Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have to say, being here has certainly added some diversity to our vocabulary around the house. And my family has gotten good use of this board as well. I've had my daughters and my DH ask me to post a question to the Hive and then sit at the computer waiting for responses! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Gently, to answer your original question, yes it's a waste of time to post here. Sometimes, all I really feel like doing is wasting time, so it's perfect. However, don't look to this board for personal affirmation or to feel noticed and valued. You will not find that here. If you never posted again, the vast majority of the people on here wouldn't notice (they wouldn't notice me either). Don't feel bad about that! Just realize the truth of it. Do NOT invest emotionally into being affirmed here. This is not the place to find your value. If you did get your affirmation here, I would call that unhealthy. I have had seasons when I invested too much (time, emotions, ect) into an Internet board, just to realize that it was pointless. It helps to take breaks. Maybe some time away from the board is in order? ((hugs)) I don't know if I'd go so far as to call it "unhealthy". For true introverts - and I don't know if the OP is or not - it might be the most connection someone gets all week. For those in a difficult situation, like illness, illness of child, infants or on bed rest, something healing, injury or some other reason they don't get out, it could be a lifeline to the world. Sure, it isn't the whole world, and one should invest in the world, but there are seasons where it is difficult. But it isn't "pointless" for some people. I do agree one can go too far and find oneself living in a virtual world, which would not be good on an ongoing basis. But everyone wants to feel valued and acknowledged and you find it where you can get it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :lol:Same here, but add in typing 1 handed. I got sooooooo good at this while nursing :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 HUH? Things to post about if you want responses. :) The light word can get you banned, even. (politics in an election year.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 When that happens--particularly on a high-traffic contentious thread, I like to think that I got in the final word, and there really wasn't much to be said or argue with after that ;) LOL. Yes, that's my story too and I'm sticking to it!:tongue_smilie: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Uh oh. She's got her Lucy on! Takes one to know one :001_tt2: Just wanted to make sure you were still reading and not ignoring me. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Just wanted to make sure you were still reading and not ignoring me. :lol: :lol::lol::lol:You know i am not giving you the cold shoulder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Just wanted to make sure you were still reading and not ignoring me. :lol: Bwah hahahaha! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Oh, lost me completely. Dawn Things to post about if you want responses. :) The light word can get you banned, even. (politics in an election year.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bear&me Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to. The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Gee, thanks for reminding me that I need to clean mine too. I would so much rather stay here and chat! Well, I guess that's why my bathrooms get so dirty in the first place! But once your bathroom is clean you can come back and play. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 HUH? I think she just means politics are controversial around here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oasis Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Oh, lost me completely. Dawn That's because I'm invisible, so you probably didn't see my post about adding controversial comments to any post in an attempt to get people to reply! :lol: j/k, j/k! :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Awwww. I'm sorry. HI, BEAR&ME! :D Glad to have you here! I'm sorry I didn't see your first post. This place moves FAST. It's hard to catch everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :lol::lol::lol:You know i am not giving you the cold shoulder. Well, I should hope not. :grouphug: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oasis Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Hello, welcome to the board! Don't be nervous to post. :D I figure I'm at least increasing my posts count when I add to a conversation with no feedback. LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Let me go ahead an quote you so you can have that thrill. And know you were not completely ignored. :lol::lol: Welcome to the boards. Jump in and post. Otherwise you'll just get lost in the crowd. Oh, don't take it personally if you feel that way at times. :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. It's good to get over that nervousness. It's kind of a Catch 22 -- everyone kind of needs a recognizability factor and if you don't post, you don't get recognized, and if you don't get recognized, one remains reticent to post. Welcome -- I hope that made sense.:) PS -- I am awful at welcoming newcomers and at answering threads -- I will answer them mainly in my head, remember to pray for people, have positive thoughts for them, but I seldom will actually write to them. Except nonsense like we have going on today. And the kilt stuff. And the goats. And the backyard rodents wearing shields and helmets.:lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Welcome! I was originally on the boards from August 2008 through sometime in 2010, when I took a board break. I don't remember having a hard time starting to post in 2008 but when I came back in 2010, I felt so nervous about it for some reason. The boards grew and grew and grew... No biggie though. It's like a big city pool in the middle of August. Sometimes no one notices an extra person and sometimes you splash