TravelingChris Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 And question,, would you stop seeing posts of people who have snoozed you? I am so much more interested in getting Far Side cartoons, cool animal posts and videos, requests for prayers for people, vacation photos, etc. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I snoozed so many people over the last couple of months and a couple more every week now. Please G-d, make the insanity stop. I WANT to like people, but I can't if they are being plain mean to me and those with whom I am friends. Amen. 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I am snoozing people constantly. And so often, when they pop back up, it takes just 1-2 posts to snooze them again. I can't answer your question. I post so rarely on facebook I wouldn't notice. I'm really just there for recipes, photos of grand-nieces and nephews, and announcements from a few groups. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I’m not completely sure but people I snoozed most likely snoozed me too. It was after I had snoozed a dozen people for like the third or fourth time that I realized I was not enjoying much of FB and I mostly quit. I deleted my apps so I can only go on from my computer, which is a natural deterrent. It also curbs my likelihood of posting something unless I’ve really considered whether or not I want to bother. It seems to me that having barely been on there for the past couple of months has trimmed down my feed even more. I am not seeing political stuff at all really, just people’s grandkids, kitties and birthday posts. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I've snoozed several people but there are a couple of others where I wish I could just snooze them part time because they do post other things I'm interested in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 16, 2020 Author Share Posted October 16, 2020 11 minutes ago, stephanier.1765 said: I've snoozed several people but there are a couple of others where I wish I could just snooze them part time because they do post other things I'm interested in. That was why I waited to do that with one poster. I loved her other posts but right now, I just can't see lots of political garbage 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I've never snoozed anyone, but I have unfriended people who I thought were just getting too ugly about things. I don't go to Facebook for drama. I love seeing pics of people's families and pets, and seeing what they are up to. I don't like seeing all the bitterness and ugliness. It upsets me. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Meriwether Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I never was into unfriending or snoozing people I disagree with, but I have started snoozing people if the vast majority of their posts are political. Maybe after the election, long after, it won't be one angry post after another. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy Gen Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I also unfriend rather than snooze. I don’t unfriend people who I disagree with unless I feel like they are being intellectually lazy and self righteous about their viewpoint. My FB has become a very nice place without them. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I periodically go through and cull my friends list, and I unfollow anyone who even once posts something annoying. I'm down to about 3 people and tons of cooking, canning, professional type groups, which is enough for me. And I check my feed once a week, which is more than enough. Studies show FB is bad for mental health anyway, and I just don't need that. There was one group I liked, so I just bop in and check that, still ignoring the feed. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 1 hour ago, stephanier.1765 said: I've snoozed several people but there are a couple of others where I wish I could just snooze them part time because they do post other things I'm interested in. You can snooze the originator of the posts you don't like. Sometimes that's all it takes to fix it. I don't mind overtly political stuff. I mind lies or sneering, nasty stuff. It's telling that very few of my friends on the other side of the aisle post stuff that is awful even though most post political things. On "my" side of the aisle (sort of--it seems to be leaving me behind), people are posting stupid stuff or sometimes neutral stuff. Lots of mean stuff and lies. That gets blocked eventually. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Penguin Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 (edited) I used to tolerate people who only posted occasional distasteful (to me) political opinions, but no more. One post in that direction and I unfollow. It no longer feels like just politics but rather a completely different worldview. Hardly anybody writes anything anymore anyway. They just share what other people wrote. I might be interested in what they had to say, but I am not interested in their memes. I also decided to mostly take my politics elsewhere. I still don’t like FB but it is better for me now. I have some groups there that are important to me. Otherwise I would only drop in rarely. Edited October 16, 2020 by Penguin 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 Honestly, my life feels just as fulfilling without Facebook as with it. Those friends I worried I would lose contact with I made sure I had their phone number (luckily we can keep those for life now) or followed them on Strava. I didn't even need to move to instagram to keep everyone that was important to me, which was going to be my next social media outlet if I needed it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shoeless Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 (edited) I've snoozed and unfollowed people. Those are the good people that just wont.shut.up. about politics on fb, but in person talk about all sorts of more interesting things. I unfriended the QAnon cult people. Interestingly, my MIL unfriended me. Disappointing, but not surprising. Edited October 16, 2020 by MissLemon 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 16, 2020 Share Posted October 16, 2020 I am so glad I don't have facebook! 