Gil Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 When did your boys stop whining? Like, vocally/ physically whining? Someone please tell me that this stops. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyS Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Well, my oldest is 17. I'll let you know. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Teenaged boy here, too. Whining still happening here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MedicMom Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 What about girls??? My 4-year-old DD whines constantly and it drives me NUTS. I keep praying it's a stage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 When did you stop? My ten year old is less whiny than he used to be but he gets angry more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 Oh no. I have two boys (8 and 9). Not only do they still get childish attitudes but their voices still do the shrilly-whiny thing, I'm not sure if they do it consciously or not but its immediate and absolutely annoying and grating. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 One has always been a whiner and the other not. The whiner is nearly 11. (Non whiner is 14.) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 When did you stop? Between 3 and 4. I wasn't a whiner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Mine didn't whine. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Between 3 and 4. I wasn't a whiner. Are you sure? Sounds to me like you are whining now. :lol: totally kidding! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mama2cntrykids Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 My boys are teens, so no little kid type whining, more like teen whining. It's different, but annoying none the less! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 I will use an exaggerated whiny voice back at my kids when they do that to me so they get a taste of how obnoxious it is; they don't like it and it does encourage them to drop the whiny tone. I tell my kids there are appropriate ways to disagree and I will listen to them if and only if they speak in a polite tone. I am deaf to whiny or rude tones. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted May 30, 2016 Author Share Posted May 30, 2016 Its triply frustrating because they didn't used to whine. Not habitually/regularly. Lately they do. So annoying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Right after you lose your ever-loving mind from the sound, obviously. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyS Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 My boys are teens, so no little kid type whining, more like teen whining. It's different, but annoying none the less! True. When they get older, the pitch gets lower, so it's easier on the ears, if not the nerves. Also, the taller they get, the more that you will want to throw something at them when they whine. I recommend hacky sack balls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 We have a whiner, she's 10 and will do it if we put up with it. But we won't, we can't stand it. Our only whiner is 19 months old... can't get rid of his whining quite yet, unfortunately we have a ways to go :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 It switches to crying around the age of 13. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaVT Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 I taught gymnastics to girls 5-17 for years, I have a PhD in whine. :-) The tactic I used the most was to let them know I couldn't hear them if they used a whiny voice. "I'm sorry, I don't understand whining. Can you please repeat that in your regular voice?" Repeat as needed. Over and over. Without showing weakness - aka getting upset. It was the only thing that worked relatively well and stayed. They would learn not to whine at me, but I'd still hear them whine at the other instructors. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 When you stop responding to whining. Make them repeat it in a regular voice, or if you are in a good humor then whine back at them. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkTulip Posted May 30, 2016 Share Posted May 30, 2016 Whining is one of my big pet peeves, so when my boys started whining, I did my best to nip it in the bud. I would tell them that I don't understand anything when spoken in that voice and that they should try again in a normal voice. Then if they kept repeating the thing they were whining about, I would say something like, "yes, you said that and we have already addressed that." 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 It changes from whining to sulking and slamming doors around age 13.5, if our oldest is any indication. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxbridgeacademy Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 (edited) DS never whined (DD not so much either, she's more of a screamer) but if he did I think the acoustics of it would have gotten better when his voice started changing around 11-12, definitely by 14, he has a very deep voice. In fact I'm positive neither of mine were whiners because I have a niece who is and it feels like a hot poker in my brain when she starts in. Edited May 31, 2016 by foxbridgeacademy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Here it seemed to go from whining to incomprehensible grunting also around 13.5 Though it could be I went deaf from the prior whining and only think the grunts are incomprehensible. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 (edited) My 27yo is a whiner. My 24yo's best friend can usually make my jaw drop right after he scrapes his own up off the floor and says, "He didn't tell you, did he?" Edited May 31, 2016 by Guest Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tita Gidge Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 My 27yo is a whiner. My 24yo's best friend can usually make my jaw drop right after he scrapes his own up off the floor and says, "He didn't tell you, did he?" When I read the thread initially, my mind went straight to my 38 year old brother. We still call him Whiny Hiney because he never did outgrow his whining or his being a butt. But I didn't want to discourage the OP :lol: Then I saw your post and thought I'd holler out an AMEN! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I told my kids from the time they started talking that my ears couldn't hear that whiny voice. "Please say it again in your big girl/boy voice, so I can hear you." They still complain sometimes, but they never whine (not that I heard, anyway). :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 My 68 year old father still whines. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 (edited) Double post. Edited May 31, 2016 by Ewe Mama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shellydon Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I don't allow it. As soon as one word comes out as a whine, I shut them down. One whine= 3 laps around the yard, then try again in a regular voice. (Alternatives could be scrubbing grout, wiping baseboards etc. ) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monica_in_Switzerland Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I don't allow it. As soon as one word comes out as a whine, I shut them down. One whine= 3 laps around the yard, then try again in a regular voice. (Alternatives could be scrubbing grout, wiping baseboards etc. ) I agree. You need to find an immediate consequence to shut it down. I tend to double whatever they are whining about, or automatically say no to any request that is whined at me. Occasionally the older ones have been forced to write out "I will address my mother in a pleasant tone of voice." X number of times. I cannot stand the wheedling voice thing, so I shut it down immediately. With very rare exceptions, the "whine" has been stamped out in our house. Knock on wood. Also, explain to your kids why, and give them a good whining demonstration so they see exactly why it is so horribly unpleasant. And I did have to explicitly explain to one of my kids that continually reminding me of a want that I could not immediately meet (DYING of thirst when I had no water with us and we were a 15 minute walk from home) was a form of whining. He somehow didn't realize that just because it wasn't a whiiiiiiiiney voice didn't mean it wasn't a whiney thing to say. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 When did your boys stop whining? Like, vocally/ physically whining? Someone please tell me that this stops. When I quit listening to it?? ;) Actually, I listened just long enough to see if there was an actual issue behind it (rare). If there was, I addressed it. If not, I redirected as best I could. As they got into their teens, however, it got harder to redirect - usually complaining about having to do so much schoolwork. I finally got fed up and told them they had to do it whether they wanted to do it or not, so they may as well quit wasting time complaining/whining about it .... and get to work!! That seemed to work with my own kids (boys and girls). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 When they move out, speaking as a parent of 3 boys 2 of which have moved out. I can't speak for the wife or the fiancee though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 Oh no. I have two boys (8 and 9). Not only do they still get childish attitudes but their voices still do the shrilly-whiny thing, I'm not sure if they do it consciously or not but its immediate and absolutely annoying and grating. At 12 it is tapering off to make way for teen angst and overt aggression. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted May 31, 2016 Share Posted May 31, 2016 I think it's a personality thing. I am a (trying to reform) whiner, my ds is not. Whining is a very non-effective way for children to communicate their needs. Maybe explain how non-effective you find it, and skill them up on more helpful ways to communicate. Being tired and/or overwhelmed are triggers for my own whinging. As a parent, if I saw those triggers,I'd try to deal with them and ignore the whining. I think it's often a personality thing too. I had two who were prone to whining right from the get-go, and three who never did. Their personalities continued to develop along those lines (two who were more dramatic about everything, and three who were just very calm and even-tempered). We worked at nipping the whining in the bud as soon as we could-- but it did need constant pruning! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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