Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 That being said, there have been times, many times, when I have responded to a thread and someone else will say essentially what I said but only her response will get rave reviews and my essentially the same answer will be ignored --that's what you mean, isn't it? :iagree: You are not alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Maybe you could try adding a little "P.S." to every comment with something like your opinion on wearing shoes in the house, or teA, or BooKs, or kilts, and you might receive more of a response! :D I totally understand what you mean! There are many times I've felt invisible. I agree with AuntieM - I started thinking of the forum more as a bulletin board. When I've started a thread, I've definitely tried replying to everyone who responded, but I also didn't want to appear as though I was just trying to bump up my own thread. :tongue_smilie: Go ahead. Bump up your own thread. This place moves so fast sometimes that is what one has to do to get replies. Sometimes it pays to be self-serving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :iagree: You are not alone. THAT would explain the other voices. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I've noticed it too. This is a chilly board for certain. What puzzles me is that I have so much in common with many women here, but nobody seems interested in being friendly with me even in the message board sense. Some of the babycenter and citydata boards are a little warmer, you might want to check them out. Although the babycenter crowd can be wanting in brain cells... I was just reading a thread where a woman was warned not to go out in the texas heat-- or her breastmilk would spoil :001_huh:. Oh. My. Goodness. Where do people get these ideas? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :grouphug: I really DO try to acknowledge everyone because I feel the same as you in that it's just the nice thing to do. Some days I don't hit my mark, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I used to think I was on a lot of people's ignore lists. :D I tend to only respond if I really have something to add even if it's showing support for someone who is out-numbered. So, I'm not a very frequent poster and I tend to not put out a lot of detail so I figure people may not "know" me as well as some others. Unless I'm already cranky, it usually doesn't bother me anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Oh yes, the LIKE button would be sooooo nice! I wish we could get that feature here. We had that feature here. It wasn't pretty. :glare: PS: for some reason I know you as Lucinda instead of your username. How weird is that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Hey, I wanna be exceptional too!!!:tongue_smilie: You are. I think the word Imp is looking for isn't exceptional, it is infamous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 You are!:D You made me feel so 'normal' b/c I was stressing about how long to wait till I called back a school where I had left a message a week ago. I called them this a.m. The secretary (a friend told me to ask for her - so I mentioned the friend's name and that kind of opened a door) was very nice, and told me what they wanted me to do so I have done it and now I can wait till next week and see what happens. I HATE the phone. LOL! I sooo hate the phone, too! Glad to hear it worked out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :grouphug: I really DO try to acknowledge everyone because I feel the same as you in that it's just the nice thing to do. Some days I don't hit my mark, though. I've noticed that you do that!!! :) And...you always hit the mark!;) I used to think I was on a lot of people's ignore lists. :D Wouldn't THAT get us banned? Start a thread where everyone posts whose ignore list they think they are on.:lol::lol::lol: be respond if I really have something to add even if it's showing support for someone who is out-numbered. So, I'm not a very frequent poster and I tend to not put out a lot of detail so I figure people may not "know" me as well as some others. Unless I'm already cranky, it usually doesn't bother me anymore. in blue -- THAT is SO me!!!!!!:lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Without having taken a poll or anything I think you might be reading too much into your user name. We've had several well-loved people here of Arabic descent and practicing Muslims. It is just the nature of the beast (message boards) that people sometimes feel ignored.[/QUOTE] :iagree: and i said those very words: the nature of the message board. Didn't you read it?????? huh?????? Not until after I posted. I went post by post. Yours came after... Now who was it I quoted back there? ... that other person's post. :lol::lol::lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 THAT would explain the other voices. :D Yes. Yes, it would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSMom2One Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 We had that feature here. It wasn't pretty. :glare: PS: for some reason I know you as Lucinda instead of your username. How weird is that? I've not been here as long as many others, so I can't relate to the way things were on the old boards. I hate to ask, but how could a LIKE feature get ugly? Oh, I almost always sign the same way, and my name's kind of unusual....that must be it. :D Blessings, Lucinda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I've not been here as long as many others, so I can't relate to the way things were on the old boards. I hate to ask, but how could a LIKE feature get ugly? Oh, I almost always sign the same way, and my name's kind of unusual....that must be it. :D Blessings, Lucinda It turned into an ugly popularity contest. It wasn't just a like button, but giving rep points to posters. