my son, where he proceeded to call my son a liar and me a hoar. Well dh heard conversation and lambasted boy telling him never to talk to me like that again and to never come to the house again...very loudly. Boy said he was calling police because we were threatening him....we said please do. We'd welcome it. This boy is a known vandal...last summer when my husband confronted him boy was angry and slashed our tires. (Can't prove it but know it.). We are afraid he will try something tonight. So can we ask for prayers. Prayers for our safety, our son's safety (he threatened to beat up son), our property and for intervention for this out of control youth who currently lives with his grandma who is done. Tired and fed up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 praying... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Prayers. I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Praying. I am sorry you are dealing with this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Praying here -- I hope he doesn't do anything!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Praying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Prayed for you all. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Praying for you and for him. I've been on both sides and it stinks. Only he can decide to change; hopefully his g-ma can find him some help to convince him to do so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Impish Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 I'd call the police. He threatened your ds w/physical harm. That's an indictable offence. Plus, it gives the police a head's up, in case something *does* happen to your property. W/him being on speaker phone, you have witnesses to what was said. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Prayers. I agree that a pre-emptive call to the police would be a good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 Checking in to see how last night went... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Rose in BC Posted January 7, 2013 Author Share Posted January 7, 2013 Thanks for your prayers and thoughts. Nothing happened. It helps that it was snowing all night. I had a rough sleep. And honestly I don't know how this is going to end. It's the peril of living in a small town. It's not easy to avoid someone even if you want to. Couple that with the fact that my own boys have FASD and don't always fully understand things. And that this boy lives with his grandma who told me yesterday (I called her to tell her what had transpired...she knows her gs is troubled) she will be leaving town this week and hasn't figured out what to do with her gs. It's disheartening, overwhelming . . . We have enough troubles of our own dealing with our special needs boys. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrookValley. Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 I woud definitely call the non-emergency line to your local police--at least talk to them to see what kind of ideas they have for you. It also won't hurt to have some sort of record started with the authorities in case something does happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 I didn't see this last night. I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. I'm glad nothing happened last night but I know what it's like feeling like you are just waiting for the fall. :( Your family is in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted January 7, 2013 Author Share Posted January 7, 2013 I will call the local detachment today. Ironically his grandma encouraged me to do this too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted January 7, 2013 Share Posted January 7, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Rose, I'm sorry your family is dealing with this, and hope and pray things work out well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose in BC Posted January 8, 2013 Author Share Posted January 8, 2013 Did talk to police tonight. i feel a bit better except some other disturbing details have been disclosed to me. my dh wants to stay up again tonight but really he could strike any night. Eventually we just have to risk going to bed at our normal time. The officer asked if we were afraid. I said yes!! Thanks for the advice and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 What a terrible position to be in. Prayers for safe resolution. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 Praying for your safety!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 Praying for you & your family! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Troubled, violent teens are scary. So sorry your family is dealing with this. Do you live in an area where the police can cruise by and check on things at night? Just if they are not busy, just to see if all is well, from the street? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 Praying for you and your family... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 what an awful situation to be in. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 I know it is an expense, but could you set up a security camera set up to cover the area your vehicles are in? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 What a horrible situation. I'll be praying for safety for your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 Cont. prayers. Did talk to police tonight. i feel a bit better except some other disturbing details have been disclosed to me. my dh wants to stay up again tonight but really he could strike any night. Eventually we just have to risk going to bed at our normal time. The officer asked if we were afraid. I said yes!! Thanks for the advice and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhschool Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 Just prayed for you that you will be protected every night. I had some ideas, though--I think the one above about installing a security camera is a great idea. You can even put some cheap ones on your property that work ike this: You put a very thin thread (sewing thread) attached to it across say, your driveway, and if someone crosses it a very loud alarm goes off. Those must be under $10 and don't hurt anyone (you have to use sewing thread so the thread just breaks and doesn't trip anyone up.) Also for your windows--we have some alarms that sense shock to the windows-- if someone breaks or tries to open it they go off. They were very inexpensive and are very tiny--they self-stick to the windows. Of course you should have a good padlock on the door and should be locking your doors, windows, and cars. Maybe some "Trespassers Will Be Prosecuted" signs on your property? but you would have to check with your homeowners association to see if they are allowed. Make sure you always carry your charged cellphone and make sure your children have cellphones with them to call for help in case of anything starting to happen. Of course, have your children in places you know and don't leave them alone in the park until the situation calms down. I know this is all a lot, but at least you feel like you are doing something, which is better than worrying. Can you get a restraining order? It doesn't guarantee your safety, but it sends a message to the troubled person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhschool Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 At the risk of sounding too extreme can I suggest that maybe you and your children could consider self-defence classes? I am always on the side of women and kids knowing how to defend themselves instead of being afraid. (Some things you can't protect against of course and you shouldn't go walking in shady neighborhoods, dark alleys, etc.) You may never need it but there is no harm in it. And it may come in handy even for other occasions (but God forbid there will be such occasions!) I always took the women's self defence classes while I was in college and I think it's good for kids to know how to release from a hold and run! Of course I don't know the extent of your kids' special needs and don't know if it would worry them unduly... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 8, 2013 Share Posted January 8, 2013 I'm so sorry. One suggestion I haven't seen is outdoor lighting. Most people who do things don't like having lots of light. You can even install motion detectors that will set off super bright outdoor lights aimed aound the property. that can attract attention from neighbors as well and should discourage anyone from doing harm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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