Drama Llama Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) … Edited July 30, 2023 by BandH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 If the adult watching the kid had not been told you planned to watch this movie with the kid, they can't really be blamed for doing so. I'd maybe be bummed out, but not upset. The kid would likely be happy to rewatch the movie with you. 21 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Upset/disappointed sure. Not angry though--the person watching the kid did absolutely nothing wrong. I would deal with my personal disappointment privately and find something else to do together with my kid. 6 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ali in OR Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) No way. I would be glad they figured out something to enrich the child's time with them. Maybe a little disappointed for my loss of that experience. Edited July 30, 2023 by Ali in OR 11 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) I'd be a bit sad that my kid had that experience without me. But I don't find anything to be really upset about. Certainly I couldn't be upset with the person who was watching my kid. I might be a little disappointed, for just a minute, with my kid for not telling the person about previous plans to see the movie, but that would pass quickly because it would be a bit much to expect. Edited July 30, 2023 by marbel 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 If I’d expressed to the person watching them that I planned on doing it, yes. A little. If I hadn’t told them no. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 No. I'd be happy they came up with a fun thing to do. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 I might be disappointed in the situation, but not at the adult. I did ask my sister to check with me first before watching classic movies with my kids, because I had looked forward to watching some with them (first). But it was on me to let the adults know in advance. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) If someone watches your kid for WEEKS you kiss their feet and look the other way on anything that’s non-toxic. You certainly don’t ask that their family skip seeing a current movie so you can have the experience later. Even missing the movie you are winning the trade-off olympics. ETA: This scenario has troublesome SIL vibes Edited July 30, 2023 by KungFuPanda 26 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gil Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 If I leave my child with you for a few hours it's because I trust that I can rely on you in some basic way, and I'm confident that my children will mostly be ok. If I leave my child with your for a few weeks it's because I trust you with their lives and, in a way, my own. While you're watching my child for a few weeks IDGAF if you allow them to watch a movie that I would also allow them to watch! I'd forgive you allowing them to watch some movies that I wouldn't have allowed. 18 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) Upset, no. Maybe (internally) disappointed that I missed out on the experience, but in reality, I'm drowning in gratitude that someone would watch my kid for WEEKS and that my kid had a good time. Edited July 30, 2023 by fraidycat 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almondbutterandjelly Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Of course not. Of all the things to get upset about. My goodness. It's a movie. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Is this about the bad SIL? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drama Llama Posted July 30, 2023 Author Share Posted July 30, 2023 (edited) … Edited July 30, 2023 by BandH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeainUSA Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 100% no. That is a long time to find things to do with a kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
City Mouse Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Weeks? Of free childcare? And the parent is upset about missing the movie? That seemed excessive to me unless there was previous discussion between the adults about that movie. I will say however that when I was doing in-my-home child care (for pay even thought it was low pay) I did tell the parent if I had planned something different or special for the day so she would know that I was going to take the kid somewhere. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Yes. That would bother me, but I’m easily bothered by things like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 1 hour ago, BandH said: Well I think she and I need to agree to disagree about who is the bad SIL in this scenario. But yes, one SIL took the other SIL’s daughter to Barbie. And this Barbie is a SIL. Yes but you & this board don’t disagree about who is the bad SIL. Good SIL can tell her where to… nevermind, I can’t think of an appropriate way to phrase that. 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 3 hours ago, BandH said: took them to a movie you were planning to see with the child, would you be upset? If you hadn't said anything to the adult about wanting them to wait to see the movie, but maybe had talked about with the kid. No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 3 hours ago, maize said: Upset/disappointed sure. Not angry though--the person watching the kid did absolutely nothing wrong. I would deal with my personal disappointment privately and find something else to do together with my kid. Exactly. I would probably be disappointed, but if I had not specifically told the carer, then I would keep it to myself. I wouldn't blame my kid either, because they might not have realized that it was that important to me. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 It would bother me, but I would not say anything about it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rebcoola Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 Nope Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shoeless Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 You can't read people's minds. If SIL didnt want you to take her kid to see Barbie, then she should have spoken up. But I also would not be watching this person's kids, ever, because of past history. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted July 30, 2023 Share Posted July 30, 2023 I think anyone who is caring for a kid for a weekend or more might reasonably take them to a kid-friendly movie unless specifically instructed otherwise. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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