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 16, 2020 Author Share Posted October 16, 2020 Well I want to be on Facebook since I belong to a number of medical groups and like to lend support. I also generally like to hear how people are doing, see the great photos, etc. I don;t mind football rivalry but the politics is just making me upset. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 8 hours ago, Ditto said: I am so glad I don't have facebook! Yep. I still have to hear about it, though, from relatives complaining about each other. I'm glad the extended family Thanksgiving is cancelled. So many feuding folks. I hope they get over it before Christmas. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 23 minutes ago, klmama said: Yep. I still have to hear about it, though, from relatives complaining about each other. I'm glad the extended family Thanksgiving is cancelled. So many feuding folks. I hope they get over it before Christmas. I only hear about Facebook here and in news articles. I don’t have an account, but sometimes visit Facebook pages of restaurants, as we’ve always, even pre-pandemic, tried to support local independent businesses over chains. Some of the smaller restaurants here seem to only have Facebook pages and not their own websites. Or if they have websites they are not really maintained and updated, so you need to go to Facebook for current hours and information. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 (edited) 14 hours ago, TravelingChris said: Well I want to be on Facebook since I belong to a number of medical groups and like to lend support. I also generally like to hear how people are doing, see the great photos, etc. I don;t mind football rivalry but the politics is just making me upset. I've had a lot of medical support and information through facebook. I also get a lot of local news and updates on facebook that I don't find anywhere else (I find this very annoying that you have to use social media for news). I don't use it much for the social part, but I do like it for deals and local news/updates. And I do enjoy seeing my friends and their families and the fun/happy updates. I hate the drama and ugliness and try to avoid that, but I have some friends who usually post positive and uplifting things and I really enjoy their posts. Some overshare and that can be annoying, but I figure that's my issue... 😛 ETA - I forgot to mention the homeschooling groups on FB. I don't think I could have started homeschooling without the information I was able to get from our state homeschooling group. It was SO helpful! I also belonged to other homeschooling groups that were useful. I also get so much information from the FB parents group from dd's college. It is a great group of people. The college also has many facebook pages with a lot of information that I wouldn't get elsewhere. Edited October 17, 2020 by Kassia 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 Here’s something I found interesting: recently I was chatting with someone who I was once close friends with, in the before-Facebook world. I had come to feel negatively towards her because of things she is (always, constantly) posting on FB. But, since I haven’t been seeing her on FB, those negative feelings have faded. Then, we were chatting and she said something that cracked me up. And, with a jolt, I realized: this is why I loved her. This is why we became friends in the first place. She’s funny and down-to-earth and completely unpretentious. A few months ago, I thought perhaps our friendship was over, but since I have quit seeing her political and other opinion stuff that is hard to like, I “remembered” what I love about her. I have come to think Facebook is often harmful to society as a whole, and this may have something to do with it. We aren’t really meant to know every detail of someone’s mind, I don’t think, and, IRL, we can only manage to know a few people that thoroughly. FB gives you the illusion that you know someone well, without the true human connection of IRL shared history and inside jokes and meals and vacations and concerts together. In the before-Facebook world, I might have had, say, five positive IRL interactions with my friend with only maybe three awkward minutes when she made a remark about politics that I disagree with. But in the world with FB, especially in the era of COVID, where we may be going many months without any of the connecting human activity that creates feelings of closeness, but having many more negative interactions by seeing nonsense on their FB feed, it is a good way to strangle out the memories of fun and friendship. 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 I've snoozed about a third of my FB friends. Some people who are perfectly nice in person have become raving lunatics about a certain candidate and make every other post about that person. Even when I agree with the poster, I don't want my feed filled with angry political posts, so more than a few political posts from either side gets a person snoozed. I did finally unfriend someone the other day. She's not someone I ever need to interact with in person and she copied and pasted a long political post that was both divisive and personally insulting to me. I thought, "I don't need this. I barely know this person." Snoozing so many has two advantages: my FB feed is a much better place and there's so much less content that I spend less time there. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 14 hours ago, Frances said: I only hear about Facebook here and in news articles. I don’t have an account, but sometimes visit Facebook pages of restaurants, as we’ve always, even pre-pandemic, tried to support local independent businesses over chains. Some of the smaller restaurants here seem to only have Facebook pages and not their own websites. Or if they have websites they are not really maintained and updated, so you need to go to Facebook for current hours and information. Don't you hate the places that don't have up-to-date websites? That really bugs me. I have noticed a growing trend in places having FB over websites though. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 9 minutes ago, Ditto said: Don't you hate the places that don't have up-to-date websites? That really bugs me. I have noticed a growing trend in places having FB over websites though. I also find that companies are more responsive to facebook messages than they are to responding to the contact forms on their website. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 17, 2020 Author Share Posted October 17, 2020 52 minutes ago, Ditto said: Don't you hate the places that don't have up-to-date websites? That really bugs me. I have noticed a growing trend in places having FB over websites though. I absolutely hate this. I want business and doctors to have websites, not Facebook. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 17, 2020 Author Share Posted October 17, 2020 42 minutes ago, Kassia said: I also find that companies are more responsive to facebook messages than they are to responding to the contact forms on their website. Now that one is true sometimes. But my neurologist is in a group of neurologists and she is the newest one there and is great and so I don't want to complain. But the head neurologists, who probably own the practice, got rid of their website and instead put in a Facebook page that is out of date. And in my view, it is one thing to have a hair salon or a restaurant only have a facebook page but a medical practice??? It doesn't seem professional to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 59 minutes ago, Ditto said: Don't you hate the places that don't have up-to-date websites? That really bugs me. I have noticed a growing trend in places having FB over websites though. I think it's a bad business decision. I'm noticing more and more people I know who are deleting FB or using it far less than they did in the past. Some more conservative people I know are moving to other platforms and rarely using FB at all anymore. Young people are dumping it completely. Having FB as your only business contact may be a bad idea. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 2 hours ago, TravelingChris said: I absolutely hate this. I want business and doctors to have websites, not Facebook. I agree. It also comes across (to me) as very unprofessional. I also disagree with cutting off a whole group of us who don't have, nor want, FB. You want to advertise/reach as many people as possible and using a platform like FB doesn't accomplish that (again, my opinion). 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 2 hours ago, mom2scouts said: I think it's a bad business decision. I'm noticing more and more people I know who are deleting FB or using it far less than they did in the past. Some more conservative people I know are moving to other platforms and rarely using FB at all anymore. Young people are dumping it completely. Having FB as your only business contact may be a bad idea. Absolutely. I agree. I am not conservative, at all, but I have never had FB and don't plan to ever join. It just is not something I am interested in at all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 17, 2020 Share Posted October 17, 2020 2 hours ago, TravelingChris said: Now that one is true sometimes. But my neurologist is in a group of neurologists and she is the newest one there and is great and so I don't want to complain. But the head neurologists, who probably own the practice, got rid of their website and instead put in a Facebook page that is out of date. And in my view, it is one thing to have a hair salon or a restaurant only have a facebook page but a medical practice??? It doesn't seem professional to me. Oh this just comes across as tacky to me. You are right, hugely unprofessional. That would really turn me off as a potential patient. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Negin Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 (edited) Snooze: Snoozing is my least favorite option. After the 30 days are up, it's almost as if FB decides that we need to catch up on every single post that that person has made in the last 30 days, which really defeats the whole purpose. Every time I've snoozed someone, my entire feed gets inundated with all their posts. Unfollow: Unfollowing has worked for me. In the past few months, I've unfollowed more friends than ever before. Their posts seldom change. Maybe their posts will change long after the election, but I doubt it. For the sake of courtesy, now and then, if they like my posts, I go back and like a few of their non-political posts. Newsfeed (Seeing First): I also have some friends whom I have chosen to show up first on my feed. You may know that feature already. Those are friends with whom I really don't want to miss any posts. My Approach to Facebook: When I see posts from friends that I disagree with