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I've not been here as long as many others, so I can't relate to the way things were on the old boards. I hate to ask, but how could a LIKE feature get ugly? Oh, I almost always sign the same way, and my name's kind of unusual....that must be it. :D Blessings, Lucinda Oh, it wasn't on the old boards. Not too long after I officially joined there were the little green squares. Remember them? They became used similar to a high school popularity contest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Free Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Gently, to answer your original question, yes it's a waste of time to post here. Sometimes, all I really feel like doing is wasting time, so it's perfect. However, don't look to this board for personal affirmation or to feel noticed and valued. You will not find that here. If you never posted again, the vast majority of the people on here wouldn't notice (they wouldn't notice me either). Don't feel bad about that! Just realize the truth of it. Do NOT invest emotionally into being affirmed here. This is not the place to find your value. If you did get your affirmation here, I would call that unhealthy. I have had seasons when I invested too much (time, emotions, ect) into an Internet board, just to realize that it was pointless. It helps to take breaks. Maybe some time away from the board is in order? ((hugs)) I agree with this 100%. There are so many threads and posts I read, and I don't respond to every one of them, not even to all the ones I find inspiring. There is always someone reading and gleaning something useful from all the collective knowledge of the forum members. We may bookmark, or tag or subscribe to an interesting conversation, print out inspiring posts to put up on the fridge door - but not always respond. Does not mean your post is not being read. Discussion forums are full of lurkers. That is just the way it is. I appreciate those who do take out the time to share their wisdom and knowledge. I don't consider their time wasted for doing so...rather I think of their work as a generous service. And I try to give back by participating in threads where I may have something useful to share. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Not until after I posted. I went post by post. Yours came after... Now who was it I quoted back there? ... that other person's post. :lol::lol::lol: so funny!:lol::lol::lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSMom2One Posted June 20, 2012 Author Share Posted June 20, 2012 Maybe you could try adding a little "P.S." to every comment with something like your opinion on wearing shoes in the house, or teA, or BooKs, or kilts, and you might receive more of a response! :D Hmmm....I'll have to try that. Blessings, Lucinda P.S. The only time I allow dh to wear his shoes in the house is when he's got his kilt on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeslieAnneLevine Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Anyone else have Flight of the Conchords "Hurt Feelings" running through their head? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Oh, it wasn't on the old boards. Not too long after I officially joined there were the little green squares. Remember them? They became used similar to a high school popularity contest. Yes, I remember them. and i don't recall exactly, but if you only gave someone '1' square or whatever it was, is was kind of demeaning, wasn't it? I got here at the same time, i think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) Of course I'm often wasting time here. lol I'm ashamed. It's a guilty pleasure. I've learned a lot, but I mostly yak about subjects not terribly related to hsing. I think most of us have posted at times and not gotten many responses; especially if you're not posting controversial topics. Edited June 20, 2012 by LibraryLover Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 so funny!:lol::lol::lol: Whew! You got the joke. Good! Often times they fall flat because of my weird sense of humor. Okay, I'm not ignoring anyone or ditching the thread. I have to go clean upstairs. My bathroom looks like a toxic waste pit. :grouphug: To anyone who feels ignored. You really aren't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Sometimes I have nothing to add. Sometimes I don't know that what I have to say is productive (one post just yesterday conjured up some major snark in my head which just didn't need to come out! :tongue_smilie:) Sometimes I just don't relate. Often times I post and no one notices or comments.....could be any of the above 3 reasons I suppose! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I am on a couple of boards with those. I hate it! Oh, it wasn't on the old boards. Not too long after I officially joined there were the little green squares. Remember them? They became used similar to a high school popularity contest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :iagree: and i said those very words: the nature of the message board. Didn't you read it?????? huh?????? Uh oh. She's got her Lucy on! You are. I think the word Imp is looking for isn't exceptional, it is infamous. Takes one to know one :001_tt2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 You are. I think the word Imp is looking for isn't exceptional, it is infamous. LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Yes. Yes, it would. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I know I don't do well with conveying my thoughts and opinions in writing. Well, I don't do the best in person either but at least people can see you then and you have facial expressions. I often post and am ignored, like many. Sometimes I write things and then someone else writes something that sounds the same to me but someone else says it better. Sometimes, though very rarely, I get lucky though and am actually brilliant (joke :) ). I find these boards cold as well, you just never know where a conversation will go. One week the group will be on one side and the next on the other. It is an enigma to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) Anyone else have Flight of the Conchords "Hurt Feelings" running through their head? :lol: Thanks for the laugh! "It takes a long time to prepare a casserole..." :lol::lol::lol::lol: Edited June 20, 2012 by Alte Veste Academy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Laurie Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) . Edited June 20, 2012 by Annie Laurie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 There are literally hundreds and hundreds of members on this board. Try not to take it personally. I'm pretty sure no one is ignoring you on purpose. I have a copy of the "secretly shunned list" and you're not on it. