Harriet Vane Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 (edited) Just venting . .. . I was told today that my motives are not pure enough to attend a meeting for a ministry I have served with for many years. :001_huh: It was really pretty silly, and is the opinion of only one person who is exceeding her authority by quite a bit, but it's irritating me to death. Doncha just love church politics? Edited October 31, 2010 by strider Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: BTDT. Not fun at all.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asta Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Just venting . .. . I was told today that my motives are not pure enough. :001_huh: It was really pretty silly, and is the opinion of only one person who is exceeding her authority by quite a bit, but it's irritating me to death. Doncha just love church politics? I would have been tempted to smile at the person, throw out my arms and exclaim "GOD! You've come! I've been waiting!" And then walk out and never come back. But I don't frequent places like that, so it wouldn't have happened to me. Sorry someone treated you so poorly. a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted October 31, 2010 Author Share Posted October 31, 2010 I would have been tempted to smile at the person, throw out my arms and exclaim "GOD! You've come! I've been waiting!" a :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AuntieM Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: I am so sorry. That is an icky spot to be in. Church politics... Just stink. Prayers that you can navigate this situation with grace (despite how you really feel like responding!). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ELaurie Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: I'm sorry strider. I loathe church politics. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mykdsmomy Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: This is one of my biggest issues with church. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Wow. Your motives aren't pure? What in the heck does that mean, anyway? Geez Louise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Wow.Your motives aren't pure? What in the heck does that mean, anyway? I think it means she lost the popularity contest. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 How could anyone really know your motives? :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Doncha just love church politics? Sigh...No...I don't. Sorry you had to deal with that.:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Just venting . .. . I was told today that my motives are not pure enough to attend a meeting for a ministry I have served with for many years. :001_huh: It was really pretty silly, and is the opinion of only one person who is exceeding her authority by quite a bit, but it's irritating me to death. Doncha just love church politics? :001_huh: So... are you going to the meeting? If I were you, I'd speak to whomever IS in authority. When people do things like that, it needs to be made clear to them where they really stand (as opposed to where they think they stand - on the throne of authority). What an interesting person. I hope this works out for the best. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeckyFL Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 God doesn't like church politics either. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Just venting . .. . I was told today that my motives are not pure enough to attend a meeting for a ministry I have served with for many years. :001_huh: It was really pretty silly, and is the opinion of only one person who is exceeding her authority by quite a bit, but it's irritating me to death. Doncha just love church politics? Inferring then attacking motives (rather than talking about behavior) is considered an interpersonal "foul" in our church. So while we, like any organization of human beings, have "politics", we don't have that kind. And if someone tried it, she would be the one who would be having a chat with a pastor or someone else in authority. Is. 50 is a good chapter for cases like this. Sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Our Lord says in Matthew 5: 11"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. 12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kamom Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Sorry you were hurt:grouphug: Seems like there is an awful lot of bad feeling toward churches and those in them on here. Lots of hurting people. What has often helped me is to remember that people are not perfect. Our church is only as perfect as we are:tongue_smilie: We make mistakes too, remind myself to read 1 Cor 13., Love bears all thing, even if they don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michelle O. in MO Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 (edited) I was told today that my motives are not pure enough to attend a meeting for a ministry I have served with for many years. :001_huh: :001_huh::001_huh: I haven't messed with the church in 20 years, so I really don't get what this means other then it appears self-righteous and rather judgmental. I'm wondering what are his/her motives? :glare: ETA: sorry, I meant to have the top line encased in your original quote, but didn't manage to do it Edited October 31, 2010 by Michelle O. in MO Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Hate church politics. Sorry you're dealing with it. How can someone question your motives? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristavws Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 And that would be exactly why dh and I have pulled back from leading groups/positions of responsiblility over the past few years. So sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 I'm sorry. BTDT -- :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 :grouphug::glare::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angela in ohio Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 I would have been tempted to smile at the person, throw out my arms and exclaim "GOD! You've come! I've been waiting!" :lol: I think it means she lost the popularity contest. Exactly. Queen bees and wanna bees in choir robes... :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted November 1, 2010 Author Share Posted November 1, 2010 Thanks everyone. A little sympathy really does go a long way. This is not something I am going to address more than I already have. When this person told me her thoughts this morning I did correct her assumptions and tell her she should re-examine her perceptions of me. I also told her, gently, that this was really pretty silly. (All said gently, I promise.) If we were going to stay with this church (we are moving an hour away) I might be tempted to push a little more, but even then I don't know if I would. As far as personal offense goes, this was terribly irritating but not important in the grand scheme. My only real concern is in how this person exceeded her authority--I would not want that to happen again with others. However, I think it's probably best in the long run to leave it alone and hope my response to her (in the above paragraph) will give her food for thought. Just to clarify--we are leaving the church because we are moving an hour away. We are not leaving over any specific unhappiness. If we were not moving there would not leave--there would be no question of that at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sophia Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 This is not something I am going to address more than I already have. When this person told me her thoughts this morning I did correct her assumptions and tell her she should re-examine her perceptions of me. I also told her, gently, that this was really pretty silly. (All said gently, I promise.) As far as personal offense goes, this was terribly irritating but not important in the grand scheme. Love covers over all transgressions. Way to be the bigger woman, Strider. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted November 1, 2010 Share Posted November 1, 2010 Thanks everyone. A little sympathy really does go a long way. This is not something I am going to address more than I already have. When this person told me her thoughts this morning I did correct her assumptions and tell her she should re-examine her perceptions of me. I also told her, gently, that this was really pretty silly. (All said gently, I promise.) If we were going to stay with this church (we are moving an hour away) I might be tempted to push a little more, but even then I don't know if I would. As far as personal offense goes, this was terribly irritating but not important in the grand scheme. My only real concern is in how this person exceeded her authority--I would not want that to happen again with others. However, I think it's probably best in the long run to leave it alone and hope my response to her (in the above paragraph) will give her food for thought. Just to clarify--we are leaving the church because we are moving an hour away. We are not leaving over any specific unhappiness. If we were not moving there would not leave--there would be no question of that at all. :D Well done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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