tabmtbc Posted July 4, 2009 Share Posted July 4, 2009 Well why? Why should it bother anyone that my children are who they are? Or anyone else's children for that matter? When my kids were preschool age we made the decision to hs long term. When other kids in my kids' Bible class at church (we're at a different church now) would ask what grade they were in, my kids would name the "grade level" of most of the content work they were doing. The other kids got confused so I had to tell my kids to say the grade level of their age when they were at church. But the parents of these kids came to me and said that I SHOULDN'T be homeschooling my kids; that I SHOULDN'T be letting them be accelerated or gifted or whatever term you want to use, that I SHOULDN'T let them be reading this, or doing this math, or whatever. And I'm thinking "I didn't ask but ok, whatever." I used to talk to my ex-best-friend (the ex-best-friend thing had nothing to do with acceleration but something else entirely) who was at the time a homeschooler. She would ASK what we were doing and I would tell her. She would call and say when her son or daughter did something great and I would rejoice with her. But the rejoicing wasn't a two way street. Turned out she was envious that her kids couldn't do the same things as my kids did at such early ages. And when she would ASK what we were doing and I would tell her, even if I kept it general, like we are studying world history, or some such, she would get envious and offended. She said my comments about what my kids were doing, even the general ones like "Well we are studying math and world history and blah blah blah" were hurtful to her and the specific ones like "DD read a 600 page book in 3 days" were really hurtful. I'm a pretty quiet person when it comes to talking about my children's accomplishments IRL until the person has passed the "trust test" as a result of this experience. But the whole time I'm thinking... WELL YOU ASKED. I answered generally, you ASKED for specifics, I told you what you said you wanted to know, and YOU ASKED. I didn't volunteer. YOU ASKED. Even in my homeschool group there is only one mom I can talk to without something like this cropping up. And her dd is accelerated also. We've had issues with little ds (22 months tomorrow) in the cradle roll department in class at church. It's a long story but the cradle roll department head concurred with our assessment that the issues were because he was BORED to a large degree. Then the same person came to us a few weeks ago and told us that because his birthday doesn't meet the ps cutoff for Kindgergarten here, he will not be promoted to the next class with the rest of his buddies. OK so you don't think he's going to be MORE BORED then? That's what I thought but I didn't say so. I'm leaving it to dh to work this situation out. I know part of the reason that he may not be being promoted is because of classroom space in the next class and another part of the reason is because if they promote him "earlier than the K cutoff" then they've got the potential for a zillion other parents asking for exceptions for their kids. And when I talk to other parents IRL or in cyberspace about issues of "I have this for next year. If she finishes it before next school year is over, then what?" I get advice of "Well just make sure she doesn't." Now I realize that I don't have to take everyone's advice and I also realize I asked for it BUT what if I can't make sure she doesn't? We haven't finished some stuff from last school year (working through it over the summer at dd's pace) because we got interested in other things. We're back to the things we didn't finish now. I was actually advised by 2 different people to take the stuff we hadn't finished last year and put it somewhere where dd couldn't get to it so I'd have it to stretch out next year with. And I get the "Just make sure she doesn't finish XYZ before the year is over" advice a lot, it seems. And I'm thinking WHY SHOULD IT BOTHER YOU IF SHE DOES? But it seems to and I don't understand it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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