maize Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 You are a human shield and shields get battered. I don't want to co-opt Faith's thread (I've been thinking of you this morning Faith) but I kind of needed to hear this this morning. I'm pretty burned out from dealing with dh's mental health issues and yesterday wasn't a good day. I have always acted as the buffer between dh and the kids when he is not doing well, working both to protect them from his irrationality and as much as possible to preserve the positives in their relationship with him (and there are a lot of those). I think I've been fairly successful. But, yes, I feel pretty battered and worn out myself. I hate this illness. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 ... Hugs and more hugs Hang in there Nan 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 maize, sending many hugs your way as well. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 :grouphug: I'll be praying for you and your family. My ds didn't come to my mother's funeral last semester due to exams. You are not alone in making that decision - you've done a good job. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 Hugs from me to you Maize. I feel like we are both in a foxhole. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 I don't want to co-opt Faith's thread (I've been thinking of you this morning Faith) but I kind of needed to hear this this morning. I'm pretty burned out from dealing with dh's mental health issues and yesterday wasn't a good day. I have always acted as the buffer between dh and the kids when he is not doing well, working both to protect them from his irrationality and as much as possible to preserve the positives in their relationship with him (and there are a lot of those). I think I've been fairly successful. But, yes, I feel pretty battered and worn out myself. I hate this illness. It's so tough to always be in the middle. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StaceyinLA Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I just prayed for you. Go home clean your house. Weep for what is, what was, and what will never be. When you have dysfunction there's always a sting that the relationship was never right. It's okay to mourn that. You may have already done so. Even with healthy relationships , grieving brings out so much stress. I can't do all that family this and that and services and dinners without coming up for air periodically. I get the need to clean and have some space. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted April 24, 2017 Author Share Posted April 24, 2017 Update: It was a good day today. Everyone was really tired and slept all afternoon. I was not around the difficult ones all afternoon. Schizophrenic aunt though is MIA, and this is very concerning. However, it is too soon to get missing persons report taken seriously so we wait to see if she turns up tomorrow. This evening was spent with my nephews and their wives, all really great people while best uncle looked after the other mentally ill aunt. I feel so much better right now. So tomorrow is viewing, funeral, burial, and funeral dinner. It is going to be really long, and very emotional for a lot of people with the wild card issue of whether or not the other aunt is found and why she was gone or remains missing. But I do feel rested enough to deal with it if need be. Mom still looks so exhausted despite the sleep. I am very worried about her. I do not care what it may look like to others, an overstuffed chair and ottoman is being put in that church tomorrow for to spend the day in. She simply is not going to make it if she is on her feet all day only intermittently sitting in pews and folding chairs. No one planned any morning or lunch food for tomorrow, so I ran out and grabbed a veggie tray, some fruit, some turkey and ham, Swiss and cheddar, and croissants plus lemon poppyseed muffins to keep in the church kitchen. I thought sis was going to do it, but she is just so emotional, and her hubby who didn't get in until 1am from Paris is badly jet lagged, so instead of bringing it up I figured it was better to just take care of it. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Good thinking on the food and the chair/ottoman. I hope the other aunt is found and is safe. We will all be thinking of you tomorrow. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Think ing about you today and wishing you strength and patience. Good idea about the food. It sounds easily edible. That sounds funny but you know what I mean. The comfy chair is a good idea. Good luck! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying for you and your family today, Faith, and sincerely hoping all goes well to get you one step closer to final closure. Tons of :grouphug: coming from here, so feel free to feel one whenever needed. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying for all to go smoothly today and for you to have an extra dose of peace to get through the day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Prayers for your day, faith! Hopefully you had a restful night. Praying aunt will show up without incident. I'm glad you have an overpressure relief valve in your music. ((((FM )))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Hugs and prayers for you today, Faith. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying for you! This all just sounds exhausting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinRTX Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying for you today. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Praying for you today, Faith!! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 Thinking of you today. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted April 24, 2017 Author Share Posted April 24, 2017 I started an update in a new thread. Thanks everyone! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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