Home'scool Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 My divorce saga continues .... My STBX has now hired his 4TH attorney. We are going back to court (again) next Wednesday for contempt as he has not paid any of the temporary alimony in 6 months. His attorney indicated that they will be sending out a letter and a chart of credits. I have no idea what a chart of credits is. I just know that the letter will be as upsetting as all his other correspondence. He makes the most asinine, disrespectful offers and it always upsets me because it just reminds me how awful he is and how hard he is going to continually make this until the final decree. I literally woke up with hives this morning. It just keeps hanging over my head...... It helps to type it out and put it our there in black and white. Anxiety can only live in the dark so thank you for reading/listening 🙂 20 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 (edited) I am so sorry. What a petty, little man. Edited February 19, 2019 by Garga 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 (((Home'scool))) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Hugs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I kinda wonder where he keeps finding new lawyers--are there a bunch of lawyers out there desperate for any kind of business? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 10 minutes ago, maize said: I kinda wonder where he keeps finding new lawyers--are there a bunch of lawyers out there desperate for any kind of business? I know! And don't lawyers talk amongst themselves? He doesn't pay them either, does he? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storygirl Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I'm so sorry. Is there any way that his wages can be garnished? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I’m sorry😔 Hoping things get better🌺 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 I’m so sorry. Hoping for resolution ever so soon. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted February 19, 2019 Author Share Posted February 19, 2019 Quote I too wonder how he gets lawyers to take him on. I think he calls them, does a brief synopsis over the phone (leaving out all his evil deeds) and then, once they sign him up, they get all his files and see what a mess he is. Right now he owes about $30,000 to one lawyer, $40,000 to another. Both have liens on the case for his assets. My attorney also made sure to tell his new attorney about the time he showed up to her office, demanding to see her, and wouldn't leave. We go back to court next Wednesday so I will post an update after that. I am hoping to either leave the courthouse with a check for back alimony, or he leaves in handcuffs. Keep in mind, all of this is all just crap relating to the temporary order. We have not even begun to discuss a final offer. I am hoping, though, that that is straight forward. The house has been sold, we have no other properties, the kids are grown, so it should be an easy deal of deciding who pays what debt and how much alimony etc. He just manages to bog down the whole thing because he requests ridiculous things like me giving him $35,000 for the sweat equity he put into our house, or me paying for half the utilities when he was living in the marital house after I moved out. He makes close to 350K, I make 42K. We were married for 28 years. Think again, pal. He hasn't seen his daughters in over 2 years. Every now and then he will text them but they refuse to speak with him. It's all just so horrible and unnecessary. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeachyDoodle Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Wow. Just... wow. Every time you post an update, I feel even worse for you. I don't know how one person can be so awful as to wreak this much havoc. I am so sorry. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Wow. What a loser. I hope he gets what he deserves. And I hope you get what you're owed...and then some for your troubles! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Sending more hugs -- I'm so sorry. Keep venting all you want!! Alley 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawana Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Thank you for the update. I have been following your story from the beginning and am utterly fascinated by the crap that asshat thinks he can get away with. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Can you give the letter to your lawyer (or a friend), who can then respond in the most appropriate way (lawyer to legal matters, friend to provide a wall of silence that will annoy him and protect you)? Must you read it? FTG. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Once again I have my jaw on the floor. What a tool. When this is over you should definitely write a book. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 1 hour ago, Seasider too said: I am concerned for you that the legal fees he owes will cut into funds that should go to you. Are you priority in order of liens against him? Also, he needs to be sued for harassment because that is what this is, plain and simple. Hoping you get the most no-nonsense judge on the planet to put an end to this ridiculousness. Remember the old days, when someone would pass a bad check, their name and maybe even a photo would be posted by a store’s cash register? I feel like someone needs to send a flier around to every law office in a 300 miles radius. Oh, I hadn't thought of that but I wonder if that is what he's doing. Can you ask your attorney how these things are processed in your state? Is he purposely running up as many legal bills as possible so you will get nothing? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Thinking of you today. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Thank you for the update. What a horrible person. I hope this is over quickly. Hugs. Hope you have some relief from the hives today. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 ::hugs:: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Home'scool Posted February 20, 2019 Author Share Posted February 20, 2019 Also, he needs to be sued for harassment because that is what this is, plain and simple. Hoping you get the most no-nonsense judge on the planet to put an end to this ridiculousness. Hmmmmm this is an option I have not thought of. I have been trying to keep him accountable by taking him to court over and over, but don't want to fall too much into his game. He would love it if he could have something new to fight because it would just delay things again. I always knew he could be a huge procrastinator, and had the ability to literally block out what he doesn't want to face, but this is getting ridiculous. He will literally pull everyone down with him while he pouts about having to pay alimony. His big point is that the money is HIS money that he earns. HE is the one who flies to Rwanda for business, HE is the one who has put together deals, etc. His first attorney took a kind of "just sign the paperwork, this is very fair" approach in which he offered me nothing. His second attorney was a shark type who went after me and fed into the family drama, his third lawyer took the approach of "Your Honor, the wife is doing just great, we are so proud of her! She has a wonderful job, with great benefits! She doesn't need any help from my client!" I am interested in what approach this 4th lawyer will take. Next Wednesday cannot come fast enough 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Oh I thought it was today 😕 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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