or take objection to, and trust me, I see plenty of them, I prefer to take a non-confrontational approach. I usually scroll on by. That’s just me. I prefer to avoid arguments. Again, I try to adopt a non-confrontational aspect when I comment or interpret comments on my posts. I dislike arguments and carping on social media so here is my classification: If I love or respect a post I will always try and say so. If I dislike a post, I tend to say nothing, or no "like". I scroll on by. If the person is really unfriendly, offensive, or acting in any way against me - in social media or in general - or act beyond the pale - then I would unfriend them. I've also unfriended quite a few. I seldom do that anymore, not like I used to. I try to think about that before doing anything too hasty. I try to limit my political-type posts. I would gladly never share them, but I think that the reason I do so from time to time is because I often get irritated by others who overdo it. If no one ever posted political posts, I wouldn't either, but that should not be an excuse. No one's going to change their mind anyway. Everyone's going to still believe what they do and think what they do. Obviously I don't mind political posts when I agree with them! In fact, I enjoy them! But again, since I stop following those who irritate me, this is far less of a factor now. My husband often reminds me that I can make FB work any way that I want to. These days, other than all the continuous ads, since I've learned to make it work for me, I am loving it. Anyone can make FB work for them in the way that they choose. Edited October 18, 2020 by negin 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 10 hours ago, Ordinary Shoes said: I've noticed that I don't surf the web as much as I used to. I hate all of the popups and blaring commercials. Websites are so slow to load. I used to find recipes online but now I cringe if I need to get a recipe from a website because it will be slow and there will be popups and commercials. About a year ago, I started going directly to Youtube and skipping Google entirely for certain kind of searches. I don't have this problem at all. I wonder if it is because I have 4 ad-blockers on my computer? There are never any pop-ups and no ads either. The sites run smoothly and load quickly. That would drive me bonkers! I don't blame you for not surfing and avoiding websites. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 I was snoozing a couple of people because they were sharing conspiracy theories and just being intentionally obtuse. I finally blocked one. I just couldn't take her attitude in the weeks of my father's illness and after his death. My dad didn't die of Covid but was released from the hospital before he should have been because of a large number of Covid patients. Anyway, this person keeps saying that no one dies of Covid, or it doesn't matter if the elderly die of Covid, and will ask if someone was overweight if they died of Covid. I couldn't do it anymore. Kelly 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SquirrellyMama Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 I used to prefer websites over FB, but now I prefer FB over websites. I like reading reviews and posts from customers. FB is easier to update daily for businesses. Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 8 minutes ago, SquirrellyMama said: My dad didn't die of Covid but was released from the hospital before he should have been because of a large number of Covid patients. I am sorry for your loss. We lost my FIL this summer due to Covid circumstances, but he did not actually have Covid. So tragic. 😞 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethben Posted October 18, 2020 Share Posted October 18, 2020 On 10/16/2020 at 1:48 PM, PeterPan said: I periodically go through and cull my friends list, and I unfollow anyone who even once posts something annoying. I'm down to about 3 people and tons of cooking, canning, professional type groups, which is enough for me. And I check my feed once a week, which is more than enough. Studies show FB is bad for mental health anyway, and I just don't need that. There was one group I liked, so I just bop in and check that, still ignoring the feed. I am about the same. My feed is mostly health related groups and gardening groups. I unfollowed most of my list last election and haven’t gone back. If I’m thinking of someone, I can just look them up. I have a sister in law that I like a lot in real life, but not on Facebook. She’s very very very political and pretty caustic to my personal belief system. I want to continue to think well of her so I don’t read her Facebook posts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaVT Posted October 19, 2020 Share Posted October 19, 2020 On 10/16/2020 at 2:33 PM, Quill said: I’m not completely sure but people I snoozed most likely snoozed me too. It was after I had snoozed a dozen people for like the third or fourth time that I realized I was not enjoying much of FB and I mostly quit. I deleted my apps so I can only go on from my computer, which is a natural deterrent. It also curbs my likelihood of posting something unless I’ve really considered whether or not I want to bother. It seems to me that having barely been on there for the past couple of months has trimmed down my feed even more. I am not seeing political stuff at all really, just people’s grandkids, kitties and birthday posts. This is what it was like for me too. I only have FB on my computer and not my phone. I check in maybe once a week for a minute or so, realize I haven't missed anything then log out. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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