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  1. And you very well could have all those things, or something entirely different. Like most mental health issues, there is a lot of overlap in the symptoms. I am not a mental health professional and can't tell you what rises to the level of an actual diagnosis. I know that I also have anxiety, and it too manifests in some OCD-like tendencies, but I don't have OCD. At any rate, I don't think that landing on a particular diagnosis is necessarily the goal here. The idea is more, "Where do I start?" And your psychiatrist should be able to help you determine the best starting point. Honestly, and I'm just basing this off my own experience, I am not sure that continuing to read and try to self-diagnose is all that helpful. It is more likely a function of your anxiety and need for control. At least for me, part of suffering from anxiety is the need to "fix" myself. But trying to fix myself just leads to more anxiety. My gut instinct is that if someone can help you find better ways to cope with the anxiety, you'll see improvement in the other areas. But of course you shouldn't take the advice of some random stranger on the interwebs. Talk to your psychiatrist!
  2. I would start with the person who already knows something about you and your issues: your psychiatrist. It seems to me from your posts that you tend to do a lot of self-diagnosis, and your opinions about your issues change with what you read or with particular situations. Which is fine, as far as it goes. I could be wrong, and even if not, it's good to know yourself. But I think you could be missing the forest for the trees here by jumping from diagnosis to diagnosis. Instead of focusing on finding a therapist who specializes in X, I think the first step is to determine exactly what you are dealing with. And your psychiatrist should be able to help you with that. At the very least, he or she should be able to refer you to someone who can. I would call ahead prior to your next appointment and request that the psychiatrist set aside extra time to speak with you in addition to the time allotted for adjusting your meds. Use that time to ask for advice as to where to focus your efforts, as well as recommendations for providers who might be a good fit for you. Your insurance company may also have a concierge service that can refer you to providers, including ones who offer remote services. After that, it really can be trial and error to find someone you can work with. I was able to email with my therapist before I started formally seeing her, and I could immediately tell that she and I were going to have a good rapport. You may be able to request a consultation on the phone or in person to see if a potential therapist is right for you, although there may still be a fee for their time. A good therapist will understand how important getting the right fit is and want to help you find that. If you don't feel that it's the right match, say so and ask for referrals to others who might be a better fit.
  3. A Protestant doctrine of the authority of scripture would rest in large part on the historicity of the New Testament and of Christ as a real person who lived, suffered, died, and was resurrected and who affirmed the authority of of the Old Testament and commissioned the New. So if you reject the historical arguments, particularly for the resurrection, those doctrines probably aren't going to hold a lot of weight for you. The Protestant Reformation was primarily about making the authority of the Church subject to scripture. Some Protestant traditions took sola scriptura to the extreme and reject the authority of the church and tradition altogether. Others, including Lutherans (and I believe Anglicans/Episcopalians would fall into this category as well), retained some belief in the importance of church/tradition, so long as those traditions were in alignment with scripture. Towards the end of the 19th and early 20th centuries, there was a shift in some denominations away from viewing the Bible as the Word of God to viewing it as containing words about God. Some conservative denominations retain the former view, and these are usually the ones that are considered more Fundamentalist. The more mainline denominations tend towards the latter view and take more leeway in interpretation within a modern context.
  4. It happens the way you would expect it to happen: men who are interested in pursuing vocational ministry go to school for it and then enter the process of examination and, once qualified, receiving a call from a congregation in need of a pastor. Pretty much the same way anybody else goes about getting any other kind of job. It's not that we don't believe that God directs and guides our choices in employment. We just don't think he speaks directly to individuals to tell them what he wants them to do, outside of the commands of scripture. He doesn't issue an internal calls to pastors any more than he does to bakers or lawyers or SAHM's. A lot of factors go into choosing a particular job -- interests, temperament, practical considerations like whether you are or intend to be married/have a family, etc. Christians have freedom to pursue employment in line with their personal preferences.
  5. No. I am not saying a woman "misinterpreted" what God said to her. In traditions in which the call MUST proceed from God through the body of the church there simply was no "call." Same is true for any man who doesn't meet the qualifications. The reasons for denying a man ordination might differ from the reasons for denying a woman, but in the end it all comes down to the fact that there is a fairly stringent list of qualifications and if you don't meet them all, then you're denied. Men are no more called to the pastoral office directly and internally by God than women are. God issues the call THROUGH the church. My own tradition would say that God ONLY speaks through his Word and doesn't issue calls or directions or anything of the sort to an individual, woman or man. Obviously, denominations vary on this. Usually it has to do with the role of scripture in the tradition, whether it's regarded as being vs. containing the words of God. But we generally eschew any kind of what we call "enthusiasm" -- internal, subjective experiences of God. This isn't a "women are too silly to know what God is saying to them" kind of thing. We simply don't believe God communicates in that way, period.
