maddykate Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My wonderful, sweet DH sets his alarm clock for about 45 minutes before he is really supposed to get up so that he can push the snooze button 5 times. I am one that really, really likes to sleep uninterrupted until the very last second and then get up the first time it goes off. No snooze. But every single morning, we go through this drill where his alarm goes off every nine minutes for 45 minutes before we have to get up and then I am grumpy and groggy because I have been startled awake 5 times. I just wish that he would let me sleep until the end. That would really make me happy. I could just get up the first time it goes off and let him sleep do the whole snooze routine, but I don't want to get up so early. And he doesn't either, which is why he uses the snooze. Any suggestions for a resolution? BTW, we are celebrating 18 years together on Sunday :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 DH changed from using the snooze button to having the radio come on 30 minutes before he has to get up after I complained. I can live with the radio going, but can't stand the beep-beep-beep of the alarm. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livingnlearning Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My DH does the snooze thing too-and we have a young puppy that wakes up on the FIRST buzz so then he wants to go back to sleep while the puppy wakes up and starts looking for a place to pee... :glare: We are just starting our winter schedule now and it involved him setting his alarm to the actual time we're all getting up. No more snooze time-it loses him nearly an hour of quality sleep. that doze time isn't as productive nor restfull as real sleep is... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blueridge Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 :grouphug: btdt! You might try moving the alarm to an opposite wall that would require him to get up to turn it off. No snooze alarm required. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momto3indians Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 ...and it drove me lulu!! Sleep is precious when homeschooling!! But I guess he got the message and he no longer does it!!! It's rare now he hits the snooze button or sets the clock to read 30minutes late....grrrr....glad those days are over! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Have you told him how you feel? I know sometimes dh's can be oblivious to things like that, but would he do that to a co-worker if they had to share a hotel room? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddykate Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 :grouphug: btdt! You might try moving the alarm to an opposite wall that would require him to get up to turn it off. No snooze alarm required. :) We have done that and now he just gets up 4 times to push the snooze and gets back in bed. Then he puts his cold feet on me :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plink Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Could you move the alarm clock to your side of the bed? That way you are in control of shuting it off after the first time it rings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarlaS Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 You need to get him one of these: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaAkins Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I have no advice, but do have plenty of sympathetic hugs for you. My husband is a "slow waker" and "needs" to hit snooze many times before getting up. I am a "quality, uninterrupted sleep until the last possible moment and then get ready very quickly" type of a person. We've been married 14 years and that is one issue that has not been resolved. Honestly, lately I've been so tired that I've just been sleeping through his alarm (an amazing feat considering I'm normally a light sleeper--guess I'm bordering on exhaustion these days!). Good luck....sending some zzz's your way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 You need to get him one of these: No! What if she ends up being the one to chase it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 You could also use ear plugs. My oldest ds uses ear plugs because younger ds is a noisy sleeper. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2l&j Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My DH does this. I got him to have the alarm go off a little later. Now I only have to deal with the snooze button getting hit twice. :glare: ETA: I want to get him to use the radio alarm instead of that annoying buzzer. Maybe I will tackle that this week. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddykate Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 Have you told him how you feel? I know sometimes dh's can be oblivious to things like that, but would he do that to a co-worker if they had to share a hotel room? Yes, unfortunately, I told him pretty rudely this morning. I am one of those personanilities that doesn't say anything the first 30 times something bothers me and then completely explodes the 31st time. So, poor dh got blasted this morning. Thankfully, he is coming home for lunch so I can apologize for my outburst. We do need to figure out a way for us to both be happy with our morning routine. It didn't matter so much during the summer, because I could go back to sleep after he left for work since we take the summer break. But, now that we are homeschooling full throttle, this situation is not going to work any longer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarlaS Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 No! What if she ends up being the one to chase it? I was under the impression she gets up at that time also--but would prefer not to hear the alarm go off occasionally for 45 minutes beforehand. If I were getting up when he does, I'd set it for the time he's really supposed to get up. If he doesn't move, put the darn clanging thing under the covers next to him. But I'm evil that way. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 If that were happening here I would reach over him the first time it went off and turn the whole thing off. He would have to reset it if he wanted to sleep longer. Which means he would have to wake up somewhat. But I'm mean like that.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddykate Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 No! What if she ends up being the one to chase it? Funny! It would be me that had to chase it, for sure. Or, it would wake the kids up that early and they would be chasing it, too. Oh the chaos! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
