happygrrl Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I reeeeeally want to write my first non-serious tag right now. Something to do with sneeches, like "No stars on thars". Problem is, I really like Joann and don't want to cheapen this thread. Perhaps the anon. tag-writers are sometimes, like me, simply feeling silly and channel Doran. Sorry for the hijack. And sorry for all of the animals harmed in the writing of this post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) "The Star-belly Sneetches had bellies with stars. The Plain-belly Sneetches had none upon thar's. Those stars weren't so big. They were really so small, you would think such a thing wouldn't matter at all." :D Sorry -- we celebrated Dr. Seuss's b-day here this week + I ran a co-op activity around that story last week to illustrate to some of the kids (particularly mine and one other) how horrible it feels to be left out of group activities. Like another poster said, the stars don't matter. Really. I know it must be a downer to look at one of your threads and see that it has a low rating, but I often think it's just people being petty. Edited March 6, 2010 by jujsky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I reeeeeally want to write my first non-serious tag right now. Something to do with sneeches, like "No stars on thars". Problem is, I really like Joann and don't want to cheapen this thread. Perhaps the anon. tag-writers are sometimes, like me, simply feeling silly and channel Doran. Sorry for the hijack. And sorry for all of the animals harmed in the writing of this post. :lol: Same thought, same time! We posted within minutes of each other. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 All I know, is it has to be someone with a lot of posts if KidsHappen and I can barely bump it up. I always try to bump it up. I'm sorry, Joanne, it's not fair for someone to do that to you. Well, I tried to vote twice but it wouldn't let me. :glare: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I personally monitor infant canine death as it relates to improper use of they're/there/their, you're/your, where/were/wear, and it's/its. I know the gal who monitors infant lagomorph death in as it relates to the improper use of commas. Poor thing. She is a very, very depressed person. OMG! This is simply overwhelming. I am a cat person so I am very careful with my apostrophe usasge but now I have to monitor all this other stuff as well. I don't know if I can handle the stress. :001_huh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 OMG! This is simply overwhelming. I am a cat person so I am very careful with my apostrophe usasge but now I have to monitor all this other stuff as well. I don't know if I can handle the stress. :001_huh: Well, then I won't tell you what dies when one misuses a reflexive pronoun. So sad.... so very, sad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EthiopianFood Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Well, then I won't tell you what dies when one misuses a reflexive pronoun. So sad.... so very, sad. Does it die if I don't even know what that is? :001_huh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happygrrl Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :lol: Same thought, same time! We posted within minutes of each other. :lol: :lol: Oh, you know, great minds and all! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sebastian (a lady) Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I've known some of these women for *years*. There have been many major life events, issues, frustrations and celebrations. When a person shares events such as those and it's rated, it stinks. Could it partly be that different posters have different views of the stars' meanings. - Bad original post - Thread gone bad - Disagree with posts in the thread - Dislike Dislike might be in the sense of I dislike the horrible situation that the OP is describing. I have seen stars on iTunes and Amazon sometimes get really out of whack, where you can see the stars and the review together and they seem to have little to do with the product at hand. I wonder how much of that happens here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Could it partly be that different posters have different views of the stars' meanings. - Bad original post - Thread gone bad - Disagree with posts in the thread - Dislike Dislike might be in the sense of I dislike the horrible situation that the OP is describing. I have seen stars on iTunes and Amazon sometimes get really out of whack, where you can see the stars and the review together and they seem to have little to do with the product at hand. I wonder how much of that happens here. I would agree, however, if certain people post a thread it will get a bad rating. If certain other people post anywhere in a thread it will get a bad rating. Someone is rating *people* instead of posts, threads or situations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Wow... never occured to me this was happening. :grouphug::grouphug: Don't know how to make a better system. And yes, those who are passive-aggressive just need to behave. Goodness. :glare: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asta Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Could it partly be that different posters have different views of the stars' meanings. - Bad original post - Thread gone bad - Disagree with posts in the thread - Dislike Dislike might be in the sense of I dislike the horrible situation that the OP is describing. I have seen stars on iTunes and Amazon sometimes get really out of whack, where you can see the stars and the review together and they seem to have little to do with the product at hand. I wonder how much of that happens here. Yeah, some people rate a book as one star because the shipping sucked. Perhaps Joanne hasn't been shipping books on time? LOL (seriously though, I believe the stars are passive-agressiveness at their finest most of the time) a Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I never notice the stars or tags. I guess I think of messing with them inappropriately as childish (ugly jr high school-ish). However, I also think of you (Joanne) and most of us as past that. How hurt do you think the average jr high school teacher gets by the antics of a