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I've noticed it too. This is a chilly board for certain. What puzzles me is that I have so much in common with many women here, but nobody seems interested in being friendly with me even in the message board sense. Some of the babycenter and citydata boards are a little warmer, you might want to check them out. Although the babycenter crowd can be wanting in brain cells... I was just reading a thread where a woman was warned not to go out in the texas heat-- or her breastmilk would spoil :001_huh:. I am sorry that is the impression you have -- I hope you stick around and maybe a more positive impression can take its place.:) I just want to say that just like IRL, there are some very nice people here -- people who sent me preemie hats for my dd's two little boys who died in utero at 26 weeks (two different pregnancies) -- Those women touched my family at a time when we so needed comfort and kindness. And, remember Scarlett's Quilt -- good grief, I don't even know how many quilt squares were sent to me and finally sent to Scarlett - but there is a sub group with photos of many of them if not all. Amazingly busy women I am going to single out Aubrey and AuntieM - and don't all go getting your knickers in a twist) who made gorgeous quit squares along with so many others. And, when Stephanie (bike, book, bread)'s husband had surgery on his ankle and she was living here in Va without any family around - people sent postcards to her little girls, gift cards so I could bring meals, and I showed up with about a week's worth of meals. And, Kari - when Kari's dear sweet Timmy was killed in a car accident, women from this board travelled to Fl to his funeral...and donations were made by so many people on this board to a charity of Kari's choice. And, Molly -- may she rest in peace. Molly and my dd32 emailed each other for months about ways for Molly to recuperate from the devastating effects of her chemo. I was devastated when Molly died; my daughter sobbed. And, me -- I have not ever been let down when I have come here asking for prayers/positive thoughts for me or my family. If one person is pulling for me, that is great because it is one more than i had before asking here. And, I don't want to mis-speak -- I think that people have been as helpful as distance allows in Joanne's situation. And, PP (aka A) when she moved and was in a rather difficult situation. And countless other situations. A message board is as we have posted, an odd sort of beast. But I think that its true character, albeit, the character of its members, comes through in a time of need. And i think that as far as virtual 'friends,' the women here have done what they can when they were asked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I realize that I'm coming to this thread a little late in the game, and really have nothing new to add. But I wanted to say I know you, Lucinda! Actually, most of the posters I "know" are those who haven't changed their avatars much. I guess I'm just easily confused!:D I remember the little green boxes! I always thought it looked like a cell phone signal indicator. Alas! They were removed before I had a chance to earn more than a couple! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I'm used to it. I figure my post was read but no one has anything to add to it, especially when threads are longish. It would make threads so much longer to respond to everyone. And yes, I'll confess that when I do see someone who has responded by quoting me, I get a little thrill. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oasis Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Hmmm....I'll have to try that. Blessings, Lucinda P.S. The only time I allow dh to wear his shoes in the house is when he's got his kilt on. LOL! That was a good one. Sounds like appropriate teA party attire! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 There are literally hundreds and hundreds of members on this board. Try not to take it personally. I'm pretty sure no one is ignoring you on purpose. I have a copy of the "secretly shunned list" and you're not on it. ;) *wonders if it's the same list as she has* All joking aside... I've been through some incredibly difficult times irl since I joined here. I've been incredibly blessed by members here. I had to undergo major dental surgery. Major. A sub group was set up, Mariann formed a prayer list for me, Perry sent some things for my kids to keep them busy and happily occupied during recovery time, (plus a jar of Nutella! :lol:) Members have prayed for me so many times, sent me PMs of support, understanding... When I was pregnant w/Boo, I had a LOT of fears. My RSD could complicate things all to h*ll, and nobody, none of the specialists, could even give a reasonable guess as to what could/might happen. Women here not only listened to me whine, freak out, lose my mind, but patiently continued to pray, offer support, give me a pat on the back or a kick in the behind as needed. And they waited, w/far more interest and excitement than I'd ever experienced from family members, for news that Boo was born, safe and healthy. And then Wolf was up for his job, that would mean moving out of the city, something we'd longed for forever. Members here again were the cheering section, offering prayers and asking excitedly for updates, having a full on celebratory WOO HOO when we finally had confirmation that he'd gotten the job. So, I can honestly and truly say that no, I don't find this group cold in the slightest. And my life is so much more blessed thanks to the members here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Crockpots Shopping carts People on assistance buying lobster and steak. Barak Obama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I do wish we had agree buttons (like on Ravelry) - it would make it easier to let someone know that their post has been read and appreciated. Except then people would post about not getting as many 'likes' as other posters. :tongue_smilie: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 . And yes, I'll confess that when I do see someone who has responded by quoting me, I get a little thrill. :D :iagree: (No, really, I do agree!