craftymama Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 give them money or offer them money? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rose Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Generally no but if they're broke I would probably buy some groceries to contribute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, that would be weird. I'd be offended if a guest offered me money. They're my guest. As a guest, I will usually bring some local wine and gifts for the kids. I will also usually treat my host family to dinner out one night. But outright money, no. When we have guests, they usually do something similar. If flying, though, I don't bring the wine :) 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No. We had a lot of friends stay overnight when we lived near DC and now that we live in FL and no one has ever offered me money, either. When we stay at someone's house we take them out to dinner (or at least offer), and that is what most people who stay with us offer to do as well. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiana Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I try to buy things like groceries. They try not to let me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 What we usually do is offer to take them out to dinner once or twice during a visit depending how long it is. One time we stayed with our kids with a couple that does not have kids. They fed and housed us for a week. We gave them flowers and a large gift card when we left. We often come bearing some staples and adult beverages. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinsomeCreek Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, but we take them out to eat or for special activities. If there are items we want, we buy them. Likewise, we have guests that buy groceries or bring favorite foods. I would feel awkward giving or receiving money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, we generally bring a small gift and take them out to dinner. It would be *so awkward* to somehow try to monetize hospitality with the direct transfer of money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 We take gifts, often, and take them out to dinner, offer to help around the house, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, but there would be an open invitation for them to visit us. We're pretty low maintenance though. ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, no money. Gifts, dinners out, groceries... Once an friend stayed overnight while traveling in my area. He basically just slept at our house, as he had other things going on. I am not sure we fed him more than morning coffee! He left a $20 bill on the dresser when he left. I put it in my wallet and carried it around for about 2 years, till the next time I saw him, and we bought beers with it. That's when I finally told him I was offended by his leaving cash for me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bibiche Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Certainly not! But we always bring a gift and take them to dinner and try to be the kind of guests that we would appreciate having. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
craftymama Posted August 10, 2015 Author Share Posted August 10, 2015 Thank you. I feel normal again. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 Take them out to dinner, host gift, thank you note if the stars align, but I wouldn't offer cash. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I give a grocery gift card -- often a generous one if we know that they have budget limitations. People tend not to use it until we are gone, so that delays them knowing that it was for an excessive amount. For people who are well-enough off, we usually go with the 'out to dinner' route, but in many cases it's important to realize that eating people's food leaves them with less food, especially if they go to the trouble of some 'company meals' for our sake. Steak for supper and bacon and eggs for breakfast for two or three times the number of people they usually feed isn't a negligible expense when it's coming out of their everyday grocery budget. I wouldn't try to get away with a straight cash gift... even I can tell that would be awkward. If they wouldn't accept a grocery gift card, I'd bring my own food contributions instead. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No: I bring wine, chocolates, flowers or something. If I'm there for several days, I take them out to dinner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 I bring snacks and food to share...we split making meals...we dutch for eating out...we're very flexible and try to stay cheap. These are real, true, great friends. For family, I make grocery runs, try to limit our footprint as much as possible, and buy take out when I can. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted August 10, 2015 Share Posted August 10, 2015 No, but I bring a hostess gift, buy some groceries and either cook a nice meal or take them out to dinner. After I leave I send a thank you which for longer stays would include a gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 no, I bring a gift of a box of chocolates and bring food. Unless it is my brother's house, I only bring chocolate there, no groceries. He spends way more time visiting me than I do visiting him and he would be mortified and stop visiting if I brought anything else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 No. I agree with taking out to dinner and/or paying for sightseeing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 One of my good friends has hosted us numerous times as she lives in the area where we used to live and where our extended family lives. We have had her over many times, usually for Thanksgiving. We delight in finding the most off the wall gift for each other. If it's impromptu, we take her out or leave her kitchen spotless with some flowers on the table as she often leaves for work before we are heading out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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