few snotty students? Sure, we're peers here, ideally. However, there are always a few more mature or immature in a group. IRL, we brush off the brattiness of those few that insist on being obnoxious. Surely you know they giggle and make faces and say snide remarks under their breath IRL also, right? But you usually choose to ignore it or address it in a dignified manner. Anyway, all this to say that I don't really care about stars or tags or anything else as I never use them. I rarely SEE them. I think using them inappropriately is dumb and I can't imagine taking them seriously enough to get hurt by them either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caribbean Queen Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 "My children act like they were raised by wolves!" ***** [5 stars] Maybe it got 5 stars because it is a helpful and interesting thread, or maybe people are laughing at the OP. My 1 month old is gifted! [No stars] Maybe people are jealus. Maybe they don't like the OP. Maybe, not. We don't know why people rate things the way they do. Why should we try to read things into the stars? Why assume people had bad intentions and be offended? I don't get it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
[email protected] Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 We will investigate getting rid of the stars, which are a default part of this software. They do not seem to serve a useful purpose. Moderator Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meet me in paris Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Of course, we overlap a bit since some of those words involve apostrophes. Seems like some people are killing kittens AND puppies. Yikes, that's some bad karma. Poor, poor lagomorphs, I had no idea! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) :iagree:Is it really that big of a deal? Threads that I have started have had low star ratings and I didn't complain about it. It's the internet, not real life. :iagree: we aren't in 8th grade anymore LOL. Edited March 6, 2010 by Quiver0f10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I am glad there are many terrific threads here. But the rating system has become a passive/aggressive popularity and indirect slam contest. We are a community and member should be able to post about their lives without ghost commentary. It happens a lot to some posters; my most recent is posting about finding an outside job in my career field. I've had it happen on posts about custody. I'm sorry, but that's just cruel. I've seen it happen to other posters as well. :iagree: The dynamics of these types of boards are interesting (to me) and, yes, the 'ghost community dynamic' you mention is alive and well here I have observed. Impish posted a thread some months ago regarding the same thing -- and, I agree that it is cruel as well.......my daughter would say it is 'mean.' FWIW, IMO, your posts are compelling -- you are straight-forward, articulate, and appropriate -- I if I did 'stars,' I would give you the highest # of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :iagree: The dynamics of these types of boards are interesting (to me) and, yes, the 'ghost community dynamic' you mention is alive and well here I have observed. Impish posted a thread some months ago regarding the same thing -- and, I agree that it is cruel as well.......my daughter would say it is 'mean.' FWIW, IMO, your posts are compelling -- you are straight-forward, articulate, and appropriate -- I if I did 'stars,' I would give you the highest # of them. It's often like a group of chickens picking at each other behind the bushes. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 It's often like a group of chickens picking at each other behind the bushes. :lol: :iagree: or 12 year old girls whispering about someone who is close by from behind a locker door.........do they still do that :001_huh: or do they just text mean things now? :confused: :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoPlaceLikeHome Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :iagree: or 12 year old girls whispering about someone who is close by from behind a locker door.........do they still do that :001_huh: or do they just text mean things now? :confused: :D :lol::lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :iagree: or 12 year old girls whispering about someone who is close by from behind a locker door.........do they still do that :001_huh: or do they just text mean things now? :confused: :D Text and post nasty videos on Youtube. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :iagree:Is it really that big of a deal? Threads that I have started have had low star ratings and I didn't complain about it. It's the internet, not real life. :iagree: My security & salvation do not swing with the star scale. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 We will investigate getting rid of the stars, which are a default part of this software. They do not seem to serve a useful purpose. Moderator Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmoira Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Thank you.Yes, thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnTheBrink Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 And with this thread, the "low star-er" has won. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnitWit Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Well, this has been enlightening and I feel dumb. I thought *any* star was good. LOL! I assumed if there was one star, someone thought it was helpful/useful/good/or cared. I assumed the more stars, the more helpful/useful/good/cared for it was for more people. THAT said...I don't notice the stars that much. LOL As for tags, I never tried to figure that out. I thought it was someone's way of tagging threads they wanted to be able to quickly search for to read the info again. LOL! Soooo....those of you who were hurt by one star, realize, there is at least ONE woman here who thought your post was *favored*. :001_smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I never look at the star ratings... I wonder what my threads are rated as now? LOL I upped the star rating here... good luck. Mine are never rated well. I was just wondering why people rate threads poorly myself. The "Book a Week thread" only had 3 stars this morning. :001_huh: Really? People hate reading that much?!?:lol: As for nasty tags, if we keep them, I feel like the OP should be the only one allowed to tag the thread. People put nasty tags on one of my threads, and I couldn't remove them. It's just rude. If you have something to say, say it on the thread. Don't be a coward. Thanks for starting this Joanne! Dorinda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 The tags I do feel are different because they are useful, plus the mods can tell who tagged something so there is some sort of enforcement. If your thread gets tagged "incorrectly" are you supposed to report it? I didn't know that. If I did, I would report tags more often. Thanks! Dorinda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
