ecj98 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I am the oldest of 2, and DH is the oldest of 3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I am the middle child. My brother is 4 years older than I and my sister 13 year younger. DH is the youngest. His sister is 6 years older and his brother is 5 years older. My brother is the eldest and he was BOSSY when we were growing up. He thought of himself as "in charge". He's been married twice and he has never had one iota of leadership quality in the marriage. He is a total push-over and completely walked upon. His second wife has made it her life mission to dethrone him and trash any self-confidence he has and he puts up with it. He is an eternal peace maker which is supposedly not characteristic of firstborns and I'm the second born and the leader of the three of us. Faith According to the Birth Order Book, though, you're a first-born, as you are the first-born daughter. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KatieJ Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I am 2nd of 7, DH is 5th of 6. Birth order doesn't play into this marriage as much as the Engineer ( black or white, nothing in between) hubby vs the people pleaser Wife does. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tomandlorih Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm the baby of 3 (by 6 years) married to an oldest of 3. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Oldest married to an oldest, and we both have half- and step-siblings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koerarmoca Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I had 2 families growning up so I was either the oldest or the youngest depending on where I was at. Dh was the baby of his family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Outdoorsy Type Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 DH is the youngest of two. I'm the youngest of four. Our personalities can be very similar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lulubelle Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Dh is first of 2. I am last of 5! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm the youngest and dh is the oldest. We each bring a unique perspective to parenting. When they squabble I immediately think the oldest is at fault-he must be bugging his sister. Dh immediately thinks dd is at fault as the youngest must be doing something to bother the oldest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 (edited) I'm the oldest of three girls and my husband is the youngest (brother 1.5 years older so a true youngest). I do think personality plays into things too. It's not just birth order. Some people are born conflict avoiders or very laid back personality wise for example while others are born natural directors with the bossy stuff that goes with it. I've wondered how twins fit with birth order. One would think birth order (by minutes) wouldn't matter with twins. It can't as it's family structure. Therefore, you would think both would be middle like or something but that doesn't seem to be the case in the twins I know. In our case my minutes early first born really does act like the first born/older brother and his twin definitely isn't--he acts more like a middle. In their case I really think it's personality. Edited July 3, 2011 by sbgrace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MicheleinMN Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm an eldest child; dh is the 2nd of 4, but the only son of an only son. I wonder how many home educating moms are eldest children. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossFitMama Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 We are both the oldest. It works for us. We both only have brothers - sometimes I think that means both of us find the relationship of our girls as sisters baffling! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nature Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I’m the oldest and DH is the youngest. The main conflict is that he wants to spend more time relaxing and I want to get more work done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm a firstborn married to a youngest. I always have to run around picking up socks. Yeah, I broke my own rule about not partnering up with a youngest. He has his good points, but I'm convinced he'd be perfect if he'd been the oldest. He would really, truly understand that socks don't belong unpaired on the floor!!!!!! :lol: Rosie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
historically accurate Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 We're both youngest functioning as oldest because our siblings are much older. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Dh is second of 4 (second son). I am second of four (second daughter). We are both pretty mellow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 Both of us were middles. Both of us played role of eldest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 I'm the youngest of 4 (only girl.) I grew up with my my bio-brother who is 11 mos. older than me and 2 step-brothers 10 years older than me who joined the family when I was 3 . My husband is the oldest. He's 3 years older than his sister. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marylou Posted July 3, 2011 Share Posted July 3, 2011 We are both 3rd and it has worked great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MelAR05 Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I am an oldest married to a middle with youngest boy tendencies. He is the youngest of 3 boys but the middle of 5. He tends to try to compete with me but I, of course, always think I should win. :tongue_smilie: He is a great facilitator and listener. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheAutumnOak Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 (edited) DH and I are both the second...I am the second of three and he is the second of four... ETA: I was the second girl and he was the second boy...His siblings are closer in age, but my sister is seven years older and my brother is seven years younger... Edited July 4, 2011 by TheAutumnOak Something to add Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeneralMom Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I am the youngest of 2 and my DH is the youngest of 5 (but his next closest sibling is 10 years older). But, both he and I are more like eldest children in personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SABE Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Dh is #5 out of 9, including step-siblings. I'm an only child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twoxcell Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 I'm the youngest of 4 and my dh is the second of 4. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Dh is first born for both parents. I'm firstborn for my mother, 3rd for my father. We have similar split families, so our "family style" meshes very well. We have many of the first born traits in common, but it works for us, rather than against us, I'd say. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaMa2005 Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 DH is the oldest of 3. I am an only. Thirty years married coming up in May:001_smile:. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Dh & I are both oldest kids--he's oldest of 2 boys; I'm oldest of a mix. I've read that oldest girls should only marry oldest boys, but oldest boys can marry girls who fell at any point in the birth order. I think the idea is that an oldest girl is more likely to end up playing mom to a boy who's used to being mothered. I think that can vary, depending on things like age difference, but it seems like a good general rule to me. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barb_ Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 Dh & I are both oldest kids--he's oldest of 2 boys; I'm oldest of a mix. I've read that oldest girls should only marry oldest boys, but oldest boys can marry girls who fell at any point in the birth order. I think the idea is that an oldest girl is more likely to end up playing mom to a boy who's used to being mothered. :iagree: We are living this scenario. Eh. It's not ideal, but we are making it work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miselainia Posted July 4, 2011 Share Posted July 4, 2011 We're both oldest of 4; one sister, two brothers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommymilkies Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I am an oldest married to...well, he's the middle child with his dad and oldest with his mom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Year Round Mom Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I'm a functional first-born, and DH is the only boy (two older sisters). Works for us! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I'm third of six. Dh is first of four. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momofkhm Posted July 5, 2011 Share Posted July 5, 2011 I'm youngest (of 2) and married an only. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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