- Your excitement at seeing your name in quotes is just an added bonus!;)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oasis Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) I am sorry that is the impression you have -- I hope you stick around and maybe a more positive impression can take its place.:) I just want to say that just like IRL, there are some very nice people here -- people who sent me preemie hats for my dd's two little boys who died in utero at 26 weeks (two different pregnancies) -- Those women touched my family at a time when we so needed comfort and kindness. And, remember Scarlett's Quilt -- good grief, I don't even know how many quilt squares were sent to me and finally sent to Scarlett - but there is a sub group with photos of many of them if not all. Amazingly busy women I am going to single out Aubrey and AuntieM - and don't all go getting your knickers in a twist) who made gorgeous quit squares along with so many others. And, when Stephanie (bike, book, bread)'s husband had surgery on his ankle and she was living here in Va without any family around - people sent postcards to her little girls, gift cards so I could bring meals, and I showed up with about a week's worth of meals. And, Kari - when Kari's dear sweet Timmy was killed in a car accident, women from this board travelled to Fl to his funeral...and donations were made by so many people on this board to a charity of Kari's choice. And, Molly -- may she rest in peace. Molly and my dd32 emailed each other for months about ways for Molly to recuperate from the devastating effects of her chemo. I was devastated when Molly died; my daughter sobbed. And, me -- I have not ever been let down when I have come here asking for prayers/positive thoughts for me or my family. If one person is pulling for me, that is great because it is one more than i had before asking here. And, I don't want to mis-speak -- I think that people have been as helpful as distance allows in Joanne's situation. And, PP (aka A) when she moved and was in a rather difficult situation. And countless other situations. A message board is as we have posted, an odd sort of beast. But I think that its true character, albeit, the character of its members, comes through in a time of need. And i think that as far as virtual 'friends,' the women here have done what they can when they were asked. Awwww... I know I'm not one of the regulars on the board, but that was such a sweet post! :grouphug: Edited June 20, 2012 by oasis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Except then people would post about not getting as many 'likes' as other posters. :tongue_smilie: .Well, I would for sure. :lol::lol::lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Awwww... I know I'm not one of the regulars on the board, but that was such a sweet post! :grouphug: Why, thank you!!!!!:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 .Well, I would for sure. :lol::lol::lol: And I'll bet you have five good reasons why, too! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Okay, I'm not ignoring anyone or ditching the thread. I have to go clean upstairs. My bathroom looks like a toxic waste pit. Gee, thanks for reminding me that I need to clean mine too. I would so much rather stay here and chat! Well, I guess that's why my bathrooms get so dirty in the first place! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) Okay, maybe I'm too sensitive...but I can't help but open up this conversation. I've been posting here for a few years now, and although I don't post nearly as often as others, I think I'm known by at least a few as a "regular" by now. I mostly just read the boards and have learned more here than from any homeschool group I could have ever joined irl. I love the Hive, but there's an aspect that has bothered me for a long time now. The problem is that when I do take the time to post in reply to someone's thread I quite often feel completely ignored in the conversation. Can anyone relate to what I'm saying here, or is it just me? Having this happen is like being at a social gathering trying to join in conversations, but no one will talk to you or even respond to your comments. It's like standing in the middle of a party, drink in hand, yet no one acknowledges that you're even there. I tell you, there are times that I feel all alone in a sea of people. Once in awhile I get positive feedback on suggestions I make, curriculum I've had success with, etc. But it's the joining in on conversations that have already started that I get bugged the most about. (NOTE: Quite often when I start a thread I do get wonderful support and replies, so I'm not feeling COMPLETELY ignored. :D) Because of this I have a couple of suggestions to consider: If someone has chimed in with something nice to say or input to add to the conversation, maybe once in awhile try to acknowledge that they're there. If someone takes time to share about a curriculum or offer suggestions of some sort, at least let them know that their efforts in sharing are appreciated. This may come across as self-centered, I realize, but I really don't mean it to be so. I'm just saying how I feel at times, and I wonder if there are others that often feel ignored as well. Blessings, Lucinda Hi Lucinda. I understand. I'm not as sensitive, I guess, and just figure that people are either really busy or that someone else just said essentially what I said, so it doesn't get acknowledged because the first one got acknowledged. I'm sorry you feel ignored and I wanted to say HI! :grouphug::auto::D Edited June 20, 2012 by TranquilMind Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Awwww... I know I'm not one of the regulars on the board, but that was such a sweet post! :grouphug: Agreed! I've always enjoyed her posts. And what a memory...I'm in awe!:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have to say, being here has certainly added some diversity to our vocabulary around the house. Wolf asking if I feel like a spot of TeA. Wolf asking what's for dinner and being told, 'Kraft dinner and cranberry sauce!' :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Yes, I can totally relate. I don't take it personally, but I'd probably respond more if it felt more conversational/interactive. I don't know anyone on the board IRL (although there are a few characters here I wish were my homeschooling neighbors :D). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :iagree: (No, really, I do agree!- Your excitement at seeing your name in quotes is just an added bonus!;)) :lol:Woo! I can start our school day now. All is well with my world. :tongue_smilie: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 HUH? Crockpots Shopping carts People on assistance buying lobster and steak. Barak Obama Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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