Dmmetler Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I'm seriously wondering if I need to send my DD8 to PS to discover that she can think other than out loud! The kid talks...constantly. Not necessarily to anyone-just a continual stream of consciousness, like reading a James Joyce novel. I know she CAN be quiet-she can get through a church service without trouble, and I haven't heard complaints from her ballet teacher, but at home, it's continual and constant. It doesn't help any that I'm highly auditory and tend to focus in on sounds, so it's hard for me to tune out her chatter. I really wonder if she's even aware she's talking out loud? We've run into trouble lately because she'll literally lie in a dark room and talk to herself for hours on end-which then leaves her sleep deprived the next day, and me sleep deprived because I have trouble sleeping with the talking. If I tell her to be quiet, she will be for a short time, and then it's like she stops concentrating because it starts again. I've tried encouraging writing, and she did a 7500 word story for NaNoWriMo, talking the entire time! Any ideas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 no ideas, but my ds talks nonstop at home and it drives me batty. Dh complained about it too until he spent time with the scouts one weekend and decided our son may talk nonstop but at least he isn't as loud as other boys ;-) He talks in the bathroom, when doing school, when playing alone, when people are in the room talking....he just talks and talks. I feel badly b/c honestly, I don't listen all the time! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Ds used to be that way. He had to think out loud, tell me everything that popped into his head, and would talk to himself while playing in his room (or playing anywhere really). He clammed up starting at around 14. Now I have to pull words out of his mouth, and often I only get one or two words. I don't know if that's just a teen boy thing, but if girls are like that too, you might someday long for the days when she talked constantly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Down_the_Rabbit_Hole Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Sorry, no advice. My dd is the same, talk talk talk. She carries on a one sided conversation all day. My ears have actually felt numb or tingly by the end of the day from her excessive chatting. I'll be watching this thread to see if anyone has found a cure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 My DS talks all day too. He talks in his sleep at night. He expects to be listened to as well which is tiring. I have no advice. I've told him to please be quiet. When he was younger, we'd have "talking time outs" which were just times for me to have quiet. I like quiet. He wasn't in trouble during these, it was just time to practice keeping our mouths shut. Now that he's older, I've tried to train him that he doesn't need to share every idea in his head but I'm a little worried that he may go too far in the other direction as he gets closer to being a teen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 We had to give Hobbes ways of interpreting others. His rule was: if someone says 'Uh-huh' or similar three times in a row, it's time to be quiet and let that person initiate conversation. It sounds a bit mechanical, but it helped him to start noticing other people's needs. He does much better these days. Laura Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I remember the days when I used to worry because my younger DD didn't start talking as early as my older one did. Let's just say that she has more than made up for her slow start since then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 We had to give Hobbes ways of interpreting others. His rule was: if someone says 'Uh-huh' or similar three times in a row, it's time to be quiet and let that person initiate conversation. It sounds a bit mechanical, but it helped him to start noticing other people's needs. He does much better these days. Laura I never thought of that! I'm going to try it with my son. OP, I have a constant talking 8 year old too. I'll be watching advice you get! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 My kids go to PS and they all talk continuously, especially my 6 and 8 year olds. It was very funny to hear my 6 year old discussing the difference between solids, liquids, and gasses in the car the other day. He was not happy that the gas we use in the car is a liquid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giraffe Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Benadryl. Other than that, I got nothing. Spent the afternoon with a friend the other day and she said "No wonder you're so tired all the time! It's exhausting just listening to (DD)." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted December 10, 2012 Author Share Posted December 10, 2012 SIgh....at least I know I'm not alone...DD is doing a mango Spanish lesson right now, and I swear it's the quietest she's been all day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Op, your James Joyce comment cracks me up! Some people just talk. The fact that she can be quiet is a good sign. Apparently home is where she can get relief from being quiet. Would it help to specifically establish that certain times and places at home are quiet times just like church or ballet class? Btw, I have a couple 'talkers'...I feel your pain! eta: I love this line from the Anne of Green Gables movie: I know I chatter on far too much... but if you only knew how many things I want to say and don't. Give me some credit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I'm seriously wondering if I need to send my DD8 to PS to discover that she can think other than out loud! The kid talks...constantly. Not necessarily to anyone-just a continual stream of consciousness, like reading a James Joyce novel. I know she CAN be quiet-she can get through a church service without trouble, and I haven't heard complaints from her ballet teacher, but at home, it's continual and constant. It doesn't help any that I'm highly auditory and tend to focus in on sounds, so it's hard for me to tune out her chatter. I really wonder if she's even aware she's talking out loud? We've run into trouble lately because she'll literally lie in a dark room and talk to herself for hours on end-which then leaves her sleep deprived the next day, and me sleep deprived because I have trouble sleeping with the talking. If I tell her to be quiet, she will be for a short time, and then it's like she stops concentrating because it starts again. I've tried encouraging writing, and she did a 7500 word story for NaNoWriMo, talking the entire time! Any ideas? My son did this, constantly. He outgrew it. I thought he was never going to stop talking. Before the talking phase, he hummed constantly. Now he's a typical, teen male whom you have to prod to talk. Anyway, I just reminded him thousands of times that he was working now, so he needed to be quiet, and not be in the habit of talking through his assignment out loud because it would disturb others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 No clue. ds9 is like this. I know it is partly due to his adhd. He is not only talking nonstop but he is LOUD, he has no lower volume and I have auditory sensory issues. I am very close to sending him to ps just to make it stop in the house. I have a headache everyday because he is non freaking stop, yelling, and talking and singing and everything on high volume coming out of his mouth. His brother smacks him everynight because they share a room and ds9 talks to himself loudly and obnoxiously for hours each night and brother is trying to sleep. He has been kicked out of things because it is non stop and loud and often inappropriate for the setting. My only hope is the meds we are trying for the adhd finally kick in and he learns to shut the heck up because I am turning into a real witch of a mom because it never stops. There is literally not a minute silence from the time he gets up until 1-2am. My ears need a break from him. So no major ideas to help. just a lot of sympathy and commiseration. