umsami Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 She seemed rather proud of that, and then when I asked her is she knew what that meant, she said "really pretty." I have to admit I'm a little disturbed by the language choice. The thought of anybody finding my 6 year old "hot" is disturbing...even if they are peers. Is it a generation gap? Are the boys using the word without knowing its connotation regarding sexiness? Am I just an over-reacting Mom? Ugh. She's six. She's not supposed to be hot or even want to be hot for quite awhile still (I hope). I'm trying to withhold my impulse to say "we'll be homeschooling you as well starting Monday" as she needs the speech-therapy provided by the school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 In my state I was able to homeschool and still do speech therapy at the local school. We just went there for our appointed slot of time. I bet the boys are using it the way your daughter is using it. (But that naivete won't last long.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 The semantic range of hot (and sexy) has actually linguistically shifted in the past 20 years. Using "hot" to mean any kind of good looks is within current language use, not just a "little kids that do t know what it actually implies" use of the term. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 I'm trying to withhold my impulse to say "we'll be homeschooling you as well starting Monday" as she needs the speech-therapy provided by the school. A good friend of mine provides services such as speech therapy to home-school kids as well as those in the public schools. Is that an option? Behavior/language like what OP described is what helped me decide the first week of student teaching that no way, no how were my dc going to public school. I was in the 2nd grade classroom. Then I moved to the 6th grade. It was appalling. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 I wouldn't doubt they know exactly what they were saying. YUCK. My dd is 11, and I still wouldn't be ok with boys her age calling her that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 We're getting speech therapy with the local school for free while homeschooling. If it's something you really want to do, ask them about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Um_2_4 Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 :huh: :ohmy: As I learned from teaching and babysitting, what comes "out of the mouths of babes" can often open insight into their home environment. Older bro? dad? using this language around them to describe girls they see??? Most likely not the healthiest "respect for women" conversations going on. I often knew far more personal info about families/parents then I wished to know. There is a thing as TMI. I would be looking into speech therapy while homeschooling. Here in CA we can. If you post your state maybe someone here can help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 Most of the young people I know use hot to mean cool. Ymmv. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 Seriously, I think you are over-reacting. This is the least of problems a kid could have in school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 I think use of the word hot by six year olds is incredibly inappropriate! I'd be disturbed also. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted September 13, 2013 Share Posted September 13, 2013 I don't think it's a big deal. I bet she got their definition right. Obviously, you wouldn't want anyone actually sexualizing your child, but I doubt if that's what is going on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 He probably learned it when he heard his pastor introduce "his smokin' hot wife"! :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeepItGoing Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 It would disturb me, too—but I don't think I'd necessarily be right to be disturbed. Words really do shift in their meanings. When I was in high school, we referred to good-looking guys as "studs." My mother warned us that our grandparents, who had raised cattle, would probably not appreciate hearing that word being used to describe young men of our acquaintance. I was rather shocked, and I'm not sure I used the word after that.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luanne Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 It is just proof that parents let their children watch things on television these days that aren't meant for young children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dahliarw Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 I could totally see my kids doing something like that. Here's a probably example. I walk by dh and he makes some offhanded comment about me being hot intending it for my ears most likely. But a kid is out of bed on the stairs or within ear shot and we're not aware. That same kid goes to some function with other kids (not school here, obviously, since we hs), and sees another child and calls that child "hot" thinking it means pretty or nice or whatever. Totally innocent. Totally heard within the appropriate context (NOT on TV). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 kids are exposed to language on subjects they don't understand. (and this age shouldn't understand.) whether it be tv, movies or conversations of older teens or adults. I recall about clothes shopping with then teen 1ds when he liked "attitude t's". He chose one he thought was funny. I asked him if he knew what it meant. (he thought he did. he didn't.) I told him - he blushed and put it back on the rack . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Not a big deal to me. Kids copy all kinds of stuff--TV, siblings, parents. I wouldn't give it a second thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Definitely way too young for that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 "Hot" is a much more versatile word now than it was 10-20 years ago. It may not be the case that the kid didn't know what he was saying, but that the OP hasn't heard how the older kids/young adults are using it recently. Words change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scrub Jay Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 It is just proof that parents let their children watch things on television these days that aren't meant for young children. It is? The child couldn't have heard it from older siblings or cousins or just out and about? Yesterday, at the county fair, a woman walking by us announced very loudly "That's some big ass chicken!" twice to her family (I'm assuming reacting to a picture on a photo booth, heh). So, if my daughter repeats that without me around then it is proof I allowed her to watch something for teens/adults on TV? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 I've heard characters use "hot" in that sense of the word on iCarly and other Disney/Nick shows. I would ask my DD not to use it, as it has other meanings, but I wouldn't get worked up over it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bootsie Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 "Hot" is a word children commonly hear, and not just necessarily from kids in public school. They hear it on TV, playing Apples-to-Apples at cub scouts, and even at church. We were attending Church 1, and the minister started talking from the pulpit about posting a picture of himself in his ministerial robe on the website am-I-hot-or-not.com to see what type of responses he would get. This was said by a new, young minister at an extremely, traditional, conservative church. (We no longer attend there). Church 2--I heard two different youth ministers talking to teenagers and make comments of "My lovely wife is a praying, Godly woman, but more important--she is REALLY HOT!" I didn't know if I was more upset for my teenage daughter to hear women being talked about like or for my son to hear men talking about women like that. (We don't go to church there anymore, either.) I think it is used inappropriately around children, but unfortunately it is not unusual. (and I have found the use of the word sexy to be almost as common). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 These are six year olds. I really doubt they've got our understanding of the word running through their minds. I vote for over reacting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Sadly, I have heard of young elementary kids having oral sex in classrooms (heard on the news), so I don't think it's too surprisingly some kids might know what Hot means. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparrow Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Obviously, there are children that have been abused and exposed to sexual situations that may act out at that age, but the vast majority of 6 year olds are simply repeating words they've heard older siblings and friends say or that they've heard on TV. Adults hear words through their own *adult* experience and then the word seems sexual. I vote overreacting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 I agree that in primary school, "hot" means attractive. I do not like the term, but I would not worry about it. It bugged me more when my 6yo came home and said Justin Bieber was "cute." Ughhhhh this is a very old pet peeve of mine (from when I was in elementary school!). Men and teens are not "cute." Babies and toddlers are "cute." Puppies and bear cubs are "cute." :P Rant over. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Sadly, I have heard of young elementary kids having oral sex in classrooms (heard on the news), so I don't think it's too surprisingly some kids might know what Hot means. Yes, you heard it on the news because it is SO VERY VERY RARE. I'm pretty sure it's not something the OP needs to worry about. Goodness. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tammyw Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Yes, you heard it on the news because it is SO VERY VERY RARE. I'm pretty sure it's not something the OP needs to worry about. Goodness. I wasn't saying it was something the OP was to worry about. I was saying that based on THAT, I really am not surprised that kids at age 6 know what hot means. I mean my husband, at age 6, learned A LOT of bad stuff on the bus. My kids haven't been exposed to that at all. I'm just saying that kids are exposed to stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 14, 2013 Share Posted September 14, 2013 Hey you guys, this thread is HOT. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeacefulChaos Posted September 15, 2013 Share Posted September 15, 2013 So I actually have a similar story. Link and Astro play with the neighbor kids. One of the neighbor boys has a crush on the (older by a couple of years) girl across the street. At some point in time, the neighbor boys heard the word 'sexy' and he began using it to describe the girl. Did he know what it meant? Idk. I kind of doubt it. So one day I walk outside to find, written in chalk on the carport, '(Neighbor boy) thinks (girl) is sexy'. I could tell Link had written it. I didn't say anything about it, but texted DH (I was leaving the house and he was at home with the kids, anyway) and just told him he might want to just tell Link it isn't as nice as saying she's pretty or whatever. I didn't think it was a big deal, though. It's just part of what kids come across in life - they have to hear/learn these things at some point. While I do understand, OP, that you would kind of be like :blink: 'Hot?' I don't think it's anything for you to worry about. Most likely, they all think it means pretty or that it's a nice compliment. :) Oh, and DH says I'm hot a fair amount of times in a day. So apparently our kids are going to be scarred for life!! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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