Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 My Dd is getting married end of May, She and I are planning the wedding, and we are very not in the know about many things. I think I will be adding questions over the next few days Do the groom and groom party have a flower and a hanky thingy in their pocket, or either a flower or hanky thingy? Does the bride continue to wear her veil at the reception, or remove it and wear some nice hair thing? or does she wear the veil part way through the reception and take it off once it starts to get in the way? DD and I are going to make all the dresses , we are both growing the flowers ( hope that part works) it will be a very simple wedding, old fashioned 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 We attended a beautiful garden wedding yesterday. The men wore chino pants and white shirts, so no flowers or hankies. The bride did not wear a veil. She had simple flowers in her hair. The skirt of her dress was long and flowing at the back though. If the bride does want a veil, she will typically wear it throughout the service, but remove it for the reception. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 dd is going to make a veil. she is going to attach it to a hair slide.{ she thinks}. should the decorations on the hair slide be visible when the veil is down or up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 (edited) I would imagine the slides visible when the veil is up, as she will only really be wearing it down while walking down the aisle. Edited February 22, 2021 by Hannah 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 1 minute ago, Hannah said: I would imagine the slides visible when the veil is up, as she will only really be wearing it down while walking down the aisle. thank you. that is what I suspected Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 should the bridesmaids and flower girls have similar style dresses? all matching? they area all sisters of the groom, age 4 (niece), 11, 13, 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 That sounds very sweet. It’s a long time since I got married but back then it was hankie plus corsage. And the veil stayed in and decorations would be displayed when the veil was back not over the face. Do you guys have access to interlibrary loan where you are? I wonder if they have any of the bridal magazines - they often have tips on the current way things are done. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, Ausmumof3 said: That sounds very sweet. It’s a long time since I got married but back then it was hankie plus corsage. And the veil stayed in and decorations would be displayed when the veil was back not over the face. Do you guys have access to interlibrary loan where you are? I wonder if they have any of the bridal magazines - they often have tips on the current way things are done. that is a good idea. I think our library has removed all magazines at the moment because of corona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Just now, Melissa in Australia said: that is a good idea. I think our library has removed all magazines at the moment because of corona I had a quick look and the Press Reader app that our library system uses has quite a few digital bridal magazines. It does tend to be really slow because they are high res so may not be great depending on your interest. But could be a bit of fun to look through if it works. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 thanks for the suggestions 🙂 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Congratulations! My dd is getting married, too, in September. I was able to get a bunch of books from our public library through our contactless pickup. There is also Pinterest, The Knot, Wedding Wire and all sorts of Facebook or Reddit groups. They are all helpful. For dresses, one thing that is in style currently is to have the same color for the bridesmaids but allow them to choose the neckline/hem/sleeve style they prefer. That way they can all feel comfortable with the cut with whatever body type they have. Flower girls don’t usually have the same color as bridesmaids, but it wouldn’t be wrong. Most often flower girls are in white, ivory or blush - they are the only participants who can wear the same color as the bride. None of the weddings I have attended had a veil down over the face. They were veils attached to a hair ornament and stayed in at the reception. In one recent wedding, the veil was sort of inside the bride’s bun and could not have been removed until her hair was let down. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BusyMom5 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Pretty sure the answer to your questions is whatever the bride wants 😉 Lots of simple weddings aren't doing Tuxes, they are doing dress pants with a button up, sometimes suspenders, sometimes a tie- either type- usually the groom may wear a flower, but not all do. 6 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 As for the veil at the wedding - depends upon the venue. Very religious/tradition weddings tend to have a veil. there are a lot that aren't wearing them today. for the reception - take it off. (it's easier). You can add crystals (they sell these in sets for brides) to her hair - and you don't need to add anything else. you can wear them under the veil, and take it off at the reception. you could even do a medieval flower head piece with ribbons. Best wishes for your daughter, and all the planning ahead of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 What I have seen—flower girls usually have a very light colored dress, but not white and not patterned. If the bridesmaids’ dresses are light in color, they match, but often the bridesmaids’ dresses are a darker color that does not clash with those of the flower girls. Cost is also a factor. Often the bride will ask the parents of the flower girl to have her wear a nice dress that she already has. Sometimes the dress will be a gift from the bride. For kids, it is crucial that the dress not be itchy. It often really helps to let the kid’s family use a solid color dress they already have. Also, the bridesmaids’ dresses can be floor length, tea length, or even shorter, but the flower girls usually can’t manage a floor length. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bootsie Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 8 hours ago, Melissa in Australia said: should the bridesmaids and flower girls have similar style dresses? all matching? they area all sisters of the groom, age 4 (niece), 11, 13, 15 To me, it would really depend on the 11, 13, and 15 year olds--how close they are in size, maturity. Is the 15 year old close to 16 and the 11 year old barely 11? If so, what is appropriate for the 15 year old may be too mature for the 11 year old and what is reasonable for the 11 year old may look childish on the 15 year old. Unless they are of similar in heights, I would go with similar but not the same. If the older girls are wearing heavier fabrics that aren't really appropriate for a 4 year old, I would consider a white dress for the flower girl with a sash that matches the older girls' dresses. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bootsie Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 I have seen a veil being worn at a reception vary quite a bit by the type of veil--a longer veil being removed and a shorter one worn. In some cultures it is common to wear the veil at the reception and men pin money to the veil for a turn to dance with the bride. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Here are some examples of mismatched bridesmaid's dresses in a variety of color schemes. Sometimes the dresses are the same style and sometimes they're different.https://www.wednova.com/blog/14-mismatched-bridesmaid-dresses-color-palettes-from-real-weddings.html 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 Congratulations! Have a fun wedding! The best thing is that you can't do anything wrong. My daughter was married last year. She loves looking at all the online articles, pinterest and the rest. Her maid of honor made her veil which she wore for the ceremony and some pictures. She bought some pretty clips for her hair. The bridesmaids had dresses of the same fabric with different necklines. She had three different colors.Most of the bridesmaids however did not come because it was a covid wedding and we had a limited number of folks and rules to follow. The guys were happy to get new suits. A friend made the boutonnieres for the guys and flowers for the women. It was hot, the jackets came off soon after the pictures. Friends made a nice tea for the afternoon reception. It was lovely. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 (edited) Definitely whatever aesthetic the couple wants! I've seen hanky or no hanky. I've seen tons of flowers and just bridal flowers and everything in between. None of the women in our wedding party matched, they all picked out their own dresses. They were a variety of ages and body types and that just worked best for us. Veils I've seen on or off at reception. I had a train veil (but a simpler dress with a tiny train that bustled), so mine came off. Really anything goes IMO. Edited February 22, 2021 by FuzzyCatz 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 (edited) As Dd and I will have to sew all the dresses we will be keeping the pattern simple. We are going pattern and material buying in a few days. The wedding dress pattern she bought from a vintage pattern collector as she couldn't find what she was after new. Edited February 22, 2021 by Melissa in Australia 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 I don't think there will be any dancing as currently dancing isn't allowed under covid rules The reception may be just afternoon tea and small finger food. Very hard to plan without knowing what the situation will be re lockdowns etc. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 22, 2021 Author Share Posted February 22, 2021 The groom and his party are looking after their own clothes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 22, 2021 Share Posted February 22, 2021 1 hour ago, Melissa in Australia said: As Dd and I will have to sew all the dresses we will be keeping the pattern simple. We are going pattern and material buying in a few days. The wedding dress pattern she bought from a vintage pattern collector as she couldn't find what she was after new. Big props to you for doing this. My mom made her own dress and all my bridesmaid dresses and my MIL made her own dress plus my two little nieces, who were not flower girls but looked super adorable. My sister made my flowers (artificial). 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 45 minutes ago, Dreamergal said: Will it be very nosy to ask for pictures after the wedding of course during different stages of dress construction ? Issues you faced ? I am a pandemic novice sewer and would like to know more about the process as much as you can share. I am really wanting to know what flowers you will plant. Also tea party sounds fabulous. This wedding sounds so lovely. Do Australians wear hats for a wedding like Brits do ? Sorry for being nosy. I would love to see pictures, too! This wedding sounds just beautiful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 (edited) no hats, it will be just about winter at the end of May mostly she wants lots of Gypsophilia flowers , in pink and white will post a copy of the dress pattern picture when it arrives. she wants to modify the back of the dress to not be as low, so we will make a mock up of the bodice in some satin that I have at hand. and do any adjustments etc. we haven't ever undertaken a dress with big adjustments before not something important before anyway. We have done simple pattern alterations like change sleeves etc and that is it really. Edited February 23, 2021 by Melissa in Australia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 23, 2021 Author Share Posted February 23, 2021 Just had a thought re hats. People here wear hats to horse racing like in UK, Not weddings though. In summer mostly people where hats to outdoor things just for sun protection Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 19 hours ago, Melissa in Australia said: should the bridesmaids and flower girls have similar style dresses? all matching? they area all sisters of the groom, age 4 (niece), 11, 13, 15 Historically, the bridesmaids didn't match each other. That's a thing that's relatively new. There's not a thing wrong with having dresses that are lovely but different from each other. Both of my dds told their bridesmaids to wear whatever they wanted. Both girls had a necklace that was their grandmother's, and they asked the bridesmaids to choose dresses which had similar colors. One of the bridesmaids was a poor college student and couldn't afford to buy anything, so she just wore a dress that she already had. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 Ddil had all the bridesmaids choose their own dresses, but in jewel colors. So there was a variety of color and style. They did look at them beforehand to make sure they would work together. The flowers were handmade bouquets of a variety, including sunflowers. It looked gorgeous, with rich color. One dd had a very small family wedding with no attendants (didn't want to choose between siblings). I'm afraid I can't remember what the other dd did for bridesmaid dresses (embarrassed face). 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 23, 2021 Share Posted February 23, 2021 On 2/22/2021 at 4:52 AM, Quill said: Congratulations! My dd is getting married, too, in September. I was able to get a bunch of books from our public library through our contactless pickup. There is also Pinterest, The Knot, Wedding Wire and all sorts of Facebook or Reddit groups. They are all helpful. For dresses, one thing that is in style currently is to have the same color for the bridesmaids but allow them to choose the neckline/hem/sleeve style they prefer. That way they can all feel comfortable with the cut with whatever body type they have. Flower girls don’t usually have the same color as bridesmaids, but it wouldn’t be wrong. Most often flower girls are in white, ivory or blush - they are the only participants who can wear the same color as the bride. None of the weddings I have attended had a veil down over the face. They were veils attached to a hair ornament and stayed in at the reception. In one recent wedding, the veil was sort of inside the bride’s bun and could not have been removed until her hair was let down. I like this trend. My niece objected to the VERY low neckline of a dress she was asked to wear for a wedding she was going to be in. The bride melted down and the friendship was ruined. So weird. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 Wedding dress pattern Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 But without the train Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 Bridesmaid patterns, the long dress one, with the cute little jacket 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 Flower girl 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Lovely patterns, @Melissa in Australia 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 I love that dress! I wore one very similar to my first wedding. (the issue with that marriage was the groom's mental instability, not the dress, I promise!!!) In fact, when I picture a wedding dress, that is what i picture in my head, something like that. I also love the bridesmaid dresses and flower girl dress. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Oh, and those bridesmaid dresses should be perfectly able to be worn many more times! One wedding I was in was very casual - on the beach in south florida - and there were just two bridesmaids. We were told to go shopping together and pick out a dress we both liked - but NOT a bridesmaid dress. Just regular dress - we went to Macy's or somewhere like that and found a nice summer dress we both liked. I love that idea - having bridesmaids wear normal dresses (like what you are making) rather than overgrown prom dresses. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Great choices! I'm looking forward to the fabric choices. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Beautiful patterns! I can't wait to see finished product. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 6 hours ago, Dreamergal said: Thanks for the pattern pictures @Melissa in Australia. Everything looks so pretty especially the bride's dress. So wonderful you can make something like this. Will you practice on cheap fabric especially the bride's dress before making the actual one ? We are practising the bodice on some fabric I have at hand. Dd wants to make sure the back isn't below brastrap level. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 25, 2021 Author Share Posted February 25, 2021 We bought the material yesterday as well. Will post pictures when the daylight is good 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Danae Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Those dresses are lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 25, 2021 Share Posted February 25, 2021 Everything is so pretty! It will be a lovely wedding! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 26, 2021 Author Share Posted February 26, 2021 The flower girls in this fabric 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 26, 2021 Author Share Posted February 26, 2021 The bridesmaids in this fabric with the borrelleo jackets in pink Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted February 26, 2021 Author Share Posted February 26, 2021 Argh. I cannot get the photo to attach. You can see the fabric in the corner of the pink fabric photo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted February 26, 2021 Share Posted February 26, 2021 So pretty! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted February 26, 2021 Share Posted February 26, 2021 I think the flower girl dresses are going to be adorable! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted April 9, 2021 Author Share Posted April 9, 2021 I bought the dress I am going to wear. I just need to make a little jacket to go with it 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drama Llama Posted April 9, 2021 Share Posted April 9, 2021 9 minutes ago, Melissa in Australia said: I bought the dress I am going to wear. I just need to make a little jacket to go with it Oh, that's lovely! I love the floral theme. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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