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 I remember the days when I used to worry because my younger DD didn't start talking as early as my older one did. Let's just say that she has more than made up for her slow start since then. Haha same ds I mentioned was nonverbal at 3, he has been in speech therapy since 3 years old as a result. He has more than made up for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freckles Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 my older dd used to be a non-stop talker. I got to the point I would set a timer for 15 min a couple of times a day. She had to be quiet during those times. I needed the break, and she needed to learn to stop and listen for awhile. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 When you find out, let me know. I've spent about 9 years trying to get Rebecca to stop talking. She'll be 10 in March. :glare: She was even chatting to the girls on either side of her at her gymnastics awards ceremony yesterday! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DragonFaerie Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 LOL... my son does this too! He cracks me up because when he's coming specifically to tell me something or to ask me something, I know a full minute ahead of time because I hear him talking to himself, rehearsing what he's going to say on his way to see me. I admit, I do tease him a bit about it. I sometimes call him AT&T. "A" Talks & Talks. hehehe... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 Joy and Simon are my talkers. They both have desks in the bedrooms where they do their work, talking all the way through it with the doors shut. The rest of us work in the family room and chuckle at the ongoing monologues in stereo. I give myself timeouts when I need a break. I am a quiet person and relish those silent moments. Joy is starting to get a bit better with age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 some kids need something extraneous stimulating so they can concentrate. when 1dd was a teen, she really did need music while she did her math. (she was partial to the pirates of penzance - very specific as to which version.) I know I functioned better with music in the background. the other option is to get yourself earplugs. . . . . (i've a relative who talks incessantly. earplugs are wonderful.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted December 10, 2012 Share Posted December 10, 2012 No helpful hints to give you but wanted to say I completely understand. My dd10 talks or sings non-stop. She talks her way through math even. She sings or talks to herself constantly. I often feel like I live in a musical with everything turned into a song even the most mundane things. I generally don't mind too much because I kinda like that about her but sometimes it can get on my nerves because I am generally quiet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annlaura Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 My 6yo is the same way. He inherited it from my sister. She never stopped talking. She'd fall asleep midsentence at night. Our dad used to joke that hopefully she'd learn to summarize when she got to high school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ghee Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 We had to give Hobbes ways of interpreting others. His rule was: if someone says 'Uh-huh' or similar three times in a row, it's time to be quiet and let that person initiate conversation. It sounds a bit mechanical, but it helped him to start noticing other people's needs. He does much better these days. Laura This is genius. I've been trying to make this same point to my children, but didn't really have the right words. Thank you! OP, PS won't slow that down much. My 3 were PS'd until last year and they have ALL been "talk your ears off" talkers at home. In fact, it was even WORSE, because they talked all over each other in their rush to get the pent up words out at 3. I'm like you and I don't like chatter. I don't know where these kids GET this (I do, it's DH LOL) As a PP said, they will clam up around the teen years. Or my oldest did. I'm sort of hoping for it with DD and YDS. ODS isn't so clammed up that I'm regretting him being more quiet ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Does she expect you to answer her? See, that's my problem. My incessant chatterer thinks he's having a conversation with me. Sometimes I'm just a little rude and say, "I need you to stop talking." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 Duct tape. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 My DS is not all that talkative. I wish he would take more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
helena Posted December 11, 2012 Share Posted December 11, 2012 I'm seriously wondering if I need to send my DD8 to PS to discover that she can think other than out loud! The kid talks...constantly. Not necessarily to anyone-just a continual stream of consciousness, like reading a James Joyce novel. I know she CAN be quiet-she can get through a church service without trouble, and I haven't heard complaints from her ballet teacher, but at home, it's continual and constant. It doesn't help any that I'm highly auditory and tend to focus in on sounds, so it's hard for me to tune out her chatter. I really wonder if she's even aware she's talking out loud? We've run into trouble lately because she'll literally lie in a dark room and talk to herself for hours on end-which then leaves her sleep deprived the next day, and me sleep deprived because I have trouble sleeping with the talking. If I tell her to be quiet, she will be for a short time, and then it's like she stops concentrating because it starts again. I've tried encouraging writing, and she did a 7500 word story for NaNoWriMo, talking the entire time! Any ideas? Oh my gosh! The bolded made me laugh!! My girls want to chatter all day too. Because my girls have Tourettes I have to balance the realities of vocal tics and standing by my rules as teacher mom. I rarely ask them to be quiet out of class, like your daughter they have pretty good manners in social settings. I never ever ask them to stop tic-ing. In September (first month of school) I posted classroom rules on our main bulletin board. The rules are all based on creating a peaceful, respectful, studious environment. I spent that first month constantly reminding them to correct themselves and why. They always need time at the beginning of the school year to remember what's so awesome about a quiet productive classroom. Now I've backed off and quietly point to the rule (in our classroom closet now :D ) or give them the look and remind them with minimal words. I'm a Montessori teacher and the girls both went to a Montessori school, so peace (internal and external) are a big part of our foundation. I think many people have to be taught how to find it, how return to it, how to want it, etc. It works for us. It doesn't solve the problem, but it's helped. Like KrissiK said, sometimes I'm a little harsh and say "I can't talk about that right now" or "You need to stop talking" Plus... I don't know... they're kids! They're funny like that sometimes. I know it's... ugh... fill in the blank... exhausting?! irritating?! :willy_nilly: But it's part of the job I guess. Sometimes you've got to give them a big kiss, hand them their work and go hide in the shower. (I lock the door) Stay strong mom! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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