poppy Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 The setting : a 30 person holiday party at a private function room at a restaurant. It's a cash bar and we have our own bartender. I tell a friend I am going to the bar to buy a drink. She says "oh give me a glass of red wine" and has me a $20. I get the red wine. There weren't options, just the open Cabernet he had. It is $9, so I pay $9 and tip the bartender $1 .I give back $10 change to my friend. My drink was similarly overpriced ... I paid the cost of the drink plus a $1 tip from my own wallet. I've always thought bar etiquette calls for about a tip of $1 a drink. Even more strongly so at small venues like this. My friend was surprised I tipped $2 for 2 drinks. Not upset, but she clearly thought I was overly generous. Who was right? Was it wrong to tip from her $20 without explicitly asking? To be clear no ones mad about $1- I'm just curious what your expectation would be. We are in the US, HCOL town. $9 for a glass of wine is typical here (sad to say). My question is about tipping. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I think you were fine and she was acting like a scrooge. This time of year especially I over tip but I don't think you did over tip. I think you stayed within the tipping norms. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sun Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 (edited) $1-2 per drink is pretty typical. In your situation where the drinks were $9, it would absolutely be typical to leave $1 each. In low COL areas, this might be lower, but you're not in one of those, so it's irrelevant. Edited December 18, 2016 by Sun 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 That sounds normal to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 re: bat tipping, I thought this thread was going to be about disturbing hibernating bats, like cow tipping but with hibernating animals. We have caves where I'm from, so I've been informed it's a real threat to the population on many a nature field trip. :P 34 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 The 8 Kinds Of Sassy Bat You Meet In A Nightclub If you turn upside-down bats upside down, they are party animals https://www.buzzfeed.com/tomphillips/are-all-upside-down-bats-sassy?utm_term=.owQK2P05Z#.gqAz2w50G 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 The scenario sounds normal to me. You're already stuck paying those crazy process, what's one more buck for the bartender. Drink slowly. Love the tipped bats! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan in SC Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 re: bat tipping, I thought this thread was going to be about disturbing hibernating bats, like cow tipping but with hibernating animals. We have caves where I'm from, so I've been informed it's a real threat to the population on many a nature field trip. :P I thought it was too! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I thought it was about bat tipping too. We have bat caves in the cave system in our backyard, and those party animals rock the house all night long with their wings in the air like they just don't care...:zombie: If your friend didn't want to tip $1.00, then she should have gotten her own drink. You were completely correct to tip on her behalf, and the amount was not too generous. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 re: bat tipping, I thought this thread was going to be about disturbing hibernating bats, like cow tipping but with hibernating animals. We have caves where I'm from, so I've been informed it's a real threat to the population on many a nature field trip. :p Same here! As to the OP's question: a dollar tip sounds reasonable to me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 It was generous, but not excessive. So you could have done a dollar for both or the 2 dollars. But I'm not an official source. Just saying what "I" would have done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 Sounds normal to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I would have tipped $1 per drink too. I don't think of myself as being a particularly generous tipper. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I thought it was about bat tipping too. We have bat caves in the cave system in our backyard, and those party animals rock the house all night long with their wings in the air like they just don't care... :zombie: This made me :lol: and I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this might be about disturbing cave animals. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 re: bat tipping, I thought this thread was going to be about disturbing hibernating bats, like cow tipping but with hibernating animals. We have caves where I'm from, so I've been informed it's a real threat to the population on many a nature field trip. :P I was thinking the same thing :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I would have tipped $2 per drink. My grandparents taught me to be a generous tipper. And if you tip well early in the evening, your wine glass will be a little fuller than everyone else's when you get your second drink. Especially this close to the holidays. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockhopper Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I'd guess that the restaurant set the wine price at $9 with exactly the expectation that people would round up to $10 with the tip. The restaurant is making excellent profit on the wine and ensuring that the waitstaff get tipped appropriately by making it easy/nearly thought-free. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted December 18, 2016 Share Posted December 18, 2016 I didn't even know you were supposed to tip the bartender. :blush: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted December 19, 2016 Author Share Posted December 19, 2016 I am going to keep the typo in the title 'cause it's way more entertaining than my actual question. Thanks everyone! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 $1 would be the minimum tip for me. I'd probably have left $3-4 for the first bar trip, if I couldn't do a tab with just one larger tip at the end. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 I am going to keep the typo in the title 'cause it's way more entertaining than my actual question. Thanks everyone! I was wondering if bat tipping was like cow tipping. LOL 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaVT Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 I would have tipped $2/drink, so it doesn't sound unreasonable to me! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 (edited) I didn't even know you were supposed to tip the bartender. :blush: Me either! We've only gone out for drinks maybe a couple of times though because we are too cheap. We do have a nice stock of liquor for mixing our own drinks though. ;) Thanks, Poppy, for the heads up about tipping. ETA: A nice stock to us is probably really not to others though. Lol Edited December 19, 2016 by ifIonlyhadabrain 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 Yes to $1/glass, minimum. As someone who likes drinks with 3 or more ingredients, I tend to tip more. Being the holidays, I just tipped my waitress $10 on a $25 drink-only tab. (Waitresses typically have to split with bar staff, fyi! She did her own bussing, so I don't know if there was other splitting in addition to that.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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