forty-two Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Can you compromise on one snooze? I did this in college, and it becomes a habit - that you get so used to hitting snooze that you can do it without actually waking up, and then you *have* to keep setting it early or you *will* be late. I ended up setting mine a full *two hours* early before I finally broke the habit. Keeping the alarm across the room (or having your spouse wake you) is about the only way to break it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartosunshine Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 A doctor recommended this type of clock for one of my kids: http://www.amazon.com/BioBrite-Sunrise-Clock-Advanced-Charcoal/dp/B00196LFIU Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom in High Heels Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 :grouphug: btdt! You might try moving the alarm to an opposite wall that would require him to get up to turn it off. No snooze alarm required. :) We have done that and now he just gets up 4 times to push the snooze and gets back in bed. Then he puts his cold feet on me :) OMG, James Bond does this too! It is so annoying. He actually has to get up, walk across the room to hit the button and then walks back to bed THREE times. Get the heck up already! Han Solo sleeps in our room (his crib is on my side of the bed) and fortunately he sleeps right through it or I would go 12 kinds of crazy on JB. Interestingly, when I was pregnant Han Solo HATED the alarm. Every time it went off he would kick the bejeebers out of me. Now...nothing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stages Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I have no advice, but do have plenty of sympathetic hugs for you. My husband is a "slow waker" and "needs" to hit snooze many times before getting up. I am a "quality, uninterrupted sleep until the last possible moment and then get ready very quickly" type of a person. We've been married 14 years and that is one issue that has not been resolved. Honestly, lately I've been so tired that I've just been sleeping through his alarm (an amazing feat considering I'm normally a light sleeper--guess I'm bordering on exhaustion these days!). Good luck....sending some zzz's your way! DH and I are like this too. He likes the snooze and can sleep through anything...except me kicking him until he gets out of bed. I'm now responsible for being the alarm clock. But, it does make me feel better to kick him for waking me up early. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NanceXToo Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 That would drive me batty. I might have to attempt insisting that he quit with the "snooze" and just get up when he needs to get up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My dh does this, too. A big bone of contention in our soon to be 19 years of marriage. I think clocky is cute but the dog would be the one chasing it and he would immediately break it. If dh was the one chasing it he would just crawl back into bed after he caught it. When we have the extra $$ I want to invest in the clock that mimics sunlight as I think that one will be least disruptive to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee in NC Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My dh does this as well. His alarm is a very loud, very obnoxius rooster crow. I may have to hurt him.:glare: :lol::lol::lol: ETA: Did I mention that it starts at 5am... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I'm surprised how many of you are dealing with this! I can't understand anyone doing that to a spouse or roommate. I need quality, uninterrupted sleep, so I feel for all of you sufferers. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WagsWife Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I have not read any other responses...but a couple of years ago, when my DH got into this same habit, I threatened to KILL him. It worked. He only snoozes once or twice now :) My wonderful, sweet DH sets his alarm clock for about 45 minutes before he is really supposed to get up so that he can push the snooze button 5 times. I am one that really, really likes to sleep uninterrupted until the very last second and then get up the first time it goes off. No snooze. But every single morning, we go through this drill where his alarm goes off every nine minutes for 45 minutes before we have to get up and then I am grumpy and groggy because I have been startled awake 5 times. I just wish that he would let me sleep until the end. That would really make me happy. I could just get up the first time it goes off and let him sleep do the whole snooze routine, but I don't want to get up so early. And he doesn't either, which is why he uses the snooze. Any suggestions for a resolution? BTW, we are celebrating 18 years together on Sunday :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 That would drive me insane! Yeah, DH would have to put a stop to that LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5LittleMonkeys Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I'm not going to be very popular in saying this but...some of you have very insensitive husbands. There is no way either my dh or I would interrupt the other's sleep that way. To the OP, does your husband KNOW this bothers you and is continuing to do it? If so I would suggest he sleep in another room. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Here dh sets his alarm for when he wants me to kick him out of bed. Seriously. Alarm blaring = me kicking him or thumping his shoulder and saying variations of "Alarm! Turn the friggin' alarm off! Hurry before it wakes the baby! Get up!" Oddly enough, my dh never hits snooze and repeats the process. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faline Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My dh will do this too if I let him, and I hate it. I've explained to him about the quality sleep thing. I'm a morning person but it irritates me if I have to hear the alarm 5 times before it's time to get up. It was only after I offered to sleep in another room that I noticed him trying to mend his ways...:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vonfirmath Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 in our house, I'm the one that needs two alarms to get up. They used to be set for 5am and 5:30a. Now they are 4:30 and 5a. But unless the baby is crying, etc. I have a VERy hard time "jumping out of bed" (and when I do jump out of the bed for the baby, I end up falling asleep again whereever we sit down together -- so its not "up for the day" kind of up) What has worked for me since before I got married is to have two alarms. The first one "shakes' me awake such that the second I am able to get up to. I have NEVER been able to make Snooze work for me. Thankfully, my husband works with me on this and knows it is necessary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy101 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 What the alarm sounds like is whatever will make me hit less franticly. He made the mistake of using some stupid song (Metallica I think) that I swear started with a woman screaming like she was being murdered. I woke up with an adrenalin rush screaming at dh as i just about shoved him right off the bed to go to the kids and reaching for my cell phone. He didn't use that song for an alarm twice! It usually isn't about me sleeping longer than him. Most days the alarm gets us both up for the day. I just hate waking up to loud noises and I really want to savor whatever few and rare moments I get to enjoy a cup of coffee before the kids wake up. Besides that, it gives us some quiet couple time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 On the third alarm I put my feet on his butt and push him out of bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sun Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 I can't even imagine DH doing that, let alone putting up with it for months--forget years! If he tried using snooze like that, on day 2, I'd throw the snooze alarm in the trash away from our house and buy a new alarm clock without a snooze feature. Losing an hour of sleep every morning would just not be acceptable for our house! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CalicoKat Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My wonderful, sweet DH sets his alarm clock for about 45 minutes before he is really supposed to get up so that he can push the snooze button 5 times. I am one that really, really likes to sleep uninterrupted until the very last second and then get up the first time it goes off. No snooze. But every single morning, we go through this drill where his alarm goes off every nine minutes for 45 minutes before we have to get up and then I am grumpy and groggy because I have been startled awake 5 times. I just wish that he would let me sleep until the end. That would really make me happy. I could just get up the first time it goes off and let him sleep do the whole snooze routine, but I don't want to get up so early. And he doesn't either, which is why he uses the snooze. Any suggestions for a resolution? BTW, we are celebrating 18 years together on Sunday :) I pull the blankets off him and kick him out of bed. :D I can't abide the snooze button. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smillard00 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 This is my husband's preference too. Is it a guy thing??? :tongue_smilie: Anyway, a couple of things finally pointed out to him what a problem it was for me. First, when we have a small baby in the house, the baby is usually next to our bed or in our bed by that point in the morning, so an obnoxious alarm would wake the baby and he knows that is a HUGE no no! Second, I've had a bunch of knee surgery and PT this year and have had many bad nights when I've not gotten to sleep until shortly before he is getting up, so having an alarm wake me up when I have fought so hard to get to sleep is another HUGE no no. So, somewhere in there, he has figured out that if he puts it on music and catches it quickly, I usually don't hear the alarm go off. Our alarm clock also has the feature that it begins softly and ups the volume gradually until it is turned off. So it doesn't jolt me awake even if I do hear it. This one we can live with. And on super important days, we use the obnoxious squawking setting to make sure we both hear it and don't oversleep. Dh and I rarely argue or fight about anything, but this was the one issue that probably got us closest to a big fight than anything. I don't do well with sleep deprivation! And I never could convince him that if he just had that extra hour of sleep that he was depriving himself of by doing all of this "snoozing" he would be able to get up better on the first alarm. I'm starting to understand, after 17 years of this, that maybe he really wouldn't feel better--he just needs that gradual wakeup. Go figure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alice Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Well...after reading the thread I hate to admit it but I'm the snoozer in my family. :leaving: It's always been the way I'd prefer to wake up since high school. That said, dh has never complained about it and is a very deep sleeper. If he told me it bothered him I'd do my best to stop. He might not have any idea how much it bugs you. Hmm....maybe I should ask dh if it bothers him. Maybe he's seething in silence. ;) (Knowing my dh that's pretty unlikely. I'm the seethe in silence kind of gal, he's the straight-forward tell it like it is guy.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Tara~ Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 My hubs goes in spurts with this. If it goes on for several day I bring it up in conversation, again. If it continues after that...I move his clock ever so slightly away. It's close enough that he doesn't see it as out of place when he turns it on at night, but away from 'normal' enough that as he sleepily reaches over to slap snooze, it's not there. bwahaahaha He wakes up enough fumbling around that the snooze is no longer needed. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Either DH normally gets up at the first alarm, or I sleep through it, but this morning I woke up to him trying to answer his phone. It wasn't ringing, it was the alarm going off. He did it a second time too! Normally I'm the snooze abuser, but I put the phone under the corner of my pillow so I'm the only one dealing with it. Now if I could get him to get his clothes out and lunch made at night instead of banging around the house in the morning, we'd be set. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 :grouphug: btdt! You might try moving the alarm to an opposite wall that would require him to get up to turn it off. No snooze alarm required. :) We did that and it doesn't help a bit. My dh gets up, walks across the room, hits the snooze button and goes back to bed.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Well...after reading the thread I hate to admit it but I'm the snoozer in my family. :leaving: Me, too! I usually just snooze once as I set my alarm to when I really, really need to get up. Trying to maximize that quality sleep. Dh almost always gets up minutes before his alarm even goes off. He's always been like that. If his alarm goes off or he snoozes then he's either sick or completely exhausted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoVanGogh Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Probably shouldn't admit this, but... I kicked DH out of the bedroom for a while over the snooze button. When we lived in an apartment, we were actually threatened with eviction because so many of our neighbors complained about DH's loud alarm! I talked to him about it so many times and he knew how much it bothered my sleep. (And our neighbors... :001_huh:) I finally gave him a warning - three more times and you are moving across the house to the office couch. :tongue_smilie: He slept on the couch for a year before he changed his ways. If he backslides now, I just give him the evil eye. :glare: (BTW, we have been married 20+ years.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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