Moxie Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 I've learned that commenting on a large family really is an art that most people do not possess. Daily, I hear, "You sure have your hands full". Boring!! I have learned to really appreciate an original comment about my family size. The kids and I were waiting for the elevator at the hospital. A woman and a little boy walk over to wait as well. Woman: You have five kids. Me: Yep. Woman: Do you think you'll have any more? Me: (so excited to talk about fertility and family planning in front of my children and a lobby full of strangers) Probably Woman: (with no sarcasm or inflection in her tone at all) Wow, you must be one of those kid lovers. I think I'm going to have a bumper sticker made. One of Those Kid Lovers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandylubug Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 Ha ha. Do it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 So I guess people with only one or two kids are not kid lovers? Honestly I think people put their foot in their mouth when they see a large family just because they are surprised. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 Bwhaahahaha! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmeblue Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 See, I get "you have your hands full" with only two. (My response: "Yep, full of good things!") But I obviously don't qualify as one of those kid lovers. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisbeth Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 Um, wow! So does she think people with only one or two kids are just having them because it's expected, but aren't really kid lovers? And kid lover could sound a little weird, too. Not sure how it would be taken on a bumper sticker... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann.without.an.e Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 At some point you just learn....people say crazy things. It is in our nature. We do it and sometimes we remain clueless and then sometimes we walk away slapping our foreheads. I wonder if her kid was thinking, "so you don't love kids, mom?" lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 *raises hand* I want one too! Make me one. Seriously, what is the alternative? You totally should have looked at her and in a straight face said, "No, actually I don't. It is a common misconception." And left her to go, huh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lea_lpz Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 I've actually been stopped and gotten plenty of compliments from older folks about having more than 2 children close in age and while I am am young. A lot of, "oh what beautiful young family" and a lot of "that's the way we did it. That's the best way." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker25 Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 I had a Walmart greeter, a beautiful older lady who I just adore, follow me around Walmart one day talking about how she was one of 13 and how great it was and how much fun they all had. She then told me as adults they would all try to get together and it would be such a blast and that when her mother died she had over 100 grandchildren and double digit great grandchildren at her funeral. It was the best conversation. I really appreciated that time of encouragement. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker25 Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 Oh, but yeah, I'm going to need one of those bumper stickers. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Michelle* Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 LOL, that was my first thought to the bumper sticker, too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 ha! It would make a great blog title! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 You need to put that above your avatar lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker25 Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 I forgot all about that! OH MY! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowing Brook Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Thanks for letting us know you are one of those! I thought every true parent was a kid lover. At least of their own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I've learned that commenting on a large family really is an art that most people do not possess. Daily, I hear, "You sure have your hands full". Boring!! I have learned to really appreciate an original comment about my family size. The kids and I were waiting for the elevator at the hospital. A woman and a little boy walk over to wait as well. Woman: You have five kids. Me: Yep. Woman: Do you think you'll have any more? Me: (so excited to talk about fertility and family planning in front of my children and a lobby full of strangers) Probably Woman: (with no sarcasm or inflection in her tone at all) Wow, you must be one of those kid lovers. I think I'm going to have a bumper sticker made. One of Those Kid Lovers. OMG, I swear that was the lady behind me in costco the other day! She was going on and on about getting rid of her kids, she just couldn't wait till they left. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sewingmama Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I must be a closet kid lover. I would have had more if fertility had allowed it. You get to come out of the closet when you have four or more LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 How many kids do you have to have to be one of those kid lovers? lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohdanigirl Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 We have 4. The comment we get the most is, "Don't you guys have cable?" I never knew what to say to that, but now dh steps in with, "Yeah, but what about the commercials?" I was so embarrassed the first time he did it, but then I noticed the looks on the other people's faces. I think they get that their comment is out of line after that, but I can't bring myself to do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeritasMama Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Classic! When people say things like "are they all yours" or "you really have your hands full" I just smile and say "yes, we're very blessed." The nice ones agree, the nice so nice ones shut up. When I only had four kids I seemed to get a lot more negative/judge mental comment. Now that we have 6, it seems like I get more compliments from older people than I did before. But we are in a different area now too, so that may be a factor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 We have 4. The comment we get the most is, "Don't you guys have cable?" I never knew what to say to that, but now dh steps in with, "Yeah, but what about the commercials?" I was so embarrassed the first time he did it, but then I noticed the looks on the other people's faces. I think they get that their comment is out of line after that, but I can't bring myself to do it. (I heard this recently....maybe from here?) If you like cable more than s@x then you are doing it wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeritasMama Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Lol. When I got pregnant with number 5 a co-worker of my husbands said he needed to get a new hobby. My husband said "Can you think of a better one?" The guy just smiled and said "No, I can't." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MiniBlondes Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 And kid lover could sound a little weird, too. Not sure how it would be taken on a bumper sticker... This made me literally laugh out loud. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 LOL! I think I would have been speechless! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joker Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 :D I still remember the day we were trying a new church when I was a young teenager. The actual pastor of that church came up to us and after my parents introduced us he said, "Wow! You took that whole be fruitful and multiply thing seriously, huh?". My parents gave a polite chuckle but all of us kids felt so awkward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hot Lava Mama Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I have taken to replying "No. I don't know who these kids are. They just keep following me around." :) Smart a$$, I know! Hot Lava Mama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 This world needs more kid lovers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 One of my dearest friends is 82 years old. She is the youngest of 17! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Lol. When I got pregnant with number 5 a co-worker of my husbands said he needed to get a new hobby. My husband said "Can you think of a better one?" The guy just smiled and said "No, I can't." This is very much like what one couple we know says. They have 5 now, but even when they only had 3 they often got asked, "Don't you know what causes that?" And they'd reply, "Yes, and we like it!" :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 I'd have been really tempted to say something like, "No, I just love teA," but honestly, I do kind of really, really like babies and can't get enough of them. Of course, I like toddlers and preschoolers too, and so far, I like bigger kids (but I'm not terribly experienced with them yet, and I've had years of experience with babies). But yes, One of Those Kid Lovers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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