up against just the right person and have a great friend for the day. :D If you dip your toe in, you'll likely go unnoticed. Just keep on getting in. If you cannonball, I guarantee you'll get lots of attention. :tongue_smilie: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 . Except nonsense like we have going on today. And the kilt stuff. And the goats. And the backyard rodents wearing shields and helmets.:lol: And wolves in towels. :Angel_anim: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cassy Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Hi! :001_smile: I think I must have missed your first post. Sometimes I'm on here a lot, sometimes I only manage 5 mins here or there (depends on how much I'm trying to avoid doing anything remotely 'work' like :tongue_smilie:) I look forward to getting to know you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 It's good to get over that nervousness. It's kind of a Catch 22 -- everyone kind of needs a recognizability factor and if you don't post, you don't get recognized, and if you don't get recognized, one remains reticent to post. :iagree:And thinking I should switch Abby out for Milo again... :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ocelotmom Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 So, I can honestly and truly say that no, I don't find this group cold in the slightest. And my life is so much more blessed thanks to the members here. A message board is as we have posted, an odd sort of beast. But I think that its true character, albeit, the character of its members, comes through in a time of need. And i think that as far as virtual 'friends,' the women here have done what they can when they were asked. I know it probably isn't intended this way, but this feels to me like negating the OP's feelings. I think she knows there is a strong community - she just doesn't feel a part of it. A while ago someone posted a thread about her church, which threw baby showers for all the pregnant women, except for her. She was invited to all the other showers, but no one ever threw one for her pregnancies. I'm sure the ones receiving baby showers thought of the church as amazing and supportive. Doesn't mean the one who didn't get a shower is wrong for feeling left out. Similar here. (I don't really feel a part of the community here. I don't have any particular "board friends". But I don't really give a fig - that's not why I'm here.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Welcome! I was originally on the boards from August 2008 through sometime in 2010, when I took a board break. I don't remember having a hard time starting to post in 2008 but when I came back in 2010, I felt so nervous about it for some reason. The boards grew and grew and grew... No biggie though. It's like a big city pool in the middle of August. Sometimes no one notices an extra person and sometimes you splash up against just the right person and have a great friend for the day. :D If you dip your toe in, you'll likely go unnoticed. Just keep on getting in. If you cannonball, I guarantee you'll get lots of attention. :tongue_smilie: And wolves in towels. :Angel_anim: Hi! :001_smile: I think I must have missed your first post. Sometimes I'm on here a lot, sometimes I only manage 5 mins here or there (depends on how much I'm trying to avoid doing anything remotely 'work' like :tongue_smilie:) I look forward to getting to know you. This is such an eloquent group. Really. I like the pool analogy! I have to go take a nap -- really. I have to drive to dive team prax, host a playdate including dinner, and get the kids started on a NEON PIRANHA. Need a nap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 :iagree:And thinking I should switch Abby out for Milo again... :lol: Funny but true. I should probably go back to being Big Penguin and Paz, but I really want to keep the ribbon up longer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Well, now I'm all hurt. Quote me, but don't comment. Fine, Mariann, be that way. :001_tt2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juniper Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Hi there! I looked at your first post and I do not think you were intentionally ignored. That was just someone else's thread and they were asking for a specific type of advice. I know that when I ask curriculum questions, I read through the responses and consider all of them, but I only respond to ones that get my brain thinking of something. Others just may not have wanted to rabbit trail a thread. :001_smile: Welcome! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) There are a few people who commented on this thread about feeling ignored. It's funny because I always notice their comments, even if I don't say anything. The PM feature is great for encouraging someone individually. I've had some very low times in the 4 1/2 years I've been on this board. It feels great to get a PM from someone who appreciated what I said or offered private advice on a situation. A few of those PMs have come at exactly the bottom of the barrel moment when I needed a pat on the back. A few have moved me to tears. Maybe I need to make more of those attempts myself. Edited June 20, 2012 by elegantlion deleted the babble Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Yes, yes, yes! I had a board break for around a year and no one missed me. OK, a little while after I left someone posted asking about a possible substitution in a recipe I posted but that was it. :lol: These boards are helpful. I get a lot of good information and answers for very specific questions here. But feel appreciated and validated? That comes from family and IRL friends. I agree, and I did notice and miss you when you were gone. I considered emailing you via LibraryThing but was afraid to be stalkerish. I read a lot of your old posts as a substitute. I have taken several months off and no one PMed or posted wondering where I had gone to, so I don't fool myself into thinking people care about me. I do wish I could meet you all in real life, only I am too shy. I feel so sad reading all these posters I always read with interest (including you, umMusa!) saying they think no one cares. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Juniper Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I feel so sad reading all these posters I always read with interest (including you, umMusa!) saying they think no one cares. Wait! What? I love reading her posts! :confused: I have not read the whole thread....forgive me, but I think more of you are noticed than you think. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I have taken several months off and no one PMed or posted wondering where I had gone to, so I don't fool myself into thinking people care about me. I do wish I could meet you all in real life, only I am too shy. I always enjoy reading your responses! I generally don't pm ppl, cause I don't want to come across as being even freakier than I am at first glance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 LOL. Yes, that's my story too and I'm sticking to it!:tongue_smilie: Hee hee, I have all kinds of things to convince myself I'm OK without resorting to huddling in the corner rocking back and forth:D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 OP-I definitely recognize you! I haven't been on here long. I try to respond to posts I find useful or responses to mine. But honestly...I have 5 kids and a laptop that frequently erases what I type. I hate feeling like it's a popularity contest (very common on boards), but it does feel like that often on here. I also feel weird typing a response or :iagree: to every post I agree with. I feel like it would be annoying to people to see all of those posts by me with a :iagree: when I can't think of anything better to respond! I find it nearly impossible to do anything social or make friends. I am weird and awkward and introverted. So online boards are about as close as I can get, being rural. I admit when I start threads it sounds a lot more significant in my head than typed out, so I try not to get my feelings hurt too much if nobody responds. I'm not good at getting my point across clearly. But I do have "emotional intensity". I am terribly afraid of embarrassment and I get my feelings hurt easily. It's tough to navigate that online, especially. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alte Veste Academy Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I agree, and I did notice and miss you when you were gone. I considered emailing you via LibraryThing but was afraid to be stalkerish. I read a lot of your old posts as a substitute. I am sure I would have felt honored. My LibraryThing...I always forget about it! Sometimes I cringe when I read my old posts. I'm happy someone likes them. I think about how much I've evolved and wonder how erratic my old posts make me seem. :tongue_smilie: I have taken several months off and no one PMed or posted wondering where I had gone to, so I don't fool myself into thinking people care about me. I do notice when people disappear but instead of wondering/worrying, I tend to project my own need for a board break and assume those people are...ahem...cough...adjusting their priorities and have a stronger will than I do with regards to the boards. :tongue_smilie: I use the boards as an escape, which is probably why I typically don't get too personal here. You know what haunts me about you, stripe? The fact that I've always felt akin to you here on these boards and then one day, in a Santa thread, I was snippy to you without having seen and processed your user name. To this day, I cringe every time I think of it. I am sorry. Phew, glad to get that off my chest. :lol: ...I think more of you are noticed than you think. ;) :iagree: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolally Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 A little late here, attempting a board break myself but you know how that goes:tongue_smilie:, but I have a thought I haven't seen mentioned. I'm pretty much an 'info only' poster, but I think it is nice to know that if I reply to a thread to give input on a certain topic, even if the OP never replies-- it lives on in "searchville" and can help others. Actually some of the most informative (for my needs) posts I've found when searching have been shorter ones without a lot of action--impersonal ones if you will. OK, returning to board break. Feeling the pinch of time-wasting around here. When there is no clean silverware and the kids have watched PBS all day, I try to step away. :001_smile: I started trying to make the break when Beast Academy was tempting me to make my 8th math curriculum purchase.:auto: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 (edited) I feel like such a jerk. Just speaking for myself, I have been buried by real life this spring and summer. Some issues I'm dealing with are slightly more than I can handle, but nothing can be changed so I'm pressing on... anyway, I try to pop back in here and participate like always for my own edification and to maintain these friendships, but evidently I don't have enough left over to give because... every third time I post anything I come unglued, jump to conclusions, or act like a jerk. I don't mean to. It's real life running over my keyboard and I'm not coping well. Two days later I realize I didn't play nicely with others again and put myself in time out. Ugh. So why am I making this all about me, me, me? I just wanted to say that I feel like a jerk because the OP, and several others in this thread, are people who are on my own personal little list of Posters to Watch Out For Because I Care and I've Noticed They Need Friends Here. It's not a big list; I'm not that observant. But these people are on it, and now they are feeling frozen out, and I've been so self-absorbed that I didn't pay attention. I am sorry, Lucinda, UmMusa, happyhomemaker (Becky) and anyone else who hoped I would be a better friend. This has been a wake-up call for me. I apologize. Friendships are work, and that goes double for online friendships because those only happen if you sit down to the computer and 'click.' I'll try harder. Edited June 20, 2012 by Tibbie