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  1. Both leave house 6:50 for a 7:25 start. Senior - Up at 5:30am, home around 5:30pm, in bed at 9:30. 2 to 2.5 hour practices after school and Sunday mornings, 6 days a week, aside from meets which is a whole evening and up to 1.5 hours away, one way. 30 minutes homework a night, if that. Rarely weekend homework and works if needed on weekends. Easy course schedule. Freshman - school out at 2:30, off bus at 3:30. 5-10 hours of after school between student council and broadcasting. 1 hour a night homework. Same for weekend. I think this will increase, his schedule is pretty demanding. Both usually have 1 school activity a week that keeps them out late. For example, my freshman had a broadcasting event last week were he wasn't home until 11:00pm, on a school night. He'll be at football games 3-11 on Fridays. My senior had a meet last week that was 65 miles one way and he didn't run until 6:00. Another meet was an under the lights event and they didn't even run until 10:30pm.
  2. No tuxes. Most wear dress pants, dress shirt, tie or bow tie. Mine likes suspenders. You will see some in kackis and a polo.
  3. Onions! They are in everything and I hate saying no onions and still getting them half the time.
  4. I learned... just how un united the United States really is. how much power is at the state level. anything, ANYTHING, can become political. I lived so woefully niave. On the good side... School conferences via zoom rock.
  5. If you end up with a few hours to kill, we LOVE Jungle Jim's International Market. It is basically a huge huge grocery store. They have a section for country after country, live eels and fish in their seafood section, amazing cheese section, and more. We have so much fun there, but we might be weird and love grocery stores.
  6. Doesn't sound like she's had to be financially responsible, so why would she be? I'd at least start with her paying for her gas. There's really no reason for her not too. It's a good move towards adulthood and the real world anyway. Will teach her to save and budget a bit.
  7. I was pretty naive about it until I worked in a public school.
  8. He would consent. In full transparency, he'd consent to pretty much anything I suggested. He can be easily convinced one way or the other. He knows he can't have kids. We talk about it a lot. He's pretty self aware of his capabilities, luckily. He has friends who are not. Friends that talk about having kids, driving, owning a house. Things they can/will never do. They don't understand it.
  9. I just can't imagine as a guardian and more importantly, parent, putting by child through the inevitable of permanent birth control. Just the thought of my son and his peers going through the trauma of the above. It really convinces me of the responsibility I have to make sure that doesn't happen. I feel like you really do get this IQ range. What your daughter does is amazing, that is no easy job!
  10. This is put so well and helped me as a reminder of my ultimate job and goal.
  11. It doesn't bother me at all. Thank you for asking. I know it's a hard subject.
  12. We talk about it a lot. He forgets a lot. Rinse and repeat. We are very proactive. I don't assume he won't have a s/o one day. We have made our lower half of the house into a living area for him. We have family who have a special needs child that married another special needs person and they live with their parents and rotate.
  13. Preventing them from having sex at all would mean not allowing the to go school, work or have a social life. Being cognitively impaired doesn't mean you don't have a life.
  14. I don't know how you don't allow sex. Just because one is CI doesn't mean they don't or shouldn't have relationships. I feel like maybe you aren't familiar with an IQ range of 55-75? I am speaking specifically to that, because it is where my son and his circle falls and what I know. There is a whole CI range that a person can go to school, work, take transportation, be involved in groups and sports, and have a whole fulfilling life. While assistance, training, planning and supervision is needed at times, that doesn't mean it is 24/7 under the eye. All of this takes years of work I can write a book on, but the goal is as much independence as possible, even with not being able to live on their own, drive, and so on. My son is 18 and in his last year of high school. He will get a certificate of completion. He has an IQ of 60. He cannot drive. He reads at a 2-3rd grade level. He could not fill out a form, make an appt, goto an appt by himself, etc..We have guardianship, to clarify on his level of need. He cannot take care of his own needs, never will be able too. I live in fear of us dying and what happens to him. That said, he is in a work training program this summer and will have a simple ob this fall. After job coaching he will be on his own there like any other employee. He will take special needs transportation. He is on his xc and track team and went to states. He can left alone for a day (not overnight). He can cook with us home. He can do many many thing, but have a child is not one. So again I ask, what do I do? I realize it's a tough subject. I'm not incredibly touchy over it. Just trying to offer a different perspective. It doesn't sit great with me and my friends who have to make a decision like this either. There's just not awesome alternatives either.
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