---- Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 (edited) . Edited September 14, 2014 by amana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snickelfritz Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I follow the 9 AM to 9 PM rule, unless I KNOW it's fine to call outside those times. If I had just gotten a text or email, I would have assumed it was fine and called. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Normally I wait until 9 but obviously that would be too late for an 8:30 activity and equally obviously she was up. I would be momentary irritated and then would let it pass. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
---- Posted July 20, 2011 Author Share Posted July 20, 2011 . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Normally I wait until 9 but obviously that would be too late for an 8:30 activity and equally obviously she was up. I would be momentary irritated and then would let it pass. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kokotg Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 She e-mailed you, so you knew she was up, and then she got upset when you called immediately after? yeah, I think it's her problem, not yours. I usually don't call anyone before 9, but the reason you don't call early in the morning is because someone might be asleep. If you KNOW she's up, it's entirely different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 9 am to about 8:30 pm. I don't care if I'm awake before that. I'm not public before that. (Except for church at 8:30 or something.) Outside of those times I generally don't answer the phone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Usually 9 to 9. I try not to call people, unless it's family, before 10 though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommaduck Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I usually try not to call before 8, and that seems to be the time most people wait to call me. This morning I received an email from a neighbor this morning at 7:50 wanting to know if she could pick up one of my dds for an activity at 8:30. I was on my way out the door and was afraid she would miss a return email, so I called her. My dh sleeps during the day and just finished an 18 hour shift. I REALLY didn't want him woken up from the doorbell ringing. I assumed because I knew she was awake that it would be okay, but it wasn't. She was kind of snippy and asked me if I knew what time it was. This is an elderly lady who lives alone, so it's not like I woke anyone up. This same sweet lady has also called me numerous times at 8 - 8:15. This seem weird to anyone else? What's your rule for morning phone calls? Wow. If she emailed you at 7:50am, then I don't see why she would be upset by a phone call at that time, especially if she lives alone (aka no one else to wake up). I know that it really depends upon the person. Elderly relatives on my husband's side don't like phone calls before 10am, even if they are already up. On my side, people are generally fine with phone calls at 8am. I have a friend that I know I can call at 1am in the morning and friends that know they can call me ANYTIME, even if it's just to jabber at 3am (if I can't talk at that time, then I'll either not answer or I'll just tell them). I was also taught that it is rude (as a general rule) to call past 9pm (and I try to avoid calling people past 8pm...unless it's one of my insomniac friends and we want to jabber). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DesertDweller Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I follow the 9 AM to 9 PM rule, unless I KNOW it's fine to call outside those times. If I had just gotten a text or email, I would have assumed it was fine and called. 9am-9pm is what I follow as a general rule. If there is an activity scheduled for in the morning and I need to call, I would call as early as 8am only because I would assume the person was up and getting ready to be at the activity. The other exception would be if I need to call a very close friend. I have sometimes called after 9pm if it's important or concerning something first thing the next day. I don't think you did anything wrong. She obviously had to be up and getting ready to leave if she was planning on going somewhere at 8:30am. I would have done the same. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I follow the 9 AM to 9 PM rule, unless I KNOW it's fine to call outside those times. If I had just gotten a text or email, I would have assumed it was fine and called. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathmom Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Anyone who knows me knows not to call me early in the morning LOL. In fact, whenever I call my mom early (she's an early riser so if I'm up I might call her) she immediately wonders what's wrong! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carpe Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 It's okay to call my mother at 7am, but don't think of calling my house before noon. My in laws are 9am people, my sister 8am, people I don't know well I wait until 10am. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 my own personal rule of thumb is 8:00 during the school year, 9:00 during the summer. If I haven't slept well during the night, or a kid or myself were up sick, I just take the phone off the hook. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daisy Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I call any time after 8am. The entire business world is awake by that point. IMO, If you don't want to be disturbed that early, have your answering machine on and your phone off. I will call before that time if I know you are all up such as calling my friend at 7:30am to ask if she wants to meet at Starbucks after she drops her boys at school. I don't call anyone after 8pm, because I don't want to be called after that time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 It's just weird that she seemed upset that you called, and yet it was only 40 minutes before time to be at your house to pick up your kid! Wouldn't she have been even more upset if you'd called at 8:15 to tell her whether or not it was ok? I know which of my friends are earlybirds and which aren't so my 'call time' varies depending on who I'm calling. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I don't answer the phone before 10:30 unless all the gerbils are on the wheel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraciWA Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 In our family the rule was always never before 9 a.m. or after 9 p.m. But I have had sales people call before 9. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OH_Homeschooler Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 She e-mailed you, so you knew she was up, and then she got upset when you called immediately after? yeah, I think it's her problem, not yours. I usually don't call anyone before 9, but the reason you don't call early in the morning is because someone might be asleep. If you KNOW she's up, it's entirely different. Plus she was going to be at your house within the half hour? So she'd be up and getting ready to go, I'd hope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Usually 9 to 9. :iagree: Although I will call earlier or later if it's someone I know well and I know they'll be up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I usually try not to call before 8, and that seems to be the time most people wait to call me. This morning I received an email from a neighbor at 7:50 wanting to know if she could pick up one of my dds for an activity at 8:30. I was on my way out the door and was afraid she would miss a return email, so I called her. My dh sleeps during the day and just finished an 18 hour shift. I REALLY didn't want him woken up from the doorbell ringing. I assumed because I knew she was awake that it would be okay, but it wasn't. She was kind of snippy and asked me if I knew what time it was. This is an elderly lady who lives alone, so it's not like I woke anyone up. This same sweet lady has also called me numerous times at 8 - 8:15. This seem weird to anyone else? What's your rule for morning phone calls? eta: I only call people that early who I know it's okay. If it was someone I didn't know well, I would wait until 9. I never call people past 8 pm. I try to wait as long after 8 as I can. It's possible the phone startled her. I know I often get irritated at the phone ringing, even if I've told someone to call me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snickelfritz Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Could this be one of those personal etiquette things (on the part of the neighbor) like some people were soooo outraged over how tacky a registry is? No matter the reason, you do NOT call before 8? It's just not done. Not 7:58, not 7:59.....8:00! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Wow, how extremely weird. She emailed you at 7:50 about an 8:30 pickup and got annoyed that you called in between because it was too early? That' just .... odd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 Weekday: 9 - 9:30. Weekend: 10 - 9:30. I'm thinking (after reading this), that I shouldn't call people past 9p.m., unless I know them very well and they're ok with 9:30. I wonder how many people I've irritated by calling at 9:20 pm.? I usually call that late just to give some quick info, not to settle in for a chat, however. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted July 20, 2011 Share Posted July 20, 2011 I try not to call before 10 A.M. or after 9 P.M., except in rare instances when I know someone has a different schedule than those times accomodate. It would have been nice if the woman had said in her e-mail that she would prefer you reply to it instead of calling. She could have said that she'd check her e-mail at a certain time for your reply. And you could've told her that your husband was sleeping, and you'd have your dd be outside by 8:25 ready to go so as not to disturb him! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
---- Posted July 21, 2011 Author Share Posted July 21, 2011 . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted July 21, 2011 Share Posted July 21, 2011 That's the thing, there was no prior plans made. Her email was the first I heard about her wanting to take dd this morning. We already had plans and were on our way out the door, so I wouldn't have been here to interfere with the doorbell ringing. I'm assuming it's just a matter of etiquette on her part, and now I can put her on my list of people to NOT call any ealier. Definitely will use email next time. ;) Gotcha. Tricky situation, for sure! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.