  6. I can't answer that. As I said above, I have very little experience with either the RCC or Orthodoxy. In my own tradition, the role of scripture to lead and guide the entirety of the church dictates that the scriptures that prohibit women from holding the office of pastor be upheld. My point is that people of good faith can hold differing views, even within the same religion.
  7. Or maybe it's just that Episcopalians and OE/RCC have different conceptions of what the priesthood is and does.
  8. I think this goes back to the definition of "call," though. I am not Catholic or EO, although my denomination also does not ordain women. If the primary meaning of call in the RCC or EO is the same as in my denomination (i.e., "the qualification for the office of priest/pastor issued by God through the church"), then women would not have had a "call," nor would the men who didn't fit the qualification criteria. The call has to come via the church, and the church has established parameters for issuing said call. One of which is that the candidate must be male. We can argue whether that stipulation is good or correct (not that I really want to have that argument), but the fact that it is a requirement to receive a call is established. In my church, a woman who felt that God was leading her to become a pastor would be told that she was mistaken; in the view of my church, scripture reserves the pastorate for men only, and God would not lead a Christian in a direction contrary to scripture. Her internal sense of "calling" would not be considered an actual calling from God, any more that would that of a man who doesn't meet one of the other qualifications for the pastoral office. Or any more than a sense of leading to do any number of other things contrary to church doctrine -- divorce a spouse to marry another person, for example.
  9. I don't personally believe the Bible teaching tithing as such for Christians, but cheerful giving. Different churches teach differently about this, of course. Some say gross, some say net. Some say any church mission, some say all 10% must go to your local congregation. I think you can safely go with your conscience on this, since it is not specifically mentioned in scripture. But if you aren't sure, I would ask your pastor for advice.
  10. I think it depends on what is meant by the term "call." In some denominations, it's the church body that issues the call. (Or perhaps, technically speaking, they would say that God issues the call through the church.) In other expressions of Christianity, the call is considered to be internal -- i.e., straight from God himself to an individual. There are a number of large American churches that are pastored by people who believe they received an internal call and then went out and planted a church, apart from the support of a specific denomination, seminary, etc. So I think it can be the kind of situation where people talk past one another by using the same word to mean different things. I agree that it's fairly universal to believe in calls, so far as I know, if you consider both definitions of the word. But I could be wrong.
  11. To my knowledge, a "call" in the LCMS or WELS does not equal what seems to be implied here: an inner direction from God to do a certain thing. Confessional Lutherans consider a call to be a qualification for ministry bestowed upon a person (in those denominations, a man) who has been adequately instructed and trained and shown himself to be fit for the office of pastor. Confessional Lutherans generally consider Christians to have freedom in making temporal decisions like what job to pursue and do not put much stock in there being a specific destiny or what have you for each person. Our vocations are shaped by God's Law as given in scripture, but within those bounds we have freedom to make choices in regards to employment, marriage, etc. The idea of an inner calling like what appears to be implied in this conversation is much more of an evangelical concept.
  12. As ds8 starts to become a fluent reader, I'm realizing that he can decode a lot of words but has no idea what they mean. To some degree, that's normal, I'm sure. But ds has always seemed to struggle with learning new vocabulary. We have to reeeeally reinforce science words, for example. And he doesn't seem to be picking things up from his reading like I'd hoped. I'm not sure if I want a formal vocabulary curriculum like Wordly Wise, or something less intense like some type of game or building a word wall somewhere in the house, or what. Any suggestions? Ds is very visual and likes workbooks fine, but he's also a slow (read: perfectionist) writer.
  13. In my neck of the woods, we call that "cage stage." As in, you should be locked in a cage until you have settled into your beliefs a bit and can discuss them with decorum. It's a tongue in cheek expression, of course.
  14. I would consider it for my dd14, if she was comfortable with it. But I am 99% sure she wouldn't be comfortable staying alone overnight, so that more or less makes me a no. I don't worry about her; she is very responsible. But like others have said, the aloneness bothers me. There is no public transportation here, so she would be stuck in the house until we got home. And I would not want to ask her to be responsible for her younger brother for multiple days, even though they get along great. Again, no worries about her abilities to handle it, but I don't think she'd be happy and I wouldn't want to put it on her.
  15. Awww... that's great news! Here's to many more great teaching days!!
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