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  1. I am unable to teach my daughter math anymore. I am looking for a program that she can do on her own. Something that will grade, teach, etc. I need to be mostly hands off for a huge number of reasons.
  2. She’ll already be 19 when she graduates so not too receptive. She has a late birthday for her grade and was behind developmentally due to the Chinese orphanage thing. She could even hear well until she was 3 and got hearing aids (she doesn’t need them anymore due to several factors).
  3. She just started OT with a place that is trauma informed and deals with kids with autism. She needs trauma work and I’m using the OT to get her comfortable with the agency so she can get actual therapy. I forgot about Vitamin D. It’s sunny here in the winter so I’m not noticing the seasonal blues as much in me so I don’t think about it.
  4. I’m a little scared because when she did go to public school in elementary, she came home crying daily. And then somehow I had to get her calm enough to do homework…And teach her everything she didn’t understand…At night when I was ready to unwind. As it is now, shes huffing and puffing around the house angry when she’s home. But nights are ok as she works early night and comes home exhausted. She has never had an IEP because I was essentially acting like a resource room teacher. So she never fell behind. I can’t anymore. I guess I just have to talk to the school. See what they can offer and what it takes to get those things offered.
  5. I am getting to a point where I cannot homeschool anymore due to my own mental health. I'm not quite sure what I'm dealing with here or even know how to get help. My daughter is adopted and has "trauma brain". In a large classroom, she presents as having ADD due to her scanning for trouble. In a small classroom, I'm not sure if she has trouble paying attention or chooses not to. Right now, she goes to a co-op type program for 10th grade one day a week where she takes Biology, World History, and World literature/composition. She is almost failing History. Her teacher says she doesn't listen to the lectures and is always drawing. She had to drop Algebra because the pace was going too fast and she was failing. I have taught her math every single day even when she was in public school because she never was able to understand. She was always placed in the slow math class. She does OK with literature as long as she's interested in the story. Composition is OK - She can get solid Bs. She is currently "reading" Pride and Prejudice while listening to Adventures in Odyssey even though I've offered audio versions and also to read it to her to help with comprehension. I have given her a worldviewcourse that she should be able to do herself as her reading ability is high, but she always forgets to do it and misses out on social activities because she hasn't finished (multiple reminders). I want to send her to public school, but due to past history with her, she will most likely fail math at minimum, possibly other subjects. The high schools around here are large and crowded which sets off her ADD tendencies. How do I get help? We did testing 5 years ago and beyond oppositional defiant disorder, she tested low intelligence, but not disabled or ADD. I don't know what I'm needing to ask for or how to get help. Please don't suggest tutors as I need someone several hours a day 5 days a week and at $30-$50 an hour (what has been quoted me), it's almost half of my husband's take home pay. Thanks.
  6. I tried giving her what I thought were high interest/easier academic electives. She draws constantly. I have a friend whom she loves that is a professional muralist who tutors art. She barely worked on her assignments throwing together something last minute. So, the next semester, I tried a class with other students. A little better but bare minimum effort. She just wanted to do her own thing and not make it a class where there were expectations(her words). I’m at a loss of anything. We are doing keys to Algebra with some measure of success. It seems to be about the right speed and content for the most part. But I still sit there wondering why I’m going through emotional chaos to teach a class that ultimately doesn’t matter. I’m a math person. I know the reasons why algebra and some other high school math is beneficial. I just can’t find my “why” in this case.
  7. I just need a road map to get her through high school. Her co-op ends her senior year as most of the kids go on to dual enrollment. I feel like her senior year will be us trying to figure out how to get her to a good place where she can move out (her wish). Not sure how to give credit for that since doing the traditional English, science, etc is not going to ultimately help her the most with the trajectory she is insisting upon.
  8. She is receiving no therapy. She did in the past and refused to do anything the therapist suggested. She has agreed to go to OT to help with organization and anger issues, but she has already told me "it won't work". She is empowered by anger and rage. She likes it. The learning issue with math is most likely she's just bad at math - she has the ability, but get's flustered when she doesn't understand something and shuts down. We have some good days and some bad. I've found a program that is doable but when her brain isn't working, she forgets addition/subtraction math facts. When her brain is working, she can do pretty decently. Her trauma looks like ADD when she's in a large classroom with a more permissive teacher because she's scanning for threats constantly. I have a friend 1000 miles away who knows how to sit in the ashes with me. I don't have anyone close by.
  9. I am reluctantly homeschooling my adopted daughter. She is pretty typical for the chaos that children who had early childhood trauma bring. I tried to get her a school situation that would allow her to be successful and couldn't find it as a lot of the schools around here with smaller classrooms are college prep. That being said, I'm doing the best I can. She has a one day a week co-op type situation that teaches Composition, history, and science. I teach her Algebra as she had to drop that class due to the pace. I am really wondering why I am going to such efforts. She forgets topics easily. What's the point? She argues/complains constantly when I teach her. I have learned how to be calm when verbally challenged. I am trying hard to survive emotionally. I can't hire a tutor because she needs help constantly and that would get so expensive. I've calculated based on people's quotes that it would be around $200 a week so she can learn algebra so she can promptly forget it. Honestly, what is the point? Also, how do I get enough credits for high school? She doesn't want other homeschool classes I try to give her.
  10. Iowa Basics If I can get her comfortable with just making change at a grocery store for example, she could move up the ladder so to speak and at least be comfortable with different retail jobs in the near future. My husband will give her very simple mental math problems and she can't do those too well either.
  11. Part of the problem is that per standardized test scores, her math intellect is most likely working at a 6th grade math level. The rest of her scores that don't deal with problem solving skills are at college level. This is screaming math disability to me, and I am trying to get some testing done but it's going to be at least a couple of months for that yet. When she was tested 3 years ago, she didn't test learning disability.
  12. She was somewhat successful at them. I tried to get ahead of Algebra issues I saw her having by doing a couple of books last summer. I'm just not seeing Algebra being useful at all. Why spend the next two years trying to get her to understand Algebra?
  13. My daughter is doing Algebra 1 with a homeschool co-op of sorts as a sophomore. I am basically her tutor due to her needing hours of support each week. She has completely struggled with math her whole life and this year is no exception. She completely forgets everything she learned the previous chapter and as a result, fails her tests. Her recent test was a 19%. She may squeak by this semester with a C-, but I don't see her passing next semester since she did get a C- and B on early tests that were reviews of pre-algebra (that she took for two years) and that is the main reason she may squeak by. My question is this. I am thinking of just teaching her something at home. I don't really see Algebra 1 as being useful for her life. To get her to understand Algebra, I see it realistically taking at least another year, possibly more. It's not enough for college I know. There is no way I can get her through Algebra 2 by her senior year based on what I am seeing now. So, what do I do with her for math? My state has no real requirements. I want to make math super practical for her life and Algebra is not super practical for her. Beth
  14. No. She has issues with my husband and I also. Trauma brain. I am looking for outside help
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