coffeefreak Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I personally monitor infant canine death as it relates to improper use of they're/there/their, you're/your, where/were/wear, and it's/its. I know the gal who monitors infant lagomorph death in as it relates to the improper use of commas. Poor thing. She is a very, very depressed person. I have no idea what a lagomorph is, but I guess I'm guilty of killing millions of them. I'll do better from now on. Of course, we overlap a bit since some of those words involve apostrophes. Seems like some people are killing kittens AND puppies. Yikes, that's some bad karma. Poor, poor lagomorphs, I had no idea! I have to admit, I used your tag on my Facebook page one day :D. The grammatical errors drive. me. crazy. Off topic, but I thought I should tell you in case I owe you for copyright infringement:D. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 I have no idea what a lagomorph is, but I guess I'm guilty of killing millions of them. I'll do better from now on. Infant lagomorph=bunny. ;) I have to admit, I used your tag on my Facebook page one day :D. The grammatical errors drive. me. crazy. Off topic, but I thought I should tell you in case I owe you for copyright infringement:D. By all means, spread the word! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yinne Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 Make that TWO, Polly. Not that I have ever paid attention to the stars or tags, but I thought a gold star was a good thing!! Boy was I surprised when I clicked on the rating tab and learned that one star meant terrible!! Yvonne in NE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 :iagree: we aren't in 8th grade anymore LOL. But you'd hardly know it from the way "cliques" keep popping up now, would you? As a totally unrelated aside: Jean, I've been meaning to say, you are looking fantastic in your avi. :001_smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joanne Posted March 6, 2010 Author Share Posted March 6, 2010 (edited) But you'd hardly know it from the way "cliques" keep popping up now, would you? : And the "advice" to just ignore it is like I remember parents of the 60's and 70's telling kids to "just ignore" the bullies. It's not really helpful to be told "it's only stars", "get over it", "it's the internet, not real life". IMO, this is a live (dys)functioning community. Allowing aggression and unkindness, even when it's passive, or telling people to not feel hurt when their life is being commented on is the same group mentality that many of us avoid for our children by being homeschoolers. ETA: Don't get me wrong. I'll not lose any sleep over it (assumes I get any :lol:), I will not threaten to leave, won't rate threads in an immature response or put anyone on ignore. I'm not overly consumed by this. It just so happens that on forums, I post about forum specific issues. In other aspects of my life, I'm running poker tournaments, studying, teaching, and living. Edited March 6, 2010 by Joanne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted March 6, 2010 Share Posted March 6, 2010 As a totally unrelated aside: Jean, I've been meaning to say, you are looking fantastic in your avi. :001_smile: Thanks! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Honestly, as much as I visit this board, I have never noticed any of this stuff. I am so out of it! Or perhaps I just am not into playing "board games." :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol: Sorry, couldn't help myself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aggie Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Stacey...board games!:lol: And the "advice" to just ignore it is like I remember parents of the 60's and 70's telling kids to "just ignore" the bullies. It's not really helpful to be told "it's only stars", "get over it", "it's the internet, not real life". IMO, this is a live (dys)functioning community. Allowing aggression and unkindness, even when it's passive, or telling people to not feel hurt when their life is being commented on is the same group mentality that many of us avoid for our children by being homeschoolers. ETA: Don't get me wrong. I'll not lose any sleep over it (assumes I get any :lol:), I will not threaten to leave, won't rate threads in an immature response or put anyone on ignore. I'm not overly consumed by this. It just so happens that on forums, I post about forum specific issues. In other aspects of my life, I'm running poker tournaments, studying, teaching, and living. Joanne.... IIRC, a *long* time ago Susan warned us about this board NOT being a community. She said, and it's true, we don't know who's here. We don't. We can't. I've met some WTM women irl, but besides those few, I can't know who's telling the truth here. Although there seems to be a sense of community, I still think we need to be careful. As for the aggression and unkindness, I've seen plenty of that in posts, and it's often allowed to stay. I don't like it, either, but I choose to visit here (or not) and put up with those things. IMO, and I say this gently and with no snark, if you are hurt by comments about your life, then perhaps you are sharing too much of your life *here*. We know already that not every post here is kind. I don't think having the stars gone is going to change that. ;) Just a thought. Anyway, the stars are gone now....hope that makes your day better!:001_smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MotherMayI Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 IMO, and I say this gently and with no snark, if you are hurt by comments about your life, then perhaps you are sharing too much of your life *here*. We know already that not every post here is kind. I don't think having the stars gone is going to change that. ;) Just a thought. Anyway, the stars are gone now....hope that makes your day better!:001_smile: I'm sure Joanne can speak much better for herself than I, however as I see it she does respond to comments quite effectively...but when a passive aggressive person stalks her threads simply to low-star them- then what? Truthfully- I have gained a lot from Joanne's (and others) honest and sometimes detailed posts and I can see how frustrating it would be to have every thread- whether it be about curriculum or life struggles to be singled out with ill intent. Now at least there is no cover for the star-giver. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elaine Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 IIRC, a *long* time ago Susan warned us about this board NOT being a community. She said, and it's true, we don't know who's here. We don't. We can't. I've met some WTM women irl, but besides those few, I can't know who's telling the truth here. Although there seems to be a sense of community, I still think we need to be careful. As for the aggression and unkindness, I've seen plenty of that in posts, and it's often allowed to stay. I don't like it, either, but I choose to visit here (or not) and put up with those things. IMO, and I say this gently and with no snark, if you are hurt by comments about your life, then perhaps you are sharing too much of your life *here*. We know already that not every post here is kind. I don't think having the stars gone is going to change that. ;) Just a thought. Anyway, the stars are gone now....hope that makes your day better!:001_smile: Excellent post, Aggie. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillary in KS Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Joanne.... IIRC, a *long* time ago Susan warned us about this board NOT being a community. She said, and it's true, we don't know who's here. We don't. We can't. I've met some WTM women irl, but besides those few, I can't know who's telling the truth here. Although there seems to be a sense of community, I still think we need to be careful. As for the aggression and unkindness, I've seen plenty of that in posts, and it's often allowed to stay. I don't like it, either, but I choose to visit here (or not) and put up with those things. IMO, and I say this gently and with no snark, if you are hurt by comments about your life, then perhaps you are sharing too much of your life *here*. We know already that not every post here is kind. I don't think having the stars gone is going to change that. ;) Just a thought. Anyway, the stars are gone now....hope that makes your day better!:001_smile: :iagree: Well said! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 As for tags, I never tried to figure that out. I thought it was someone's way of tagging threads they wanted to be able to quickly search for to read the info again. LOL! That is what I use them for. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slartibartfast Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 If your thread gets tagged "incorrectly" are you supposed to report it? I didn't know that. If I did, I would report tags more often. Thanks! Dorinda I would think you are supposed to report it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 OK. I'll say it. I miss the stars :D Being a Mod here has to suck :lol: There's no pleasing you people! Starry, starry night. Paint your palette blue and grey, Look out on a summer's day, With eyes that know the darkness in my soul. Shadows on the hills, Sketch the trees and the daffodils, Catch the breeze and the winter chills, In colors on the snowy linen land. Now I understand what you tried to say to me, How you suffered for your sanity, How you tried to set them free. They would not listen, they did not know how. Perhaps they'll listen now. Bill Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EthiopianFood Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Perhaps they'll listen now. What exactly do you have planned? :001_huh: :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 What exactly do you have planned? :001_huh: :D It has something to do with ears :bigear: Sshhhh!!!! Bill Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 OK. I'll say it. I miss the stars :D Being a Mod here has to suck :lol: [/i] Bill Me, too. I get wanting to nix the passive aggressive nonsense, but they were very helpfulon the curriculum boards. Oh well, I guess I'll live. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 Wise words. Stacey...board games!:lol: Joanne.... IIRC, a *long* time ago Susan warned us about this board NOT being a community. She said, and it's true, we don't know who's here. We don't. We can't. I've met some WTM women irl, but besides those few, I can't know who's telling the truth here. Although there seems to be a sense of community, I still think we need to be careful. As for the aggression and unkindness, I've seen plenty of that in posts, and it's often allowed to stay. I don't like it, either, but I choose to visit here (or not) and put up with those things. IMO, and I say this gently and with no snark, if you are hurt by comments about your life, then perhaps you are sharing too much of your life *here*. We know already that not every post here is kind. I don't think having the stars gone is going to change that. ;) Just a thought. Anyway, the stars are gone now....hope that makes your day better!:001_smile: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
[email protected] Posted March 7, 2010 Share Posted March 7, 2010 (edited) The star system was removed because the moderators cannot see which members are using them. They had become a cowardly way to show hostility, and the moderators had already discussed several times the advantages of getting rid of them. We can see the authors of tags, and inappropriate/snarky tags should be reported. Moderator Edited March 7, 2010 by Moderator Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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