Slache Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 When they wake up in the morning their beloved cat will be gone and they're too young to understand why. We don't know what happened. When he woke up he was in pain and it's become unbearable throughout the day. The story's longer than that but I don't care to tell it now. This cat has shown incredible patience with the kids and I can still remember John dragging him across the couch by his ears at barely a year old. The cat is only 6 and we didn't see this coming. R.I.P. Paul If you have any advice on this I'll gladly take it. We've asked John what he wanted to do tomorrow so we have a day of fun planned, and they both got to say goodnight and give him pets and hugs before they went to bed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Oh my word. I am so sorry :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Oh, hon. I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 (Hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Sorry y'all are losing your furry friend too soon :( I would suggest that you explain to them what went wrong in as much detail as you think they can handle, because not knowing is the worst thing, and they need to be reassured that it wasn't their fault, that the pet didn't want to leave them, and of course that you and other important people aren't going to disappear overnight. We usually have little funerals for pets too, and that seems to help the kids cope better with the bereavement. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I'm so sorry for all of you. When cat #1 died, it was very tough on my two eldest...even though they were maybe 4 and 2?For both of them, their first "word" was "Na" for Sabrina. Two or so years later, another homeless cat adopted us. When I asked the kids what they wanted to call her, they said Sabrina. So now, just like the Simpsons, we have Sabrina #2. There is a wonderful book by Cynthia Rylant called "Cat Heaven." (She also wrote "Dog Heaven.") It's great for kids of all ages. It may be at your library. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I'm so sorry. Nothing made it better for us. My daughter cried and cried. My thoughts are with your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted April 20, 2015 Author Share Posted April 20, 2015 Paul's gone. The vet saw him quickly. Thank you for the advice on what to say, and I put that book on hold. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 Slache, I am so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Oh, honey girl, I'm so sorry!!!!! :crying: :crying: :crying: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I'm not the praying type, but can I give you a hug anyway? :grouphug: I am so sorry for your loss. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: Sending hugs and prayers from here. :grouphug: It's never easy losing a beloved pet. Never. Allow time to grieve. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Openhearted Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: It is hard. I love the Cat Heaven book idea. Maybe you could make a book of your own in memory of Paul. That would keep their minds occupied while giving your special kitty a tribute. You could add pictures and write their best memories, etc. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AMJ Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I am so very very sorry. We've been through the loss of a beloved pet, too (a few years back). Many hugs to you all. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Valley Girl Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 So sorry--loss of a pet is hard. We've gone through the same thing recently. Be prepared for the possibility the kids may have trouble at bedtime. We've had to work through ours being afraid to go to sleep for fear something else bad (e.g. another pet dying) would happen during the night. Lots of reassurance and some accommodation (being allowed to sleep near the remaining pet) for a few nights seemed to help. It's tough guiding kids through the grieving process, especially when death is unexpected. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catherine Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 We made a nice photo collage when this happened to our family pet. We still have it and we are fortunate we had photos of him in his "favorite places" so it helped us remember him just as he was. I'll be thinking of you and your little ones. ((hugs)) 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kim in Appalachia Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 So sorry about your kitty! Praying for your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 :crying: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oneddmanybooks Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 I am so sorry! Prayers and hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted April 21, 2015 Author Share Posted April 21, 2015 We made it through the day. He cried a little this morning when we told him and asked a lot of questions. Thank you for everything. You guys are awesome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 :grouphug: btw, sometimes the big tears come days or weeks later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 That's never easy. Prayers for your kiddos. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ewe Mama Posted April 21, 2015 Share Posted April 21, 2015 I'm so very, very sorry. Prayers for you all as you go through the grief process. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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