secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 If your DH had a vasectomy 5 years ago, you have fibroids that cause you to have spotting before your period really gets going but you are pretty regular and you are now 8 days late? I keep feeling a little crampy/uncomfortable, and with DH's V I don't really think it's likely for me to be pregnant. I keep wondering if I should test, but then I feel crampy and think I'll start tomorrow, but that's been the past 5 days and I haven't started yet. WWYD? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LND1218 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I wouldn't but that's just me. I wouldn't waste the money on the test knowing that it wasn't likely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Go get a cheap dollar store test and test. The stress of wondering can cause you to not start all on its own. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 Go get a cheap dollar store test and test. The stress of wondering can cause you to not start all on its own. I hate standing in line at the dollar store :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would, but I'm not the best person to ask. My husband had a vasectomy 5 years ago as well. A couple of weeks ago, I dreamed several nights in a row that I was pregnant. I haven't had a period in probably 6 months, but that's not unusual for me. I went ahead and picked up two tests at the dollar store. Wish you lived closer, and I would bring the spare over. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Actually, although stress can delay ovulation, once you have ovulated your period is set in stone....stressing past ovulation will not make you start your period later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Veritaserum Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would test, but I'm kinda obsessed. :tongue_smilie: Dollar store tests are extremely accurate and inexpensive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisperry Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 #1 - Birth Control Pill baby (taken as you are supposed to) #2 - planned #3 - planned #4 - Natural Family Planning + Birth Control #5 - Tandem nursing, never had a period + monitoring my temps #6 - Copper IUD Baby (iud still in place properly....) So if it were me, heck yeah I would test. Odds don't mean a whole lot to me at this point :lol: FTR, I got my tubes tied after this last one. If that fails, I give up :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I tested. I dislike doubt, even when I'm 99.9% sure. The dollar tests are fine although they're a bit lower tech than the more expensive kinds. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I'd test, probably b/c I've gotten pregnant with an IUD. Wanna come over? I have an extra test sitting on my shelf even though I'm 36 weeks pregnant and dh is getting the V, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenL Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I'd test, but I get paranoid like that. You'll have do update us if you do! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy at Home Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would. My husband had a vastectomy five years ago and I secretly wish I'd get pregnant. He never went for his follow-up visits:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 The answer to this question is almost always yes for me. I buy in bulk. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SBMama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I am ultra-paranoid also, so I vote yes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myfatherslily Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I think the answer lies in whether it's making you crazy or not:) Is it an all-consuming thought for you, wondering, waiting, secretly starting to daydream about having a baby or completely panicking at the mere thought and wanting to know one way or the other? Or is it just a vague "huh, thought that would be today" thing that just pops up briefly each day? It really doesn't matter if the answer is yes and you wait another week to find out:) Or if the answer is no and you start within 5 minutes of testing (most likely scenario). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would, but I'm not the best person to ask. My husband had a vasectomy 5 years ago as well. A couple of weeks ago, I dreamed several nights in a row that I was pregnant. I haven't had a period in probably 6 months, but that's not unusual for me. I went ahead and picked up two tests at the dollar store. Wish you lived closer, and I would bring the spare over. :D LOL This happened to me 5 years ago. I kept thinking I was pg even though I know I couldn't be. This went on for weeks and weeks. My brain would not let it go! Dh had a vasectomy and I had ablation so, it would take two miracles for me to get pg not just one and I had no signs of being pg. What I didn't know, was that my niece was pg at the time with a baby that was going to be ours less than a year later. We had no intentions of a 3rd child, never even contemplated one, and adoption was the farthest thing from our mind. I had absolutely no idea she was pg, so it wasn't like I was coveting her little one. We were not approached about taking her until after she was born. Strange but true. I always felt like it was God's little heads up on what was to come, just getting my brain in new-baby mode. lol Any pg nieces near by? LOLOL:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2myboys Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I think the answer lies in whether it's making you crazy or not:) Is it an all-consuming thought for you, wondering, waiting, secretly starting to daydream about having a baby or completely panicking at the mere thought and wanting to know one way or the other? Or is it just a vague "huh, thought that would be today" thing that just pops up briefly each day? It really doesn't matter if the answer is yes