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  1. I wonder if part of the reason that it worked this time is that the 16yr old didn’t care if the 2yr old ate anything or not. He just saw the food and wanted some. No matter how much you try not to, I am guessing that the 2yr old can sense that you are anxious about his eating and feel pressured.
  2. Laundry soap or bath products? My allergy to laundry soap suddenly started when I was 19.
  3. This is the one my family has used for years and years. It is very similar to the first one, but it uses bacon.
  4. My DS had a debit card to his own bank account long before he could drive. We have his allowance set as a automatic transfer each month. When he started driving at 16, he was driving a substantial distance to school. We did add him to a gas station credit card to use just for gas.
  5. Before COVID, my DS was attending a blended learning charter school. The core curriculum, and some electives, are all done online using Edgenuity courses. The school uses Rosetta Stone for foreign languages. The students are only required to attend school 2 days per week, but there are options for additional in-person including tutoring and some electives. There are many opportunities for duel enrollment courses as well, It was the perfect mix for my child, and it is quite a popular charter school. There are always more students wanting to attend than there are spaces. I have found that having the accountability of teachers other than a parent is needed for some students. While homeschooling with no outside accountability (I mean student is not accountable to outside teacher) works well for many families, it doesn’t work for everyone. When the COVID shut down happened, the transition to only online learning was a bit easier for this school than many others. The workshop classes that were previously done in person moved to Google Meet. Many of the teachers were not experienced with meet/hang outs/zoom, so it took a few weeks for them to adjust, but overall there was very little disruption in the curriculum. Most of the public schools lost a lot more curriculum and instructional time.
  6. My DS has the same problem. He uses the Tgel shampoo linked above. When his scalp is bad, he will use the shampoo every time he washes. When it is under control, he will use the Tgel once every 2-3 weeks,
  7. I think it is perfectly normal to be curious when there is police activity nearby (even before recent events). I always go outside and look when something is happening at a neighbor’s house. I think if you want the neighbor to be more comfortable with the situation, then you should probably introduce yourself.
  8. I think that changing roles police is going to have a lot of grey. Domestic violence- the idea of sending a social worker sounds good, but what happens when the SW arrives and all parties deny any issues? What happens when one person wants help but the spouse becomes violent to the SW or the family members? Child abuse - again sending a social worker, child protective services etc, sounds good, and sometimes that is what happens. However, in my state, police are the only agency that can remove a child for immediate danger. CYFD has to go to court first and get approval which can take a long time. (We have a weaker child protection agency than many states) Mental health - I Do think this is one area where improvements could be made. Most police get some training in crisis intervention/ mental health issues, but they are not medical professionals. I don’t understand why people want police officers intervening in mental health situations rather than EMS. If more money is spent to provide services and interventions before families resort to calling the police, then I do think some police situations could be avoided. There needs to be more access to medical professionals, medications, even residential placements when necessary. On the other hand, should EMS workers be put in the position of facing down a mentally ill person with a gun or knife? Illegal drugs - police don’t make the laws, but are required to enforce what law makers decide. If the system of laws regarding illegal drugs are changed, then some situations might be avoided. Changes such as reducing the level of charge for position of small amounts, legalization of marijuana, stuff like that. Then law enforcement could focus on dealers, selling to minors. More money could go into drug treatment services. I don’t really know much about this topic, but I see the potential for reforms here. I do think that the UK system of police officers not carrying guns was a great decision from the beginning, but with less access to guns overall there are trade offs. I have seen several reports of domestic violence where women are attacked with acid. I can’t say that is any better than being shot by a partner. And I don’t think that police officers not carrying guns would work in the US. There are too many guns in the general public, so I don’t know that there is an easy solution to this. One thing that I think might help with policing in general in the US is for it not to be seen as a life-long career for most people. Maybe it should be more like serving in the military or the Peace Corps or something like that. Most people could join for 4-8 years and then move on to other careers while some people stay for their whole working lives. This would help eliminate the burn out and/or PTSD that effects some officers. If salaries are raised and policing ever becomes a desirable and admired job again, then there would be a larger pool of candidates to choose from which would allow for increased screening of the candidates to hopefully avoid hiring those people with underlying mental health issues of their own. Departments have tried raising requirements such as requiring college hours and increasing age, but in more resent years the pool of candidates has dried up so that departments ovens resort to hiring people with criminal records. I would be more specific and say with increasing severity of criminal records as some previous minor offenses being allowed has been normal. There are no easy answers. Changing any one aspect of policing in the US means making changes or compromises in other areas of society. I think many of those changes are needed, but other people, including law makers, may not.
  9. If you can get over the change in appearance, any regular food can be run through a blender or food processor to make it the consistency you need.
  10. I would worry more about infection than anything else.
  11. Two yr olds can be difficult anyway, then when you add in all the trauma that he has been through, the food he eats is probably the only thing he has any control over. I would continue to feed him the things that he likes while quietly adding foods that he maybe has not had much exposure to before coming to you. Try to remove any pressure on him to eat. Even if you don’t say anything, he can probably tell or feel that this is important to you. Let him eat full fat yogurt and lots of peanut butter if you are worried about calories. I once worked with a toddler that had feeding issues, she was fed peanutbutter mixed with yogurt frequently. Let him dip whole grain Goldfish into peanut butter. Put the food out, but leave it totally up to him what he chooses to eat. Also, let him see you and the rest of the family eating the things you would like him to try.This might make him curious to try something new if it isn’t being directly offered to him. *two year olds without all that trauma can still be very controlling with their food. Imagine a two year old being offered a cookie. He says “no” to the cookie but has a tantrum because he really wants the cookie but doesn’t want to give up that control. This actually happened when my DS was two, but the food was a chocolate bar.
  12. What about a portable AC unit on wheels? They do have an exhaust tube (looks kind of like a dryer vent hose) that vent through a window, but don’t put any weight on the window frame.
  13. If person B did that to me, I would walk off and probably take myself out to dinner somewhere. I have a “Person B” at my house, and I have had to learn to stand up for myself and say “no” to him sometimes. He has learned to ask before he “helps” most of the time. Now, if we are talking leftovers, that would be a different story. I would welcome someone making an effort to repurposed or just eat the leftovers.
  14. I went to the orthodontist yesterday. The appoint was rescheduled from March.They make you call upon arrival. Someone comes outside to do the screening and have the waiver signed before the patient is allowed to enter the building. There were only three chair left in the waiting area. The only other patient I saw was a child with a parent. The parent had been in the treatment cubical with the patient not waiting in the waiting room. Were I live, it is not unusual (pre-Covid) to have mom, grandma, and several kids waiting for one person’s appointment which makes for a very crowded waiting area, so I am really glad that has been stopped. When my DS has an appointment I frequently waited outside Just to avoid the uncomfortable crowded waiting room. as soon as he could drive himself, he started going to dental and ortho appoints on his own. I did check with each office in advance to sign any needed waivers.
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