Dunbar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I feel like such a jerk. Just speaking for myself, I have been buried by real life this spring and summer. Some issues I'm dealing with are slightly more than I can handle, but nothing can be changed so I'm pressing on... anyway, I try to pop back in here and participate like always for my own edification and to maintain these friendships, but evidently I don't have enough left over to give because... every third time I post anything I come unglued, jump to conclusions, or act like a jerk. I don't mean to. It's real life running over my keyboard and I'm not coping well. Two days later I realize I didn't play nicely with others again and put myself in time out. Ugh. So why am I making this all about me, me, me? I just wanted to say that I feel like a jerk because the OP, and several others in this thread, are people who are on my own personal little list of Posters to Watch Out For Because I Care and I've Noticed They Need Friends Here. It's not a big list; I'm not that observant. But these people are on it, and now they are feeling frozen out, and I've been so self-absorbed that I didn't pay attention. I am sorry, Lucinda, UmMusa, happyhomemaker (Becky) and anyone else who hoped I would be a better friend. This has been a wake-up call for me. I apologize. Friendships are work, and that goes double for online friendships because those only happen if you sit down to the computer and 'click.' I'll try harder. Oh Tibbie, I do think you are lovely. Just keep on keepin on and those of us on the board will keep till you can be here more :). Until then, we will all read your posts on our fridges :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 This is my second post ever. I've been nervous to post or jump in because I'm new but I want to.The first post I posted I even mentioned that it was my first post and got completely ignored even though every other person got acknowledged. It made me nervous to post again. Aww.. sorry! Welcome to the boards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeannie in NJ Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I don't find this board to be chilly. I feel like I have friends here, as real as a online friendship can be. When I do post and get no responses, I don't take it personal (at least much) lol. I know that this board moves fast and it is easy for posts to get lost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I always enjoy reading your responses! I generally don't pm ppl, cause I don't want to come across as being even freakier than I am at first glance. Oh, well, see. I thought you didn't PM because you have some sort of freaky aversion to them. :lol::lol: I'm sorry. I'll quit picking. :auto: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Oh, well, see. I thought you didn't PM because you have some sort of freaky aversion to them. :lol::lol: I'm sorry. I'll quit picking. :auto: Brat :tongue_smilie: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I feel like such a jerk. Just speaking for myself, I have been buried by real life this spring and summer. Some issues I'm dealing with are slightly more than I can handle, but nothing can be changed so I'm pressing on... anyway, I try to pop back in here and participate like always for my own edification and to maintain these friendships, but evidently I don't have enough left over to give because... every third time I post anything I come unglued, jump to conclusions, or act like a jerk. I don't mean to. It's real life running over my keyboard and I'm not coping well. Two days later I realize I didn't play nicely with others again and put myself in time out. Ugh. So why am I making this all about me, me, me? I just wanted to say that I feel like a jerk because the OP, and several others in this thread, are people who are on my own personal little list of Posters to Watch Out For Because I Care and I've Noticed They Need Friends Here. It's not a big list; I'm not that observant. But these people are on it, and now they are feeling frozen out, and I've been so self-absorbed that I didn't pay attention. I am sorry, Lucinda, UmMusa, happyhomemaker (Becky) and anyone else who hoped I would be a better friend. This has been a wake-up call for me. I apologize. Friendships are work, and that goes double for online friendships because those only happen if you sit down to the computer and 'click.' I'll try harder. I see you jumping in just enough that I don't worry about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Brat :tongue_smilie: What can I say. I'm hot, sweaty and my weirdness is showing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 What can I say. I'm hot, sweaty and my weirdness is showing. Sounds...kinky :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Thanks, Kristen and Chucki! :grouphug: Lucinda, are you feeling better yet, at all? You've never really struck me as a kilt person, but if you are, now's the time to say so. Alternatively, some folks were offering booze and rum cake around here earlier this week. I could go try to find them if you want, if they're not too pie-eyed to contribute. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Did someone say booze: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 I gots rye...outta coke though. *pout* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 Did someone say booze: I'll drink to that!! :cheers2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 OP, I feel that way frequently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stripe Posted June 20, 2012 Share Posted June 20, 2012 You know what haunts me about you, stripe? The fact that I've always felt akin to you here on these boards and then one day, in a Santa thread, I was snippy to you without having seen and processed your user name. To this day, I cringe every time I think of it. I am sorry. Phew, glad to get that off my chest. :lol: Ha! I never even saw that post, or at least I don't remember it anymore! So rest easy, girl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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