and you wait another week to find out:) Or if the answer is no and you start within 5 minutes of testing (most likely scenario). :iagree: This was almost exactly what I was thinking. If it will bring you comfort to know, then test. If not, it doesn't hurt to wait it out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nakia Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 LOL This happened to me 5 years ago. I kept thinking I was pg even though I know I couldn't be. This went on for weeks and weeks. My brain would not let it go! Dh had a vasectomy and I had ablation so, it would take two miracles for me to get pg not just one and I had no signs of being pg. What I didn't know, was that my niece was pg at the time with a baby that was going to be ours less than a year later. We had no intentions of a 3rd child, never even contemplated one, and adoption was the farthest thing from our mind. I had absolutely no idea she was pg, so it wasn't like I was coveting her little one. We were not approached about taking her until after she was born. Strange but true. I always felt like it was God's little heads up on what was to come, just getting my brain in new-baby mode. lol Any pg nieces near by? LOLOL:grouphug: WOW! What a beautiful story. My only niece is 4 months old, so that's not it. Maybe someone else....I would love another baby. My husband would need some serious persuading though. I can handle him. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 yes, because a dear friend who is a NICU nurse in a huge hosp had a 'vasectomy' baby, and took a way the hell informal poll of 'vasectomy' babies and found out that most happened after 5 years-mostly around 10, but after 5. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 yes, because a dear friend who is a NICU nurse in a huge hosp had a 'vasectomy' baby, and took a way the hell informal poll of 'vasectomy' babies and found out that most happened after 5 years-mostly around 10, but after 5. :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 yes, because a dear friend who is a NICU nurse in a huge hosp had a 'vasectomy' baby, and took a way the hell informal poll of 'vasectomy' babies and found out that most happened after 5 years-mostly around 10, but after 5. :eek: :eek: I've been waking in the middle of the night thinking I've forgotten to take a bc pill.....which I haven't taken in about 15 years. My husband's v. was 5 years ago, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 :eek: I've been waking in the middle of the night thinking I've forgotten to take a bc pill.....which I haven't taken in about 15 years. My husband's v. was 5 years ago, too. Well, if we can give birth more than once, they can be snipped more than once. Right? :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
plain jane Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Well, if we can give birth more than once, they can be snipped more than once. Right? :lol: Well, I actually know someone who was snipped twice... and still fathered another child. :001_huh: One after the first V and another after the 2nd. Some kids were just meant to be, I guess. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy1k Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 This thread officially stressed me out. We're about 9 years post-V and I'm about 5 days late. It had better be stress. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 #1 - Birth Control Pill baby (taken as you are supposed to)#2 - planned #3 - planned #4 - Natural Family Planning + Birth Control #5 - Tandem nursing, never had a period + monitoring my temps #6 - Copper IUD Baby (iud still in place properly....) So if it were me, heck yeah I would test. Odds don't mean a whole lot to me at this point :lol: FTR, I got my tubes tied after this last one. If that fails, I give up :tongue_smilie: This sounds like my tract record. The BC methods for the last three were slightly different but same results. My hubby never got an all clear either but it's been 12 years and I am perimenopausal now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 How old are you? No need to answer but is it possible you are starting menopause? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iona Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 i would... if it bothers you, take one. also, buy 3 or 4 while you are out...so it will not take a trip to the store when it happens again.:001_smile: (dh had the operation a few years ago and I still take the tests off and on) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rootsnwings Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 My SIL is a vasectomy baby. She was born 13 years after her father got the V. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jenn- Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I should not have read this thread as my DH's V was nearly 5 yrs ago now, and he never went back for post surgery testing. Considering my last surprise baby was an IUD kid.... :leaving: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I probably would, but I am paranoid and fertile. My dh had the big V about five years ago, as well, so I know that if it had failed, I would have gotten pg by now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 About vasectomies...there are several different types. My dh had the one in which a portion of the vas deferens was removed (cut out and saved in little tubes), the ends of the vas were burned closed and then tiny clamps were placed on each of the four ends permanently. I call this the "super duper" V. :D I was present during the entire operation and witnessed those steps. I was not taking any chances. If we get pg after all of that, I will consider it divine intervention.:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babysparkler Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 This thread officially stressed me out. We're about 9 years post-V and I'm about 5 days late. It had better be stress. It is doing the opposite for me... we are 3 years past V and I am secretly hopeful that we will be surprised with another someday :D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Actually, although stress can delay ovulation, once you have ovulated your period is set in stone....stressing past ovulation will not make you start your period later. This. You probably ovulated later than usual. Funny, my dh never went to the post V check either. I wonder how common that is. I remember my mom mentioning once that perhaps she was pg (I was a young teen) and looked at her like :confused:. Not only did my dad have a vasectomy but my mom had had a hysterectomy. I just told her it was very not likely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mejane Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Can you and hubby find some time to be alone? If my period is on its way, that usually does it for me. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Funny, my dh never went to the post V check either. I wonder how common that is. I remember my mom mentioning once that perhaps she was pg (I was a young teen) and looked at her like :confused:. Not only did my dad have a vasectomy but my mom had had a hysterectomy. I just told her it was very not likely. :lol: at your mom! Fear is not rational. lol I sometimes fear pg even when I know how very unlikely it would be. My dh went to the post V check. We were not taking ANY chances. I know many people who didn't, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Well, I actually know someone who was snipped twice... and still fathered another child. :001_huh: One after the first V and another after the 2nd. Some kids were just meant to be, I guess. :tongue_smilie: That's the way I look at it. If you are doing everything possible to *not* get pregnant, and you get pregnant? That baby is supposed to be here. Says me who recently had her tubes tied. I'm hoping God doesn't take that as a challenge...:tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 How old are you? No need to answer but is it possible you are starting menopause? just turned 34, so it's possible I suppose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 This. I remember my mom mentioning once that perhaps she was pg (I was a young teen) and looked at her like :confused:. Not only did my dad have a vasectomy but my mom had had a hysterectomy. I just told her it was very not likely. :lol: So she had the hysterectomy but kept the hysteria? J/K Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smrtmama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I'd get a dollar store test. They're accurate, they're cheap, and it'll calm your mind. Pregnancy doesn't sound likely under your circumstances, but hell, my FIL's vasectomy reversed itself after about five years, so I *can* happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 Can you and hubby find some time to be alone? If my period is on its way, that usually does it for me. :) He hurt his back this weekend, so that's not an option right now. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 This thread officially stressed me out. We're about 9 years post-V and I'm about 5 days late. It had better be stress. :grouphug: I'm sorry, want me to pick up some dollar store tests for you while I'm out? :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lisamarie Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 yes, because a dear friend who is a NICU nurse in a huge hosp had a 'vasectomy' baby, and took a way the hell informal poll of 'vasectomy' babies and found out that most happened after 5 years-mostly around 10, but after 5. What are her statistics on tubal failure??? :confused::confused::confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 (edited) ...it was positive. :tongue_smilie: ETA: I would NOT be able to face a positive test today, 17 years later. I knew that particular test was going to be positive anyway, because I was 4 days late, and back then, I was NEVER more than 2 days late. And besides, something just told me I was pregnant. I just knew, even without the test. Edited November 24, 2010 by ereks mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 ...it was positive. :tongue_smilie: Seriously?!?! How exciting!! (But then again, look at my signature... A baby is ALWAYS a blessing.) Congratulations, btw! ETA: DRAT I didn't realize this wasn't the OP and was part of a title. Sigh. And I was hoping... ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phathui5 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I can't believe you haven't tested yet. We're all waiting, you know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarlaS Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 :eek: I'm focusing on the words "way the hell informal". :D But still :eek: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mykdsmomy Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I can't believe you haven't tested yet. We're all waiting, you know. :iagree::toetap05: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom-ninja. Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Can you and hubby find some time to be alone? If my period is on its way, that usually does it for me. :) Nothing like dh kick starting things to get going. ;) just turned 34, so it's possible I suppose. When does menopause usually start? I thought late 40's on average. :lol: So she had the hysterectomy but kept the hysteria? J/K Oh, she most certainly kept the hysteria. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secular_mom Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 Negative. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dancer67 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I was just coming in here to say I would test. Looks like you already did. At least you know the answer now. You could always retest again it AF doesn't show up. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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